Honey, I feel your pain..
Posted By: OldiebutgoodieMT on 2007-12-14
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We have 5 friggin kids..THREE of which are teenagers and the oldest is almost 26 but going to college full-time so I have footing that bill along with all of his other bills he has acquired as an adult..Then, we have the almost 20-year-old daughter who is unable or just doesn't want to work..so we took her back out of the homeless spectrum and got her a home..which we are footing the bill for...Thus, is the reason mom has to work 2 FT jobs..So, my answer to our kids thinking they are EVER moving back home when we boot them out is this...We're buying a motor home when they're gone. On the back it will be named "Kid's Inheritance." Then, as we pull out of the driveway, and if we see them in the rearview mirror, we're hitting the gas!!! and it's like this.."kids, if you can catch us, you can move in, but we won't be doing the speed limit." How's that !!! As you know, as a parent, you have to spend your time laughing or you will just start bawling uncontrollably until they come haul you away.
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I feel your pain
It is the same way here. My husband is disabled and could help some with my youngest, but does not. It is up to me to do it all. My MIL used to "butt" in all the time, but thankfully that has stopped. I have a teenager who could also help and does not. Ironically I live with 3 others in my home and I have never felt so alone. There are days my DH will take his disabilty out on me and it is not right, but I don't have to walk in his shoes so I try to be understanding. Men will never be mothers. We surely do not get enough credit! We have to work 24/7 365 days a year. I know personally I work 6 days a week and my "day off" I spend cleaning, doing the errands ect. What day off??? I know it takes longer, but I stop and tend to my kids even when I am typing. It stinks, but a mom has to do what a mom has to do. I just know if I don't help my youngest no one else here will. It's sad, but true. That is why I am still working from home as a MT. Lord only knows what would happen if I weren't here. I pray things get better for you. I can relate to just how you feel. Take care of you!
I feel your pain here also..sm
My sister passed away back in Nov. after 12 yrs in a vegative state resulting from injuries in a car wreck. My mother had chosent have her cremated and wanted to have her ashes spread in the ocean since she was a "sungoddess" by secondary nature! She wanted to wait until the summer time. We are planning to do this about the 2nd week of July. I was thinking about releasing butterflies as a surprise for the family.
As previous poster said, you could also check parks in your local area and have a bench in a nice peaceful area dedicated to her with a plaque. Some parks allow that type of donation. Or, if you are near an ocean, maybe you could to a bench there.
I feel your pain!
I get these little tiny things that look like sugar ants...until they BITE! I have horrible reactions to their bites, much like fire ants. I, too, have cats, so I have to be careful spraying. I also rent, so that eliminates lawn service. Darn ants!!
I feel your pain...s/m
My 7-year-old has asked me several times if we could "move away from daddy". It's hard when you are at a crossroads and your situation sounds a lot like mine. I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out for you and your child!
I feel your pain (sm)
We have a similar (although not as serious) situation with my in laws. Thank God we have not had to face the kinds of issues you have, but it still hurts. My hubby is their only child, and they just don't care anymore. They were decent parents while he was growing up and in the past few years, and then about 18 months ago, bam! They act like they've been brainwashed.
I won't go into the details, but suffice to say that I'm finished trying to bridge gaps. It just is not worth it. We are going to make our own "family" from friends who actually like to spend time with us and give us support, and when good ol' mom and dad get to that point in their life when they have regrets or, more likely, get too old to wipe their own butts, well honey, that is why we have nursing homes in this country. The sad thing is that my parents are gone, have been for a long time, and I hate to see hubby lose his parents before they are even gone. However, it just is not worth it.
I think you did exactly what you needed to do, even if just to make yourself feel better for a while. It may not have been the most thoroughly thought out action in the world, but you have so much stress on you right now, I think that can be forgiven.
Good luck to you and your husband, and try to stay strong. You have enough to worry about without the in laws adding to it, so just pretend they don't exist for a while. Know that you are not alone, and that you can always vent here if you need to. We'll understand.
HC
I feel your pain
Boy do I ever know where you're coming from! I went on vacation with a bunch of girlfriends last July and I looked at the pictures and thought "who the heck let the elephant in the room!!!" It was horrible. I am going on vaca again with the same women in July and I have vowed to be at least a little bit better.
You do have to lose weight overall to get the double chin to go away. In extreme cases there are people like AL Roker who lost weight but not really much in his face. I'm betting you're not that extreme, though.
My sister and I started walking together three mornings a week. It's not much yet, but it's more than we were doing before, which was nothing. Find a walking partner and try to walk for 30 minutes several days a week and you'll see a change.
Good luck!
I feel your pain
You, my dear, have picked up a stray troll... There is a special place in heck for people who get their jollies torturing people. Just remember that YOU are normal, nice, and decent, and obviously a brilliant mother, and a troll magnet, as am I unfortunately!
Tomorrow is another day!
Love,
Regular troll victim
I feel your pain!
My mother-in-law sent my sone $2 for his birthday, not $20, $2, so what I did was add another $15 and got him a toy I knew he would love and told him it was from his grandma and grandpa. I then called and told them what they gave him. I didn't have grandparents growing up and although it is tempting to let him know what an a**hole his grandma is, it isn't going to do any good now and he will figure it out eventually on his own. Right now, I just want him to feel loved.
Yup, I feel your pain, not hard to
imagine at all as I have many of those on a daily basis 
I feel your pain! (See my posts to other threads above) nm
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, i feel your pain nm
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I feel your pain too, but not spending my money is not going to help you - nm
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Yup, I feel your pain, but I solved things this year.
I bought myself a pair of boots I've been wanting forever, and a new purse, and a tennis bracelet - told him they were going to be from him to me. I bought 'em, wrapped 'em, and enjoyed them big time!! I deserved them! My DH means well, too, though just is clueless as well. Rather than sit and feel like crawling back in bed, this year I was right on the floor opening gifts with the rest of the bunch! Sometimes we women have to do what we have to do! 
I feel your pain, been down that road many times over the years - sm
I am so sorry for what you are going through. You need to take her to the vet and let her go. That way she will not be suffering any longer and you will know you eased her pain. It sounds like it is time. Again, I have been through this many times over the years with my cats and it is hard each and every time. I will be wishing you all the best.
I feel your pain. I have a grown adult in my face 24/7.
The man needs a job.. He wants to be with me so he sits/lays behind me a lot of the day until I tell him to do something constructive like clean the house..his job.. As I tell him, you've been assigned a job description, now get on it. I will say that I wouldn't spend three or four hours arguing with him, he knows better. I'll knock his block off. :)
I feel your pain... sometimes I consider shaving my head!!! I just keep it short so as not to mess
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Cuz you're numbing your brain so you feel no pain! Flavored brandy
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pain and not wanting pain is understandable cuz of medical reason
I mean come on, when he has pain somewhere, does he not want to do something? Seriously, is this a true medical pain problem? If it is, then anyone could understand.
Sorry...should be paint store not pain (maybe pain...hehe)
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Honey!
I am not sure why, but honey always helps when I get that really tight and irritated feeling in my throat. Even just taking a teaspoon full before I go to bed helps, especially for when you have the irritating postnasal drip. And its great for kids who get that tickly cough in the middle of the night. Give it a try!
Thank you both. I am going to get some honey (sm)
I have not been tested for mono but I have been around 2 children very recently who were diagnosed with mono. I told the doc this but I have had mono in the past so she said that probably wasn't the problem now. I definitely trying the honey and pepper. I would stick a bar of soap down my throat right now if I thought it would help...lol. thank you
You're not alone honey . . .
Being a wife and mom is a labor of love. Women give so much of themselves. The kids probably won't get it until they have children of their own and experience the same thing. It would be nice to feel appreciated now and then, a little thought behind the gift is all you're asking. Crawl back into bed if you want, or how about a hot bath and a glass of wine. Try to do something nice for yourself. I know it's not the same but what can we do? Chin up.
I have heard this too, but it has to be honey - sm
made in your local area, that way it has the pollen, etc. from your area to help your allergies. My neighbor just started doing this about 2 weeks ago and swears it is working. I am thinking about trying it too (cannot hurt) as my allergies (pollen, dust, mold) are a lot worse this year though the worst is over for me now.
Oh honey, I am a woman...
just can do things on my own...have a large home too and still manage to have lots of time, a clean house and work 10 hour days. I can easily afford a housekeeper too but why when I am perfectly capable myself. DH gets to come home to a home cooked meal every night, a very clean home and a happy wife who does not complain! Not all men want simpering, helpless women.
You could try mixing it with honey or
adding a bit of juice to it.
Honey, she is not MY daughter....
she is a child that I gave up for adoption who is someone else's true daughter. I have stated that I would be willing to meet her face to face, but just because I don't have the warm fuzzies you think I should have about meeting her doesn't make me hateful. Do you feel that all of us who gave children up for adoption are supposed to want a relationship with them? That is an irrational way of thinking, as far as I'm concerned. Am I curious, yes; am I regretful, no; do I harbor bitterness towards her, no. That being said, I am not so curious that it would haunt me to the end if I never met her.
honey and eggs
If you really want a side business, keep chickens or bees. People like to buy organic food.
Honey, you wish you had it as good as me!! :)
Thank goodness I'm not one of you who eeks out a liviing typing fingers to the bone, worrying about bills, etc. Have a good life and know it! Thanks though for your concern!
Merry Christmas to all!
Thanks honey! We would be fine without my job thanks
to living right and not beyond one's means. And BTW, bon bons are fattening, you won't catch this MT with seat spread! Well, this has been fun, but my work day is done and Christmas vacation has begun! So, toodles to you all. Very Merry Christmas!
Did you try the pure honey?
NM
I think the honey is starting to help....at least (sm)
it is temporarily soothing. Thank you all for your suggestions
I just read that someone mixes it with honey in a cup of s/m
hot water twice a day. She cannot believe the difference it has made overall, and NO hot flashes!! It seems too good to be true. I will try the tablets first and if that does not work I will try the "tea" mixture. Thanks!
Not judging honey, believe me, I speak...
my mind and you could tell if I was judging others. This place is teeming with unhappy, whining, complaining women (just look at some of the posts all over this site) and that is not a judgement, it is fact. As far as being in the same situation as others one day, if you read any of my posts you would see that I have been there, done that and changed my ways. Should something happen, we have learned to save money, have enough put away to last a year and not have to touch any retirement, etc. That took a lot of determination and hard work on our part and we are proud of it.
I am get a good chuckle out of some women who accuse other women of "living off their husbands" and "where would you be without his money". I can make my own money, but my husband doesn't tell me that i need to work and doesn't tell me how much I need to make. He is the provider in this family and has never once asked me to work harder, earn more or get a different job. Remember when men used to do that and our mother's stayed home and raised the family and didn't work? Are you jealous of your girl friends or family members that don't have to work or who live debt free or do you hold that judgement for those you do not know?
Enough of this for now. I'm sure someone will have something to bash me about later on...go ahead, it just shows how very immature some women can be.
raspberry no caffeine hot tea w/honey nm
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Honey, if you are the one posting about all the problems sm
with your father, you need more than jut a phone block. I can't say exactly what needs to be done, but you are here every week (and you need a place to vent and ask for help, so keep coming here), but there is so much more to your problems than "dad always calling, always at the house, always asking about mom". You need a legal analyst to come into this situation and get some formal help and training. I sincerely hate that you are going through this, but your life sounds like a soap opera and I honestly think you need more help then we can give. Good luck and prayers to you.
Shoulda walked over and said,"Here, honey. Let me
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Oh honey...go take a pill and have a stiff drink too...
some kids are just plain bratty and mean, bios and steps, no matter what the age. Many kids know how to manipulate the situation to their advantage, especially kids from divorce. Some of us are adult enough to see through it and make others aware. Nothing wrong with kids coming first, however, parents need to know when to reign little Tommy or Susie in and stop catering to them all the time.
I did that yesterday with the Honey Nut Cheerios snack mix
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Baby Cakes, I LOVE it...thanks honey!
BTW, you are hardly starting a revolution. It is a little piece of skin...get over it (or maybe GET some of it!)
Honey, you're not here by accident, the world did not just "happen"!...
Will pray for you!
Hand him a lonog honey-do list one day after work,
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Burt's bees hands down - have a tube everywhere - original, don't like honey
xx
Find a local beekeeper who sells honey. I know, sounds crazy. but sm
here in our town of 200,000, a local beekeeper sells honey from the local bees where people with severe allergies will go and buy a bottle, eat 2 tablespoons a day for a few days and SWEARS by this method.
This is the only natural cure I have seen that actually works. The bees pollinate the stuff you are allergic to and then you eat their honey....and then you become immunue to the allergens in the air and it works.
Honey, I grew up on the south shore of Long Island, NY in hurricane territory...
ya know how to duck and cover. I've never been through a major earthquake or a real tsunami yet though. Hey, there's always time for that.  Cat
Sorry your MIL is a pain..
Sounds like you both need a time out from each other.
Pain
Can you use your hot keys instead of the foot pedal? That works for me.
Lilly
So sorry for your pain
and also for your daughter's pain.
Pain
Everyones pain threshholds are very different. I have had three children naturally and was up walking right after. I had my tubal and was able to go back to work the next day and never needed any of the pain pills that were prescribed.
However my little sister was laid up for almost a week after hers.
So what was easy for me might not be for you I would say speak to your physician he or she hopefully knows you well enough to knowledgeably tell you what to expect. Just be sure no matter what you have someone with you when you get home to give you a hand just in case it is more than you bargained for.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hopefully it will be uneventful and as painless as possible. Keep us updated.
Arm pain
Has anyone had this happen. I sometimes wake up and my right arm from the elbow to the top of the shoulder burns/aches....very bad and to the point I need to wrap it in a heating pad. The rest of the arm is not affected by pain but my fingers sometimes are a little clumsy especially when trying to type. This has happened around three times now over the past year. It lasts for a couple of hours and then it goes away. I guess it is nothing to worry about but it sure does hurt! Ouch. Just wondering what it could be and/or what causes it.
Oh believe me, there was PAIN!!
Terrible pain for three days straight, but the worst thing is my ortho glued these bite blocks in back of my top front teeth and NONE of my teeth touch! Imagine trying to eat anything but soup or yogurt! I am going to Vegas early June, and one of the main reasons I was going was to eat at some of those world-class restaurants. I'm hoping he will remove them just for the week of my trip, or it looks like I'll be having soup at Wolfgang Pucks...
Do you have a lot of pain?
Do you have fibroids? Have you had a colposcopy? when the doctor cuts out pieces of the cervix, can be done in the office, a little painful.
I had no symptoms, just 1 abnormal Pap and then got the diagnosis, so it was caught early.
I wish I could help you more. Are you seeing your doc soon? I would get in as soon as possible since you are so concerned.
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