He didn't see me in it, but he saw my MOM in the dress.
Posted By: sm on 2008-04-15
In Reply to: Before your marriage, did you or did you not.... - CONFESSION TIME!!!
I wore my mother's dress, and her wedding pictures were displayed in our house. So he saw the dress before we were married. I don't think that counts. :)
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Every year they change the rules in those bride books. At my daughter's wedding, which was semi-formal, but outside (????? is this congruent?????) the mother of the groom wore white! My one pet peeve is that the mothers not wear white too! However she is a tacky woman, so what should I have expected? She was given the color scheme and the bride's mother has first choice, was asked not to wear white or pants, but not only did she wear white, she wore pants! May I add that she looked ridiculous because she chose some hippie-dippie flowing cotton things that would have looked okay at a parade or a yard sale, with huge pantaloon legs and wore flip-flop like sandals. (Pain is still coursing through my body from this faux pas 12 years later). But, having done this before more than once I found that at Nordstrom's they have wonderful salespeople and great dresses and they will bring you things to the dressing room that suit you and your budget just tell them basically what you want and what you want to spend. Stay away from bridal stores, they try to sell you "bridesmaid dresses" and will ooh and ahh over you even if you look like a clown and most of the dresses show too much skin or have ruffles and bows attached in all the wrong spots if you are over 23. I took my daughter whom I trust to know me and what I like as well as what looks best on me. Good luck! Hope your new in-laws are more fun than mine! They are still tacky, but then I rarely see them! 
Red dress or no dress.
Having a guest book attendant is popular in the South and is supposed to be an honour. Here is a website with some info but it does say coordinate color somewhat.
Given the circumstances, if she really felt uncomfortable with what you are wearing, I would keep it pleasant, it is after all her day and you might feel the same way if in her shoes. I myself would just explain to the bride (especially if you were asked to hold this position until the last minute)...
"I am honored that you have asked me to participate in your wedding, but since I was not expecting this, the red dress is the only one that I brought with me and I honestly cannot afford to purchase a new one right now. If you are still uncomfortable with me wearing this however, I would truly understand if you would like to choose someone else for the position."
That will leave the ball in her court. If she wants to offer to buy you one, so be it. The choice is strictly hers.
Wikipedia had some interesting info on the colors. Red for auscpiousness meaning luck or promising, and how white was originally for mourning and blue was the color associated with purity.
It should not matter to her as long as you don't outshine her. If anything guests will be talking "bad" about you not her, and in that case I wouldn't give a flip!
How about help her with a dress? sm
The dresses are extremely expensive and maybe if you could help financially with the dress of her choice, that would make her day the most memorable as well as beautiful pictures. She basically needs to feel like a queen.
You could pay for her to get manicure/pedicure, buy her jewelry, pay for picture setting at a photography studio, or school pics if someone else is not, pay for her to get her hair done or makeup done.
Ultimately, you cannot control the eating that day and activities unless you teamed up with her date and coordinated that with him to make sure he could afford a really nice place or pay for it for them.
I would suggest you going down and setting up a time before their prom activities to take some really good photos of them, play ones, serious ones, etc depending on their relationship. Just went through 2 proms recently with my DD and our pics we got are way better than any of the school pics. Sending them to Walmart to be printed as soon as I figure out what I want! Their pic packages are really reasonable. You could even put together a photo album of pics for her for later of her special day. Email me if you like, we have some adorable pics of my DD.
Bridesmaid dress
My cousin is getting married in a few months and is in the process of picking out her bridesmaid dresses. Her dress has cranberry trim on it, so she wants our dresses to be that color and she also wants them to be long. I went to the boutique with her and she showed me her top three choices.
1. floor length satin, strapless with a straight skirt.
2. floor length chiffon and satin with spaghetti straps, also with a straight skirt.
3. tea dress (mid calf) satin with a butterfly beading design, netting under the skirt, bow tie spaghetti straps.
If you were the bride, which dress would you pick for the bridesmaids?
Really, what do they dress like, the Amish?
Or wear a burqa/burka? LOL
Complete with red dress...
Weddings have become such shows...it's ridiculous! I've been to 2 weddings in 2 weeks, neither one too showy, but just money spent on silly little things (no programs!) like bubbles to blow at the bride and groom, which no one was left by the time they left...candies with their names on them, etc. Boy, can't wait til my DD gets married! 
I'm drunk enough now to tell you that you may have my dress,
but you will never have my hat!!!!!
Deep Purple Dress
Bridesmaid dresses in a deep purple. Not sure if I should go for metallics- gold or silver or stick with black? The wedding is in the afternoon in church and a reception at a golf course. What do you think?
Dress code for students?
Our school system is looking at implementing a strict dress code for all students...khaki pants and solid colored collard shirts (basically a polo shirt) but no brand-names are allowed. My children hate the idea..ages 14 and 16. Any opinion on this?
Your dress code is not being followed apparently,
because you yourself state your neice wore shorts too short and your son had to change his shirt. If your school had uniforms, these would not happen. Any disruption, such as having to pull this child or that child out for breaking the dress code or other things disrupts your educational system, understand?
I don't remember my dress size
being asked on any job applications. Are they supposed to be able to tell over the phone? Of all places to say this - around a bunch of people whose employers have, for the most part, never seen them!
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Red dress attendant at wedding
Just got back from vacation and saw the post about bride not wanting red dressed attendant at wedding. Getting past keeping the book part (some know about it, others do not, some agree, some do not) but I am talking the red thing. First of all, anyone wearing red is usually saying LOOK at me. The bride has every right in asking anyone in the wedding party NOT to wear red. This is her day- NOT anyone elses. It falls under the same thing as no one wearing white to the wedding- that is supposed to be reserved for the bride only. Wearing red would be about the same as wearing sequin dress and I guess also most do not know you should not wear black although I see women doing that also at weddings. I think the problem now days is most do not know manners - I recently saw the most outlandish dress for a funeral, bare arms, bare midriffs, very short skirts, capris and/or bermudas. Any request a bride makes for her wedding for her attendants SHOULD be followed to HER liking, not theirs. Any who disagree with this post really just do not know etiquette but should brush up on theirs - try reading Emily Post to begin with.
Jo got married and all we got was this bleep dress!
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The View. Dress or jeans?
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dress mani or pedi
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Why do some thin women dress
like hoes? I'd rather see the outline of a roll through an ill-fitting shirt than see some girl's entire butt crack. That's just NASTY.
Anyone been to a wedding on the beach in Hawaii? Need help w/ MOB dress.
I have already posted this on another board, but I need all the suggestions I can get, and I appreciate any and all help.
My friend has asked me to help her shop for a mother of the bride dress. She really has no idea what she wants to look for, and she has done no looking on her own. We are going to go shopping not this weekend but next. The bride said for her to just pick out a simple dress. The wedding is mid March, on the beach, and they say the temperature is 70s-80s year round there (I wouldn't have known this myself LOL). I don't know the colors they are using yet, but I'm sure she does by this time.
What kind of style should we look for? MOB is 48 years old, slightly overweight but not terribly so, and relatively conservative. Any suggestions? Thanks! Y'all seem to have great taste.
Some Georgia schools have dress codes...sm
and they work with school uniform vendors to provide them really cheaply, around $7-8 for each shirt and each pair of pants or shirt.
My daughter goes to a school with a dress code and it's nice not having the "what is OK to wear to school" discussions in the morning. It also eliminates kids who come from poor families feeling inferior to other kids over their clothes.
RE: Help on mother of the groom dress - see message
I'm only 47 and don't want a "matronly" dress. Wedding is in 6 weeks and I need help. Any suggestions?
single digit dress-size here
oops, well I guess I failed - i have 2 children, although do have second generation middle class values.
A tea-length basic black dress?
What kind of company does your husband work for? Would that help in your decision? My opinion is you can't go wrong with black. Accessorize to make the dress "pop". Nicely of course. Congrats to your husband for his award.
If it were MY child, I'd buy her a pretty dress to wear
You bigots are appalling.
Who's jealous? I'm not overweight. I just choose not to dress
like a prostitute, or someone proud of their anus hairs - lol. I've obviously struck a nerve with you though... Don't worry, you'll grow out of it someday and realize you're worth more than that.
Thank you! I didn't realize they made computer glasses. Will make an appt. Spit didn't wor
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it was a blue dress firstly and Clinton lied
She's mad that you'll usurp her presence in your flashy red dress! LOL..put the
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My above-the-knee little sparkly black cocktail dress! - nm
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Not from CA, but what about a fancy sun dress and a sparkly wrap of some sort for the AC/night
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Will they all be barefoot or wearing flip flops? Would just go for a simple sun dress or sheath,
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I didn't say her decor didn't sound great.
It's not ridiculous.
I would seriously doubt the Christianity of anyone who feels it is okay to celebrate Halloween. It is anti-God in every aspect.
You can only service 1 God and the folly of man and carnality is in direct conflict with holiness.
Thanks - I didn't realize they didn't like the smell of citrus
I have the feeling he doesnt have a UTI and he's trying to tell me something else, but I'll be taking him to the vets to be safe.
I didn't phrase that well. I didn't mean to SM
offend. I think I said that to other lady below!
I wouldn't want to be told that myself. I guess you sounded down. Again, if I offended anyone, I'm sorry.
I'm a channel surfer. Last night watched PBS documentary on Kennedy assasination, then PBS show on Dick Cheney. Yuck. Then watched show on stem cell research to cure paralysis. There were two young woman, both with paralysis, who were so inspiring. Watched another segment on Current about blind people using their voices to "see". That had to be seen to be believed. Anyway, positives offset the negative.
Again, sorry if I said anything out of line.
I wore the same dress I wore for my
senior dinner and for graduation. I met DH after school....ummm....I don't know if he ever seen me in it or not...BUT my ex did! LOL
I didn't say she should sue them. I said that
her sister legally is obligated to pay for it. Me, I would have probably told her I was unhappy with her, learned my lesson and would have moved on.
If I was the sister though, I would have admitted my fault, at least partial fault, and made amends.
Yep, I didn't know that either. Thanks. :) NM
NM
I really didn't know all of this.
thanks
She didn't come with us.
NM
It must be because I didn't owe very much
I had my husband take extra out of his check every year and most of the time it's enough to cover mine too. Last year I owed under $100 as I made more than I planned. I am an IC and use my SS#. I don't remember how much you have to owe for the fine/quarterly taxes either, like Patti stated.
well thank you! I didn't know being in --sm
the 50 year age bracket was young, but I appreciate the comment! Maybe in 20 years I will be able to retire.
I can't believe the mom didn't take him to the ER...
Wow.
No, I didn't know that...but (sm)
I don't have Soapnet...so! But thanks for the update...
Do you know for SURE he didn't
make an effort to see you all these years?
My friend of 30+ was told by HER mother that her father was dead. Come to find out when she is her 20's he's not only alive and well, he's happy to meet her.
It's always a good thing to take what ANYone tells you with a large grain of salt.
As to how to approach him? I would find out where he works and send a letter there - that way it can't be intercepted by his wife. Alternatively, you could call him on the phone, but that option does not allow him time to absorb the news he's been "found" by you.
Provide all your contact information and ask him to at least meet/talk to you once. I would be very surprised if he does not grant your request.
I didn't know that!
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no, I didn't mean all that *lol* - but your one
you said: Why don't we all learn Mandarin?
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you don't know HOW astute a statement/question that is!!! We all will have to know Chinese/Mandarin within the next 25 years or thereabouts....as China slowly takes it ALL over.....the world, that is...don't laugh or think I'm talking out of left field.... - Miami and Broward now offer Chinese and Mandarin classes in college.........the past few years....and then there are those subliminal fortune cookies...teaching us the Chinese or Cantonese alphabet......*ROFL*....but I'[m not really laughing.........
My Hispanic friends in Miami are speaking better English year by year, the longer they are here.....I stay out of the areas where they ONLY speak Spanish.....I'd be lost, as I only speak Spanglish.......Franglish, et al.
Yes, while in foreign countries, we speak their language and they all should be speaking English here but we cannot force it, unfortunately....hence, I learned some Spanish over the past decade and utilize it with English; hence=Spanglish.......*laughs* I think folks need to lighten up about language - we are all the same - we really are - just the amount of melanin in our skin or the slant of our eyes.....we all believe in the same G_d I do believe no matter what the name for G_d is......we all hurt, bleed, and die....it's all RED BLOOD....*grins*
Again, Tolerance........
HAPPY JULY 4TH :)
Of course, and I didn't even say that...
Just saying that not loving animals does not make one a bad person, simply put. I do not agree with the abuse of any living thing...animal or person, but people sure are more passionate about animal abuse than they are about child abuse...can I get an amen???
Can you believe I didn't get to see it!!
Work was backed up so I was doing extra, darn it! I bet it was a great show though. I hate these insurance companies refusing to pay for procedures, especially when someone's life depends on it. What mess. Something has to change, for sure.
I'm not the OP. Just didn't want to see...sm
The thread get out of hand is all. And I see that it hasn't.
Yes you can say what you think, it just sounded to me like you were getting ready to *pounce.* LOL
BTW, it isn't statuatory rape at 16 if they're both 16, so there would be no legal course for you to follow. You'd just have to try to keep them apart I guess. And good luck with that! Ahh, young love...
Ha, really! We didn't
get any T-shirts or anything, but I told my kids they could go to school on Tuesday (out tomorrow) and tell all their friends they went to the fair and got to see Hannah Montana's dad in concert! I've been looking for a good video or clip whee it shows how he used to do Achy Breaky Heart back when my husband and I used to go to his concerts (my choice of course), but all I can find is the original video, which doesn't really show a lot of the way he danced around! My kids are only 6 and 8, so it was really something big for them!
wow - didn't know there were that many of us
born and raised in WV - moved the other direction from you - KY - GO CATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Didn't say that did I?(nm)
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Oh Wow. I didn't even think - this could be
mother Spears THIRD shot at a gravy train. It won't be long before they are pimping the new baby all over Hollywood too.
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