Hmmm, I did note the barking and the lady should have gotten her pet under control, true, BUT
Posted By: the OP was clear in saying that she (sm) on 2007-03-05
In Reply to: uhhh...did you read the OP's comment?? - sm
made some rude comments to the lady, which was unnecessary and why I said the OP needed a lesson in manners. I don't see that I need a lesson in manners at all. MY dog doesn't bark at people when I take her shopping with me, but if someone got in my face and made rude remarks to me such as the OP did, that person would have a serious problem with me not because of my dog but because of her rude comments. If I were to be told by a clerk or management to take my pet out of the store, I would gladly do so. It's no big deal to me. I'm not dumb enough to take my dog INSIDE a restaurant or to the grocery store. Times are different, culture is different, what was once not allowed in the past is allowed in the present. The fact is you aren't willing to conform over something so small and that is your prerogative, but it's also mine to take my pet into stores that allow them.
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I obviously meant to say DOG barking next door, not dark barking . . sorry.
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True, yet the lady still could have suggested since it was
the LITTLE GIRL she was dealing with when the mothers back was turned that it was worth more than $2.00. It really sound like the woman took advantage...Again, taking candy from a baby. That's my point. Such a shame.
barking
Our inconsiderate neighbors let their two loud labs bark constantly. Visited them and asked nicely if they would bring them in within a reasonable amount of time or at least yell 'shut up' out the window. Things would improve temporarily, then back to the noise. Animal control was not very helpful -- said they would have to drive by and catch the dogs in the act, but then wouldnt even come out. What finally helped was calling and Emailing both the mayor's office and several city council members--Two councilmen contacted these rude inconsiderate neighbors and kept following up and putting pressure on them until it finally dawned on them that their dogs were their responsibility and their unfortunate neighbors have a right to enjoy their house in peace. Unbelievable how inconsiderate and irresponsible people can be.
Dogs barking
Why do people allow their dogs to bark and bark and bark and bark and bark and bark and bark, etc, etc, etc. I am so sick and frustrated with my dense neighbors. They are inside, dog is outside and just let their dog bark. The dog barks starting around 4 pm and it goes all the way until it gets dark out which is around 8:30. The past couple days I have been so frustrated. Can't even sit and relax at night to watch a good movie cos of the dog. Every once in awhile the lady will yell at it "shut up", but then maybe 10 minutes go by and its back barking again. I feel like telling them why don't they bring it inside and see if they would let it bark as much in there when they are trying to relax (its a large dog - Full size goldren retriever or something similar). I love the dog, it's adorable, but I'm not enjoying no peace. I'd say something to her but she is quite dense herself. Every once in awhile I'll hear her in the back yard yelling at her kid telling him how stupid he is (actually he is but if I was a parent I would never say that to my kid). She once told him he has no brain and called him something I would not even repeat. They freely use the "F" word when talking to their kid. So with knowing the way they are I would never say anything to them about their dog. I just don't understand why people don't keep their dogs from barking and disturbing the neighbors. - We're now going to start looking for a place in the country and forget "disturbia". I was just so frustrated I had to vent somewhere. Everytime I say something to DH he tells me to be quiet cos their back yard is right next to our.
he is feeling out of control and he wants control
and from what you wrote, you aren't giving him opportunities to have some control.
My 4 yo has had this type of behavior since the age of 2-1/2, but I've figured out how to deal with it. First of all, he wants your attention, good, bad, indifferent and wants some say so in what happens to him.
I've done several things. With the screaming, I totally ignore her. I tell her my ears are closed and I can't hear her, but if she wants to cry/scream, she can't do it in MY living room (bedroom, whatever), only in HER bedroom. If she refuses to stay in her room, I take away her favorite snuggly and put it on the top of something, out of reach but visible. She can have it back when she stays in her room and stops being loud. If she keeps coming out, I put another coveted stuff up out of reach, over and over until she realizes I mean she has to stay in her room. I don't tell her she has to stop her fit or crying...she just can't do it in MY space. She can come back to where I am if she is quiet.
I make sure she knows I am in control, but we negotiate almost everything. If I want her to drink milk for breakfast and she wants juice, I tell her okay but she has to drink the milk at lunch. That gives her a sense of control and having a say in what is happening to her.
I have also had to sit on her bed for HOURS, holding her by wrapping my arms around her while she screams and kicks and bites until she begs to be let go. I won't let go until the out of control stuff stops. I don't talk except to say "I'll let you go when you are quiet." It is exhausting, but it only took a few times for her to understand I would invest the time and she hated being held like that for so long.
When I work at home, I make sure I take a break about every 90 mins and spend about 30 mins with her. It takes me all day to get my work done, but it makes all the difference in the world.
If she won't pick up something (say, blocks) after being asked upteen times, I tell her I will give them away to a child who wants to take care of them. It only took losing one set of blocks for her to get the idea she HAS to clean up her messes.
Finally, after being potty trained for at least a month and then rebelling and making messes in her pants for a week in a row (this happened 3 times), I finally told her in a very loud voice that _I_ had control over whether or not she went trick or treating and whether or not Santa comes to our house. If she wanted to have those things, she better use the potty and no more messes. She has been dry since the beginning of October and I give her a treat every day she stays dry.
One day a couple of weeks ago, she wanted to go to Mickie Dee's, but as we drove up she started shouting about wanting to go inside. I wanted to drive through. We were in the drive through line and I calmly told her sometimes people get mad and yell at someone else, but maybe it was an accident...I asked if she wanted to tell me sorry for yelling at me or did she want to go home. She shook her head "no" to apologizing. I repeated my offer and again got "no." I drove off towards home which immediately threw her into tears and whining, but now she doesn't yell at me anymore if she wants something.
Since October we have far fewer melt downs and I have realized she actually shows me her triggers...If she is angry and grumpy on the way home from somewhere, I hand her an energy bar to munch and suddenly I have a sunshine child again. If she gets grumpy in the middle of the day and refuses to take a nap, I tell her we will lie down on my bed. We start out talking and before too long, I tell her I am tired and want to close my eyes, but not go to sleep. Pretty soon, she will close her eyes and fall asleep. I can then get back up and go about my business.
Before somebody starts bashing me, I have a close friend who is a child psychologist and she helped me with all these suggestions. It takes a lot of work to maintain the appearance of control while giving the child the opportunity of having some say so in his/her life.
Indeed, why would he??? Hmmm...nm
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hmmm
I haven't heard that he is going to come back as victor jr. i dont think i would like that either, but i wanted him to come back and be with phyllis. sharon gets on my nerves, and i think she will end up with brad, and i dont like him too. heck, why do i watch the show haha.
also if you havent check out www.yrnews.com. its a great website, and has spoilers sometimes.
Hmmm, another one? lol
x
Hmmm, will try again
http://www.centennialbulb.org/photos.htm
hmmm, that is too bad...
I feel that way about my mother - I love her but I don't usually like her that much! She just acts so childish and selfish most of the time, but she took good care of me when I was younger, and I definitely respect her for that. I know she'll always be there for me too, which is a wonderful thing. I guess I do like her half the time, but she really drives me nuts!
How old is your daughter? Maybe you could sit her down and explain to her that while friends come and go family is forever, and you are the one she will most likely come to when her life falls apart or she just goes through hard times. Tell her you would appreciate it if she would compromise with you on the dog thing - tell her it is her business, really, but you just want to help and purchase a doghouse for the dog. Apologize for maybe coming across the wrong way, but let her know your heart is in the right place here, and maybe you can't save the world, but this is a situation you can help with and that's all you're trying to do.
She may just be hypersensitive when it comes to you and might be holding onto old grudges or trying to get back at you for controlling her when she was younger or something - I don't know. Obviously you know her best, and if you think she'll freak out about a doghouse then maybe you're right, but I think it would be sad to ruin your relationship over a dog (my mom didn't talk to her mom for 2 years over a dog, and it was hard on the whole family!) Sometimes I think difficult people are put into our lives to make us stronger, better people, and it definitely sounds like you two are pushing each other to change/better yourselves. Sorry, I'm rambling, and I definitely don't have all the answers, but I wish you the best of luck with the situation!
N/T - hmmm let's see
They haven't shown Kimber and/or Matt in a while. Kimber is on tonight's episode. She got involved in porno again and is divorcing Matt. She told him she never loved him. The baby is with her and her new boyfriend (Bo Duke a/k/a John Schneider, who is the head of the porn studio). At one point Christian said that he wanted her to give up the baby, and she agreed, but of course the next thing you know she changed her mind and no one is doing anything about it. Matt blew himself up in a homemade Meth Lab and now he's getting clean. Julia can't decide whether she wants to be a lesbian or be with Christian although they supposed now love each other. The only problem is, Julia hasn't told Olivia yet. She hasn't been on in a really long time either.
Sorry so long. If you have any other questions, please feel free to email me. Oh, and next week is the last episode for a while.
Hmmm
"I always have the mentality of not having enough money although realistically this is not the case"
You know...most people who feel they don't have the money don't generally take three vacations in one year. Just a thought.
hmmm
Whether or not they have insurance, if I knew they were taking a trip under the influence, I would make a call the local police department. They could kill someone.
Hmmm
From this post, my reaction is that she doesn't sound self-centered to me if she offered to take him in her house. That can be some hard work to take on. It sounds like she has the way she would take care of him and you have the way you would take care of him, and both your ways are different. That does not make her selfish, IMO. She is contributing the way she sees fit, and you are contributing the way you see fit.
Unfortunately, this is a pickle. If he is unable to care for himself because of all his conditions, there has to be some sort of compromise with his situation, meaning he will have to change his living arrangements in some way with home health or something along those lines OR change where he is living. I am not sure what his level of disability is from the post, because while blindness is a disability, it does not mean one cannot live by himself. I don't know how far the RA or heart problems are from your post.
You can take him to his PCP and he or she may have some ideas for you and some decent referrals as well.
Hmmm
She usually drinks the sparkling water with lime if I remember correctly but she has been eyeing the alcohol lately. Catherine has seen her and is the only reason why she hasn't drank since this whole David thing so maybe she fell off the wagon again. I bet David tries to say she was committing suicide.
Hmmm....
I think that is a weird attitude to have toward your child. Unfortunately, he is going to be out there is society doing these behaviors that make him so intolerable at home. It is your responsibility as his parent to ensure that he is fit for society so that he can be accepted and successful. Kicking him out on the road when he's 18 is not the answer. I have a 19-year-old and there were days that I was counting down until he went away to college, but no matter what, he's still my son. He is actually starting to act like a human this year, so there is hope. Just make sure you keep your heart open to him and not just wish he was gone. He can feel that from you and will resent you for it. You only get to do this once, so do your best, not just enough to get him by until he's 18. I don't want to sound judgmental, but your post does sound a bit harsh. Beleive me, I have also had my moments that I was more than harsh with my son, but make sure you give a lot of love too. 
Hmmm
I read the book also and never thought of that but that is a very good point!
I would not call it life-changing for me more thought provoking.
Hmmm...there have been so many
In high school I worked for the summer at a greenhouse. I was hired to clean it. We all know how much dirt plants have, but would anyone imagine how much dirt gets up in the support beams to the roof of a greenhouse?
I used to be a dogsitter and a house sitter for about 6 months when I was 18.
I worked in a college cafeteria.
I worked in a laundromat cleaning machines...that was kinda gross.
I worked 5 years as a CNA/CMA.
Oh, my most interesting one must have been when I worked for a year driving an 18-wheeler. You see just about anything/everything doing that. I can't tell those stories on here.
Hmmm, let's try it
Frontwards: SIS
BACKWARDS: SIS
Upside down: SIS
Doesn't matter I guess unless you turn the S backwards too. Upside down S is still S.
Hmmm ...
I don't think there is anything wrong with questioning God. He did give us minds and feelings after all.
It seems you are also being a bit self-righteous in telling someone if they don't believe in God it is the least of their problems.
No one knows for sure what the truth is and plenty of "God-fearing" people have huge issues ... of course they get Heaven as their consolation prize, don't they? Well, if they believe in the Christian God that is.
Not that it matters, but I have been a vegetarian basically since I was 15 (give or take a few smokey links in the few years after). I am now almost 50.
The meat I do think sounds good once in awhile is bacon. Seems like an odd choice, but it must be the texture and strong flavor.
I must be lonely, as I want to tell a little story. Some friends once rescued an ill runt from a litter of pigs. The husband made my girlfriend agree they would nurture it to healh and raise it to eat. She agreed even though she would have rather kept it for a pet.
When it grew up, they butchered it and put it in a big freezer in their basement. One day they noticed something smelled really nasty. Come to find out, one of their sons (whose room was in the basement) unplugged it for some reason, and all the meat was ruined!
The really sad part is that one of their dogs had made friends with that pig when it was little. They used to lie together and play. It was so cute.
Let me see, hmmm
No sweetners, no soy products, use sea salt only, not the blue box lady under the umbrella type, have filter on the water. No weight loss, still hair loss, dry skin. Glad it worked for you.
hmmm... I'm right along with ya..
as if all the junk he's putting your daughter through isn't bad enough, the part about him asking for money before he could pray for this lady.. apparently he is doing this for all the WRONG reasons.. I think he has major problems in more ways than one
With a body like that, hmmm you could also do
porno but just not the way I would want others to see me. Sorry, I have family that I just would not want to shame them much less myself. Just not an exhibitionist here.
Hmmm.. what good is
being skinny if you are confined to your bathroom? Yuk.
Hmmm, disrespectful?
Maybe it runs in the family?
You post in one paragraph about your 2 cousins, in their 40s yet, dropping dead of MIs, one just last night?
Then in paragraph 2 you joke around about dating.
The least you could have done was make two separate posts.
Tsk, tsk.
Hmmm.... you and Jan have exactly the same picture and
scripture at the bottom of each page. Let me see- are you the same???
Hmmm,,,use the guy only for his money so...
one does not wind up destitute even if you don't love him...Wow, you've come a long way baby! How feminist of you...There are good guys out there, prince charmings too, Wow, you must have really got burned at one time. Life is too short to be unhappy.
Hmmm, some people really like them
NM
Hmmm, I'd say probably a thief...
I agree with what you said, too...that's probably how I would have handled it!
Another note, you said there must be more to it because
I simply responded because someone else posted that they wouldn't shop at WalMart.
You would not believe what was on my op note....
I had a doctor who falsified my op note. I had several procedures (plastic) including a face lift. He forgot the face lift! Yes, that is right. When I went and checked the medical record, the op note not dictated yet and when I approached him at his office he gave me an "IOU" on his office stationary with him signing his name. Yeh, right. I only asked for the up front payment I made for the face lift that I did not get and 8 months later he dictated the op note, except he included the face lift portion in it. I have an unusual last name so that would not be the problem. I went thru mediation and he even called my home twice in a threatening type voice. I worked there at the hospital where he is the head over that department and I just finally let it go- I believe in Karma... so
Should be " a more serious note"-
x
Just another note
I'm so glad I wasn't "blasted" for my thoughts and its nice that people respect other people. You did have some good opinions too. One thing I should have mentioned though is that I don't have kids and I think that plays such a bigger role for people who do, and it is easier for me to make my decisions about moving on with my life than it would be for someone else.
Growing up it was the other way around. My mom cheated on my dad. My dad was a truckdriver, and yes he may have had women on the road but we never heard about it. My mom on the other hand we knew was having affairs (there's nothing more disgusting than being 15 and 16 years old and your mom's boyfriend is singing to her the song "I want to make love to you"). My mom also became pregnat by a sailor at the navy base when I was 3 years old and we ended up moving 2 states away where she had the baby and gave him up for adoption, unfortunately 3 months after she gave the baby up for adoption my little sister who was 16 months old died from meningitis. My dad ended up staying with my mom until my sister and I were old enough to understand why they were divorcing (which was 12 years later). We loved both my mom and dad equally. Mom's now in heaven with baby sister and grandparents etc.
Anyway...what I'm trying to say is in my case I would have an easier time dealing with this type of situation (because of no kids).
As for the hollyweird people I don't think any of them (or at least the majority of them) ever think when they get married it's going to be for life. They are just a different breed of people. Oh sure, they get on TV and say this is for life, but then 3 months later they turn around divorce and a week later marry someone else. I do think Brad & Jennifer were quite different than the usual crowd. I did feel bad for her when all that happened.
In my case I am committed while I am in the marriage, but if anything did happen I wouldn't be devistated because I'm basically doing everything myself anyways, but having an affair is just not something my husband would ever do (just not in his nature), but I also just look at life a little differently and figure if anything ever happens I will be committed to making myself happy.
End note!...sm
Perhaps I shoulda put in my first post that you seem to be rather mean-spirited. I heard it in your first post indicating that you're above it all. The second post was absolutely atrocious....(I am the grandaughter of...yada, yada, yada). Piffle and snot!
Hayseed is very tender-hearted, has extraordinary wit and humor, thinks before she speaks/posts, and works very hard.
Please don't mess with my friend. End note.  Cat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pk7yqlTMvp8
Please note sm
This is not the original poster.
Of further note...
My husband and I started going to counseling for us to have someone to talk to about the ex and get ideas on how to handle difficult situations with the child. We then slowly introduced the child after the counselor found out information and suggested it.
Just a note to all
I was reading all your posts and this thought came to mind. We don't live in the days of when I was growing up in the 50s. Things were very safe and we never locked our doors. But times are different. There are so many horrible crimes and in placed nobody ever dreamed would happen. Like one of the posters below said, I too have seen news where a crime happened and the people would say, we just never thought it would happen here. To all who think its safe or no big deal, it is a big deal and for all your safety I would please just take the extra 5 or 10 seconds it takes to turn the lock on your door. It takes but a second or two but an act that could possibly one day save your life. For all those who think your towns are safe, there are so many people who think the same thing and you see them on the news. One incident in particular that comes to mind is a town in Pennsylvania where a bunch of Amish school girls were killed. My point is that while everyone wants their town to remain a very safe place where everyone loves their neighbor and is so safe to leave your doors unlocked, it really is not that way anymore.
So, please just take the extra step and turn the lock at night.
Did he see the note?
It sounds like you told him about the note. I think his reply is pretty standard and that if he can deny it, blame it on "one of the guys" at work, and that be the end of it, then he's going to stick with his story.
It has a note on it.
It is three months behind and they are about to repo it. So that isn't an option.
Just a note
Not MY experience, but last year my mom (60 yo, well past menopause start) experienced abnormal bleeding. Turned out to be endometrial ca. They performed TAH and she went through radiation therapy. Did very well, and her last check ups were very good. I think time between diagnosis and surgery was a few weeks. My advice, don't stress too much between now and seeing your doc.
Hmmm, a Dexatrim candle?
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Hmmm...shows up for me right under the MQ board. nm
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Hmmm, could make some type of
shutters too like the white boards but have them open like the old fashioned shutters. thanks
Hmmm, I don't think that would work for my situation
because it's not a civil split. We both want the dog and I think it is going to come down to the Judge's decision, just not sure what criteria they base it on. Thanks for all the replies.
Hmmm, wondered why they had the cap on that baby
in the Bahamas? Did anyone else notice that? Baby mama drama continues.
HMMM, I would...Be HONEST and pay in full...nm
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Hmmm, rather than warm weather, could it be
menopause? I don’t have the sweating during the night. As far as the weather, my grown daughter told me one time if she had been born where there was snow (as you are talking about) as soon as she grew up she would get outta there- it is just what you prefer. I have only been snowed in twice in the past say 15 years and that is fine with me. Oh, I do enjoy the soup and salad at Olive Garden- and eat without sweating.
Hmmm. they're her kids too...
she could have helped pay for college if she wanted to. All I can say is thank goodness his child support obligation is over...it was his choice not to pay for college, so be it. Too many ex-wives expect too much.
Hmmm... here's what the actors say about next season:
Found online, George may or may not stay:
Katherine Heigl and T.R. Knight are both leaving “Grey’s Anatomy,” according to co-star James Pickens Jr.
“Yes, she is,” Pickens told Us Weekly when asked if Heigl is leaving the ABC hospital drama. “Wherever Katherine goes, I wish her nothing but the best.”
Pickens, speaking backstage after last weekend’s NAACP Awards lunch in Beverly Hills, expressed similar sentiments regarding Knight.
“He’s going too,” Pickens said. “He just wanted to pursue other career paths.”
Both Heigl and Knight have made no secret about their unhappiness on “Grey’s.”
The vociferous Heigl, who’s complained about storylines in the past, made even fewer friends on the show when she blamed her lack of an Emmy nomination last year on the “Grey’s” writers (for not giving her more to work with).
Knight has publicly complained about his lack of screen time and was reportedly threatening to leave the show earlier this season.
Ironically, ABC entertainment chief Stephen McPherson told TV critics last month that he expected Knight to return next season (although he didn’t say in what capacity that would be).
hmmm...interesting story..
i guess the crux of the problem is that i cannot participate or make $$$ from the enterprise, and i got laid off from my religious affiliated inhouse position and my psych position
A note on my baby
I left a message on the board about how my babies F/L was measured short and the doctor told me the baby probably had down syndrome. Well, I went to see a specialist who was very upset with the previous doctor and he did a level II ultrasound and my baby is perfect and normal. They do not measure the F/L for down syndrome. They measure the humerus bone. Anyway to make a long story short-----thanks to all who responded !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh and the baby has very long legs......
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