How about locking the door? Better yet...
Posted By: phillychick on 2007-10-30
In Reply to: Is it okay for your in-laws to come to your house and open your door without first knocking? - MtMom30
ask them to call you first. If you can't ask them, have your husband ask them. It's YOUR home, isn't it?
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why do people go door to door to talk about their religion?
arent they settitng themselves up for confrontatoin?
We normally do have the door locked but the garage door was open...
and my husband did ask them to call first and they still didn't listen...they never do...I think they think they don't have to call...
Locking doors
I'm the same way. I always keep my doors locked, no matter what. My hubby thinks that since we live in a rural area, we really don't need to, and he thinks I'm paranoid, but I do it just the same. We had lived in our home for about 6 months when a man came up to my front door and tried to open it. I had just gotten out of the shower and was running around in a towel. He was looking for a home that was for sale, which was down the road. I was so glad I had the habit of locking my doors!
Locking my doors from now on.....
I had a very scary experience this morning and wanted to pass on my experience so everyone out there can protect themselves a little better too.
I live in a very rural area that is largely a farming community. We don't have town police, only county and they have to cover a very large county so if we need them in a hurry, it could take a little while. It took 27 minutes for them to respond to my 911 call this morning.
My husband left town this morning on business so it was just me and the kids home alone. I never lock my doors and when I am working, my back is to the front door.
About 40 minutes after my husband left, I was working along, listening to music softly while the kids were still sleeping. I never heard a car, car door, nothing.
The next thing I know, the dogs are going crazy in my bedroom. I hop up to see what's going on. I just thought someone was walking on the road and they were barking at them.
I walked into the bedroom and there stood a young hispanic male, probably in late teens or early 20s. He had just walked right into my bedroom through the sliding glass door. Evidently, he did not see my two pitbulls sound asleep on the bed.
So there this guy is standing, my dogs have him trapped between them and the door he closed behind him. I ran out to grab the phone and my gun. He then opened the door and split with both dogs tearing off after him.
There was an older model white toyota sitting in the driveway with another hispanic male sitting in the driver's seat. The runner jumped over the retaining wall to the driveway below and the guy in the car then saw the dogs running and he tried to get out of here in a hurry, slamming into a concrete post that our log splitter is chained to. Part of their bumper was laying in the driveway.
Just two weeks ago, someone busted out a plate glass window in a house not too far from here and took a bunch of electronic equipment.
So I'm standing out front, waving my 30-30 in one hand and the phone in the other as they take off up the road, which is a dead end. I went back into the house because by this time the kids were awake and wondering what was going on.
Two deputies showed up 27 minutes later. One goes up the road and the other takes my statement and helps me round up my dogs, which were pretty riled up still. Those dogs were just running circles around the yard.
The first deputy finds the car up the road, calls the second, he goes up, they were walking up one of the old horse trails and found the two kids hiding behind some rocks. Fools.
Both of them are behind bars now and..... I am no longer leaving my doors unlocked EVER. I'm also keeping a few shells at my desk in case I ever need to load my 30/30 in a hurry. I didn't have time to grab any this morning or I probably would have blown a few holes in that car and those kids.
The locking jaws are just a myth
Do some research. This is something I did find out. No dog has the bony or muscular structure in their anatomy to have a locking jaw.
Also the huge muscular looking pits are hybrid. A good show quality pit does not have the huge blocky head, short legs and overly exaggerated muscular. I actually think they are a beautiful breed. Especially the reds.
I just read some reports of a couple of kids killed by huskies in the last year. My SIL's huskies completely tore apart a cat that wondered into their yard. Fox terriers are hugely prey-driven dogs. They can and will hunt down and kill small animals, just for the kill. Are we going to ban those breeds?
There are some pictures of my vicious killer here:
Door to door sock salesman
Okay, so yesterday a little old man shows up at my door. Now let me say that I do not live in a neighborhood, really. I live on a major highway so you actually have to drive into my driveway and you can't really get to the next house without getting back in your car and driving there.
So I open the door and there's this little old man there with pairs of socks in large ziplock bags. He says:
"I'm raising money for a cancer operation to get cancer out of my stomach and I want you to buy these two bags of socks."
I say, "I'm sorry, I don't have any cash in the house, but good luck."
"How can you not have any cash in the house?"
"We use credit cards."
"You can't just use credit cards. Doesn't your husband live with you?"
"He's at work. Good luck, have a nice day."
"Well when he gets home he should have cash on him."
"Nope sorry, we're not interested. Have a good day."
I closed the door and he left.
Odd....very odd. But here's where it gets even more odd.
Today he showed up AGAIN. Only this time he didn't come to the door. He sat in his car in my driveway and beeped his horn. My mail lady does this when we have a package so I opened the door to go out, thinking it was her. The dog scooted out and while I was trying to get him back in I realized it was this man again......BEEPING for me to come to his car to sell the socks, I guess. I was so mad that my dog got loose I looked at him and yelled "WHAT DO YOU WANT??? I don't need any socks today!!!" Picked up the dog and went back in the house and slammed the door. He didn't get a word in edgewise. I'm hoping he won't be back.....I was down right RUDE to this man. I never speak to anyone that way. Hopefully he won't be back. Steve is concerned that he showed up a second time and even more concerned that he wanted me to go to his car this time. He wants me to get a plate number if this man comes back.
please do not let the door hit you on your bum
Right next door,
Henry, close to Eagles Landing - we can visit....
Just don't answer the door.
Just don't answer the door.
Door jams
They make little squared off cat scratchers to go over the door jams, this might save your husband some work, love my cats, have 3 couldn't live without them.
Just now getting up to lock the door?
My husband can be home- doesn' matter- I always keep my doors locked. I see people on TV news who are broken in on, murdered, assulted, raped - they said where they lived didn't think it would happen there?? Happens everywhere.
Actually, my side is to the door. sm
Can't put the desk anywhere else but in this corner.
You either need a door with a lock or - sm
to set up some kind of boobie trap that scares them first (I.e. something popping out at them when they enter the room). A taste of their own medicine would do them good
I wish I lived right next door to
help you with your project. That's my kind of fun. :oD I wuv a good rottie. Can't imagine playing with 3 of them.
Message on Door
 I am a word nut. Transcriptionist in me I guess. But the Family Dollar Store at the corner of my street has a hand written sign posted on their door saying "We No Longer Except Credit Cards". I get a chuckle every time I go in there. Should I tell them or not?????
door even if no answer there, either.
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there was a knock at the door, our then 3 yr old
comes running into the kitchen, 'mommie, mommie, tony the creature is here!!"
(our preacher had come by for a visit)
She needs a doc with a sign over his door that sez -
..
If you have no choice to open up the door - sm
just say that now is not a good time for a visit and to call before coming next time (because you work from home and cannot just drop everything when someone pops by)(add that on if you chose to). They may not like hearing any of it but tough cookies. If you are out of sight, just don't answer the door, if it happens often enough maybe they will think to call first next time and you can again say no, or to nip the visits in the bud say you are quiting that church and to please stop calling you. I am in the boonies and get the occasional church groupie visits of various faiths, I just tell them "not interested" and they go on their merry way without a fight for the most part. Good luck.
Most of the people I've met at my door
to a church and have our own beliefs. I wouldn't appreciate it if someone went on and on after I've told them that. Would probably shut the door, just as I would hang up the phone with a pushy telephone solicitor.
Dr. Phil would say to lock the door.
If they knock, you ask if their hair is on fire. If it's not, then you tell them it can wait.
He's actually talking about interruptions of something else, but I thought of his advice anyway.
You are such a crackup! I wish you lived next-door..... nm
:)
On the door of our in-house MT DEPTARTMENT - sm
the sign read, MEDICAL TRANSCRIPTIONIST'S. (Obviously it was ordered by one of those people who believes an apostrophe belongs in front of every word ending in S)! Finally someone in the MT Dept. couldn't stand it any longer, and painted over the apostrophe with Liquid Paper.
Famous person at the door
Julian McMahon from N/T or Adam Levine from Maroon 5. Either way I'd probably faint dead away. LOL.
I have an all white cat who has a cat door and is free...sm
to go in and out at will. We live in the country and he loves to hunt all night and sleep all day. One morning last spring he came in while I was working after a night roaming and had a chunk of hair and some flesh taken out of the eyebrow area just above one eye. I am thinking either a hawk or an owl thought he could carry Zeek away (He weighs about 18-20 pounds) and he was too heavy.
There are 2 body styles. The 4-door (sm)
style like mine is easier to find, but my sister got the 3-door one, which looks even more modern and flashy and tiny. Super cute.
It rates extremely well by Consumer Reports - top in its category for reliability. This car has been around a while in Europe, but only arrived here about 1 year ago.
On the down side, my very tall hubby does bump his head sometimes when trying to get in, but he sits unusually tall for somebody 6 foot 3 inches. I wouldn't say it has as much leg room as he'd prefer, but it is very drivable even for him.
and the punk kid next door would be first on the list
Too bad he's only 14 or 15 years old. This kid is a really piece of work. He is a total psycho. He's 14 or 15 years old and he's the neighborhood bully. He has a 6 year old brother - cute as anything and lots of fun to watch. Looks up to big brother (wrong role model to look up to). Kid is hanging out with gangs, into drugs. Mother came home the other day (screaching halt with her car) got out screaming at the top of her lungs for him to pack his bags, he is out of there, he's been lying, to them, and he did something to some girl - don't know what. I say - ship him off to troubled teens or boot camp or anywhere but here. Luckily the parents are seeing through his lies. Other neighborhood kids are no longer playing with him and when his parents go off to work "hooligans" come roaming around. Okay - just had to say that.
3 in the kitchen near the back door, and
I've seen videos where some people cut a side-entry hole in a big storage bin like you get at Walmart, and fill it with litter. (Can be covered, or not, though many cats don't like covered boxes because it intensifies the odor for them.) The high walls, with the only low spot being the entry, keep most of the litter in if they're real diggers & flingers!
i hate it when i hold the door for someone and they
snotty, like i owed them that courtesy. i've even said "you're welcome" to people. once, a woman said, "I didn't ask you to hold the door for me, fat ass." nice.
Agree. IMO, the people who took the door sm
off the hinges should be charged with involuntary manslaughter. Hope the security cameras got a good shot of those SOBs. I read that other workers tried to help the poor trampled man and they also got hurt.
Think of how much business these stores would get if they offered such bargains for a longer period.
Greed is an evil thing.
I dont' answer the door either.
but I knew it was the neighbor and they are nice people so I would have. besides they snow plow our driveway and I'm certain they were here to ask if I wanted our driveway done. Otherwise I hide when someone comes to the door. Can't be too safe these days. I don't answer my phone when I am working either. If people knew I did I would get calls nonstop all day long and get nothing done.
I double lock the door and have a
security latch as there's been a lot of break-ins at gun point lately. We live in an apt and since I work overnight I've actually had people that thought my door was their door and tried to unlock it...drunk ones, of course.
I've thought about leaving my keys in the car and the windowns down (1999 car with 137,000 miles on it)....JOKING.
Dear Next Door Neighbor
I wish you would keep your animals in your own yard, and BYW, those are the rules of our community. Your animals have killed a bird in my yard and I was told by the association to a) shoot them with a B-B gun or b) call animal control on them.
So, it's not so much the church as it is the unannounced knock on the door.
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The court system is a rotational door
There was enough evidence. Even the mother who got the children back had her own father testifying she did drugs, lousy mother, on and on. I am so glad I don’t have to put up with that crap anymore. This is where the welfare $$$ went, to a person who did not have enough get up and go to see the kids off to school in the morning. What a waste but lawdy, lawdy, make sure these mothers get those kids back. Glad I am not involved in the court system anymore.
Held the door for a gal at the mall some weeks ago and
she just proceeded to walk through it and past me without a thank you. I muttered QUIETLY under my breath . . your're welcome.
We walked out into the parking lot and she turned around and said so nicely .
I am so sorry. That was rude of me. I should have thanked you. I immediately said, oh, that's okay. . no problem. She said again, No, I really am sorry. I don't blame you for being offended.
Wow! be careful what ya say!
Why is it when we WANT to be heard we aren't? lol
LOL, can't even tell you how many times I left keys in door (on the outside)
and then spent forever trying to find them inside the house before realizing that, oops I did it again! Arrrrggghh! My husband has found them quite a few times coming in, also! :)
lock the door, take a while to answer it, seem preoccupied
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If a famous person were to just show up at your door sm
who would you want it to be?
Can you close the door on your relationship and not look back? sm
Of course, you will need to be in touch for the sake of the children, but you as a person need to be able to look back and have no *what ifs* to ponder about. You need to know in your head you have turned over every stone and mustered every bit of strength in your possession and tried everything you possibly could before you end this. Otherwise, it will forever sit like a huge weight on your back and make it hard on in life. You also need to be able to speak about your husband in an objective manner for the sake of the children. I agree with the other poster who suggested counseling for the children. Please consider that no matter what else you decide for yourself. Oh, how I do wish my parents had done the same for me as a child. Their relationship has left me with wounds so easily reinjured and made some things in life very tough for me. Best wishes to you.
We were next door neighbors at an apartment complex.
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Next door neighbor's teen having parties
I am sooo sick of the next door neighbors. It is a mom and 2 teenage daughters. They have been having a party going on 5 days now. Tons of cars over partially blocking our driveway, loud talking and laughter, underage drinking, throwing their litter (beer cans) onto our side of the yard...etc. I just want to sit out on my porch and not have a gang of teens a few feet away. What kind of mom lets this kind of thing go on and these kids (boys and girls) have spent the night every night. I am sick of it. I thought it would end with today being Monday and the holiday weekend being over. But they continue to hang out over there. I just want peace and quiet like it is usually here. What would you guys do? I would love to call the cops on them but have never done anything like that before. I just feel like this is ridiculous especially since we live in apartment homes and not houses so our duplexes are very close together. 
Tree frogs and lizards on door
I know this probably sounds silly, but I was just wondering if anyone knew of any way to discourage green tree frogs and lizards from hanging out on and sticking to the front door of my house? I never know if any or how many might be there when I open the door and sometimes they do get in the house and have even fallen on my head when walking through the door. I've tried bug spray on the door and jamb to no avail. They creep me out. Any ideas appreciated. Thanks in advance.
Dear Next Door Burn other neighbors down also
You should not have a fire blazing out of control- we have woods right behind us that basically connect. Oh, I was the one who called the fire department on your blaze. Against the rules here in the community and the city as far as that is concerned. Talk about loonies- maybe that is why I do not talk with you.
Worse yet - no door OR toilet seat ! - sm
I was warned about no toilet paper on a trip I took out of the country a few years ago. I was even told there would be older ladies sitting at a table in front of the bathroom who would give you 3 squares of paper for a tip prior to entering the bathroom. I was not warned about lack of seats and sometimes lack of doors to the stalls and no lock on the bathroom exiting door! I even stayed in what was their version of a 4 star hotel and on check-in had to ask for a roll of tissue (which was billed extra!). That was quite an experience!
Lock the door and pretend you're not
Supposed to be bad feng shui to have your back to the door. Maybe
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Is it okay for your in-laws to come to your house and open your door without first knocking?
My in-laws did this the other day and I just find it very rude...They do this all the time...we tell them to please call before they come over (just in case the baby is sleeping or we are doing something) but they never listen...anyone else have this problem???
I would rather have my door open on a nice day, then live in fear...
That is not a way to live your life...and that is not living in la-la land...
I am getting up right now to lock my door. Some people have no regard for life anymore. nm
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It was a nice day outside...we had the garage open but the inside door closed...
that wasn't the point of the question but thanks for your concern...
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