He is old-fashioned, and that isn't necessarily an excuse
Posted By: HolidayMT on 2007-12-11
In Reply to: Do you ever question your husband's decisions? Does he get mad? (sm) - Opinionless MT
I am a Pastor's wife. Well, that will probably tell you volumes in itself. He is right-wing Lutheran, and I come from a moderate Lutheran background. Well, needless to say I know what you are going through except I am supposed to set an example to the ladies at church that the man is the leader of the house and we are not to publicly or privately question his decision, because that is the Biblical way. Well, sinner or not, I think this leads to men thinking they are always right, we are not their equal, we have no say, and it becomes a control issue. So... my heart is with you. I have yet to figure out this patriarchal thing. Believe me, I have voiced many times that I am good at some things, he other things and in discipline with children, we are equal not one better than the other. I think men are supposed to act responsibly not controlling and this is where the confusion comes in. When they refuse our opinion or disrespect us, I feel they are not living up to their role as protector and are acting like babies. But then again, they say I am a Pastor's wife who needs to go to Pastor's wife school, because my opinions are for equality and I have zero tolerance for domestic abuse. I am sorry if this does not answer your question or help you, but I do want to say I sympathize and you are not incorrect. There is no reason for a man to be controlling or to be rude, senseless and overbearing. When I figure out the answer to my situation I'll let you know. All I can say is to this day publicly and at home I stick up for equality, and I do not accept abusive male behavior and I don't care who doesn't like it. Zero tolerance from me. Leads to a tense household, but it could be worse, dishonesty is absolutely worse. Sorry for the soap box. Please hang in there and keep yourself safe and happy. :)
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you can tell he is old fashioned,
he wants to marry it!
Then call me old-fashioned because this lady does care
about morals going out the window and everything else that is wrong with today's society. And I'm not even that old.
I also do not agree with your take on most people feel men are studs if they sleep around a lot. I call them pigs ;)
How about regular old-fashioned wax furniture polish? sm
Beware, Kitty might skid on that towel and dig in with her claws to steady herself.
It's very nice of you to be kitty sitting!
Old-fashioned ham with half the work and diabetic option~*~*yummmm*~*~
Pick out your ham
Pick your favorite mustard. (I like spicy swedish mustard)
place mustard in bowl about a cup or so (depending on how large your ham is)
add an equal amount of Brown sugar / Diabetics can use splenda
You want a paste that will cling to the ham. In order to achieve this consistency add pineapple juice to the regular mixture or diet sprite to the diabetic one and then smear this all over the ham. Place in pan, cover to keep in moisture and cook according your hams directions. 
I like to open it up and pour the juices over the ham. EVEN IF you dont like mustard you will like this. Try it it is VUNDERFUL muah lol
If you want more old time southern recipes shoot me an email I am happy to help
I'm not necessarily for
lowering the legal drinking age to 18, but if it's not then they should raise the legal age for killing in a war to 21! If an 18 year old isn't mature enough to handle a beer, I dare say he isn't prepared for what killing another person could do to him.
When he said the first, no not necessarily
that would have told me everything. Sure he is looking for someone. He gave all answers that say so, like none available (means he is looking) and havent found anyone risky. Lady, you have a problem. There would have been a lot of racket at my home.
Not necessarily
Doctors are generally proactive when there is any borderline blood sugars going on, but they usually say to watch the diet, do some exercise, etc., for prediabetes. I don't think it has to do with the low income status; a high blood sugar is a high blood sugar. If it is diabetes, it needs to be treated regardless of socioeconomic status.
Now, a sugar of about 300 is high, especially if she hadn't eaten in the hours prior to having the blood sugar taken. However, be sure to ask if she had washed her hand (or whatever part was tested) or used an alcohol swab before testing. When I worked the floor, I remember a nurse (not me!) who took a gentleman's blood sugar without cleaning it. It was in the 400s. She decided to do a retake with cleaning it properly, and it was below 100. He had residual food that we couldn't see on his hand from lunch, which showed up on the blood sugar. If your mom is eating candy or anything else and hadn't washed her hands, it very well could show up with a very elevated (albeit falsely) blood sugar.
When I saw you say morning headaches, I immediately thought of a sleep problem rather than diabetes. It's hard to say on the internet!
Medicines she takes could cause elevated blood sugars, too.
Let us know what happens! A true blood sugar of 300 needs followup.
Not necessarily disagreeing with you but
are we just ingrained to beleive that men make better leaders. I am no advocating Hil for prez, but I do believe that we do or will have in the future many women capable of running this country. I guess I am disagreeding wtih you, but JMO.
You wouldn't necessarily know but (sm)
First of all, it is very rare that is passed on to children from their mother before or during birth. Second, there are not really treatments for children - the treatments used for adults are so harsh that they feel children cannot handle them. I have it from a blood transfusion I got 27 years ago and have had no health problems from it, did not give it to my husband, have two children. Had my first child tested and that was negative. Have not had my second child tested at all. I will be happy to talk with you more about this if you would like to e-mail me.
they do not necessarily come from India
The emails may *look* like they come from India in the headers but know that spammers use proxies to camouflage their identity and camouflage their computers......
Open up the headers and forward the entire email with the headers showing to spam at uce dot gov. Only do this if these are in your personal or business email account. Not necessary to do it if you are using a generic email account such as hotmail or yahoo. That is the email for the govt to go after spammers.
Been getting these types of spam emails for 12 years now!! But I learned and I never give out my most personal email account except to the very chosen few....and as a result I never or very rarely get a spammed email in that particular account.
I can't necessarily say she should be released
but these people were basically brainwashed by Manson and definitely full of drugs.
Did she show compassion for Sharon Tate and her unborn child, no, but does that mean others can't show compassion. Is a lifetime or 37 years enough, not necessarily, but it is true that California is paying mega-bucks for her care. If she can't even set up what is her life going to be at home?
This is not an open and shut case. There are many ways to look at it, and I hope the judge making the ruling considers each and every avenue.
Well it doesn't necessarily have to be ...sm
northern folks. I have never been west of Texas so I don't know how people out there talk. I guess since you are from out there and you say you guys then it must be used out there to.
Now I can't see my accent being as interesting as an English accent.
I'm glad you like southern accents because not everyone does. I have been made fun of by someone from Alaska. It was very insulting.
I have a friend who lives in Las Vegas and she is originally from Texas. But she doesn't really have an accent. Anyways her dads friend's son was staying with them. He is from Alaska. Well I called and asked for my friend and he answered the phone. When he put the phone down to get her I heard him making fun of my accent and that has stuck with me and I have been self conscious now when I am anywhere else besides in the south. He had never experienced a southern accent before and I guess he just make fun of what was different.
While breastfeeding in public does not necessarily
offend me, I think some discretion is absolutely necessary and some things are better done in private. God also made our bodies for procreating, but we wouldn't want to see that done in public, either. JMO. 
I wasn't necessarily the money
He was a self-made millionare already due to either mining or construction. I live just across the state line from WV so he was in the news a lot, but you are right, his life is certainly worse then when it was before the lottery. I am still going to play though.
If an employee not necessarily. MTSO will
take advantage until you burn out or quit. Take it from me. They would even let someone quit so they can get a newer person (more "willing") to do all that junk even with errors, than keep someone who they feel is unwilling to be a doormat. For the people who can do the ESLs, well they will be taken advantage of or let go for most of the MTSOs. Rare that a company won't take advantage that way, even some of the "best" around here. Only 1 that I know of (where I work) will they reward for good workers by giving other types of reports which are easier to balance it out. And I can't say where because that company gets teased way too much on here. Otherwise, be careful if you are really good. They will let you go if you are not a practicing doormat and willing to make 3.00 an ESL report per half hour. No joke.
That's what I thought too....not necessarily means yes (nm)
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I don't necessarily agree you should "wear them both out" SM
I am of the opinion that the 11-year-old should be punished as well because in my mind the 11yo probably was taunting or teasing or did something intentional to anger your 8yo and the 8yo responded. It's not fair to punish the 8yo because he chose to respond physically and not do anything to the 11yo who instigating the whole situation. The 8yo may view that as he's not allowed to defend himself or that you are playing favorites -- which I'm not saying you are -- I'm just saying both boys are behaving aggressively -- one is more PASSIVE aggressive than the other, but it's still aggression.
That's just my armchair psychology eval for ya! Good luck to you!
Not necessarily, many phone calls may have been made. (nm)
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Nope, don't necessarily need family support
I'm raising my grandchild. This has split my entire family apart - no support from mom, sisters, ex-hubby, other adult child, parents of GC... NO ONE, and I'm single and getting no child support. I am developing an outside network of friends to compensate, but it has taken 18 months to get there. I just found a babysitter I'm going to start using this week so I can actually go have a meal by myself or see a movie now and then.
Sometimes in family matters, the only one you can count on is yourself and you just do what you have to do in order to do the right thing.
I'm all for legalization (though not necessarily in favor of taxation), but (sm)
...at least if pot were the drug of choice, rather than alcohol, we'd have a lot fewer belligerent people out causing fights (though, perhaps, the shoplifting stats for cookies, chips and pop might rise ).
Fewer DUI deaths ... have you seen how slowly and carefully a pot smoker drives? LOL.
No excuse
It is completely rude, but there isn't much else you can do. You can, however, choose a consistant pickup time yourself and let her know what that is. I have done that which creates a big inconvenience to them instead of you. :)
Excuse me?
I have a teenage daughter and I resent the implication that they are all sex-crazed nymphos. At least, that's the way I took your post. Generalizations like the one you just made are offensive.
ExCUSE me?????? sm
Would this be a little sexual harrassment? How terrible for your daughter!! You don't have a choice, you HAVE TO DO SOMETHING. Poor girl, she's so sensitive anyway!!!!! No you are NOT overeacting. Go STRAIGHT TO THE SCHOOL WITH THIS ONE . . .
No excuse for this
The only human thing doesn't cut it. I have worked in hospitals for many years, observed nurses and MDs in action. When administering drugs, there is no excuse for massively overdosing newborns with Heparin. The nurse was probably talking her head off to somebody, had her mind on 10 different things instead of what she should have been doing - passing meds.
If she was tired, then she should not have passed meds or should have had somebody help her to doublecheck herself.
I hope they sue the pants off that nurse and the hospital, too.
EXCUSE ME???
I was correcting MY error...you need to calm down, sister...I would never, ever correct anyone else's mistake, only my own. I made a mistake, I CORRECTED MY MISTAKE. can't you read??????? So freakin' rude, grow up will ya!
Excuse me! sm
Lining my pockets? Are you serious? This is for my daughter, not me. I have plenty of money and don't need their money. We make over $100,000 a year. My daughter is the one who suffered and is continuing to suffer. What would you do if your daughter was traumatized like this?
I think you have a lot of nerve!!!
excuse
all my typo. It has already been a long day. That is why I am on the forum. I needed a break. 
Excuse me, but....(sm)
...we certainly do hear of women who are cruel to animals. Just Google "woman charged with cruelty to animals" and you'll get plenty of hits.
I wonder, as a man, if I could get away with posting a sexist slur like yours about women? I doubt it!
Should have been benefit...excuse me (nm)
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Yes, but their rudeness does not excuse your own
You should always respond to an invitation, even if no RVSP, but most definitely if there is one.
Excuse, did not speak about yours
you must have been trying to read between the lines and never said anything about your dear one. You imaged.
Please excuse my ignorance sm
but do any of these have natural herbs that could counter-act birth control pills? I know that St. John's Wart can counter-affect BCP. I have a terrible problem with insomnia, seemingly inhierted from both parents, but they didn't have it until early 40s. I am 39 and have had problems for well over 10 years. Thanks!
Excuse the typos-been
a long day of typing!
Excuse, then, thought just yours but
i would have told her in that situation you thought just you and the combined kids, husband not going and you want to wait until it would be just you 2 adults so you could catch up on some girl talk- actually if me I would not even put in the girl talk but I know some people not out there like me. I would just tell her sorry, want to go when we girls can spend some time together. If invited somewhere, anyone knows you just don’t make arrangements for a third party to come along- unless you ask first if ok.
I'm sorry but that is the classic excuse
when caught with contraband. He is probably just experimenting at this point but you want to nip that in the bud. He needs to really see what the effects of that will be and that he may think he can stop at any time but the problem is he won't know that he can't stop until it has already happened. I've always felt that stressing the inside damage they are doing to themselves is important but with a teenager looks are really what they care about- try stressing how unattractive and smelly they make a person, where girls that might be interested would pass because of the smoking.
Gee whiz, everyone please excuse me
now while I play with my new puppy for a few hours, buff my toenails, eat some bonbons, put in a few lines of work to include many gross errors while I do so, come back here and read posts for a couple of houres, moan and whine a little, and then spend a couple of hours whining and moaning some more about my DH and sorry life before he comes home from slaving all day to provide me the life of luxury to which I am accustomed and entitled. Hope you have a good day, too, Misha... enjoy your new pup!
Excuse me, you are not saying I slammed anyone, are you?
NM
Or could he be using alcohol as excuse without
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Excuse the typos sm
Oh boy, just read my post, up late last night watching Super Bowl, Pats fan here. I never heard of Bunco before, thanks for explaining. Women, don't understand why they can't be loyal, staying to myself.
Excuse me. I have a question.
Does this "you do not EVER write off an older family member" edict of yours also include those family members who are relentlessly verbally or physically abusive, unapologetic, unrepentent, constantly undermine you, belittle your children, alcoholics, drug addicts and so on? Maybe you should think that over again. Not all of us live in ivory towers.
Sounds like an excuse to me -nm
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Use the economy as an excuse
How about using the economy as an excuse? You could phrase it that you don't want her to spend her money or something like that. She may seem to enjoy it, but she might jump at the chance to cut one thing out of a crazy shopping season.
Good luck. My family and I stopped exchanging gifts years ago. None of my brothers or sisters have kids and we all decided that we were broke and stressed and just didn't need to do it. It's made Chrismtas much more relaxing. We just get together for a nice dinner and have a good time.
give an excuse and
Half my relatives I have to sleep with one eye open.
Excuse me? I think this is getting kind
of weird, if not sick! This borders already on masturbation!
Can you please explain to me how a woman pregnant in her 9th month can reach her perineum with her hands and massage it for 10 minutes?
It is even advised that the spouse does this as foreplay to intercourse. Please spare me with your links!
This is pathetic!
I think it is better if we stop this discussion right here!
Get over yourself!
I meant country...excuse me!
And I am sorry, but it is Christians (meaning belivers in Christ, ok...)losing our freedom of speech. Just think about it, anything and everything is ok to be discussed on TV, in books, on the radio (you know what I'm talkin' bout too), but mention the word *God* *Jesus* or even anything pertaining to the church, and whoa...no no...don't do that, it might offend someone. Well I'm sorry, but sexual exploitation of women and children happens to offend ME...yet it's all over TV...homosexuality is a sin, yet it's all over TV... I won't go on because I think you're intelligent enough to see my point. Anyhow, MERRY CHRISTMAS...HAPPY BIRTHDAY JESUS!!!
Please excuse the typing errors...
All I have heard today is "The patient had a giberishgiberish condition that includded gibberish, cough, hack, sneeze gibberish." You get the point.
Pls excuse all the typos, it's been a long day! -nm
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EXCUSE ME....ignorant minority???
May I remind you that Roe V Wade was the product of a handful of activist judges?? ANYwhere wholesale abortion has been on a ticket for all of US out here to vote on, it was defeated. They tried first to make it a "state" issue, and it was voted down. So activist judges overturned the will of the people and now we have abortion on demand. So PLEASE do not insinuate that the majority of people would vote FOR abortion, because you are VERY MUCH mistaken.
Just tired of people having every excuse why nothing is their
asdf
that's kind of a poor excuse (sm)
Just because they don't come to you doesn't mean you can't go to them.
whoops, excuse those mistakes in there sm
I'm in a hurry
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