House or apartment? When my child was 8, got 1
Posted By: for her, apartment living...........s/m on 2006-10-18
In Reply to: Pet rabbit? - Appreciate any insight...SM
What was once a really cute little bunny...within 3 months grew up to be a HUGE rabbit - and the litter box was far worse than a cat using the litter box for #1. It got to be too much for apartment/condo living and so we gave it to Pet Supermarket for their weekly Sunday sales and/or giveaways but given to Pet Supermarket as a donation. We then went to cats only for condo living. Hope you have a house. 
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Child's body found 3/10 mile from Casey Anthony's house. Still developing. nm
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Lord NO, 28-Yo has own apartment
anger isn't all the time but when it comes up it is very uncomfortable for those around....my husband is the type that doesn't believe in counseling, he thinks they jut want your money and of course he hates Dr. Phil!!! Really he doesn't like to talk about his feelings..
Apartment ... okay ... job, stupid
I can see why apartment managers would care, but an employee is not going to have to pay his boss, so it's unfair to use credit against a potential employee.
People end up with credit issues for a variety of reasons and it's not a fair assumption that they will not perform in their jobs.
So many ways people struggling financially get pushed further down ... savings gets below a certain amount - the bank charges a fee; a person misses a payment or pays a little late - another fee, etc.
I can see if someone is just not paying, but when people are in hard times, it's not fair they can push you further down!
Obama said last night on Jay Leno he is going to do something about the credit card companies ability to charge ridiculous fees, so that's a start at least.
I have also known people trying to make their way off welfare, but everytime they earned a little extra, they were shorted funds from their welfare and could never save to get out of the hole.
Our government and society surely needs an overhaul!
I wish your son all the luck, as he, and all of us needs it!!
renting an apartment
 What to you think of the idea that landlords should lower the rent money?
Last week one of the gardners at my apartment - sm
complex (aka 'Leaf-blower Nazis') - actually stole my tiny little hummingbird feeder! It was a little globe with a red flower on it, mounted on a stake in the ground. They were removing old plants outside my bedroom window for the winter, and I saw they had knocked over the feeder. By the time I had put on my jeans and shoes and gone outside to refill it, (about 3 min. later!) it was already gone. I can replace if of course, but it was a gift from my best friend, so had sentimental value.
I HATE dishonest people!
I once came home at night to an apartment -
I used to live in, to find the front door was WIDE OPEN. (Thank goodness I didn't have any cats at the time!) I woke up the building mgr. and made him go in there with me. Turns out, while I was at work the complex's UNhandy-man had come to fix a gaping hole that had been in the bathroom ceiling for 6 months (after he'd "fixed" the leak in the upstairs shower pipes that was rotting the ceiling and causing mold to grow. It was right over the shower, so when bathing I'd have to stand right under this giant hole with cold drafts & spiders coming out of it.) Anyway, 6 months later, out of the blue he decides to come back & finish the job, so I got no 24-hour notice, and he not only left the front door wide open, he left the bathroom window wie open so the paint would dry faster. Amazingly, nothing was missing from my apartment. Another time, their gardners (who did nothing but blow leaves from one side of the complex to the other with a noisy leaf-blower) stole a couple bird-feeders I had outside my bedroom window. I'm glad I don't live there anymore!
No tree at all; apartment's too small! - (see mssg!)
(Hmmm... maybe I could......)
Hang mistletoe over, or from the PC?
Or some bright-colored lights on the kitty-cat tree?
Or dress up the rabbit-ears on my TVs,
With tinsel that shimmers and blows in the breeze?
Yeah... that sounds quite festive; it's what I will do.
And it just might improve my reception, too!
We were next door neighbors at an apartment complex.
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Hydroponics is an answer for apartment dwellers.
Can grow up to six different vegetables on your kitchen counter. 
I've never lived in an apartment building that
even ALLOWED smoking, and that was 15 years ago!
Maybe she's thinking of large apartment complexes??
I would think it would be a lot harder to stop people from smoking in those types of apartments when there are maybe hundreds of apartments in a lot of different buildings like they have in big cities. I can understand not smoking in a one or two family home type apartment.
Should say the child found in Florida proved to be the Caylee child, homicide.
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Need help with ideas for remodeling house and decorating. We bought a house
in fair condition about 10 years ago, got into some medical problems, and have just now paid off the mortgage. Hubby and I agreed we would do nothing to the house for remodeling because we wanted to pay it off first, then the medical bills. I need to know of some websites/magazines/books to start researching for how to go about this. These will be major repairs - roof, septic, basement, windows, pretty much everything except wiring. Where do we start? Maybe hire a general contractor just to do an evaluation and give us recommendations? Hubby is a handyman but cant seem to get a handle on where to begin. We would like to do as much of the work ourselves as possible - labor of love and all that...
Thanks for any and all kind suggestions!
Yes, with my second child.
He is now 13 and has never had any problems. Just pray, God will work it all out for you and I will keep you in my prayers also.
Tell me a little about your child, please
Thanks.
Thank God. Having your child taken would be the
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As a child...
I never sucked my thumb and never had a pacifier. I had crowding of teeth as an adult because of wisdom teeth pushing on them. It really is the size/shape of your mouth/palate that determines crooked teeth, and that is determined by genetics.
More than one child
We were planning on only having one child, but 10 years later (she's almost 4 now) we did have a second one which I of course don't regret for a minute. The only thing I can say is don't listen to those that say you have to have a second child. That's all I heard for years. How can yo just have one, and on and on. It's nobody's business but you and your husband.
Yes, have gone since I was a child.
My kids also go, ages 20, 17 and 15. It fills my spiritual tank for the week and our pastor is so wonderful and uplifting and we have a fabulous congregation. I don't feel right if I miss a week.
No H is an only child LOL.
That is probably what the problem is too. No other children to dote on.
A dog is not a child and has different
needs from a child. But even a child is put in a bassinet to sleep in when they are small to control how much they roll around. Then later they are put in a crib. Is that a cage for you too? Or do you put the child on a full-size mattress and hope for the best? No, you carefully listen to all the rules about safe mattresses for infants and how soon pillows can be used and what position is safest for an infant.
For dogs, you need to get to know them before you give them free reign of the house. Otherwise they might get into something we didn't think of to put up and die. This dog is in the age range of 12-18 months. We can already tell he is inquisitive. We don't know how much time he has spent in a house because he was abandoned at the shelter. We will observe him and train him and grant him more freedoms as he proves himself ready.
Dogs in the wild use dens. You are misinformed, probably by PETA folks who would have you release your Yorkshire terrier to the wild to fend for itself if they had their druthers.
I was 29, he's my only child
before I had him I had two miscarriages in the same year (when I was 28). He is almost 13. I'm in downstate NY and at his school school (it's a Catholic school) many of his classmates' parents are at least as old as I am. Hope to get married soon but probably too late for another..
of course he is my child
I have his age wrong though. He is 31. How on earth can I or should I stop him from stating his own opinion? It is certainly not unusual for an 18-year-old male to use the word, even when talking about his evil GM. He was 18 when dear G'ma died. I'm telling you, the woman was evil, evil, evil!!!! Even my ex-DH (is there such a thing) didn't like her. The only reason my older son liked her was because he was the first grandchild and she worshipped him. When my SIL had 2 kids, they were okay for a while, then she didn't want to mess with them either. She liked dogs and cats more than people. And, by the way, I am really relating to all of you out there who go to your MIL's for all the holidays and not your mom's. I did that also, because I dearly loved my FIL and my SIL, BIL, etc. If I had it to do over again, I think I would have shared a little more. My mom is only 70, but no one is promised tomorrow. We do all holidays together now.
Right - I don't think they should take the child because (sm)
no matter what, children love their parents and would be traumatized to be taken away from them, so unless they are being terribly mistreated, I don't think they should ever be taken. Children who go thru life in foster homes are rarely ever happy. But Social Services could go in and help them get things cleaned up if that is why. It may not be, but in my case that was the problem. I eventually at about age 11 or 12 went out and bought bug spray and sprayed my hair and brushes and sprayed my PILLOW regularly to keep the bugs away. I am sure that was horrible for my health but I was desperate.
Because he's still YOUR CHILD, and he still needs to know he is welcome. nm
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child with SVT. sm
Hi. My 16-year-old son is suspicious for SVT. Anyone else experience this? I had made an appointment for March, and now the doc is calling me and wants to see my son next week. He has already had an echo and an event monitor. Don't know if I should be freaked out or not.
Yes, first child....nm
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Would you have said anything about this child?
I was at a very big market (international) this morning and as I exited the lunch room to retrieve my cart, saw a very young child alone in a cart with no one around. I stood there not moving for several minutes wondering where a parent might be. I could not even see a person in front or back of him that seemed to be paying attention to this child (probably around 3 or 4 years of age). The serving line in front does have glass so I could see the people buying their lunches. Finally I noticed a man that was looking around frequently at the child and finally he got through the line and came and picked the child up. I approached him to say how it is so easy for a person to snatch his child (John Walsh's on AMW had his young child snatched and killed in similar, only taking a second) and this man looked annoyed and said thank you for your thoughts and hurried away. Clearly child endangerment here but would you have said anything or just let it go?
How do you know it was actually his child?
That's what's scary.
I have a child like this...
(This turned out long. Please stick with me.)
Like your son, it started in infancy. He could throw a fit that could go on for 30 minutes. If it was related to going to sleep, he would cry for hours no matter what I tried. (Yes, i did have him ruled out for medical causes.) He just could not calm himself down and he wanted what he wanted when he wanted it. It started to feel like a war zone and the other kids were not getting the attention they needed because I felt like I had to deal with his bad behavior all the time.
When he was very young (infancy to about 3 years old), I would let him throw his fits and try to ignore them. After about 30 minutes, I picked him up and rocked him and he always seemed to be relieved and would start to calm down. I did not give into his demands. It just was a way for him to know that I loved him even when he acted bad.
But you know what... A few months ago (he is 5 now), he was acting up yet again and I tried to talk to him. I told him that I knew he was a good boy and that he was just having a hard time with his anger. He was totally blown away that I thought he was a "good boy." In his head, he thought he was bad. This was an eye opener for me.
Because I had my own issues with frustration, I decided to work on me first. I was sick of the war zone. That is still a work in progress, but I feel a lot more calm when dealing with him now.
I explain things to him up front. If we are going to a store, I tell him that I expect him to stand still by me. If he wants to look at something, he can ask me, etc. Then I ask him what he thinks the consequence will be if he does not mind. Sometimes he answers, sometimes not. Then, I tell him exactly what will happen. No favorite TV channel or no playing with a favorite toy, something like that. Just so he knew exactly what would happen if he makes certain CHOICES. I also don't argue. It only gets me wound up. I put the onus back on him. Counting 1...2...3 gives him a warning to change his behavior or deal with consequences.
I also communicate a lot about other's people reactions to when he "acts good" and "acts bad." How the things that happen to him are often influenced by his CHOICES. "Other children may not want to play with someone who ...only wants their way ... does not share ... hits." "If you share your toy, your friend probably want to share his toys with you."
I praise him when I notice he has done something "good", like brushing his teeth without being reminded. I tell how much I appreciate it (Because I do. When you have 3 kids, its a really help when they can do something for themselves. ) Someone knowledgeable told me the ratio of praise to discipline is 4:1. I doubt that I hit that ratio, but I do look for things my kids do right.
None of this is easy for me. I feel like I am talking myself blue in the face. I am naturally quiet and not always willing to communicate verbally. I'm praying the more I communicate now, then eventually I won't have to talk so much later. Or at least, we can talk about more pleasant things.
I will say though that my son is starting to understand that he will not always get his way, and if he cooperates with me, I am willing to cooperate with him. There has been good improvement since I started with this in April.
from a child
My son used to say mazagine and hangaburger instead of magazine and hamburger when he was about 3. I loved that. Not common to most people but it was common to him. :)
If this was MY child??? sm
I would be working my way up the food chain at that school. Who in the he!! at that school thinks they know what my child needs or doesn't need? The last I knew, raising children is up to the parents; not the school, not the state, and CERTAINLY NOT A LESBIAN TEACHER!! I was so upset when I just READ the story that it was all I could do to stop myself from sitting down and writing a letter to the school and giving them a piece of my mind.
To any and all parents in that school district...the threat of recall is an extremely potent weapon. Use it!!
I only have one child, a son..sm
so that helps. I usually spend about $300 on my son, but this year I have spent $400 already on a playstation 3 he has wanted ever since they came out last year. I can't just give him that so I have to buy him some other little things to open. My mom and mother-in-law and sister-in-law are going to buy playstation 3 games because after spending $400 on it I can't buy the games too, which are about $60 each. So I still have to buy some small things for him so I will probably spend about $500 on my son this year. The most I have ever spent on him and he is 10. Like I said it is usually no more than $300. I try to spend no more than $100 on my husband, but this year I know he has said how he would love to have an ipod. So I am going to buy one for about $150. I have my dad to buy for and mom. I know I will probably spend about $50 on my mom. My dad I am not sure yet. In-laws are usually about $20-25 each. My sister about $25. My brother in law about $20. My 2 nephews about $20 each. I also have a niece I will spend about $20-30 on. I try to spend a little more on my niece because my sister in law spends a lot on my son. So you see I have a lot of people to buy for. I don't even know how much that is all together but it ain't cheap. And the people I buy for I have to cause they do for us.
Your child isn't doing bad if he AM
is receiving dental care and has a Wii already. Why are you hell-bent on making money off a fluke? You certainly aren't setting an example your child should follow by selling it and I hope they DON'T give a gift receipt. 
How old is your child?
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We did that as a child sm
I hate to "date" myself but we were a struggling large family and my Dad went across the street and asked a guy if he could rent his empty lot to grow some vegetables, etc. Not only was it fun but we had tomatoes, lettuce, cucumbers, etc., and it was great. The only negative thing I remember about it was the tomato cut worms, ugly little suckers! I think it's a fun thing to do and a good lesson for the family (and healthy). Be sure the soil is "good" though. You can have it tested for pH at any college lab (I think). Throw in some flowers, that would be cool. I am going to do some big sunflowers this year, I used to hate them but I think we need them and you can bake, salt and eat the seeds. Have fun!!!
Oh it seems the child did not have it when ...sm
they entered the US or at least showed no symptoms. So my mistake. They had no way of knowing the child had it. Poor kid.
I know this and I am sorry your child - sm
and your family had such a horrible experience. In any way, shape or form it is a horrible thing for any family to go through especially when your child suffers and does not make it through. I know not all kids or adults have an easy time, I am not a total dolt though I am sure you think I am, fine. Some get lucky and it does not affect them as much as others for some strange reason. Jen was on dantinomycin and vincristine, the vincristine was quite nasty and that is what gave her the nausea and make her puke the few times she did. She ate a lot of Zofran though and with that she had a pretty good tolerance to it for some reason, she felt the worst though when the dactinomycin was added in, 7 times. I too find the ped onc very depressing and switched jobs so I did not have to type kids anymore, too upsetting, now I only do adults which I can handle pretty well except for the ones who procratinate to sure fire death sentence. Rant all you want, I have no problem with it. I know this is about this woman's choice, again I think she/boy are wrong, some feel she is right, fine. Agree to disagree.
We have a house and
who want a dog. I'm not a cat fan and we can't have an outside dog b/c we live in a development (and I don't want a dog inside). Rabbits are quiet and cute. Thanks for the insight!!!
Get a job in house
Again you knew what you were getting into when you signed on. Also some MT's in our hospitals do have to work holidays. Some of it is covered by those that chose to "work at home" but again they knew this when they took the job with being able to "work at home."
Well, not in my house!
lol
House. nm
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Do they have a dog house?
I definitely agree that she should take the dog inside, but if she absolutely refuses maybe you could buy her a well-insulated doghouse so at least the animal will have some protection from the cold. Animals have survived cold temperatures for years, but they need a place that shelters them from the cold, and she needs to provide that for them!!
I feel for you - vegetarian here :) One of the big reasons I lost respect for my ex-best friend was the way she treated her animals. She was always buying dogs and cats and then leaving them at the pound or pawning them off on people. It really made me think less of her, because what kind of person does that! She also won't admit she did anything wrong! arrrrgh! It drives me crazy when people don't take proper care of their animals. They are a big responsibility - not just a cute puppy to show off when it's convenient. I hope your daughter straightens up, but again, if she doesn't I highly recommend purchasing a good doghouse for the poor dog!
i want to eat at your house
I have a cookbook from LA Leche League - Whole Foods for the Whole Family. many good recipes. don't know if still available, bought 12 years ago. Many ethnic recipes on-line to try.
Get him out of the house
This kid is angry at you. He is going behind you undoing everything you do. He wants your attention, even if it is negative.
He needs kids his own age - he may be a number to the day care people, but he'll be a real kid to the other kids and will make friends.
Get him into something you can afford, even if it is just the 2-hr a day program. It will work wonders for him and for you.
Good luck - let us know how it goes for you.
S/L you are carrying a huge load. Home schooling sounds great, but when you're working another job as well, it can break your back. Maybe you and the husband need to reassess how you are doing things. Do the home school classes when the DH is there to help out, or whatever takes the stress out of it for you.
Your cat looks like it ate the house!
Beautiful!
have them to your house? or -
talk to all about it, best policy. bet they understand - haven't they been there? they all might settle for a drive by later for coffee and desert for t-giving...or some other type of compromise.
That's every day at my house :)
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the dog house - sm
Girls, has your hubby ever gotten you a "practical" gift that you did not appreciate? This video will put a smile on your face! Enjoy the lighthearted fun. 
http://bewareofthedoghouse.com/video.aspx
You just described my house
I chuckled reading your post. I have 9 - yes 9 - cats, three of whom are kittens in the range of 7 months old. I got them all about a week apart and they're each about a month apart in age. They are refugees from the neighbors really bad decisions.
Nothing in the house is safe any more. All of my bigger plants are now in hooks on the ceiling - the smaller plants were already there. It looks silly, but it works. There is nothing left on any flat surface. It cracks me up when they get going and chasing each other. My house is very cat friendly at this point. I made the choice to put the good furniture in storage for now and I have washable furniture. There are cat beds everywhere. My office shelving unit is more cat bed than it is storage and I have 2 beds on the desk beside my computer.
Yes, I am the crazy cat lady.
This is always a hit at my house
Rotel tomatos
Velveeta cheese
taco-seasoned ground beef
Brown ground beef and add taco seasoning (as in making tacos). Melt Velveeta and Rotel in microwave; add meat mixture. I transfer to a crockpot to keep it hot. Serve with corn chips. This recipe is made with 1 lb ground beef, 1 packet taco seasoning, 1 small can Rotel, and half of a big block of Velveeta. Of course, you can vary it to the amount you need to serve.
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