Hope she saved lots of the tips for you for therapy...
Posted By: sm on 2007-04-12
In Reply to: Hey, she was!! Please don't insult my mom. - nm
just kidding ;)
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I think once disgust happens, lots of therapy is needed to feel love again. Lots
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We have lots of snow! I hope I did this right.
One of my "babies" in the snow.
Saved by the grace of God.
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I saved this in my Favorites.
nm
It's not hard if you have pictures saved
on your computer. There are many sites that make it harder to post than this one because here you just click the line that says "Click here to Upload Image" and then search on your computer, usually under Pictures, and choose the thumbnail you want to post and click on it.
You probably saved someone's life in the future.
A couple months ago there was a terrible head-on train crash near Los Angeles, and the cause of it was the engineer of the passenger train blew through a red light because he was texting some teenagers. It's a shame he was killed, because he should have lived to see the carnage he caused.
anyway, they saved a life; that's what we'll focus on
nm
If it can't be saved by a rebuilt engine, consider a scrap yard. sm
If you have a husband, SO, or brother, etc that is handy with tools, put an ad in your local paper and part it out. Or you can take it to your local scrap yard. They would take it off your hands. If it is a 2003, the engine block would most likely be aluminum, the catalytic converter has platinum in it, the rims are probably metal of some sort. You would be amazed what your local scrap yard takes. Plus you get money for it too. If you call, they can give you the price per ton for aluminum, steel, etc. We did that to our truck and made approx $1,500 when all was said and done. The only catch is that if they have to take it apart, you will not get as much for everything than if you take it apart. But that is something to consider. Good luck.
We silicone a key under the wiper blade base. Can't see it at all! Saved our butts
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What saved the folks on the edge was pulling up the emergency brake
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I asked a very simple gift for Mother's Day, should have saved my breath
I was going to visit my aunt out of town this weekend and my daughter wanted to go with me. The only thing I asked for Mother's Day was that my daughter behave (she is in her 30s understand) but what I meant was getting along, if I should say anything she might not like to smile and say yes. I just wanted a little peace and quiet but I wasted my breath. She said she felt like she always had to walk on eggshells around me. I told her she does not know me at all, never has and I don’t think she cares about me at all. I have been asked loads of time if she is an only child. She is not but that should tell you what others think, just a me type person. I paid for everything, the gas, the motel, the food, everything and thought I could ask for something that she would not have to spend money on. I am thinking seriously about throwing in the towel on her, just giving up. I am too old to fool with her me type stuff any longer, I really have been thinking about doing just that. A simple request, not 1 that I could not pull off if my mother had asked me to do. The last thing before we got home, I wanted to stop at 1 of my favorite pizza places, get a pizza, we could have called before getting home, could have been ready (left out earlier coming home) and she just wanted to grab something quick, so we got a hamburger. I really do not like her and I am sad because I would like to. It has been impossible for me to really love her like I should.
Yep, I had therapy for awhile too
Therapy didn't take the nightmares away and didn't take away my fears. My anger from it is better but not gone.
I think if I stay a little angry, I will be a little more vigilant and protective of myself. It will not happen to me again.
I can feel sorry for the jerk but can't forgive him for taking my security away from me.
And, before the "holier than thou" people jump on the religious aspect of forgiveness and healing, let me just tell you this.
I have seen many different counselors over the years for this. I even sought counsel from my church back then and I was basically turned into the church sideshow.
These were people I trusted but they let everyone in the congregation know that I was a little sinner and had brought a horrible shame upon myself and my church family.
This was not some kind of fanatical church but I won't say which one.
So in case Georgia Gal is wondering which church, she will continue to wonder. Just know that I will never get over this and I just can't see how she could. Church or no.
I believe in God, I just do not believe in church anymore.
Your doggie needs some therapy
It has no clue what it is, a Siberian and you call it a poodle. Poor thing. It has issues and I would suggest a good therapist!
you don't need therapy-you JUST SUMMED IT UP!!
This post says it all - and I think in your heart you know what would be the best road to take......it's scary but not for very long.......change can be scary but change is a constant in the life....and one door closes and 20 more open (doors and windows)....if you stay in the relationship, you're setting yourself up for a lifetime of never-being-able-to-please-this-person and then hence, yourself. You only get to do this one time - as far as we know - wouldn't you want it to be THE BEST...?
Good luck, I so know it's sooooooooooooooo not easy.....
Was he cured by therapy
or medication?
hehehe.
I remember when DH and I were just engaged, he looked lovingly into my eyes and said the most romantic thing he could think of - "I promise not to be one of those guys who makes his wife a football widow."
Men are funny.
Try massage therapy - sm
It can do wonders. Tell them exactly what your complaints are. Best of luck! 
Yes he needs intense therapy
and they can probably get him disability which would help pay for it.
Question: Why do you keep saying retarded? Haven't heard that term used in years.
Question: Why in the world would they bring a 2yr old little girl into this situation. You said he has needed help for 16 years. What were they thinking. And as far as money goes, if they can't afford therapy, how could they afford to adopt a child from China?
Massage therapy!
 I try to treat myself every 3 weeks or so. PLUS i play a lot of online Jeopardy...
I agree with HER...I think he needs therapy.
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I so agree - left at 18, therapy from 8-28...sm
And have been in fine shape ever since. I became my own hero the day I walked out the door for good at 18, never looking back...never went back, not even for dinner, though kept in touch all the time with my father via his work/job, phone or going directly there, my father always trying to be the peacemaker. I tried for several years and several different time but once one is so poisonous - you have a choice...and I always chose not to be involved with poisonous types of people.
Therapy IS the ticket FOR SURE and there's all kinds of therapies out there today for all kinds of personalities. Thank goodness for that - I was into the new-wave therapies back in the late 1960s-70s....
Bless everyone going through all of this either prior or now.....Bless ALL.
I have never taken hormone replacement therapy like you
because I knew from years ago, before the gov study that hormones were being linked with breast cancer, among other things. My elderly aunts (in their 80s) also refused to take hormones, one being a nurse. My mother took hormones and she died from uterine cancer. A previous physician told me I should take them (this was not OB-GYN and I just felt I had all the information I needed to make a sound decision, that being not taking them.
My Therapy Dogs are certified through
Therapy Dogs International. They have to pass two sets of tests..the first is the AKC Good Canine Citizen, then the TDI test. Any breed or hmmm-what-kind-are-you? dogs can become a Therapy Dog.
The dogs need to have a physical, stool testing, and vaccination history is sent to TDI along with a recent photo of your dog. You then will receive a photo ID that has to worn with each visit.
A lot goes into the training, but it is well worth it. Just to see the look on a patient's face really does bring on the tears. Deb, don't hide your tears....the patient's don't mind. You and your dog just might be the most emotional packed figure they've seen in a while. Everyone else who tends to them, while smiling, are distant and almost sterile. Your tears means you really care about them.
Info on the AKC Good Canine Test:
http://www.akc.org/events/cgc/training_testing.cfm
and the TDI test:
http://www.tdi-dog.org/tditesting.html
New scents, aroma therapy from YC
Love the ones you mentioned as well as Water Garden and Sweet Violet.
The SO (he's such a sweetie) brings me YCs all the time. He just gave me a boxed set of five Aromatherapy Spa candles:
cinnamon/frankincense
peppermint/basal/rosemary
lavender/ylang-ylang/geranium,
jasmine/sandalwood
tangerine/vanilla
I've only tried the first one so far and it's very nice. Don't know what's in them but the dog freaks when I get the box out. She rubs herself all over them while snorting like a pig. Very odd. You should see what she does when the YC catalog comes with those scented pages!
When my brother was in therapy, he used that technique.
Never would use the word "you" in a sentence when discussing an issue and constantly repeating back to us what we said in order to validate that we were heard. Our entire family hated it, especially because his issues were HIS issues. Beating three wives, always out-of-control, and demanding emotional support whenever he made repeatedly stupid decisions. He just couldn't repair the huge damage he had done by trying that one on us. (And he only tried briefly.)
It's not a bad technique. It's actually quite nice to be civilized that way. But whenever someone mentions it, I'm reminded of my brother who had hurt so many of his family members, emotionally and physically, and then couldn't figure out why the technique his therapist taught him didn't work like a magic charm. He never did figure out that the trust was gone from every relationship in his life.
Sorry! That was off-topic. It just stirred up some unpleasant memories.
Lots and lots of SKATING ! - sm
Mostly inline street skating, up & down hills, too. Some roller skating and roller-disco. I was doing ice-skating, but can't afford it anymore, plus I prefer to skate outdoors. It works all muscles, is low-impact, fairly quick to learn compared to other sports, like skiing, is a cheap sport, and excellent for keeping balance & reflexes sharp. Most of the people I skate with look & act 10-20 years younger than their chronological ages.
I MAKE the time to skate. I eat my lunch at my desk, but take a break in the late afternoon before it gets dark, to exercise. This can also include a walk or jog around the neighborhood, bike ride into town to go to the market (cheaper than driving), a fast inline skate around town, or dance practice on a local tennis court. Then I work into the evening for as long as it takes to finish up.
....therapy or a Marriage Encounter weekend, if that's still around...nm
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Love the Italian therapy! My dad and uncle were...
raised that way...no coddling or worrying about hurting the little one's feelings. My grandmother would have made a fortune from her therapeutic thwaps!
Bless your heart for having Therapy Dogs!
I think that's a wonderful program and hat's off to you for taking the time to do it!
It's therapy. At least for me it is. I don't mind it. Just don't read the posts if you know
they will bother you. I'm sorry to be so rude, but you can't dictate what other people posts unless it's religion or politics. If you start getting into the media and bad news, then you are really censoring the board and you don't want to do that.
I overted one of these last week with Avon Moisture Therapy sm
and I swear by it. This time of year I cream up, especially rubbing into the areas that these occur, then put on some socks on my hands for the night. I have not had one of these until recently and like I said, I averted it with this stuff. I am nice and comfy this week.
Tips
My general out look on tipping is I tip for a job well done and a lot of times when they are in my house my previous have been known to throw the bathroom rugs in the wash(which wasnt on the list but was appreciated), vacuum the dog bed, one lady would wash my dishes and would actually take great pains to make sure she put them up correctly (major points there) and would run my families laundry (correctly) while she did the cleaning which was not requested so I tipped. BUT then after a couple of months she would rescedule, show up hours or a day late and would only half complete the list but would do the extra and got attitude when she did not get a tip.
A tip (IN MY OPINION) is for above average service. If you do not complete the minimum then I do not even consider tipping.
A few tips...
First, taking a taxi is even scarier than the subway! (keep in mind everyone I am from a small town in West Virginia and New York was a little intimidating!) I went with my mother for my 21st birthday. We got two maps - a subway map and a detailed map of the streets. We either walked or took the subway everywhere we went. We learned after having to take a cab from the airport to our hotel that it was probably safer just to walk!
The hotel that we stayed in was in China Town and it was very tiny - don't expect any alone time with your hubby! :)
Central Park was excellent and your kids will love the zoo. That would definitely be a good place to go. We did all the touristy things -went to the statue of liberty and all that.
The Lion King was the best show I have ever seen!! We also saw Wicked, which was also great and would probably be kid friendly.
Overall, it was an excellent experience and I cannot wait to go back some day. My only suggestion would be to get any map you can! Preferably, a subway map and the street map like I did. Even if you do take a taxi, you need to know where you are so the cab driver doesn't 'take you for a ride'! I hope you have a wonderful, safe trip!
Thanks for the tips - sm
I have spent a small fortune trying to find a mascara that doesn't irritate my skin. Even the hypoallergenic mascara is irritating or clumpy.
Definitely going to try the false lashes.
Tips
It's easy to get mad at someone, but getting to the deeper root of the problem is sometimes more difficult. If you have recurring arguments, get to the root of the issue once and for all. Knowing what the sore spot is will help you understand each other more and will help avoid future blow outs.
Admit when you're wrong. The power of a simple apology is extremely underrated so when you're in the wrong, own up to it; I guarantee he will appreciate it.
Although fighting is serious, breaking the tension if the timing is right is sometimes necessary. Don't mock or undermine the argument, but making a joke will prove that your relationship means more than simply winning an argument.
You really get to see someone's insecurities during a fight so talk about them with each other in order to get to know each other even better than you thought you did.
Try to avoid hitting below the belt and bringing up past fights. No matter how angry you are, it will behoove you to fight fairly.
These are some good tips I came across. Good luck!
Lilly
Thanks for the tips - I too....
am not quite at that stage where I think I'm ready for all gray. (I'm only...48 - wait a minute...there's no way I can be 48...born in 1960....yeah I guess that's right 48 - egaads!) :-) Anyway...maybe I should start just going gray, but just bought the hair color so will use it. I'd love to have a hairdresser color my hair but I can't afford monthly trips to the beauty salon. I just got this shampoo and conditioner from a hair salon, but when I'm out I'm going to use the stuff you suggested. I also have a jar of cholesterol hair conditioner, so I'm going to try that too and hopefully it will make it softer. I used to have such beautiful hair a few years back. Natural curls, and all the hairdressers that cut my hair said how everyone wishes they had hair like mine. Over the past few years I've noticed my hair thinning (going bald) towards the front. I also don't have any more natural curls like I used to and now I have to keep my hair shorter because if it goes longer it just looks stringy. I only wash my hair about once every 3 days. I figured seeing as I sit at my desk every day and only go out of the house once every other weekend to grocery shop there's no need to wash it so much. Thanks for the tips. I should put a post up in about a month with an update of how my hair turns out :-) or if I do end up just "doing the gray thing".
Maybe some tips that might help sm
i to am gray, not sure how much cause i color my hair. i'm 36 and i got my first gray at 22. my mom is 55 and i have more gray than her. my dad is completely silver (he's 56). his hair is beautiful!!! anyway, i color my hair. i used to buy my stuff from walmart and highlight too. my hair would look really dry. i found a great hairdresser and she told me to wash with Redken Allsoft (and conditioner too). she said to also give myself a conditioning treatment twice a week where after you wash your hair, towel dry it and put this conditioner in (she gave me the stuff) on the tips or wherever it's dry and leave it in for about five minutes then rinse. what happened was before i started going to her, i used one of those caps and pulled my hair through and highlighted it that way. that really dries out the hair. so now i'm not doing to that anymore. i'm going to let my hairdresser take care of the coloring. she's really great and full of information. i've often thought about going gray too, but i'm still too young to look about 10 years older. i have like a dirty brown with gray (yuck). oh she also said to try and only wash hair about every other day. washing every day dries it out too. use conditioner every time you wash. i hope it helps!
Thanks for the tips - sm
I know our daughter wants to be in a State school. She has lots to choose from in NY. And she wants to live at college. Over the past several days since I posted, she's looked up three particular schools and signed up for the open houses, the first of which we're going to on Monday. I liked that advice about going to the open houses and then if it looks like something she might want to then schedule a more private tour. So now it starts. I'm excited and scared stiff at the same time, living vicariously through her. I never went to college, and I really hopes she gets everything she wants out of it!
Tips
Been working over 25 years. Raised my 2 boys by myself in a small hick impoverished town. Had plenty. Had nothing.
Here's the lessons I learned and the tips that helped me and still will, I am sure, at some point:
1. When you are in dire straits (we're talking long-term problem, not just a little short this month), you must reprioritize. Make a list of the things you MUST have to survive. You must secure those first and foremost. Once you do that, anything extra does NOT buy extras -- it goes into savings. No more extras until you are caught up on your MUST HAVES and you have enough savings for to cover those for at least 2 months.
2. Change your food budget immediately. Eat basic staples. Another poster below had the right idea: Beans, potatoes, etc. Get cozy with a family-size can of Campbell's Tomato Soup and grilled cheese sandwiches. Cook. Don't order out or buy any convenience foods at all. Give up sodas, coffee. Clip coupons. Any money saved goes to savings only.
3. Get rid of the junk in your home -- any/all of it -- sell it. Use consignment shops, sell it on eBay, have a garage sale, call a junk man. ALL the money goes to savings.
4. Make change at home: Change the thermostat in your home. Make it cooler in the winter and warmer in the summer. Bundle up or wear lighter clothes. Only wash clothes in cold water. Do you need the cable TV package you have? Do you have telephone extras? Do you need that cell phone?
5. Cut down your driving. Car pool for shopping trips or kids to school, etc.
6. Raise the deductible on your car insurance. This you should be doing anyway -- insurance is a paid risk, that's all. Take the max deductible allowed by your insurance company. It is unlikely you will use it and you will pay less per month. The idea is to PAY LESS but still have the necessary coverage. If you can drop full coverage for liability only - do it.
7. Pack lunches for kids or get on a free/reduced lunch program at school.
8. Evaluate your job(s). You need steady income and work that is available to you. Do not fall into the trap of thinking that MT work is the only work you can do. Convenience stores need help, so do retailers, etc. It is your RESPONSIBILITY to do what is necessary to bring home the money. If MT work is not paying you enough, then get out of it or at least supplement it. You would do better to work two outside jobs at $10 an hour than to sit at home on 3 MT jobs making only $7 an hour WHEN you get to work.
9. Make sure all in your household are aware of the crunch THE FAMILY is in. It is not just YOU in the crunch, but the entire family. Even the children. Everyone must do something to contribute. For children, this means just doing their part at home with chores but also turning off lights not used, turning off the water while brushing teeth, taking a bath with a little less water, etc.
These are just some tips to get started.
You have to recognize and accept that the responsibility is yours to ensure the money is coming in and being spent responsibly. There is no excuse for waiting for work nor for spending foolishly.
My heart is with you ... I have truly been there and done that.
Survivalist
Thanks for the tips! -sm
What you said about putting in the veggies last makes sense. Probably similar to steaming them, huh? Mine is also a small, 3-qt. one. (They were on sale at Target in Dec. for only $15!)
I've also had some interesting microwave experiences. Like one day I went to cook something on a plate that had gold metallic-looking paint around the rim of it. There were sparks everywhere! Scared me to death! I know you can't put metal in, but I guess metallic or gold-leaf paint is a no-no, as well. I've also had some things I microwaves for too long explode.
Another time I put something in the oven and left the pot-holders inside the the oven by accident, and started a fire.
This is all why, when I go to my parents' for Thanksgiving, my sisters do all the cooking, and I just sit around and watch.
;D
She needs more than just packing tips sm
She just told her father and I that she changed the message on our answering machine. We listened "Hi, the Hurts are in New York right now so we won't be able to call you back for about a week." This is a straight A student Geesh! Don't know what she was thinking, actucally she wasn't thinking at all.LOL
Thank you for the reply and the tips.
Been thinking of going the natural route myself. There sure do not seem to be any good diagnosticians around today like there were years ago. Nowadays, most put the symptoms into the computer and see what comes up. Well, I can do that too!
I've been reading up on the many diseases and syndromes that affect multiple body systems that often go undiagnosed or are treated separately for years, probably partly because everybody is a *specialist* these days.
But the last two I saw actually called each other, so HEY maybe they're finally onto something! lol
Gotta have a sense of humor or it'll make you insane.
Sorry to hear of your problems. And I'm glad you are doing better!
Here are some tips from a fellow
I have really curly hair and I only wash it once a week with organic shampoo. It does not have sodium laureth sulfate in it, which really makes your hair frizzy and tangled. I also use a good quality conditioner and put it in my hair (just a little) between washings and work it through with my fingers. Good luck. It took me into my 20s to really appreciate my hair. I think less is more as far as doing stuff with it. Don't cut it, you'll regret it later because sometimes curly won't sit right cut short.
good tips
thanks for the tips - I like the one about making a joke or trying to lighten the mood - I have used that one before and it usually works.. I also like the one about not hitting below the belt - I used to do that with my first husband - that's not good. . it is just hurtful.
Believe it or not we live off those tips.
DH gets 2 bucks an hour. He gets none of the surcharge, nothing for gas, nothing for delivery fee you all pay. He gets stiffed, he gets 2 bucks an hour. That is our spending money. Since I am an MT and you know these days what that means, and I watch the kids, he works at the post office and with a church, and the only way to make bills stretch is to live off his tips on pizza. So, we eat mostly the discounted (not free) pizza he gets from work (the left overs people don't pay for or are deadbeats). So next time you tip the pizza guy remember these truths. Our 3 kids depend on the tips, and so does this MT, whose 2 jobs typing goes to bills and growing kids clothes.
Need frugal tips
I love the fall but this is the time of year that I also get to thinking about summer vacation in order to start saving early. I want to take my 7-year-old son to the beach. Does anyone have any ideas for a cheap but fun vacation. We would drive so I know packing to eat on the road would be one thing. What else? Is it cheaper to get a hotel or a condo? Eat out or go to the grocery store? ANY ideas would be greatly appreciated!! TY
Canning tips.
I see that you'd like to learn to can. I do a lot of canning. In fact, I have a weird little room between my kitchen and dining room that I call "the pantry". We put shelves up on all the walls. One little shelf unit along one wall is my office. (I call the place the Pantroffice. :) The rest of the shelves, floor to ceiling, are filled with canned items. It's more of a hobby and a way to ensure that I know what is going into the cans. I can't say that it is necessarily cheaper than buying canned goods at a store.
If you are interested in learning, I highly recommend the latest edition of the Ball Blue Book. It costs about $5 or $6, and includes recipes and basic guidelines for canning. It's updated regularly, so find the most recent version. The Ball Blue Book will tell you when it's safe to can using a hot water bath, and when you must use a pressure canner. For years, I only did foods that required hot water canning, because that was the cheapest way to go. Several years ago, I invested in a very large pressure canner. Now I can can my own broths, soups, stews, and much more. It makes for quick foods at times.
It is something of a science, and lots of guidelines have changed from the days our grandmother's canned food. You certainly don't want to poison anyone! You need to know how to can the modern way.
If you want to know more, feel free to email.
Some tips..for next time...sm
Crock pots are not as "dummy proof" as they profess to be. I have found that most of them have too high a heat, even on low, to cook anything for 10 hours!! Everything pretty much depends on the size of the crock pot, as well. I am alone, so mine is small at 3 qt. Remember that the crock pot must be filled to about 2/3 full of food, or it will burn! Boneless chicken breasts cook a whole lot faster than the ones with the ribs. Most are done in three to four hours. Potatoes can go in at the same time as the meat, but as far as veggies, don't put them in until about an hour before the meat is due to be done or they will turn to mush! particularly anything frozen or canned. Fresh might take a little longer, but not much. Quite honestly, you really can't "just throw in everything together" and cook it for 12 hours like they advertise on TV. Crock pot cooking is just like any other cooking. It is a learning process by trial and error. There are some good crock pot recipe books out there that explain all this stuff. basically, three to four hours for meats and potatoes, one hour for veggies. good luck to you on your next try.
Tips on walking my dog
This is my dog Kane, doesn't he look sweet?
He is not sweet on our walks, he is a big butt nugget, he pulls and wants to walk as fast as he can.
I try and wait for him to calm down before we leave for the walk but as soon as I touch the door knob he gets excited.
I am just using the leash as a collar and leash, I wrap it around his neck so I can pull it when he acts up, which is the enitre walk!
Any ideas on how to stop the pulling and make him focus and mind?
By trial and error. Lots and LOTS of error!!! -nm
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Thanks a bunch, great tips!
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favorite diet tips?
Mine is putting sauces on vegetables according to cravings. My son mentioned he had ribs for lunch today and that made me want some so badly I went and put BBQ sauce on my veggies w/ rice!!!
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