Help for badly damaged hair
Posted By: Bride of Frankenstein on 2009-03-25
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Got a perm a couple months ago (bad mistake -especially once DH said - is that the way you wanted it?) Anyway...since then have gotten it trimmed a couple times to get rid of the dead. But it is like a rats nest, looks dry and very frizzy. I have tried...curling creams, leave in conditioners, mousse, putty, creams, and a wide range of hair products. The other night I tried mayo & egg. My hair still feels dried out. Actually just feeling it now, the part that has grown out is not dry, but the part where the perm is is dry.
Anyone have any suggestions. How I miss my beautiful locks of my youth (I'm 51). I used to have beautiful curls and the hairdressers always commented they never seen such beautiful natural curls before. Now it's just old, frizzy, no curls and no body, and a thinning spot toward the top of my forehead. Talk about feeling old. I did just color it because sometimes coloring brings back shine and makes it manageable, but didn't do anything but get rid of the gray. I'm ready to just go Sinead. Any suggestions much appreicated.
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After their breakup (her and Kevin) he publicly announced that her hair was so damaged after sm
years and years of hair extensions and that the only way she could keep up her look was to continue using hair extensions which became very painful and was "killing" her roots AND that the hair growing out of her head was dying almost immediately.
I don't think anyone took him seriously, but after seeing what she did (she even shaved her extensions off in the photos), I can see what he said as carrying weight now.
I just think it was years and years of stress of having to look a certain way or doing something to please others and she just said "**** it!" I'm going to cut all of my hair off! Now what do you say??/
Glad you're back, even if a bit damaged! ;) nm
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I have had cats for 25 years and NO damaged furniture - sm
It is called training them.  Provide scratch posts in places where they will run to use them because it will be somewhere you frequent often and will be there to tell them what a good kitty they are. Do not tuck scratching posts out of sight because the cats like to use them where you are. Keep a few squirt bottles scattered around where you can get to them quickly and easily. The very instance you catch them doing something you do not want them to you need to quietly get that water bottle, squirt them, and say NO loudly. Take them to the appropriate place to scratch and lavish praise. Should not take them long to catch on. Above all, no hitting and you MUST redirect them the second they do something wrong. If they seem to have trouble catching on then Scat Mats offer a barrier of sorts to let them know they are not wanted some place. However, expecting them to stay off the furniture is probably not realistic, but not clawing it up is very realistic. Never had a single problem with the dozen or so cats I have had over 25 years. All of them kept their claws and we have always had nice furniture. Best of luck to you! 
Not only is he treating you badly,
what kind of a man tells his wife and children to leave the home? My parents divorced when I was 11 and as I got older I realized it really was for the best. You need to show your children that it is not okay to disrespect anyone. You should go ahead and at least consult a lawyer and see what your options are.
I feel so badly for you - sm
It is not supposed to be that way! Your hubby sounds pretty selfish. If I told my husband I needed him to stand on his head and turn cartwheels for me to orgasm he would at least attempt it, especially after a year of marriage. Is everything fantastic with him other than the sex issue??
But it may end badly for the dogs
They may not be taken care of when he's off doing other things. I would tell him though that he needs to buy or pay for the dog food and put a time limit on how long you'll take care of them. You're a good person to make sure they're taken care of.
I'd say she has been hurt badly and deeply
besides having a questionable upbringing. It has been shown you can even be raised weird and still have great qualities - something happened to push those natural feelings towards other human beings way down inside her. If it were me - I would just kind of detach myself from her as she will most likely not change and you will grow to become bitter and you cannot change her. You are not going to get what you need as a friend from her. Sorry also about your son. Hugs!!
Not everyone reacts badly to chemo - sm
My daughter was not throwing up every half hour. In the 18 treatments/doses she received in her five month regimen she puked 3 times I think. She was nauseous, yes, but Zofran took care of that. She lost about five pounds in all but most/all of that was tumor. She did not lose her hair until the 4th month, but as I said then if that is the worst thing to happen we will live with it. Hair does grow back. Her hair grew back red again, not as firey red, but still a beautiful color, thicker now too, and grows so much faster now too, already below her waist now in the 3.5 years it has been growing back. Her hair was very, very slow growing prior to her chemo (about mid-back maybe short when she got sick at 5, with absolutely no haircuts except for bangs). Physically now she is in fantastic shape. She never developed footdrop or any side effects other than nausea and exhaustion, she had little stamina for 6 months to a year after chemo ended. Now however she is great, looks great, is in great shape and is a very active 9-y/o. She has been thru a lot and is very mature for her age, more so than my soon to be 11-y/o. She has a lot on her mind and still worries sometimes she will get cancer again. I feel bad that she thinks that way but it is something she will have to live with for the rest of her life, but at least she will have a life. Without the chemo she would not have had one and she knows that, she is a smart cookie. She also knows I am her mom and I love her to pieces and will always make sure she is kept safe and hopefully healthy. If she never needs it I will give her one of my kidneys presuming I can. ---but chemo is proven to work more than it fails, nothing is 100%, but at 13 the boy is too young to understand the ramifications. He will die, period, no doubt in my mind, if he does not do chemo. Yes, he may still die with it but his chances are much less and if they go with a "natural" treatment his chances are definitely a lot less. Very short-sighted of both of them I think. Before anyone attacks me, I like you am entitled to my opinion but before you attack make sure you have walked in my shoes. A child sick with cancer is a very scary thing.
Does he treat you badly in front of your children or is it
usually "behind closed doors?"
Well I had a friend at work who wanted a baby badly
had hydrocephalus. She prayed and prayed. She finally decided through a lot of counseling that it would be better to abort this baby. So in what stage of abortion are we talking made to look at the ultrasound. Is this a whole different thing? Should she have been made to have that baby even knowing the baby would not survive? I think there are abortions for different reasons. JMO.
City of Angels. I couldn't leave the theatre I was bawling so badly. nm
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I was referring to my own hair, people hair. nm
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Hair
Oh yeah! I have a long-haired cat. My living room looks like she had a fight with Santa and Santa lost his white trim and long beard. LOL
Hair
 Oh I know you meant people hair. Just wanted to share that my cat is goning through the same thing these days. I guess because she is just so close to my heart she feels like a child not a pet. 
About your hair
What do you like/dislike the most about it?
I've been letting mine grow, so it's longer and looks really nice around my face. It's very soft. That part I like.
I hate hate hate having long hair when it's hot outside. Ponytail and hair clips, here I come.
hair
Yes, you can do this yourself. Go for it. IF you want an overall lighter color go for it. Make sure you read the box about if your hair is dark it will look like this or if your hair is this dark we do not recommend. I would also even recommend going to a Sallys Beauty Supply. They can help you as well. I used to do hair for a living before MTing.
Hair
Hey go for it. Anything that looks good, do it. I always wear my hair short because it looks the best. Looking back at pictures I have almost the same haircut that I had at age 21 but am not trying to recreate that age it just looks the best on my. My great nephews, ages 20 to 8, always tell me that there is no way I am almost the same age as their grandmother (my sister 3 years older) because she is old and I am not and I think it is because I act, dress and think young. I don't wear mini's but my legs are one of my best assets and so I wear knee length skirts and heels many times and it makes me feel good. Even if you wanted to wear a beehive -- now I am showing my age -- do it if it makes you feel good. I envy those gals with longer hair but I am small boned and small facial features and it just overwhelms me. But a lot of older actresses have long hair and it looks good.
keep your hair.
NM
Dry hair
I have really dry hair both because of my middle age and putting dye on it at home. I've tried most otc products but nothing really seems to get it soft and healthy looking. Anyone have any tried and true products, like a deep treatment type of conditioner that really works?
Oh, well, it's just hair, you know? sm
I agree with her...you gotta pick your battles. That said, my son's hair is longish, but not to his shoulders.
Hair......
It is definitely not good to wash hair every day.
Because you strip the hair of the essential oil and then the follicles produce again oil, the hair gets oily very fast and you have to wash it again.
This becomes a vicious cycle.
The more often you wash your hair, the faster it gets oily.
Try to use 'dry shampoo' in between, until your hair gets less oily.
Get a dog with hair, not fur- sm
Find out what breeds have hair, I know poodles are one, I think there are one or two others but not sure. He would not be allergic to a dog with hair though, if so then he is allergic to people too. There are standard size poodles (large) or miniature poodles.
I have used it in my hair, but not to eat.
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my sister does hair
and one of her clients bought her a jogging suit that says "i run with scissors!" she thought that was too fun! of course, depends on the personality.
Coloring your hair.
How many here have colored or still color their hair?
Highlights, lowlights, gray coverage or all out Platinum blonde.
Maybe you are going for that fire engine red.....
I bought one of those kits the other day that has the base color and the extra highlighting kit too. I am going for the medium to dark brown (which is my natural color) with "Caramel Glaze" highlights. My hair naturally has alot of underlying red tones so I have to be careful what color I choose or I end up looking like Lucille Ball. (not that red is a bad thing) I just don't want to be the next "Carrot Top" LOL.
Anybody else out there about to do a color change? opinions?
hair color sm
Had beautiful brown hair with natural red highlights, talked into blond highlighting, now go every 3 mos for cut and color but prices are being ridiculously increased to over $110 for this service, $45 for the cut and $65 for partial - more for full highlight. I am scared to do this alone, as I don't want to look like a "skunk" and the highlighting makes me feel better, as I'm getting older. Another subject - as you get older, people treat you like you're taking up space on the planet - rude. I don't intend to go gray. Is keeping the brown and putting in my onw highlights a fairy tale, is it that difficult? Can't imagine how I'll see in the mirror to do it alone!!! Can't afford it anymore. I think the stylist is planning to raise her prices and it will be over $150 for the whole head!
hair color
I found some really cool hair color at www.bettybeauty.com
Anyone ever had a hair transplant
due to loss of hair and if so, can you tell me how it came out, were you satisfied with the results, how much cost and which place did you use? I have seen some ads and am thinking seriously about this. Thanks.
hair style
My hairstyle is very low maintenance, a layered cut barely past my shoulders, which I shape with a hairbrush and blowdryer. It takes less than 5 minutes, but I have a lot of natural curl. What is your hair type? That makes a big difference.
thinning hair
I do not have a thyroid condition but my hair was always very thin and falls out in handfuls except when I was pregnant. My sister is a doctor and she found an article that advocated taking biotin (2000 mcg) and MSM (1000 mg) a day - ask your doctor, but biotin is just a B vitamin and MSM is used for joint health - and after a month or so I noticed a huge improvement in hair loss. We both have noticed it. I have also seen biotin used for stronger nails and I have to admit mine are growing quite well.
P.S. To Hair message . . .
Sorry, didn't know talking about animals would be so upsetting to you.
I picked thru their hair...
Took small section by section and picked thru and took each nit and pulled them out several times a day until I found no more nits. I had to go thru mine too since I got it too.
Arm hair trouble
It seems like over the last several years the hair on my forearms has gotten darker and darker. I'm so self-conscious about it, I feel like it makes me nice and mannish looking :(
Here's my question: would it help to put hydrogen peroxide on my arm hair everyday? Bleaching is such a hassle for a large area like that, and I don't have the money now for laser removal. I think hydrogen peroxide lightens hair, but would it make a noticeable difference on my arms?
I am always losing my hair.
All year round. A lot comes out in the shower and when drying my hair. My bathroom floor is covered. I have very thick hair. I never thought to ask my doctor about it. May be I should. I do not see any bald spots yet, but I will continue to watch. I just turned 50. I hope it does not get worse.
hair loss
My hair started falling out years ago, just inherited. I tried extensions, forget that.. There are a couple of products out there hair so real, but then I got Toppix; it's a natural hair fiber/powder that you apply to DRY scalp where the scalp is showing through; it's expensive, so I only use it when I go out to meet people I know.
Do you part your hair?? (sm)
I don't part mine or my kids - I brush it and it has sort of a natural part, but I never do the old comb-parting thing. Just wondering if I am the odd one out? Hey - it says GAB board :-)
My hair is very short right now.
Short layers and all I have to do is spray a little hairspray on it and run my fingers through it and I'm good to go. It has gotten much thicker over the years and hair color has helped with that too. I hate that I have to color my hair, though. I started going gray almost 20 years ago and I just turned 40.  At some point, I will bite the bullet and let the color grow out, but haven't gotten there yet. Not ready to be totally gray.
My hair is short
When it starts to get even a little long, I have to go out and get it cut. I don't like the way my hair or the way I look when it gets too long. I just put some gel in it and go. The only thing I don't like is that it can get dry in the sun. I've been dying my hair for about five years or so (46 now). I won't let it go gray, but that's just me. My daughter is only 4 so I feel I would look like her grandmother if I let it go gray.
LOL. I have that kind of hair too!!
Mine is longer layers and I have a LOT of it and it gets coarse sometimes after highlighting. So you should see me when I wake up in the morning sometimes. It is sticking up and out a good few inches on the top and sides! I joke with my husband, don't come too close or I may poke your eye out! LOL So I know exactly what you mean about not being able to just run out for something some days. Or God forbid, what about unexpected company or UPS or FedEx? LOL
Anyone else out there with curly hair?
My daughter is 3. She has waist-long curly hair. It is so beautiful but I am beginning to despise it!!! It is so tangly. I use Johnsons & Johnsons detangler from Wal-Mart, but that just doesn't seem to help. I wash her hair with a shampoo/condition in 1 and then I do another round of just conditioner. I can't figure out how to make this better. The hair combing experience every day is painful for both of us!! If you have any suggestions, short of cutting off those beautiful locks, I would sure appreciate your advice!
Curly hair
I have curly hair and so does my son so I know what you mean about it being a painful experience for both of you. I've found that sometimes it helps if you leave the conditioner in for a while before rinsing and always use a wide-tooth comb. Some leave-in conditioners help. When my hair was really long I always braided it before bed so it was easier to deal with the next morning.
Wind in HIs Hair
Rodney A. Grant from Dances with Wolves. Hubba Hubba.   
Since we are talking hair, I always wonder
wondered what kind of hair Mane and Tail is good for. Is it for smoothing hair that is coarse, or just what does it do?
Have dry, brittle hair
Only wash about once a week and dry, brittle, fly-away, breaking. Anyone use anything that really helps this situation? Thanks!
hair cost sm
I was told years ago that the markup is ridiculous by someone who took a beautician course.. I found a good girl, shopped around, could not believe what WALMART (just stopped by to qestion in person) is charging for simple highlights and cut, even the local Regis Salons which also includes Supercuts, etc., are getting a hundred bucks or more. So what I did was establish an agreement with a girl who rents space nearby and she is excellent. She has been charging me $65 for color, cut and blow dry and style. So today I gave her a very generous Christmas tip and she tried to give it back to me. I told her I so appreciated what she does for me all year and she started to cry and gave me a hug. I told her I was aware of what others charged and I knew she gave me a break all year. Everyone won, nobody lost. Shop around, the markup is ridiculous. Corporate wins, not the stylist (much like our profession). Just find someone you can trust and develop a relationship with and give them a little extra once in awhile. I am very glad I did this,I had a great day and I feel wonderful and so does my stylist. It can be done, be an educated consumer. Don't fall for the high prices, what costs them a few bucks turns into literally hundreds when it comes to highlight or color and cut! Shop around.
You didn't know before the hair job how much it was
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cost of hair
In defense of the cosmetology profession, I have to add that one never knows how much money and time the big stylists put into their business. My oldest son spends $10,000.00 a month in overhead, salaries, rent, seminars, etc. He stays current on everything, is a certified colorist, etc. They earn every penny they get - I had no idea until he filled me in. By the way, he lives too far away to make it worth my while to go get a haircut every 5 weeks, so I still go to local girl. $12.00 - she is way too cheap. Please don't bash them if you do not know the inside of the business. Anyway, Merry Christmas! Everyone tip your stylist - if it is a man, bake him something - he'll love you forever!!
hair dressing
Check your closest beauty supply store. I think you may be looking for what is called a "hair dressing." They smell good, come in light to heavy. I use one on my "babies" who have extremely curly hair. They are biracial, but do not have the coarse black African hair. Their hair is just extremely curly and the hair dressing adds shine and moisture, not oil, to their hair.
Hair Dryer
I have never tried this myself, but I have read that if you use a hair dryer on a low setting, about 6 to 8 inches from the ear, for about 10 to 15 minutes, it may make the earache better.
Hope this helps and your little one is feeling better soon!
Long hair....
I am 35 years old and have very long curly hair. My mother-in-law thinks I am going to have to cut it soon. (This is coming from the lady who goes to the hairdresser and asks for the Moe!) She says people over 40 look silly with long hair. I think she is nuts. I will keep my hair no matter what my age. Do what you want and don't let a few old hags make you feel bad!
Hair length
First let me say that I am appalled that some "neighbors" would have the audacity to tell you how to wear your hair.
Second, I just watched a segment on Today (Meredith leaves at 9:00 so I didn't get a chance to look at her hair) but they did a makeover on a woman that I would say is "retirement age" and the length was just above her shoulders and she looked fabulous.
Now adays we are always hearing "love your body", well that includes your hair. If your are happy and you are fortunate enough to have a hubby that cares enough to try to make you feel better, than more power to you.
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