Her mother was not perfect and she

• Anna Nicole's burial on hold maybe - ss
  • I'm sorry and I mean no offense... - don't get it
    • No offense or anything, but the fascinating - TM
      • Fair enough... - don't get it
      • What do you think about the lupus, do you think that had something to do with her death? - nm
  • funerals are for the living - sm
    • True but they were estranged and it makes sense - sm -
    • I agree - a mother is a mother and a daughter is a daughter for life sm - regrets
      • Oh yeah she was - bad
        • How many mother's would not alienate themselves from a daughter like that? - sm
          • Her mother was not perfect and she - TM
            • Never said that she was, just stating the obvious...... - sm
              • I just think that with everything going on - TM
      • Didn't you see the Anna Nicole interview - noWAY
        • You know, I really don’t know how much that Stern - Nan
  • Her mother is a piece of trash. So is that biological father. - Leave the poor people alone in their deaths.
  • UPDATE. Mom is at the church - ss

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I feel for you.....I didn't exactly have this situation but had an older sister and I was the *accident* 18 months after her birth and my mother NEVER let me forget it....

A cousin told me when I turned 40...*you tried for 40 years, don't waste the next 40* and boy THAT was a huge ATTA GIRL for me because I spurned the woman and avoided her as much as possible, realizing at about age 20-30 just how poisonous she was.  I forgave her many times in my head/heart and to myself (though she never once apologized nor said she ever might have done things wrong/incorrectly), and when I had my child I even let her in for 4 years, until she started pumping/manipulating the child and the child's responses and then booking all her $$ on what a 4 y/o could remember/say and then holding it against us (her parents).  That was the icing on the cake, the straw that absolutely broke the camel's back for me. 

I realized early too that my mother missed the entire journey in the life..... BTW, my sister committed suicide 30 years ago.....the 1st born, best loved....where was mom all that time prior.....(selfish woman emotionally).  I am so opposite and happy and have not missed a thing (well, except for the physical grief the first 18 years of life...think Mommie Dearest).

Be well and thanks for sharing.....

What is your idea of a perfect world - it can be anything from the craziest of crazy ideas to very simple ones.  Here's my ideas:

1.  No more pharmaceutical commercials.  Let our doctors tell us what meds we need, not us tell our doctors we think they should give us.

2.  Pharmaceutical companies would not "rule the doctors" (okay sort of part #1, but a little different).

3.  No more "stup!d" commercials that demoralize our intelligence like the pepto bismol commercial, free credit report, and about 95% of the other commercials. 

4.  Every child would be considered a gift from the gods (whatever one you believe in), and their lives would be treated as precious as they are and there would be no killing or abuse of young children.  If parents cannot handle having children they would bring them to the nearest safe place and say I can't handle this anymore, please let someone else take care of them (instead of killing and burying them out where no one can find them).  Then couples who can't have children would have a chance. 

5.  The government would tell us the truth about why they are spraying chemicals (chem trails) into the atmosphere and poisoning all of us.

6.  The goverment would tell us what's up with the UFOs instead of keeping it a secret.  I think we are all adults and can handle the truth.

7.  Hollywood actors & actresses would quit announcing to everyone all the lavish money they are spending on themsleves (mansions, $12,000 coffee table, etc) and instead we would hear that Brad & Angelina spent that $12,000 to help the hungry and needy.

8.  They would turn all the abandoned buildings into housing for the homeless.

9.  People wouldn't be fighting against each other "only" because of what political party they belonged to, and politicians would keep the promises they make while they are campaigning (haven't met one yet that did).

10.  Lawyers would not be trying to re-write the constitution.

11.  All people would be considerate of their neighbors and not mow their lawns after 8 pm in the evenings or before 8 am in the mornings.

12.  Everyone could pick whatever time you wanted to start working and quit working.

13.  We would have an alternative reliable transportation method instead of plane, train, or automobile similar to the transporter you see in Star Trek.  So if you live in Washington state, you could still go to Maine for dinner and be back by 9pm.

14.  There would be no more gangs.  The people who want to be part of a gang would now be part of an Infantry unit.  They would learn out to use weapons but they would use them responsibly.

15.  There would be no more bullies in the school system.

16.  There would be no animal abuse.  Every person would take care of animals and love them, and if caught being cruel to an animal you get branded or something so that everyone in public would know that person is cruel to animals and they would be ashamed of what they've done.

17.  No more reality shows.  Enough with American Idol and Survivor.

18.  Scam artists would not try to swindle money out of people (especially the elderly).

19.  Everyone would grow food in their yards and neighbors share with others.

This is exactly what my post was about.  I did not once try to conform anyone to my beliefs.  I was simply stating what I know/believe to be true.  So, why just because I am quoting the Bible and talking about Jesus am I all of a sudden trying to conform someone?  Why is it that whenever a Christian makes a STATEMENT, someone comes along and accuses them of forcing their opinion on someone else.  You got on here and freely placed your opinion about the Bible and if I post something that goes against that, the world considers ME wrong. 

I am adult enough to know how to prioritize my day and my life without it it draining me or causing me to panic or neglect myself. Perhaps you have too much on your plate and either need to give something up or delegate to others. Oprah, Marth Stewart, The View, and shows of their ilk have done nothing but depress the women of today....make them feel worthless if they can't do it all and make everyone happy, all the while neglecting themselves. I am not a doormat because I don't allow anyone to treat me like one. There is a saying that you teach people how to treat you and I firmly believe that. Why feel guilty about taking some time for yourself? I just don't get it.

I am looking to buy a house that is $185,000.  From the sale of my current home, I will make $165,000 and will use all of that as a down payment.  Obviously, I am 20k short.  I don't have the best credit (low FICO score) so I am looking for a mortgage company that will loan me what I am short with bad credit.  Anyone know of any?

Thanks

Ok, so here is what is going on.  My mother in-law fell down some stairs and broke her leg.  She did not have insurance.  She had not been to a doctor in 27 years.  She has been in the hospital for about 4 days.  They had to do surgery and things are looking good.  She will have to have rehab for a few months, use a walker and so on.  Well, guess who they ask to take care of her for the next few months?  The "stay-at-home" mom who has all the free time in the world haha (not to mention I have a 3 year old who stays at home with me and a busy 6 year old in school).  This would consist of me taking her to the restroom, bathing, changing dressings, helping with rehab exercises, not to mention working 8 hours a day and making sure my 3 year old doesn't climb on her.  I feel bad for saying no, but I think that they should feel bad for asking me.  She has 5 children.  I feel that it is way too much responsibility for me to take on and that it absurd that they asked me.  Aren't there facilities where she can go at least for the 1st month?  Please help, just need advise. 

And for anyone who wants to say "if it was your mother..."  Believe it or not, in June MY mother fell down some stairs and broke her ankle.  I was at her house every afternoon and we had people come in multiple times daily to check on her.  However, the mother in-law is about 25 years older and the extent of the injury is greater.  I would have never asked my husband to take care of her and help her do these things. 

them.  Your sister-in-law should not even bring them over there anymore in my opinion.  If your mother-in-law's gate cannot hold them in for sure, then she absolutely should not watch them.

Your sister-in-law sounds selfish to me, so point out to her that it is unsafe for her OWN animals to be out running free, as anyone would have the right to shoot them if they were on their property threatening them.  Maybe then she will care!  Plus she (or you mom-in-law) could be sued if the dogs injure or kill someone or someone's animals.  Not to mention they would have to live with that for the rest of their lives.

tis better to raise children in a happy divorced home than a miserable married one.

I divorced my kids father and within 3 years, all of us were in a much better place and now, 16 years later, this still holds true!!!  This, I swear!!