Here is another truck driver's wife's view
Posted By: Sandy on 2008-02-22
In Reply to: My husband is a truck driver too. . . - sleepy
My husband was older than yours when he (and I) married. He was 49, first marriage. We spend a tremendous amount of time together, he even has his computer setup in my workroom. When he wants downtime, he has his own room for his guitar strumming and then a real stay-around type person. I love the time we are together so don’t know what to say to the original poster but not much of a marriage there if no time left over for wife.
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My husband is a truck driver too. . .
We got married when he was in his early 30s, so he had a hard time changing his lifestyle. He spent all of his free time with his single friend. I never, ever worried about the two of them going to bars or anything. Their idea of a good time was having a couple beers and talking about tractors. His friend is a farmer, so he has a lot of free time in the winter. Sometimes I think my husband felt bad because they spent so much time together before I came along and then all of the sudden, things changed. His friend is in his late 30s and had never been married or had kids. After I had been dating my husband for about a year, his friend went to an online dating service and found a girlfriend. He was very shy, so that was a big deal! That was 3 years ago, and they are engaged now. My husband doesn't see him so much now, but they talk daily on the phone. We also moved about 30 minutes away. We have neighbors that he likes to spend time with, but he tries to keep it to just the weekend. Also, my husband gets very stressed driving in the winter and needs to relax once in a while. Does your husband's friend have a girlfriend? If he doesn't, maybe you could introduce him to some of your girl friends. He might just be lonely. I know it's hard for you to be sitting home when your husband is hanging out with his friend. I told my husband once that I felt like a single mom! I think you do need to let your husband know how you feel. Good luck to you!
Clarifying bus driver... Our bus driver is a
single mom with 2 girls - one the same age as my son.
Is the truck necessary for his job?? If not,
then I would think about selling it and getting something a little more reasonable in the line of a car payment. If it is for work, then why can't he deduct a portion of the cost?
You can take the truck to get tires yourself you know - sm
so from a safety standpoint I would just go and do it since you say you have the money. Tell him it would not pass inspection so you had to get new tires, or a cop stopped you and gave you a warning, whatever it takes. I did that last year, my DH was not too pleased as he wants me to get rid of my truck and I don't want car payments again and it runs great so I just maintain it as necessary and don't tell him basically. I have a $600 repair I need done; will he know about it, NO. Granted I am going to have it done for about $300- getting a used part, then having a neighbor put it in because my DH is too lazy to work on the truck other than to change the oil. I want it to run for at least 2 more years (207K miles)--250 is our goal mark before we get a new/used truck; unless I win the lottery before then. So take matters into your own hands, try to make more money, and if you ever get serious about divorce then consult a lawyer and find out your rights- you are entitled to half the house equity (or sale profits); half any retirement fund from the point you married, etc., child support, 3 kids that is easily $800 a month; spousal support if you have been married for some time (I think usually 10 years, but I am sure every circumstance is different). So don't martyr yourself. Take control.
Ditto......our truck tag is $600....
When we lived in Florida, I paid $60 for a tag on a brand new car, and we are paying $600 for a truck about 3 years old now. One county over it is much cheaper. This county is ripping people off. Even property taxes are ridiculous here.
It's a construction truck and
yes, necessary for his job. He helps to build highways.
You'd have loved the ice cream truck
that used to play Christmas tunes all summer. I take it he's not from around here, LOL.
He finally changed the tune - to LA Cucaracha! I take it he doesn't speak Spanish if he thinks that song is going to sell ice cream! Ha!
My neighbor is addicted to QVC. The UPS truck
every single day. Her apartment is just as small as mine, and she doesn't make that much more money than I do. I've looked at QVC, and the stuff on it is nice, but expensive! I don't know where she's putting it all. Sometimes she over-buys, and ends up giving some really nice things to me because she has no room. Of course I appreciate the gifts, but I do worry about her sometimes. She's told me her credit card debt is pretty high, too. (She should know better - she works for a bank!)
Maybe with a pair of plyers and a pick-up truck?
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When I asked why it was ok for him to pick out a truck and a boat without me (sm)
he blamed it on the fact that I had bought the kids a $300 plastic pool last summer. He used that same excuse again about the shed. "you picked out a pool!" How dare I pick out anything?
He may be....but $300 pool versus a $30,000 truck, and a boat, etc., etc.? nm
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I cried when they put that woman in the truck and said she died 2 days later
One 2006 german VW and one 2008 chevy truck. nm
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Oh no! Not THAT bus driver again!!
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I don't think it's a driver... sm
I think the BP may stand for the gas (fuel) associated with NASCAR.
bus driver
The bus driver could be some freak who wants to do something bad. We get our mail delivered by the same person every day, seems nice enough but I don't REALLY know him. I wouldn't trust him to know my child was home alone, same with bus driver, or neighbors unless I knew them extremely well or did the same for their kids. You can't trust anyone these days. Look how many people KNOW the person who does something horrible to them or their family members.
I blew the engine in my truck 7 days after the warranty expired! $7,000 to replace. :( -n/m
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Well, as an ex-school bus driver...
Shut Up and Hold On!
New teenage driver
I am getting ready to add my 15 year old daughter to my car insurance, can anyone give me a ball park figure of how much my insurance will go up, has anyone done this recently that can tell me how much yours increased? Thanks in advance. The car she will be driving is about 7 years old but I think I have to also add my van?
Teen driver
I made my son pay his own tickets as well. He might have had a couple, total, but he soon learned. He's 21 now.
Wow! Did you know that your driver's license is sm
on the web? Thanks to homeland security. Check to see if yours is uploaded and on the net! You will not believe this!!!
http://www.license.shorturl.com/
Your regular bus driver
desires a poinsetta or something. It's good to reward good service.
teen driver
When my daughter got her license I gave her my older vehicle and she was responsible for gas and insurance. She paid for her repairs, but I helped if they were very high. My insurance agent told me to put her on her own policy so I would not get sued if she had an accident and my rates would not be affected by her driving record. By her living in my home she was able to get my discounts, ie., two car discount, different safety features on her vehicle, and home being insured. This was a wise choice as she had two small accidents within a year and is now paying high risk and my rates didn't change, but my insurance would have gone from $300 to $2600 every six months if she were on my policy. She hated having to pay since all her friends' parents were footing the whole bill, but now in college she appreciates it because she knows how to pay bills and budget her money while her friends are always bouncing checks or calling mom and dad for money.
Taxi Driver...
"You talkin' to me? You talkin' to me? You talkin' to me?"
I was curious about the driver saying
I have them both in the car. I understand the mob wanting to get rid of David but why Sabrina. Wonder if further on down the road there will be a twist and she won't really be dead, Like after Vic and Niki get back together. Hmmmmmm! Makes you think!
What does the bus driver knowing have to do with this? nm
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Yes the bus driver could be a molester - sm
but doubtful. If your school is anything like mine ALL employees are carefully screened. I am a substitute bus driver and talk about red tape. I had to get finger-printed with the local police, have a criminal background check, drug and alcohol tested, as well as a very long application and a physical exam in order to get hired for the school. (as well as a 48-hour training course and of course had to pass my bus driving test at the DMV). So in theory the driver is a "safe" person, unless they just have never been caught. The group I work with are all great women (30+ of us), there are no male bus drivers here except the mechanics who sub when they have too. Just educate your child to tell you if their caregiver does anything strange , or touches them, etc, I have drilled it into my kids heads as my DH is convinced that whenever they stay over a friends house that the father/boyfriend is a child molester. It is a wonder my kids ever get to go anywhere.
The MC driver was not to bright to be - sm
driving with headphones/ear buds on is not responsible driving on a motorcycle. He is lucky he got his money back at all.....you'd think you would be more careful wtih that kind of cash on you.
Considered being the driver instead of the passenger?
I too have RLS. I have found that for some reason I do much better as the driver than as a passenger. Can't explain it but it's true.
Question about uninsured driver?
If you know that someone is driving without insurance, has been for several years, and doesn't plan to change any time soon.....
And, they are an alcoholic who makes runs while under the influence to pick up more whiskey.....
Is there anyone an average citizen can report the uninsured (insurance is required in this state) to?
Or, do we have to wait until they hit someone or something and it is discovered?
In California, it comes from driver's licenses...
because they don't want to discourage people from registering to vote.
Sounds to me like you need to reinstall the sound DRIVER. (sm)
If you need help on where to locate the link to do this, email me.
Obviously you've never had a family member killed by a drunk driver.
Long ago? Time has nothing to do with it. The man has an alcohol problem and left the scene of a homicide. Sounds like you're ok with that. I'm not. It speaks volumes about his character.
my view
What if your daughter was a smoker? Would you allow her to smoke in the house simply because she can smoke at school?
That said ... ask your daughter for the name of the rock group and CD, and then do a Google search for the lyrics.
I need a view from the outside
What to do about a family member who accused me of something that was totally untrue and too hurtful to even discuss, and that person's birthday is in two days. We had a heated discussion and I asked for an apology and got none. I have never, ever let her birthday go before. My mom is elderly and I don't want her hurt by this. What should I do? I am so angry I can't see straight right now and hurt. This an immediate family member, not extended. Do I suck it up once again and send a card and then show up at her dinner? We usually go out for our birthdays. Would be interested in any comment you might have. Either way it does not seem like the thing to do.
She's on The View right now
Just another view.
Where do one persons right to choose trump another persons right to choose. If this were a government run pharmacy, I could see requiring sales of certain items or medications. However, if it is privately owned, my right to choose to use birth control does not trump another persons right to decide what is sold in someone's privately owned store.
Another view
I believe I stopped having themed parties when my daughter was about 11 or 12, but when we went to see family, they took her and me out to dinner or lunch, had birthday cards, cake, or a special meal at home--maybe some money if they could afford to do so. One reason might be the cost of gifts that older children have come to expect, also the fact they become more choosy and harder to please about styles of clothing, as well as "toys." I had a friend who gave her children elaborate Easter baskets until they married and left home...that's what she liked to do--and that was fine! I just could not afford to do what she did for her children, ever, for any occasion.
It's remembering a special day that counts, not the party or gifts; I'm thankful my daughter learned that earlier than some and is passing that viewpoint on to my granddaughter.
The view - new host
I saw Roseanne on the view a few weeks ago and she seems to have really mellowed. But to watch her everyday - no way. I think she would turn into a Rosie or worse. I would like to see another younger person on - perhaps a bit older than Elisabeth - but someone definitely in their 30's early 40's and someon who doesn't begin with an agenda. Then I might watch again.
The View Update
Well, they were both on today and they're still together. She's moving to Hawaii and they are still engaged, but they basically said they had to fall in love all over again away from the cameras so there's no wedding date.
Did anyone watch The View this--sm
morning and get the name of the book/author Whoopie was talking about? It was "The Education of???" It is about a young Indian boy and his life. It was an Ophra book club book until she found out the author (who is now dead) was in the KKK and she pulled the book from her list. We live in Cherokee, NC and my kids are into tribal life.
so true - especially considering my view
in house was no windows and cinderblock walls in a hospital. Love the birds of prey - have a lady here that rehabilitates and I have seen kestrels, vultures, red-tailed, barred owls, great horned owls and more up close and personal. Just saw a huge hawk overhead- freaked me out - haven't seen him around - couldn't train the binoculars fast enough but he looked bigger than a red tail.
I can see it from that point of view though (nm)
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How'd you like to have this view from your bathroom?
The presidential suite bathroom at New York's Mandarin Oriental. The 2,640-square-foot suite rents for $14,000 a night.
a different point-of-view
If you don't like your SIL, why would he want to help you? Is it possible you've conveyed this dislike of him through your actions to him or that your daughter has shared your feelings about him with him? If so, then I can see why he wouldn't feel obliged to help. More than likely, he feels like he's being used. If he's not good enough for your daughter, why is he good enough to help you move?
a kid's point of view ...sm
I just had conversation with a fellow Sunday School teacher about what GIFTS would be good to give this kids this Christmas. At one point this gal asked her son (12 yrs. old) if he had any ideas what the kids would like to get. His response "gee, mom, I thought Christmas was about GIVING, not getting." Out of the mouth of babes, right? !!
Maybe it's adults who get too hung up on what we do or don't do for gifts, activities, etc. Bet your children are just glad to have a good mom !!
I think your view does not generally match
up with most.. She looks like a real gold-digger to me. What about others out there?
My view of Hayley was if you've got it SM
flaunt it. However, the evening she wore that halter top with her boobs jiggling all over the place, was a bit much. If they jiggle that much, you need to have some type of support, and they claimed she was a devout Christian. Yes, Christians can wear skimpy clothes, but no jiggle please.
Yes, I'm probably just jealous! LOL!
Rosie Leaving The View
Just watching The View. I know a lot of you wil be happy. Rosie just announced that she's leaving The View. I didn't catch exactly when she was leaving or why, but she did mention her children as a factor.
It's about time! Now I can watch the View without ...sm
getting annoyed when she starts her tirade and turning off the TV. My lunch time will now be pleasant again!
Thank you so much for sharing your point of view (sm)
I really appreciate you sharing your story. His dad is in the picture but they are polar opposites. I do have a couple of questions I want to ask you but I better get back to work for now - I'll ask later and hopefully you will check back and won't mind answering. Thanks again!
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