Honestly, I think teachers should
Posted By: van on 2009-02-18
In Reply to: Would it bother you? - sm
refer to students, no matter how old they are, by their first name, always.
Just to avoid misundertandings, like this one!
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I understand the feelings about some teachers and the views that they get a good deal for doing nothing. When my children were in school, they had good teachers and some just downright horrible teachers that should never be teaching children. I think it depends on where you live also. They grew up for the most part in Florida and the community we were in had great schools.
Because of my husband's job, we moved to an area where the schools were less than desireable, but my kids were in advanced placement classes, which meant they were getting a better deal. I did see how this local system was dumbing down kids because a lot of them just come from homes where parents just plain ole don't care. Many problems, and they TOO think it's all the teacher's fault if their kids aren't passing. Strange that they never feel it is their responsibility to see their child is passing, but then again, so many of them are used to getting freebies and everything given to them without working for it, it never phases them they are actually supposed to raise their own child and not the school system.
That being said, my daughter now teaches in that system and I have to say, she has made a difference that is amazing. The testing scores (which personally she hates all the standardized testing but is forced to do by your government) have gone up tremendously with her classes, the highest in the school. Yes, she DOES WORK MORE than 8 hours a day. She has to be there at 7 and can't leave until 4:30....last time I checked that was 9-1/2 hour days. She has to eat with her children, and any "break" she gets is spent tutoring children to catch up or doing endless paperwork for the No Child Left Behind garbage. Her children truly love her and it shows. She worries endlessly about them, knowing so many of them go home where the parents aren't there, they work nights shifts, the children are alone all night. They don't eat dinner..many of them have only one meal and that's the one at school. She takes food to school and sticks it in their backpacks to take home because their lazy parents could care less and many are not even there at night. Some go home on Friday and don't eat again until Monday at school.
Don't blame the teachers for low performance at school. Teachers cannot MAKE lousy parents into good caring parents, they can't make the parents stop bar hopping and slutty mothers stop bringing home a different man every night and the kids see this trash. Teachers can't make the parents see that the children do their homework. They're not allowed to tell the parents to grow up and raise their child and stop acting like children themselves. Some of the kids come back to the school after hours to sit with her in the classroom because they dread going home because no one is there and they are scared. No doubt, there are a few bad apples when it comes to teachers, but there are WORSE parents who are responsible for the lack of their child's performance in the school system.
No one could pay me enough to put up with the trash she has to put up with every day. And to boot, at this school she has a joke of a principal who DOES GET A BONUS, not the teachers. And where is this 4% raise every year. She isn't getting it. She does not get this glorious paycheck you refer to and during the summer, she is tutoring kids to keep them from failing their grades against all odds. She spends her own money and does without herself, to buy things for the children they should have but don't. I personally have bought shoes and things their parents should get off their butts and get their children. These mothers seem to be able to afford expensive hairdos and fingernails, but can't afford shoes for their kids? The fathers....well, who knows where in the h*** they're at.....producing more babies I'm sure. When parents grow up and realize their responsibility to their children, then maybe the school can get better. Teachers are not supposed to be their parents, but many feel they have to be.
of course, most teachers would give a different
story, just as most MTs will tell you that they don't make enough to survive or they are living near poverty, but that's not really true either. Most people would say the same thing about any profession they choose.
And I thought gym teachers were mean
when I was in school! Argh! I'd be furious too.
Teachers from Hogwarts?
A ghost and a ghost buster?
(I'm looking at a flier from a costume shop).
They have a $70 Davy Jones costume that's unbelievable.
They also have male and female Spartan cheerleader costumes. Does your hubby look anything like Will Ferrell? Those are each $30 though. They have a Dickk Cheney mask. If your DH has hunting clothes he'd be set. You could go as a gunshot victim.
(Mr. Cheney's first name is a dirty word on this board - how funny).
Remember teachers can
make all the difference in a child's ability to learn. If the teacher is not good at actually teaching (which many are not!), you might want to see if there is another teacher to choose from.
If the &*%& government would let teachers...
and heck, even students arm themselves, we wouldn't be sending lambs to the slaughter like that. They would've at least had a fighting chance. If I'm going to die, give me the chance to die while fighting to protect myself and others. Why should the criminals be the only ones who can arm themselves? This is a very heated topic 'round these parts where it seems they want to take our right to protect ourselves away at every corner.
Didn't one of our fellow MTs on this board here have a daughter who got into some serious doo-doo at her school for having pepper spray on her keychain? Explain to me how THAT makes sense to punish a kid, or parent, for wanting to give them a fighting chance and protecting themselves.
But teachers often have to use own money to pay for supplies
ujk
Most teachers have at least one planning period when they
can grade papers. If their job requires work-related hours away from school, they are given comp time.
underpaid teachers - what a joke!
I agree that teachers have all this extra work they have to do in their own time, but don't forget about all the paid time off they demanded; spring break, Christmas break, plus the fact that they get most of the summertime off with pay. I think that more than makes up for the extra time they have to put in while school is in session. I have a friend who is in the highest paying school district in Ohio and upon retirement, he and his wife will both be making 80K plus on their pensions. What's so god awful about that!!!!! Winning 10K may not be so great either by the time they pay taxes on it and add it to their income, possibly kicking them into a higher tax bracket. That can be considered a good or bad winning.
Yes, compliments and gifts are the better way, especially with teachers!..
Also, I think your child will not want that you pick a fight with his/her teacher.
Some very dedicated teachers and low paid...
like firemen, police, military who risk their lives for really low pay unlike people with extreme salaries like sports or movie stars.
My sister and her husband are both teachers in Atlanta and -
The word is that many teachers will pass kids out of their current grade just to get rid of them. They tell me the biggest fear of the teachers is to have to teach the same problem child twice! They also say that some parents INSIST that their child be passed no matter what. So sad because it is the children who suffer!
Not many teachers just "work" during the hours school is in
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Agree. Teachers of future generations should be better
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It is NOT the teachers place to tell a child that Santa doesn't
yeah I just might sue as well!
Honestly, not sure...
He was wrapped up for DH under the tree for Christmas, but not sure where he is right now.
Honestly...
I would pay the $300 and wait for another bill. If one didn't come after 30 days, I would contact the company. I have been through nightmares with companies when I tried to pay something which was different than what I was billed. I'm sure once they post your $300 payment, they will see the balance on your account and bill you for that.
Not exactly the same thing...but last year I moved into a brand new house. At the old house, we had been averaging our natural gas bill, but since this one is new, they have to get a year's worth of records before they can start averaging. When I transferred the account, the person I talked to was aware of that. However, apparently somebody down the line saw that I had been on averaging before and put the new house on averaging, too. The first bill was over $200 - which wouldn't have been so bad except we had it set up on direct debit. Of course I called, they said it would be straightened out, then the next month the bill was over $100 and they took that out of my account, too! It took me three months and phone calls all over the state to get this straightened out and for them to issue a refund check - since the actual amount of my bill over that three-month period was only about $90.
Having been through the wringer with that and with other bills, that is why I am very cautious when it comes to billing errors.
But that's me. 
You honestly believe that??
I'd be 100 bucks those kids would have acted in the same way regardless of how they were approached. They were ticked because they thought they had a right to be there and it takes a sense of maturity to be able to "get it" when you're that age and think you know everything.
Their behavior indicates that they don't have an ounce of maturity in them. How in the world is the OP in the wrong????
Sorry Hay, I honestly luv ya, but can't
laugh at that one. My son was at VA Tech on April 16 and unless you have been there, there is nothing funny about it.
I honestly don't know, but
curiously, there have been reports of migraines lessening after facelifts. go figure.
Make a fuss to school board, principal, teachers, dept. of child welfare (sm)
whoever you need to. I understand these are difficult to get rid of but obviously the mom of that little girl is not getting rid of them, maybe she treats the child but if you don't clean up the environment reinfestation is a sure thing.
We got a letter from the school yesterday stating there is a lice outbreak in the school. Then we had a program last night in which all the 3rd graders put on these little capes (that came out of a community bag where they had used them before at practice and then bagged them back up) They of course went over their heads and rested on their shoulders. I wasn't the only person that sucked in air when they saw this last night.
I am sure that poor child is and will be embarrassed about this and probably other things in the future if her health/hygiene issues are not being taken care of properly.
I honestly don't see why this is a big deal
This is information which is already on file with the government. Every American citizen should have copies of all of this information.
When you hear something like this, always go to snopes.com and check it out. See the link below.
but do you honestly regret...
Having them? That's harsh, IMHO...of course! I'm sorry you don't have a good adult relationship with your children...that's gotta be my worst fear (well, one of them anyway)...God bless
I honestly have no idea on that!
I have never cut my cats nails. They are indoor/outdoor cats and I kinda rely on them to keep the mice population in check around here, so I need their WMDs to be in perfect working order ;-)
It's worth a shot though, right? Might help...I can't honestly say.
Honestly, what I think is you need to move (sm)
I know it sounds drastic but this is your son's wellbeing and future you are talking about. You need to move away from your abusive ridiculous brother-in-law. Your son has no father figure, and his uncle is a big jerk who should be in jail if he slams his kids around. I don't care if you have to rent a crummy apartment somewhere, but I would get my kid the heck out of there and let him know I am 100% on his side and just trying to give him the best future I can because I love him.
Honestly don't even know what Steelers are.
I just had to "Google" it now. Only sports teams I'm mildly familiar with are Red Sox, Bruins, and Patriots. I don't follow sports at all though.
That's a hoax! ha No, honestly, they get along with a few
wrestling matches thrown in!
With all due respect, and I mean that honestly, (sm)
You insinuated that just because one may not communicate every gory and painful detail of his/her past to the spouse, love is missing from the marriage.
Relationships are complicated and I find no problem with someone whose past doesn't interfere with the relationship not communicating it. If the relationship thrives status quo, then that's between them.
Well, I honestly thought that all that was over for me...lol
I have a 25, 22 and 21 year old daughter's and a 3-year-old son. I forgot how expensive and tiring things were. Wow, today I went out with my 21 year old to purchase stuff for my son. It was really crazy. So, I bought water-guns, shades, baseball and bat, crayons and coloring book, jump rope and a water bottle as stuffers. Then I pitched in for dinner. I am really exhausted. Oh, I have 2-grand-daughter's that I purchased a few things for....so, this is the life (slams...still laughing at myself)
I honestly would not even go to her house (sm)
Why subject yourself and your children to her? If your husband wants to go over there, let him go alone. I would just avoid her. I would see her maybe on holidays and such since she raised you, but you really don't even owe her that. I grew up in a rough family...I see them twice a year. Right now I am upset at my mother for some mean things she said about my children last time I saw her. I have yet to mail her mother's day gift from this past May.
I honestly don't have the time....nm
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No, honestly I had never heard that before!
The same way someone recently mentioned Queen Latifah is gay - I had no idea! It doesn't matter to me, I just was shocked, that's all. My heart breaks for their loss of their son.
Honestly -- it's none of your business!
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I honestly do not understand the ins and
outs of how her things are set up. I do not know how property is handled, just how her finances are done.
I had one at age 33 and can honestly tell you I am the poster child for it! sm
I did not go the route of hormone therapy, as I really did not want any more medications in my body, but took the more holistic viewpoint of vitamins and such. I have been cancer-free and worry-free for 7 years.
I truly think you have made the right decision and in the long run will be very content with it. My thoughts and prayers are with you, but as posters have told you below, it is so much safer to be proactive than to be sorry and worried all the time.
Hugs to you!!!
I can honestly say that my brother has finally
gotten his act together, well for the most part. He is still a lousy father but in just the past 2 weeks he has been making an effort. I hadn't thought about not having to buy a casket. The last funeral I went to the lady was quite elderly and lived with just her dog. The dog had been quite ill for some time and it was almost like they were just hanging on for each other. After she died they had the dog put to sleep and his ashes were buried with her.
Honestly I think I am dealing with both issues with him (sm)
I think he has a girlfriend and a drinking problem
Honestly, it would hurt my feelings...
I've always had a key to my parents' house and if they asked for it back, it would hurt my feelings. It's kinda like saying you're not welcome here. Every time my parents move, they have extra keys made for me and my siblings, and it makes me feel like the door is always open. I live less than a mile away from them, but I make sure to always call before I come over. You might want to explain why you took the key from your son and make sure he didn't take it the wrong way and that he's still welcome to come back just to make sure he's okay with it.
Honestly I have mixed feelings on this.
On one hand...I feel it is your body, you can do what you wish. Who should say what you do with your body. Providing it is willing, agreeing, consenting adults, that should be their choice.
On the other hand...I think some, if not many, who get into prostitution, it is a bad life...they have low self esteem, no respect for themselves...and they are at their lowest and do not know what to do or where to turn. Many times they are so involved with drugs and alcohol, they can not think clearly.
But at the same time...the ones who are "low", are going to do what they can to make money....whether it is prostitution, selling drugs, stealing....illegal or not, they will do it if they are that desperate.
Heck, there are women and men out there selling thier bodies, making good money...or at least money...why not make it legal so you can tax them!
Honestly, the only part my grandmother
taught me was how to chain stitch. Yes, the blankets i'm making are all chain stitching but that makes them VERY warm and wonderful (and I think last longer). I do have someone at work who said they would teach me how to granny square but i'd like to finish up the current blankets before learning a new stitch.
Honestly I don't blame you for macing
the dog if it's owner isn't going to be responsible enough to keep the dog on his/her property. Have you contacted the owner of the dog and complained? My husband is a K9 officer and he gets these calls ALOT and it ain't all pitbull calls, it is just dogs in general roaming around in other people's yard and not on their own property. The mace won't kill a dog, but it sure does hurt really bad and makes the dog think twice about approaching you.
I can honestly say I love where I live
I can't imagine moving. I love my neighbors and the neighborhood. Everyone is friendly, and helpful. There is a lot of activity starting now that it's getting nicer out, and I can't wait for the bonfires and cookouts. The only time I thought about moving, although never would since it wasn't practical was when our best friends moved about 5 miles away. They wanted us to buy a house near theirs.
Not putting you down, but do you honestly believe Danny
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I honestly have meant to answer you about 6 times,
but I keep forgetting! Seriously! I have experienced the same thing of late - last year or so, and am in my late 40's. Its very frustrating at times, but I'm trying to joke about it - my kids are great and fill in the blanks for me. I think its natural, at least I hope. I have been thinking of getting that Nintendo DS brain booster thing on TV, but I keep forgetting...
Hmmmm, honestly, if my body looked like that.....
I'd probably post pictures of myself all over the internet too! LOL
I didn't mind either one. I can't honestly say one was worse
than the other.
Trust me..it was not easy.. and it honestly took 4 years..
I went back and forth, I kept trying to leave but was scared, had no where to go, no way to earn a living etc..I would just keep coming back. Then, I did decide to go to school. That pretty much ended it. I got through school leaving through threats and how I "ruined" our lives by going backwards i.e returning to school. He knew that if I had no education, then I was stuck with him for surviving, and I think he knew deep down, I was preparing myself to leave. The second I graduated and got a job, I moved "into town"..well, after stalking me and doing the "if I can't have you, then no one can" crap and being terrified he would kill me..I upped and moved away and filed for divorced. There was no turning back. I moved in with family and he had no idea where that was. Evidently, it calmed down and from that day forward, I did not take his crap. To this day, the man has never found anyone because who wants to live with that alcoholic loser and when he tried to control me after the divorce, I'd tell him to his face to shove off. That was sweet revenge. I had to believe in myself and believe I was worth it.. and I did.. Life is good..I remember him not allowing me to have a credit card, new car or buy anything..not even washclothes..well guess what..this country girl married a millionaire who gives me the world!!!!LOL
honestly, I would risk it and play dumb. sm
I can only say that because this is anonymous. I can't do that in my case because what I have will not go away. However, I think she was haphazardly diagnosed and I would not just accept the consequences of someone else's negligence. I would skip listing that doc and list my prior doc and if it ever came up I would say I didn't know I was diagnosed with it.
Honestly, if I were you, I would hire a real estate agent to help
xx
We would have loved to vacation in Florida. That was our first choice, but quite honestly
the airfare was outrageous. It was actually cheaper for us to fly from our home to Cancun. A lot of the hotels are all-inclusive in Mexico, which obviously makes it more affordable. It's too bad that these resort/vacation destinations in the US are not more affordable to go to and realize that could keep more people here if they did some price deals. I realize too that it's the time of year when they jack their prices up i.e. Spring Break to go to Florida but obviously Cancun is a huge Spring Break destination and we got a really good deal.
I don't believe in sugar coating the truth. I speak plainly and honestly. SM
If that offends some people, I'm sorry. The only mistake I made in my previous post was to make the assumption that the original poster was a Christian and in making that assumption, I posted the passage of scripture from Matthew. I don't know if the OP is a Christian or not. So my post may or may not have been relevant to her.
But going on the assumption that she is a fellow Christian, we (Christians) are taught in Paul's Epistles to admonish one another which is what I was doing. Her focus is on her neighbors. Their reaction is where she is deriving her happiness. If her focus was where it should be, she would never be disappointed.
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