Here is what...sm

Posted By: Not long for MT on 2009-01-08
In Reply to: You are quite welcome! - new-at-this job-but notMTing

it is...an attitude of gratitude. The other thing I practice is "constant positive regard" which is something from Carl Rogers. I try very very hard to see the good in others. At first, I started to drive my adult children nuts. MOM only has rosey stuff to say (but stuff is not the word they use). MOM can't see me for what I am. MOM is going barmy...until they started to get it. Now I am very popular to talk to! You want to feel better when you get off the phone? It is ME you call.

This attitude of gratitude and constant positive regard has won me many new friends in the last year or two. People gravitate to me and enjoy my presence (this is new for me). It won my new son-in-law over in about half a day. I thought he'd dislike me, but no quite the opposite and he "so gets" why my daughter and I are close. She was nit picking him and I gave her the speech about CPR and AOG, ignore what she thinks she doesn't like (builds character) and praise what you like, love and enjoy. Most people will be so jazzed by this they will give you more to like, love and enjoy and work on their issues without your help.

I wish I had known this years ago. Things would have been different sooner. I have, no make that HAD, a horrible relationship with my mom. I thought SHE had done the mellowing and all the changing. She has mellowed, but it was my adjusting my thinking and now she likes me too. Never thought THAT would happen.

You can't change others, but you can change your thinking and your point of view. It makes a huge difference. Guess what? I am going to be a psychologist in another couple of years! My new friends and family encourage me because if I can do this for them, what can I do for others? I can't wait to find out.

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