Helping kids, see inside
Posted By: gd1 on 2006-11-04
In Reply to: not paying insurance for teens-I feel bad for you.SM.. - geesh-kid culture ya know and PARENTAL HELP!..
I bought my daughter her first car, something old, sound, reliable and safe, nothing snazzy, she paid her own insurance as she was in college and worked parttime. When that car went, I helped her get her next, took her to my dealer, we picked out something reliable, nothing sporty, I gave her the down payment and co-signed and she made her payments and paid her own insurance. Her college was a commute, not roads I would want her biclying or skateboarding on. When she was older, done with school, still with the parttime job, but actively seeking fulltime, she found a sporty car she wanted and I told her this time, she was on her own. In 1999, she got brand new car (at a much younger than I did), she paid it off early, she is now married, 31, has a house, working a good job and also working on making a family. I think little help can go a long way. I for one, am pround of her.
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Well, VR is helping to pay
my bills so if I have to change mistakes that VR makes, so be it. Dictators make mistakes when dictating and guess what, you still have to change it....
LOL It went well. Thank you to everyone for helping!
I felt bad because none of the friends or extended family that she invited showed up. They all called to cancel.
We did not have leftover Turkey but plenty of desert and rolls. She bought 45 dinner rolls?! I think some of you are right that this is the beginning of sundowning for them. I will have to explain this to my husband because he just thinks they are losing their minds. I heard from another family member that MIL has a stash of a case candy bars in her closet and yesterday she went in the bedroom for cookie sheets to put the biscuits on. A little odd, especially being that they have extra storage area in the basement.
I think FIL took it as it was just that much less food that cost him money because he was so happy that I brought as much food as I did and kept saying how much he loved the veggie tray, etc. I think MIL was a little miffed when I got there because she didn't have room in her oven for the sides that I brought (or hers) because the single turkey breast was in the oven. There was enough room, she just didn't want to use the second rack in the oven for some reason. She didn't like my suggestion that if it was cooked to take it out of the oven and cover with foil and it would stay hot for 20 minutes while everything else finished. Luckily my BIL (who loves to cook) was there and he agreed with me and stepped in to help her out. You know I get the look like "stay the heck out of my kitchen and keep your opinion to your self" and afterwards he gets the look of "You have always been my favorite child, thank you" LOL But I understand things are different with moms and their own kids versus the spouse, especially with females.
So overall it turned out well and everyone had plenty to eat. We didn't have to run out for burgers or home for dinner.
sorry for typo inside, correction inside this one
At the time I posted it was a 23-y/o Korean THE DETAILS of who did the shooting had not hit the newswires UNTIL THEN.
You are a power of example by helping sm
When I was younger, I would not only cry, sometimes I would not attend or attend and not sleep for days. I think being in the MT business made me realize how short life is. I am amazed that now I look at death in a different way. I cannot believe how I have changed. Most of my friends were brought up to wear black, look sad, cry a lot. I was brought up to avoid it, stay away from wakes and funerals; so could not handle it. Thanks to transcribing so many autopsies, horrible situations, illnesses, educational seminars on death and dying, etc., I am finally able to celebrate life. I do have others now not understanding why I do not cry. It's a miracle to me that I don't have to act that way anymore. I think with age and experience, I have matured. I have a friend who barely worked outside the home. Her Mom died in July and she did not put up a tree, send cards, etc., this Christmas as she is still in mourning officially. I lost my younger sister, put an angel out front, white lights, etc. I did the same for my parents, lots of white lights. I do believe now in celebrating life. I spent the days before my father's funeral preparing a "program" for his funeral which was beautiful. I included my whole family in the funeral, chose the music, etc. This would not have been possible in my younger years. My SIL was confrontational when she saw me at work during the time we were awaiting the funeral (it was over a holiday). I told her I was t preparing for the funeral. There will be some whose family tradition is to cry, wear black, shut out the whole world for 30 days, that's their way. I am so happy that I now have a (what I consider) healthier attitude toward death. I cannot believe the change in my attitude. Perhaps we all celebrate life differently. I, for one, am happy I look at things differently. When people cry, mourn, carry on, it's probably their tradition and it will continue as this is what they are used to. They are not wrong to do so. My DIL's family all wear solid black and God forbid anyone even wear a white blouse to a funeral, it is considered disrespectful! All I know is, I love the new me, I am much happier today now that I have a different attitude. I hope people celebrate my life, not stop living. I am writing my own obit, short and sweet and will probably plan my own funeral instead of leaving that task to my kids. I celebrate the life and spirt left behind, but do not disrespect those who continue to wear black and cry, as that's the only way they know how to mourn and it's not wrong. We're all different, it takes time and sometimes traditions will never change in some cultures, they are entitled to their actions and opinions, it took me a long time to change but I am much healthier and happier now. All of this is IMHO, of course. You are doing your best in your own way, good job, we need the "doers" in times of grief as well as the mourners. I would rather be a doer and feel better "doing."
Oh, thank you for helping those dogs
get home. I'm sure they had a wonderful romp, and I'm glad they didn't get hurt. They are really smart dogs. Mine got loose many times without somebody breaking into my house!
I now work at a perennial plant nursery. I am an inventory control specialist, and it involves a lot of physical labor, which I am loving. I feel so much better than when I was locked in a chair all day. So far this company is doing okay financially, but not great with the economy. Last year was tough because of drought, and this year there was plenty of rain, so we had hoped for a great year until the economy went in the toilet. Many companies like this are going bankrupt, but so far we are okay, but no raises this year.
My dream would be a weekend of him helping (sm)
When he and I and the kids all work on getting everything back in order. But he would be angry the whole time, as if he shouldn't have to be doing it. I may end up hiring someone. I have thought about it all day. It would be worth it!
Of course it is!!! Makeup is for helping people
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Glad yours are helping.....my computer
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If he starts by helping himself, I will jump in. He saw
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Any suggestions on helping my puppy with
let to be held.
Agree, you need a helping hand
When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling. So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone. Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing. If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it. They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.
My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week. In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before. Good luck. This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.
Agree, you need a helping hand
When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling. So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone. Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing. If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it. They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.
My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week. In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before. Good luck. This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.
Agree, you need a helping hand
When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling. So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone. Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing. If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it. They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.
My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week. In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before. Good luck. This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.
was wondering about you....glad you're helping yourself
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Well you are really not helping matters or having people side with you
when you keep bragging about how wonderful your kids are and family your family is, lol.. and assuming everyone else's is all screwed up. You know what they say.....usually one who accuses is the one with the problems. People who truly have a wonderful family life and great kids do not usually have a need to keep reaffirming and reassuring everyone of that fact ; )
I think maybe the boy sucked out some of your sanity...
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Prime example of "when helping harms".
 Like the previous poster, as a dog lover, I am appalled that they would use this animal. Are you positive the dog even had surgery and if so, what kind just out of curiosity. Are you sure your money went to that. I also find it odd that the dog would still be in so much pain several months later. Are you sure the dude is not taking the meds himself? It happens. Desparate times call for desparate measures. I would just explain to her either on the phone, email or write her that while you value your friendship with her, you feel that you have gone beyond the call of friendship here and that you can not longer provide funding for the dog's care (or her son's drug habit). Technically, by not taking care of his responsibilities himself this is allowing him to take what money he should be using on the dog and spend this on drugs. Therefore, yes, making you an enabler as well. Just like they do on the show "Intervention". You have to quit giving in. Tell her that if she is not able to care for the dog that you will be glad to find or help her find a home for it, but that you no longer can afford financially and consciously to keep sending money. Just validate your friendship. If she is a true friend she will understand this. She might need more encouragement to break away from enabling him. It is hard to do. Trust me I have siblings that are addicted and we have had to just cut them off, especially after loosing another sibling only 5mos. earlier for same reason. This is one of those times "when helping harms". Attached is a great site to give you a little reassurance. Might send this to her as well. Good luck. Try to get the dog out if you can, that may be impossible though. If you think that without your care it is being abused, please report it to thier local animal society or animal control. This can be done anonymously.
your Trailer Park attitude is probably not helping
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My husband was doing me a "favor" by helping me hunt down
a new ergonomic keyboard a few years ago and he called our local Office Depot... Asked the person on the other end if they had any erogenous keyboards.
I was choking back the laughter and trying to get his attention to correct him but he's the kind of guy that HATES to be interrupted for ANYTHING so he held up his hand to me and gave me a dirty look, then repeated the question to the person on the other end who was no doubt having a fit of laughter themselves, transferred him to another department, where he repeated the question AGAIN.
By this time, I could not control myself any longer. I was laughing hysterically and he finally hung up the phone because he was mad at me. Then I explained to him what he was asking for and he was really mad.
I just said, aren't you glad they didn't say that they had some and you reserved one to be picked up later today?
I could just see him walking to the service counter to pick up the "erogenous keyboard" he had set aside! LOL
Medicare questions for helping my relative
I have a relative who wants to live alone although she really needs some basic care such as grocery buying, food prepared, light cleaning in her home, going to doctors appointments, the very basics of everyday life. I will be able to pay through her bank what she needs for lights, cable and things like that (she has gotten to where she cannot make out a check because of tremors in her hands). She went to live with another relative and it has not worked out at all. She has been on her own for years and wants to be that way again as much as possible. Is there anyone out there who knows what Medicare does to help out the elderly and give me any information you might have.
I've decided to start a cookie business! Anyone up for helping me out with a name?
I know with the economy and all, it's probably not a good time to open a new business, but I've been thinking about this for years and just want to do it anyway and very happy and excited about it!
So, some words I've been playing around with are yummy, goodies, goodness, sweets, comfort, cookies ... but nothing is really grabbing me. I've even tried to think of ideas without those type of words above, such as "Big D's" or whatever.
If anyone has any good ideas, I'd love to hear them!
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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Looking for graduation party ideas for son's graduation. I have a few friends helping me sm
but any new ideas would be great too. This is my first born graduating so I'm kind of clueless what I'm doing. One friend suggested a poster board with lots of his pictures. My sister suggested putting his trophies, awards, acceptance letter from his college, etc. on a table. As far as food, we are having sloppy joes, meatballs, pulled pork sandwiches, possibly some sausage sandwiches, fried chicken, pasta salad, macaroni salad, german potato salad, olives, pickles, nuts, cookies, chips/pretzels, dip, cookies, cake, etc. Any more ideas?? I'll be doing this three more times (oldest son is 18, youngest son is 3 so I have a while in between - hopefully I'll be a "pro" by the time the youngest graduates!! XXXXX)
Nope, no kids with him, all of our kids are 20 and over.
I would think that some of the $12,000 A YEAR he paid in support for over 9 years should have been enough to save some for college. He paid his dues so to speak, always paid the support on time, had insurance for them, etc. He told them straight up to pay for their own college. Is there something wrong with that?
Maybe this is where that one came from...(inside) LOL
http://www.snopes.com/medical/potables/mountaindew.asp
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chocolate/bannana pie. yeah sounds crazy but is really delicious. i found it at grocery store few years ago and everyone loved it.
take a graham cracker crust, slice banana in round circles and layer on bottom of crust. middle layer mix chocolate pudding and cover on top of banannas. cover with chocolate cool whip although i can't find chocolate cool whip anymore, you could probably mix chocolate syrup with cool whip to produce the same. top cool whip with rounds of banannas for decoration and grated chocolate and/or small squares.
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Perhaps next year, you should ignore your ungrateful neighbors. Take those cards (and your kids) to a local nursing home and share them with lonely seniors. I can guarantee they would be greatful, and it would be a great lesson for your kids. Might as well share your kindness and caring with someone who will appreciate it!
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I had very heavy bleeding during periods, would pass lots of clots. Also, when I would stand up, I'd feel a gush coming out. Sorry to be so graphic. I've heard that people have had a lot of pain with them, but I didn't. It was found by my doctor. He asked me if I felt that in my abdomen and I told him I thought I was just fat. My uterus was 22 weeks size.
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Sometimes you have to unplug speakers and plug back in in order for your plug-and-play devices to register. You may even have to unplug speakers, restart and then plug in. If that does not work try restarting with speakers plugged in. I have had to do all 3 in the past. You could test them by plugging them in to a walkman or portable CD player. Might try Sound effects manager or sound effects and audio devices under control panel and go through a troubleshooting phase. I have a gateway and mine will only work in the "right out" plug.
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The women in my family have used this for years for washing babies as well as our own clothes. My mother used for dishwashing. I am very familiar with its use, sorta like we have always used pressure cookers, some people scared of them, just things we have used over the years. Watch that toothpaste, though!
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Too funny. Baby diapers and cut a whole out for the tail. You can get or make an elizabethan collar to put on her neck to keep her from tearing them up. (pic.) http://www.drsfostersmith.com/product/prod_display.cfm?pcatid=15227&Ntt=diapers&Ntk=All&Ntx=mode+matchallpartial&Np=1&pc=1&N=0&Nty=1
You can buy the cloth pants that they make for dogs at Petco or your local groomer
(pic) http://www.drsfostersmith.com/product/prod_display.cfm?pcatid=14459&Ntt=pants&Ntk=All&Ntx=mode+matchallpartial&Np=1&pc=1&N=0&Nty=1 I bought a pair and then made a pattern. Attach with buttons or velcro across top and there is a slot on these for pads or you can use adhesive kind. Can't resist emailing a copy of one of my babies with Sock diapers. I keep my husbands socks if the get a whole in them from his steal toes. Usually in same place so I pull her tail through there. Designer diapers.
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It is a personal and universal truth. You find out it is a universal truth when you accept Jesus personally. Thanks! Have a good one!
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Posted previously but it apparently disappeared when moved to gab board.
I searched baked hashbrowns...
http://southernfood.about.com/od/hashbrowns/r/bl80201e.htm
This site lists a lot of dishes down about half way, ingredients are listed below names so you can scan for cheese.
http://southernfood.about.com/od/hashbrowns/Hash_Brown_Potato_Recipes.htm
Couple more. 2 of these have cream of cheddar soup. Gives good taste without the harsh texture of some cheeses.
http://southernfood.about.com/od/hashbrowns/r/bl50809f.htm
http://www.cooks.com/rec/doc/0,1926,145187-236204,00.html
Oh well have to hunt the others again!
OP please see inside!!!!
Unless this is your post at below site (ripoffreport.co) you really should go there and file a report as well as at my3cent.com.
http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/191/RipOff0191127.htm
LOL! Sorry about that...(inside)
http://www.e-wisdom.com/credit_cards/
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Here, they have a lot of baby K names with their meanings for both boys and girls. I love new babies, I will be an aunt by this October and the little girl's name will be Ava Elizabeth.
http://www.thenewparentsguide.com/baby-names-k.htm
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Not a prescription. Should be available in any vitamin department. Brand not important--I always just buy the cheapest! Pills/capsules are big though--I have to cut them in half--so also buy with that in mind. As I recall there usually aren't directions--I usually take 2 for first dose then 2-3 times a day for really no specific time period just p.r.n. (like when I start to feel the blister coming up again) and preventively (mine triggered by sun exposure so take after I have been out in the sun).
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Are you asking for something to remove the paint/stain or something to remove the paper? Your saying "sticky", is this like something with sticky backing that has stuck to table?
Sure you want to know? Look inside.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scrapple
I don't get any of this either. Inside
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Insist he go to counseling with you. If he refuses, attend on your own. You have some issues of your own that could use some help. Sharing misery stories with others on the Net is not the answer...Best of luck to you! :-)
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I find it odd that you go through all of this about not gifting and trying to stay away from materialism, it's not what it's about...yet you don't mention one word about the real reason for Christmas.
Sounds like you're just not interested in being involved in Christmas, not that you have a respect for the birth of Christ.
By the way, the reason for gift giving is the same reason He came to us -- to give a gift. :)
Nothing wrong with buying gifts. It is not materialism. It is celebrating by giving to others, as He gave to us.
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Maybe he misses you. Maybe he was just relieving some pressure. It's not that bizarre. Maybe you should tell him that you're there and available, and you wouldn't mind a morning romp or nooner yourself. You'd be surprised what a healthy bedroom life can do for a marriage even when there's discord. Guys feel closer to their women when they're getting some, but I understand how difficult it is as a woman to be physical with a guy when he's completely ticking you off. DH and I have figured out that when we get jerky toward each other, it's because we feel that one of us is carrying more of the load or not getting enough support from the other. So we try to make time to do something together even if it's just talking or going to lunch.
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If the cat is going to be totally an inside cat, I think it is okay. . I don't think their should be too much pain associated with it - certainly not for 2 weeks. . But if the cat will be outside at all, it would not be a good idea, as it would have no way to protect itself or climb a tree to get away from dogs, etc. .
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You all condemn Done's husband, though we do not even know what he wrote in this 'notorius' letter. How can you then judge and label him?
I said it already before, some people - I am not referring to Done - perceive even constructive criticism as abuse.
For instance, if a person is obese and somebody tells this person who cannot stop eating...'I think you should really lose some pounds...'
Some people call this 'abusive', 'rude', insensitive, etc.............
inside or outside dog? nm
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Is he being picked on in school? Sounds like there is more going on. Especially the part about him saying he is fat and then not liking stuff the week after you bought it, makes me wonder if somebody has made fun of the clothing/shoes and now he doesn't want to wear them. Kids are ruthless and mean. I would try to dig deeper. My heart breaks for him. I hope he feels better about himself!
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My daughter (now 19) has always had more guy friends than girls mostly because she does not care for the drama and backstabbing that many teenage girls engage in. What I would take into account is how your daughter acts around these boys--how does she dress (my daughter is an athlete--no low-cut shirts, short skirts, etc) and what are her mannerisms (too flirty or just chillin as friends) or do you see something more--watch the behavior. Have always welcomed all kids to hang out at my house--even though it has driven up my food bill--because I feel that way I know what they're doing, hear how they are acting/talking (they can forget you are around the corner), and I get to know who they are hangin with. As time goes by you can get to know who a lot of the kids are in your town including siblings and parents--have always made it a point to network, network, network--soccer games, helping in school, etc. Always offer to drive too--they will also sometimes forget you have ears up there in the driver's seat. I like to remind my kids that they don't know who I know so they should keep that in mind when out in public because you never know what could get back to me.
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when in doubt, always try foodtv.com
http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/george-stella/teriyaki-sesame-chicken-skewers-recipe/index.html
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I bought our Wii when it first came out, preordered it 2 years ago. My son got braces earlier this year. The orthodontist does not offer a payment plan so those thousands of $$$ have gone on the credit cards. it may have been a bad move to set up myself to be in debt like this but as my child has a very bad overbite, buck teeth and teeth behind each other I considered it a small price to pay for help with self esteem issues.
You will also note my original question did not solicit advice on what to do with the system. This is my son's decision, not mine. I was asking this to cover all of my bases BEFORE I retrieve the system in less than 2 hours from now.
By the way you sound very generous; I hope if you win anything you can give it to charity. Maybe you will win Powerball one day!
What I can't understand is this: If my son were to win $250 the replies in this thread would be very different. No one would suggest he give it back to the orthodontist.
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I can't help but giggle at your reference to "piranas"...I always use "locusts" but I like piranas even better, lol!!!
I'm on PMs/graveyard at least 5 nights a week, so it's nice to know there's company out there :-)
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If you're feeding your dog commercially bought dog food, Purina supposedly puts stuff in the food to make the poop easier to scoop (i.e., firm).
If you're feeding your dog regular food, try feeding him hamburger meat mixed with cooked rice for a couple days. That's what Granny used to do with her little white poodle that followed her everywhere and lived a nice long life.
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