Honestly, what I think is you need to move (sm)
Posted By: Lisa on 2007-09-11
In Reply to: I just need to vent! My 15yo son is going through a tough time. SM - MissouriMT
I know it sounds drastic but this is your son's wellbeing and future you are talking about. You need to move away from your abusive ridiculous brother-in-law. Your son has no father figure, and his uncle is a big jerk who should be in jail if he slams his kids around. I don't care if you have to rent a crummy apartment somewhere, but I would get my kid the heck out of there and let him know I am 100% on his side and just trying to give him the best future I can because I love him.
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Honestly, not sure...
He was wrapped up for DH under the tree for Christmas, but not sure where he is right now.
Honestly...
I would pay the $300 and wait for another bill. If one didn't come after 30 days, I would contact the company. I have been through nightmares with companies when I tried to pay something which was different than what I was billed. I'm sure once they post your $300 payment, they will see the balance on your account and bill you for that.
Not exactly the same thing...but last year I moved into a brand new house. At the old house, we had been averaging our natural gas bill, but since this one is new, they have to get a year's worth of records before they can start averaging. When I transferred the account, the person I talked to was aware of that. However, apparently somebody down the line saw that I had been on averaging before and put the new house on averaging, too. The first bill was over $200 - which wouldn't have been so bad except we had it set up on direct debit. Of course I called, they said it would be straightened out, then the next month the bill was over $100 and they took that out of my account, too! It took me three months and phone calls all over the state to get this straightened out and for them to issue a refund check - since the actual amount of my bill over that three-month period was only about $90.
Having been through the wringer with that and with other bills, that is why I am very cautious when it comes to billing errors.
But that's me. 
You honestly believe that??
I'd be 100 bucks those kids would have acted in the same way regardless of how they were approached. They were ticked because they thought they had a right to be there and it takes a sense of maturity to be able to "get it" when you're that age and think you know everything.
Their behavior indicates that they don't have an ounce of maturity in them. How in the world is the OP in the wrong????
Sorry Hay, I honestly luv ya, but can't
laugh at that one. My son was at VA Tech on April 16 and unless you have been there, there is nothing funny about it.
I honestly don't know, but
curiously, there have been reports of migraines lessening after facelifts. go figure.
I honestly don't see why this is a big deal
This is information which is already on file with the government. Every American citizen should have copies of all of this information.
When you hear something like this, always go to snopes.com and check it out. See the link below.
but do you honestly regret...
Having them? That's harsh, IMHO...of course! I'm sorry you don't have a good adult relationship with your children...that's gotta be my worst fear (well, one of them anyway)...God bless
I honestly have no idea on that!
I have never cut my cats nails. They are indoor/outdoor cats and I kinda rely on them to keep the mice population in check around here, so I need their WMDs to be in perfect working order ;-)
It's worth a shot though, right? Might help...I can't honestly say.
Honestly don't even know what Steelers are.
I just had to "Google" it now. Only sports teams I'm mildly familiar with are Red Sox, Bruins, and Patriots. I don't follow sports at all though.
That's a hoax! ha No, honestly, they get along with a few
wrestling matches thrown in!
With all due respect, and I mean that honestly, (sm)
You insinuated that just because one may not communicate every gory and painful detail of his/her past to the spouse, love is missing from the marriage.
Relationships are complicated and I find no problem with someone whose past doesn't interfere with the relationship not communicating it. If the relationship thrives status quo, then that's between them.
Well, I honestly thought that all that was over for me...lol
I have a 25, 22 and 21 year old daughter's and a 3-year-old son. I forgot how expensive and tiring things were. Wow, today I went out with my 21 year old to purchase stuff for my son. It was really crazy. So, I bought water-guns, shades, baseball and bat, crayons and coloring book, jump rope and a water bottle as stuffers. Then I pitched in for dinner. I am really exhausted. Oh, I have 2-grand-daughter's that I purchased a few things for....so, this is the life (slams...still laughing at myself)
I honestly would not even go to her house (sm)
Why subject yourself and your children to her? If your husband wants to go over there, let him go alone. I would just avoid her. I would see her maybe on holidays and such since she raised you, but you really don't even owe her that. I grew up in a rough family...I see them twice a year. Right now I am upset at my mother for some mean things she said about my children last time I saw her. I have yet to mail her mother's day gift from this past May.
I honestly don't have the time....nm
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No, honestly I had never heard that before!
The same way someone recently mentioned Queen Latifah is gay - I had no idea! It doesn't matter to me, I just was shocked, that's all. My heart breaks for their loss of their son.
Honestly -- it's none of your business!
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Honestly, I think teachers should
refer to students, no matter how old they are, by their first name, always.
Just to avoid misundertandings, like this one!
I honestly do not understand the ins and
outs of how her things are set up. I do not know how property is handled, just how her finances are done.
I had one at age 33 and can honestly tell you I am the poster child for it! sm
I did not go the route of hormone therapy, as I really did not want any more medications in my body, but took the more holistic viewpoint of vitamins and such. I have been cancer-free and worry-free for 7 years.
I truly think you have made the right decision and in the long run will be very content with it. My thoughts and prayers are with you, but as posters have told you below, it is so much safer to be proactive than to be sorry and worried all the time.
Hugs to you!!!
I can honestly say that my brother has finally
gotten his act together, well for the most part. He is still a lousy father but in just the past 2 weeks he has been making an effort. I hadn't thought about not having to buy a casket. The last funeral I went to the lady was quite elderly and lived with just her dog. The dog had been quite ill for some time and it was almost like they were just hanging on for each other. After she died they had the dog put to sleep and his ashes were buried with her.
Honestly I think I am dealing with both issues with him (sm)
I think he has a girlfriend and a drinking problem
Honestly, it would hurt my feelings...
I've always had a key to my parents' house and if they asked for it back, it would hurt my feelings. It's kinda like saying you're not welcome here. Every time my parents move, they have extra keys made for me and my siblings, and it makes me feel like the door is always open. I live less than a mile away from them, but I make sure to always call before I come over. You might want to explain why you took the key from your son and make sure he didn't take it the wrong way and that he's still welcome to come back just to make sure he's okay with it.
Honestly I have mixed feelings on this.
On one hand...I feel it is your body, you can do what you wish. Who should say what you do with your body. Providing it is willing, agreeing, consenting adults, that should be their choice.
On the other hand...I think some, if not many, who get into prostitution, it is a bad life...they have low self esteem, no respect for themselves...and they are at their lowest and do not know what to do or where to turn. Many times they are so involved with drugs and alcohol, they can not think clearly.
But at the same time...the ones who are "low", are going to do what they can to make money....whether it is prostitution, selling drugs, stealing....illegal or not, they will do it if they are that desperate.
Heck, there are women and men out there selling thier bodies, making good money...or at least money...why not make it legal so you can tax them!
Honestly, the only part my grandmother
taught me was how to chain stitch. Yes, the blankets i'm making are all chain stitching but that makes them VERY warm and wonderful (and I think last longer). I do have someone at work who said they would teach me how to granny square but i'd like to finish up the current blankets before learning a new stitch.
Honestly I don't blame you for macing
the dog if it's owner isn't going to be responsible enough to keep the dog on his/her property. Have you contacted the owner of the dog and complained? My husband is a K9 officer and he gets these calls ALOT and it ain't all pitbull calls, it is just dogs in general roaming around in other people's yard and not on their own property. The mace won't kill a dog, but it sure does hurt really bad and makes the dog think twice about approaching you.
I can honestly say I love where I live
I can't imagine moving. I love my neighbors and the neighborhood. Everyone is friendly, and helpful. There is a lot of activity starting now that it's getting nicer out, and I can't wait for the bonfires and cookouts. The only time I thought about moving, although never would since it wasn't practical was when our best friends moved about 5 miles away. They wanted us to buy a house near theirs.
Not putting you down, but do you honestly believe Danny
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I honestly have meant to answer you about 6 times,
but I keep forgetting! Seriously! I have experienced the same thing of late - last year or so, and am in my late 40's. Its very frustrating at times, but I'm trying to joke about it - my kids are great and fill in the blanks for me. I think its natural, at least I hope. I have been thinking of getting that Nintendo DS brain booster thing on TV, but I keep forgetting...
Hmmmm, honestly, if my body looked like that.....
I'd probably post pictures of myself all over the internet too! LOL
I didn't mind either one. I can't honestly say one was worse
than the other.
Trust me..it was not easy.. and it honestly took 4 years..
I went back and forth, I kept trying to leave but was scared, had no where to go, no way to earn a living etc..I would just keep coming back. Then, I did decide to go to school. That pretty much ended it. I got through school leaving through threats and how I "ruined" our lives by going backwards i.e returning to school. He knew that if I had no education, then I was stuck with him for surviving, and I think he knew deep down, I was preparing myself to leave. The second I graduated and got a job, I moved "into town"..well, after stalking me and doing the "if I can't have you, then no one can" crap and being terrified he would kill me..I upped and moved away and filed for divorced. There was no turning back. I moved in with family and he had no idea where that was. Evidently, it calmed down and from that day forward, I did not take his crap. To this day, the man has never found anyone because who wants to live with that alcoholic loser and when he tried to control me after the divorce, I'd tell him to his face to shove off. That was sweet revenge. I had to believe in myself and believe I was worth it.. and I did.. Life is good..I remember him not allowing me to have a credit card, new car or buy anything..not even washclothes..well guess what..this country girl married a millionaire who gives me the world!!!!LOL
honestly, I would risk it and play dumb. sm
I can only say that because this is anonymous. I can't do that in my case because what I have will not go away. However, I think she was haphazardly diagnosed and I would not just accept the consequences of someone else's negligence. I would skip listing that doc and list my prior doc and if it ever came up I would say I didn't know I was diagnosed with it.
Honestly, if I were you, I would hire a real estate agent to help
xx
We would have loved to vacation in Florida. That was our first choice, but quite honestly
the airfare was outrageous. It was actually cheaper for us to fly from our home to Cancun. A lot of the hotels are all-inclusive in Mexico, which obviously makes it more affordable. It's too bad that these resort/vacation destinations in the US are not more affordable to go to and realize that could keep more people here if they did some price deals. I realize too that it's the time of year when they jack their prices up i.e. Spring Break to go to Florida but obviously Cancun is a huge Spring Break destination and we got a really good deal.
I don't believe in sugar coating the truth. I speak plainly and honestly. SM
If that offends some people, I'm sorry. The only mistake I made in my previous post was to make the assumption that the original poster was a Christian and in making that assumption, I posted the passage of scripture from Matthew. I don't know if the OP is a Christian or not. So my post may or may not have been relevant to her.
But going on the assumption that she is a fellow Christian, we (Christians) are taught in Paul's Epistles to admonish one another which is what I was doing. Her focus is on her neighbors. Their reaction is where she is deriving her happiness. If her focus was where it should be, she would never be disappointed.
Move to TX
Then come June if they are on your property - well let's just say that the law will be on your side in whatever you choose to do to them. Right now you can't do much unless you are threatened, but come June - with the new gun law - well, I think you get the point. I think some mace or pepper spray would be in order for them - or maybe just get the waterhose and spray them with that - it would probably teach them to walk to school by another route.
...and move on. nm
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Please get over this guy and move on. You need to end
xx
Move on...you said yourself...
you don't feel anything for him. Also, anger management is a joke, a bunch of (mostly) guys sitting around discussing their feelings about women and just getting angrier! I had a boyfriend who had to go also, quit after 3 sessions, said he didn't need it either. Took me 8 years to finally say enough was enough. Move on, your life is too short and you deserve to be happy and fulfilled. Let him be a problem for someone else to fret about.
I think you have to move them
I'd make a little nest out of an old towel, handle them as little as possible, put them in the towel and move the towel nest some place more suitable. I've moved a litter already, but the mother cat moved them again, so don't be surprised if where you put them doesn't suit her. Make sure she watches where you put them and try to pet her so your smell is on her as well as the kittens.
Why did she move? Don't tell me she got
NC move
Moved to NC about 10 years ago from Orlando, FL. I love it here but have found the taxes to be awful. I'm wishing now I would have moved to Tennessee or Texas. I live in a small town 40 miles from Charlotte and close to the SC border. Gas in SC is usually 8 to 10 cents per gallon cheaper. I know that most of the graduates from the colleges in Raleigh stay in the area so it must be a nice place to live.
I used that when looking to move
It's a great tool to virtually scope out a neighborhood before bothering oneself to go check out a listing!
Are you sure the roommate wants you to move?
Maybe it is just an idea that his boyfriend had. He really is not the one to tell you the news, it should have been the roommate. So I'm wondering if the roommate even even knows about it, or if the boyfriend is trying to make arrangements to move in on his own.
Some folks just can't stand any confrontation, even what it would have taken for your roommate to tell you about these future plans. If he has never done anything to hurt you before, I would think you could just accept it, and try to maintain your friendship. If he knows about it, and if he agreed to have the boyfriend tell you, he probably just could not think of any other solution to the problem, other than having his boyfriend tell you, because he did not want to be the one to hurt you. He probably wasn't thinking about "friendship etiquette" (i.e. being the one to give you the bad news himself) at all.
I hope you find a nice place to live.
I would not move back, either--sm
It is nice to help and it sounds as though FIL may need it, but with the others there, you would be *caring* for more than just your FIL and that would be too much stress. Perhaps, if it can be afforded, a home care nurse for a while, until he is back up to caring for his own needs. It is up to him to remove the others from his house, but I surely would not move in there...until they were gone...JMO. Good luck
I wish they would move ALL the messages.
Basically, I said try getting an OT to evaluate your work area. I did and it helped a lot.
We had new neighbors move in who
had a similar theory about what was acceptable.
They had a habit walking into their neighbors houses without knocking. My parents were too polite to say anything, so they were clueless that they found it appalling. We didn't normally lock the doors when we were home, but to keep them out, we kids started locking them when everybody was inside, just to befuddle the barging-in neighbors. One time my dad had been working in the yard, and he was doing his usual change out of his work pants at the back door. He had privacy because he would announce he was changing, and close the door at the top of the stairs so that he had closed doors on 3 sides (door to garage, closed back door, closed door into rest of house, and open doorway into the unfinished basement. The clueless new neighborgirl decided to have a visit, came thru the open (big) garage door and opened the door into the house, where my dad stood, crouching with pants around his ankles. Oh the bellow that came out of him!
That new neighborgirl did drop by and barge in quite so often after that ...
Will probably move a few times
I get bored easily and do not like being in the same place for a long time. Been here for 10 years and just waiting for youngest to go to college in 3 years so I can move. I want to move to NYC area for a few years because right now I live in a rural area and am going crazy. After NYC would like to maybe move out West for a while and then maybe back to Eastern seaboard.
The move I remembered most was
that one where they take that foot, perhaps fresh from the litter pan, and pat your sleeping face with it. It's like they know!
Can't seem to move on after divorce
I'm divorced now for quite a few years and have just had absolutely no interest in dating. I have 2 children (older) and bringing men into their lives in any capacity has never sat right with me, yet I'm lonely. My ex has moved on (in a new relationship) and unfortunately I have to be around them during kid's functions. It's not that I'm pining for my ex. I just miss being a family unit. I sought a little counseling but it didn't help. I'd appreciate any advice anyone might have who has been in a similar situation.
Before you move to the country
Try animal control. They will usually issue a warning first time second time they will issue a citation..If you have kids the country is a really boring place to grow up...I was out in the country until my divorce and moved into a great neighborhood with lots of kids...Best thing I ever did for my kids and myself..
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