He gave up his parental rights; end of story.
Posted By: nm on 2007-06-18
In Reply to: Ex-husband harrassing me again, - after 19 years of divorce.
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Parental Law
Not speaking specifically to you, but I've noticed that adherence to the law seems to depend on whether you agree with it or not. I guess I tend to be more of a 'safe' law breaker. When I drive in non-residential areas, I routinely set the cruise control for 5 miles/hour over the limit. I don't smoke pot, but know recreational users and think it should be legal, and therefore don't call 9-1-1 when they start passing the pipe. I'm a little skeptical about anyone who files a Schedule C with their 1040 and says they're not fudging anything even just a little.
Just curious...how many of the "NO WAY!" people on here agreed that the mother that kidnapped her son to avoid chemo treatment did the right thing?
I would prefer my kids don't ever drink, smoke pot, have sex, drive over 35 or any of the other myriad of things both legal and illegal that could cause harm or heartbreak. But I also remember what it was like to be young and, for me at least, rather that keep my head in the sand, I made the choice to teach them about mitigating the dangers of some of the stuff that young adults seem to do with or without parental permission.
many differences in parental attitudes
regarding children and food. The way you describe is how most parents used to be, I think. I'm not saying which is right or wrong. I believe in providing a variety of healthy food and keeping the junk out of the house for the most part (and parents providing a good example by eating the good stuff themselves), but not having to eat everything on the plate or insisting they eat something they hate. Kids will eat when they are hungry.. My son likes whole wheat bread because we never had any other kind
offspring, amywinehouse (parental advsory versions)
cover your ears!
nobody has taken your rights away...sm
however, I personally think you are wrong to think abortion is okay and that you don't believe in god. but that is none of my business either. I am not stopping you from doing what you want to do. But even though you do not believe in god, you must still have a conscience and know that killing another being is wrong. JMO. may god have mercy on your soul.
My rights
Okay, so the school takes the kids on a field trip to see the gay marriage of their teacher and this is a because the school considers it a learning experience? And so, too bad to those people whose religion this goes against. But if I were a teacher or ran a school and it was decided that we would be taking our children on a field trip to say a Christian church or maybe Israel where Jesus lived and died, you know totally as a learning experience and to teach them the history of a man that many people, even those who are not Christians, believed to have lived, there would be world wide riots! Parents would be spitting mad, the school would be sued, it would be national news and I would be fired. It would be againts people's beliefs and I would be "shoving my religion down their throats" and blah blah blah.
Being gay is a sin. I didn't come up with that God Our Father and Creator made that one up. The Bible speaks VERY plainly about it many times. Tolerance does NOT mean agreement. Tolerance is NOT accepting something that is wrong. Saying that it is wrong is NOT intolerance. I dont think that someone who is gay should be shunned, beaten, publically humiliated. That is tolerance.
If you already have visitation rights. sm
Sounds like her rights to see her son are totally controlled by the dad.
You can but no one else can? Exercise those rights
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Gays have been trying to get rights
since the 1950's. Gays only want to be treated and have the same rights as heterosexuals. You have such hatred for gays that I feel sorry for you but then again, it is fear and ignorance that people such as yourself feel this way. There is a high suicide rate of gay children because of the bullying. We are no different than you and I can assure you we do not shove any type of agenda down your throats. I am sure you are the type that if your son or daughter came out to you, you would disown them. Now you tell me what kind of a parent is that? We pay our bills, taxes, own houses, etc., so what is so different from you and from me in daily living? So sad there are still homophobes this day and age.
I think I agree with you - first amendment rights.
Personally I would come down hard on the kid at home, but if I had to I would get ACLU to defend his right to say it.
What about 1st amend. rights of mom who posted
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I am exercising my first amendment rights!!
nm
Where are the rights of the child being told she has
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We are not talking about denying their rights. If anything
they would actually be getting more rights than heterosexual students because they would be getting a school designed for them. Plenty of heterosexual high schoolers are harrassed and bullied and nowhere is there a school dedicated to serving these kids. They are referred to counselors and support groups designed to teach them how to cope. It's segregation pure and simple, only now it's a minority group segrating itself from society. And let's not forget this isn't a private school where the homosexual students pay tuition, this is a public, state funded school. The cost of running this "special" school comes out of the pockets of all taxpayers. How is that fair? If they want their own school, it should be a private school that requires them and their families pay a tuition.
What about Gay Rights and FOCA (abortion) then?
hmmmm?
We can legalize Gays and Abortion but prostitution, pot, marijuana etc. (much lesser evils) should be "prosecuted heavily", oh come on .... It's all about "feeling good". If gays 'feel good' with each other and teenage moms 'feel good' to abort then what's your issue with pot or marijuana users? Don't they have a right to feel good with all the economic benefits for government?
It is in the not-so-distant past that women had very few rights! (sm)
My mother was sexually abused by her stepfather - it was the 60s - she went to the police and they told her to go home. She ran away from home and they took her back. She told family members and they told her to keep it quiet. She eventually somehow pressed charges and took him to court...and the judge told her to go home and forget about it.
Actually I have a very good tenants' rights BOOK - sm
from Nolo Law. Mentions everything but the kitchen sink - EXCEPT renovation evictions. STILL, now what am I supposed to do when applying for a new apartment? All the applications ask if you've been evicted, and yet having lived here so long, none of my previous landlords is even ALIVE. Do they have to tell a prospective landlord I've been kicked out, even if it wasn't for doing anything wrong (except for living here too long)?
Debbie Rowe's rights are intact -
A judge ruled that there was no psychological evaluation done of her when she gave the kids to Michael and dropped the custody case, so even though she gave up custody, her parental rights were not legally severed.
She will be the one to benefit from this situation unless somebody else pays her off again.
Debbie Rowe's rights are intact -
A judge ruled that there was no psychological evaluation done of her when she gave the kids to Michael and dropped the custody case, so even though she gave up custody, her parental rights were not legally severed.
She will be the one to benefit from this situation unless somebody else pays her off again.
The father has as much rights as the mother to make decisions....sm
about the child, gifts, etc. I know you want what is best for the child but it's really between your daughter and ex-son-in-law to discuss this. Even if your daughter doesn't want this, there's nothing she can do about it other than educate the child about how much candy to eat at once is appropriate.
read a Tenants Rights brochure for your answer
nm
Gays march for their rights to be involved with their long-time partners
health care should a drastic decision be made. It is usually a family member...even though we are the ones who take care of our partners when they are sick or dying. We fight for the right not to be thrown out of a shared house by the partner's parents. We want to honor our partner's wishes when they die as we are the ones who have spent years with them - not the family. These are just a few examples.
As far as your comment that we influence young people - that is absurd. All we want is to live our life and as pxmt said, be able to walk down the street without abusive comments, being assaulted, ridiculed, etc.
The school system is not segregating gay children - they are making it "gay friendly and teaching tolerance". Suicide is very high in gay children because of the parents who teach their children that it is evil and it is okay to bash a gay child. These schools are just trying to save the lives of young children.
As far as your comment that Christian's homes and churches are burned, sorry but I cannot recall one incident that I have read or saw on the news. Temples yes. As far as being assaulted for your beliefs, could it be because you stand in front of abortion clinics and gun down the doctors and nurses that come out or go into the clinic? Could it be that you bully the 15 and 16-year-olds who have been raped and want an abortion?
Sorry to say this, at least we (gays) are not violent and just want to be left alone.
I gave my mom some too, and she
said it takes her less than half the time now to clean certain things with them, because you don't have to scrub as much to get it clean.
I would like to use the mop, but I am afraid it won't clean the ceramic tile as good as other mops. Where did you get yours? Do you clean ceramic with it?
Never gave up anything before, but
going to give up soda this year and maybe it will stick afterwards.
I gave up
about a quarter of the way through. It needed some paragraphs.
I liked the baked beans slithering out of the can though. Made me chuckle.
NO - she gave him 20 and he put in 30.
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My EX MIL gave me...
One year I was on weight watchers and doing really well - and for Christmas, my MIL bought me a big box of cookies and a box of chocolates!
Shows you how she felt about me, huh?
I think you do know. He gave you the answer. sm
And you have to take that answer at face value. You've gone away with him for a weekend, so it seems like he's willing to take more than he's willing to give. If you don't want him to "shoplift the pootie", then listen to your security system.
He told you what he's thinking, and either you're ok with that, and you continue on. Or, you're not ok with it, and you have to move on.
What was the best gift you GAVE?
mine was the digital camera to DIL. She is very reserved, but actually started crying, and jumped up and gave me a HUGE, LONG, hard hug! I was shocked!! She had mentioned wanting one last year, but didn't tell us until a week before Christmas, and we already had our shopping done by then. She said we even bought the one she had picked out, and was planning on getting after the holidays, hoping it would be on sale. It is the Kodak one with the printer. I told son later, she took the award for the BEST reaction EVER to a gift!!! He laughed and agreed.
I'd have to say the most DISAPPOINTING reaction was one I expected. It was from SIL. The one I talked about on here, never gives me any feedback, is so exasperating. I had given her a Creative Memories Carry Case, filled with scrapbook making supplies to get started, and three scrapbooks to start with, one with refills. One was a gorgeous victorian one, one was plain navy blue, and the third was a purse sized one, I was thinking to put grandkid pics in. She opened it, and said nothing. I said I hope you like it, I know how creative you are, and how much you love to do crafts, etc., I thought you would create some AWESOME memories for the kids with these! She just said yeah, thanks. *sigh* BIL said he thought it was a great idea. I don't know. It was a letdown to me though, I was REALLY hoping she'd LOVE it!!
Thanks for the support for those who gave it.
I don't feel I need to answer "Jessie" anymore.
How about now I have a bad check they gave me
this morning. I would never try to put into my personal account and draw from that. Went directly to the bank to get $$$$ in hand. You are no longer able to find out if a company has the money to cover an amount by calling but there is a fraud line. I intend to open up another acct - I have an acct there also and really big place. If that check does not clear, then i talk with fraud division about that company. I am still in there swinging. I was told by a furniture salesman that I caused him to lose 3 customers yesterday when I was in there, told him good - my intentions.
I gave my statement sm
just 20 minutes ago and they are going after the owners. An autopsy and toxicology were both requested. The police and the rescue people said there was no reason this should have happened and they will make sure that family never owns another dog. Thank goodness. I feel better now. They are getting much tougher in our area regarding animal abuse, fining and sending people to jail. That poor dog's internal body temperature was 107. Definite heat stroke. Makes me sick.
I say no, my mother-in-law once gave me (sm)
a used salad shooter for Christmas. I opened it and an old recipe she had been using fell out of the box. She also gives away used perfumes and lotions that she decides she doesn't like. I think it's very tacky. Sorry
You said something that immediately gave you away
you said fixin to- I know what that is because I am southern- we are always fixin to do something, right?
Who gave you this info.......
My daughter has several autistic and learning disabled children in her classroom, which is a regular classroom with 4 to 5 added children with learning disabilities. That comment is certainly out of place but where did you get the info from? If another adult, then you should talk with the principal.
I once gave my mother ...sm
one of those long wooden handles with about 3 body scrubbers attached. She used it as a back scratcher and thought it was wonderful. Found it at...almost hate to say it....Wal-mart.
you gave yourself your own answer
You need to move 50 miles and be with your family. I would start packing tonight.
As far as I am concerned, if the cable is off, there is no reason to stay....you are going to be okay!
Were you the one who just gave birth?
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I only gave you the suggestions I had gotten -
You notice I was laughing after the nana r hot and I was pointing my finger no after the 2 Hot that my 12 year old niece suggested.
gave birth later
I was 29 with the first and 38 with the second with no birth defects
Tell him his mother gave it to you! (just kidding) nm
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Mike Gallagher also gave them ...sm
an hour of his radio show if they stayed away from the Amish funerals in Lancaster. Kudos to him. I tuned in for a few minutes, but could not believe the garbage that was coming out of their mouths,
To the 2 posters who gave me info on WW ...
The Points system is the best. I'm joined the online program and keep my points tracker open all day.
Thanks for giving the information you did.
Like you, the strong medicine they gave just does not do
it at all. Oh, he also ordered an injection of cortisone today so who knows? I told him the hard stuff did not work and did not need anything for pain, wanted to find out what was causing my pain and after the trigger points told me definitely my problem. I have gone to a pain clinic close by before and would do that again, returning in 2 weeks to this particular clinic and by then should have started the water aerobics and will ask about the pain clinic. I told hubby tonight the pain there all the time, sometimes excrucating and other times just the all over the body pain like mine is today. Gosh, you would not wish this on your worst enemy, would you? Good luck to you also.
Thank you for those of you who gave valuable info!
I've lived in an apartment my entire adult life and had no idea that a fence would cost that much and all the tools/materials that are involved in building a fence! I got some great info from the majority of the people that responded and truly thank those people :)
I gave up a long time ago........sm
I gave up a long time ago trying to enlighten those not in the teaching profession what goes into this career. Most people who "poo poo", saying the pay is more than adequate, do not have a clue what goes into this profession. True, some teachers in much better communities have it pretty good and they will tell you they are perfectly content with their pay and time off; however, every teacher does not have that wonderful classroom, full of kids that learn and parents that support. Instead, they get the bottom of the barrel so to speak and it's darn hard, the frustration level is much higher, and they feel like they are fighting a losing battle some days, but they push on. They could find another job paying better, but most teachers that stick with it truly care for the kids and want to try to get that lightbulb to go off, somehow.
Called doctor at day 15 - she just gave me (sm)
a higher dose BCP
I gave away tons of paint that I
no longer wanted, someone asking for and told them take all or nothing. They did and it helped me clean out my garage. I saw a trailer someone was giving away -the kind some folks live in. I have been trying to get my hubs to get some free mulch- they have that all the time.
I meant that if a buyer gave him - sm
a downpayment he should have set it aside in an escrow account and held it for closing. If the buyer backs out due to no fault of the seller, then the seller keeps the money and can do with it as they please. No matter what you sell, land or a house, you should always put the prospective buyers deposit into an escrow account even if you are handling the sale yourself without a realtor. That is all I meant.
I wonder that as well. Recently gave my son's ex-girlfriend
a very expensive baby gift for her new little one (b/4 she was even born). I mean it cost several hundred dollars. Never heard a word, not even a phone call. Then she sent me an invite to her wedding soon after...i respectfully declined. Guess she had a stamp for that, but not for a thank you note.
Yes, always gave our kids an allowance.
They are 19, 18 and 17 now. The eldest has had jobs since he was 16, so we stopped paying an allowance then. Younger two get enough money to cover school lunches for a week, plus about $10 spending money. $10 spending is not a lot to a teenager, so when they started to complain, we taught them to budget, save, and work. They started with allowances and a chore chart around age 5. Back then .50 cents and putting away toys was all it took. We advanced it as age appropriate.
They aren't always perfectly responsible with their money, but they've got the idea and have some good financial habits. Our eldest went to community college for a year and paid his own way. Now that he's transferred to a state university, we're picking up tuition, room and board. He worked all summer, budgeted, and was able to buy his books and a new laptop for school.
I think allowances are good teaching tools.
We gave ours allowances, too, until the babysitting and other
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