Having a tantrum while hiding behind a nickname is not a sign of maturity. nm
Posted By: grow up on 2009-03-20
In Reply to: Go jump through your window, Chuck. - read up!
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Having a tantrum while hiding behind a nickname doesn't change the truth. nm
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In addition to considering the maturity,
I would also consider whether or not there is someone next door (maybe the bus driver you mentioned) that would be willing to "keep an eye" on him and that he could go to in case of emergencies.
I was a latchkey kid at about the age of 11 or 12; however, my older brother was 14 or 15 at the time and my grandma lived across the street from us.
My oldest son is now in fifth grade, 11 years old, and I have only been allowing him some "home alone" time in the last year. I really wasn't comfortable with doing that until he was 10, but each child is different.
I would also caution you to write down some ground rules and maybe just start out by leaving him alone for 1/2 hour here and there to see how he does. If you're not comfortable with him being home alone, you won't get much work done during that last hour of the day anyway. Good luck!
All this has to do with the maturity of the people
involved. I had actually met the guy I am married to a guy I first met at age 30, 29 years later and married now. Married almost 10 years now and a perfect fit. We enjoy each other and he is definitely my best friend and I his.
In my opinion, it all depends on maturity. (sm)
With the little minds sometimes maturing faster than the bladder muscles, potty training can be very difficult. The little one can tell you when they are "wet," but just cannot control the bladder.
Our grandsons were almost 3 years old (as was our son) before completely potty trained. Our granddaughter (and daughter) was potty trained at 2 years of age. So, the "old saying" may be correct -- little girls mature faster than little boys.
I think it depends on the maturity level more than the age -
My daughter started going home by herself for 30 minutes in the afternoon in 1st grade. We lived in a rural community and only 1/2 mile from my parents home.
However, I did not trust my son to stay at home by himself even when he was 12. It was too dangerous even with careful instructions on what he could and could not do, becuase he would always manage to find something he should not do that was not covered in the could not do's!
Our lab will eat anything, her nickname is "Hoover" - sm
her name is Maggie, just keep threatening to change her name. I don't think I have ever found anything she won't eat. She barely chews as it it, just swallows it whole. She'd do great in a speed eating contest!
It's just a nickname the city was given back in the 40's by
writer & journalist Herb Caen. To reflect the multiculturalism and exotic character of San Francisco he coined the term Baghdad by the Bay, and often referred to San Francisco that way.
My buppy (not a typo, just a nickname) is on my lap right now too.
Luckily he is 8lbs so I can still type, but most of the time he lays on the bottom shelf of the desk on "his towel". I can say "Okay, let's go to work now. Go get your towel" and he does exactly that. We have to spell b-y-e b-y-e or he is heartbroken when we don't let him go with us. Don't just luv fur kids?!?!
I'm 30 and have the nickname of Martha Stewart
if that tells you anything. Yes, I am a minority among people my age but I am also more mature and at a different place in life than most of the people I know at my age. Married, kids, etc. I love to sew, when I have time. I cook from scratch. I make my child's halloween costume. Now expecting a baby and making my own burp clothes, fitted sheets, receiving blankets, and cloth wipes. It's a small part of society but there are still some of us out there! :) I learned these skills mainly from other women in my life during childhood but also in girl scouts. home ec was a very small piece of it for me.
hiding from the MIL
My daughter was reading a book to her grandma. When everyone had left grandma asked me if she had memorized the book. I told her no, she is just a sharp kid. She pressed me further, very concerned. I finally told her the teacher had said she go to special school but we were not interested.
The truth is the teacher said she could skip a grade, but I did not tell MIL that or that teacher has set up a whole advanced program for her instead.
"That is good," she said, Don't want her getting a big head."
Ugh.....
They are hiding behind a computer
They know if they said it to the OPs face, it would be punched. 
I see it on all message boards that I go to. Sometimes the OP is in the wrong but I do think there is a nicer, gentler way to put it.
NOTE: I am not referring to the one below, I have not read it. I am just talking about MB posters in general.
I know, I am wondering if I should just keep hiding (sm)
Hiding from the divorce and hiding the debt. We have seperate accts and if I run out of money I have to ask him for money and tell him what i need. The bills he assigned to me pretty much take up all of my money. I am afraid it is going to make him angry and he will try to punish me out of spite, by taking the kids more than he would have, etc. He has never been around for them but now says he wants 50% custody so he can "get to know the kids". He has lived with them their entire lives, why doesn't he already know them?
hiding money sm
My mom & dad hid money, dad died and mom had a brain problem and died suddenly. It was very unfair, was power of attorney and had a lot of problems. They were not rich, knew they had money hidden but not where, took so much time looking in basement, etc., trying so hard to be sure the next person buying the house wasn't going to inherit it as we "paid" for it by suffering their frugality. About to throw out a very old decrepit table and sister found almost 2 thousand dollars hidden in an unsuspecting drawer. God only knows if they had money buried; if they did, someone else is enjoying it. We grew up in almost poverty and they died with barely enough to bury them. Now you know the new people are certainly not going to say, "look what I found, it's yours." Selfish. Also, money does disintegrate, is eaten by worms, etc., and there could be a fire when all is destroyed. In the yard, unless there are written instructions, forget it!!! If you do tell the kids, then you would be expected to help and should, if they fall upon hard times. What to do? Dunno! Some wrap it up and put it in the freezer, then it's thrown out as unidentified freezer object. We are in a throwaway society, everything will get sheet canned when I die, that I know!
Not hiding my head, in all my years have seen
just too much and do not care to watch any more train crashes. If you lived where I do with the amount of murders shown each and every day on the news, after awhile you just want to watch others news. I live in a place over 5 million people and the onslaught is ridiculous so just watching the daily news is enough for me. There will be no change whether you watch every bit of this or you don’t. I think a tragedy that the news channels gave this killer the space he so never deserved. Therein the shame lies. We have gotten as a nation to want to watch tragedies like this. I choose not to.
It's bizarre regardless of her reasoning. Wonder what else he's hiding?
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Then you must have done a lot of hiding out these past 8 years!
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I do miss the hiding and hunting for eggs
since my children are a little old for that. We hid eggs in neighbors yards (the ones will small children) when we knew they weren't home. We put candy and coins in all the eggs. One of the houses has a big sign on their front door that says "Thanks Easter Bunny". We were only able to watch one little boy look for eggs, but it was so worth it. Happy Easter to all!
sign into IM
What's your crash sign?
Turns out there might be some connection between your astrological sign and propensity for getting into an accident! Fascinating.
By the way, Leo's rule!!!
TORONTO, Dec 13 (Reuters Life!) - Never mind how careful you are behind the wheel or how long you've been driving, the signs of the zodiac may be bigger factors behind your ability to avoid car crashes -- or why you have too many. According to a study by InsuranceHotline.com, a Web site that quotes drivers on insurance rates, astrological signs are a significant factor in predicting car accidents.
The study, which looked at 100,000 North American drivers' records from the past six years, puts Libras (born September 23-October 22) followed by Aquarians (January 20-February 18) as the worst offenders for tickets and accidents. Leos (July 23-August 22) and then Geminis (May 21-June 20) were found to be the best overall.
"I was absolutely shocked by the results," said Lee Romanov, president of Toronto-based InsuranceHotline.com, who also wrote the book "Car Carma" which touches on the correlation between astrological signs and driving ability while doing the study.
Romanov originally wanted to have some fun by examining astrological signs as a possible cause for the variance between insurance companies quoting high and low rates but didn't expect to find anything interesting.
"Now, changing postal codes is far less significant to me than drivers of certain astrological signs," she told Reuters on Wednesday.
Even age, another variable for determining insurance rates, is less of a consideration to Romanov. The cutoff line for being considered a higher risk driver is 24 years of age; 25-year-olds are considered not-high risk.
"I'd rather get into a car with a 24-year-old Leo than a 25-year-old Aries," Romanov said.
Leos, described along with the study results on InsuranceHotline.com/a10.html, are "generous, and comfortable in sharing the roadway."
Aries, on the other hand, "have a 'me first' childlike nature that drives Aries into trouble."
"I wasn't believing in it before," said Romanov, "but I would think twice before getting into a car with an Aries."
COOOOOOL! Sign me up! : )
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Used to have a PINK PIG sign
with our name on it. Two pink piggies holding our name by our mailbox and someone STOLE IT. Can you imagine. My sister gave it to us as a gift. Had to put it outside to show her how much we loved it. Were not sorry to see it go though.
SIGN THE NO PADDLING....
figures, it would be Texas paddling the children......no offense to our posters from Texas......I just somehow knew upon reading further down the page that it was going to be TEXAS paddling children still in the 21st Century. Give me a break......
Nobody can whack my kid, except me....*lol*
You sign yourself as friend, ok if so
then you totally respect your friend's wishes. You do not go by unannounced. Has she said she did not want company? You do not intrude, yes that is what it is by just happening to take something by as another post said to get a glimpse. I had a child who had clubbed feet (not Downs at all like the other said might be), did not even notice but my mother brought it up to me and he is now 40ish and fine, just wore the splints. As far as not answering the phone when husband is home, I try not to make appointments to leave when mine is here, I just love spending the time I can with him. I don’t see mine each and every day so nothing wrong with that or the telephone thing. We are all separate individuals. I would guarantee if you showed up at my home uninvited and as a surprise, I would be offended and you would not get in especially after she has said no visitors! Where as you might have wanted company after birthing, your friend has told you. Why would you do anything less than honor her wishes? Be a real friend.
$28 an hour, where do we all sign up? NM
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Sign language.
I don't have deaf dogs, although I would in a heartbeat without question. However, I have two dogs and I train them with voice and with hand motions as well. Its amazing how much they knew with hand motions before I even trained them because I make those motions subconsciously when giving them my commands. I did this for their safety in public situations and because one is in search and rescue and its easier and sometimes good to have them not only paying attention to you but also to be able to communicate in silence depending on the situation. it also helps because should someone else try to control your dog, they would have to know the signs, much like teaching a dog commands in another language. Its pretty cool stuff really. They pick up movement far faster and with seemingly greater intelligence than the sound of whatever word you are giving. I am amazed everyday at how intelligent my dogs can be. ;)
Take it as a sign of things to come...
but don't make a big deal out of it with either of them or hold a grudge. He will probably treat your daughter just as badly if/when they are married, but she has to figure that out for herself. If you need something done, just pretend she doesn't have a boyfriend at all, and get things done on your own henceforth...and don't give them POA when you are old!
Got hit from behind at a stop sign
Got out of the car and went back to see that the car that hit me had lo more damage than mine. Went up to the car and nobody would roll down a window, three guys all on their cellphones (at that time anyway) so I stood there, got out my cellphone and called the police. Tapped on the window then and found out none of them spoke English. Told them in English not to move. The police came and went back to them, came to my car and said they were all illegal immigrants, was not their car, driver didn't even have a license and was driving a "friend's car." AND of course, no insurance. His pen was flying as he was writing up those tickets in his car and as I pulled out I saw squad cars surrounding the car and I bet INH was on their way too. Didn't feel one bit bad but sure would have if I had damage to my car.
She needs a doc with a sign over his door that sez -
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universal sign
Oh you've read my mind!! Sooo many times I've wished I had a little sign, like a piece of cut poster board taped to a popsicle stick, that I could hold up that says "OMG I'M SO SORRY!!" or "I'M SORRY, MY BAD!" or "I'M SORRY, PLEASE EXCUSE ME!"!!
I made a sign and hung up (sm)
It was just construction paper; one side was red, the other green. The red side had a simple smiley face with closed eyes and a headset on, the word 'STOP' in big letters, and 'mommy's working' below it. The green side had a smiley face with open eyes, no headset, and the word GO, and 'mommy can stop to talk' on it. I put it on a string and hung it on a tack so all I had to do was reach up and flip it back and forth.
I did it as much for me as for them. I was fussing at them sometimes, when they had no way to know if I was merely checking email or working, and I felt bad. So when they see the red sign, they know somebody better be bleeding if they interrupt me! (j/k!) It actually worked pretty well, even before the youngest could read, because he knew which color was "go" and which one was "stop."
We have a bowl in the kitchen for "free snacks" and I try to keep it filled with apples, raisins, bags of goldfish crackers, and the like, and keep juice boxes and popsicles ready to hand in the fridge. I also try to either buy paper cups or make sure the dishes are kept up so they can get water as needed. Most interruptions tended to center around wanting a snack, so it takes a lot of stress of all of us if they know what they can have w/o asking.
Exercise with him or sign him for karate or something like that. Needs to do
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Put up a Squirrel Crossing sign?
:op
One way to keep the squirrels from burying their nuts hither and yon is to give them shelled nuts. I notice they will eat those instead of burying them.
Twice a year I announce it's Kamikaze squirrel season. I think it happens once when the babies are new out of the next and they are completely brainless about cars, and the other is when the tree nuts ripen and the squirrels are blind to everything except finding more places to bury their nuts.
If you like chipmunks too, try putting out a feeder for them with rape seeds (white seeds - cannola seeds, I believe). I think chippers are afraid of squirrels, so put it in a different area. Squirrels won't touch the white seeds, so the chippers are safe to eat them.
A local restaurant had on its sign outside
AYCE DailEy specials...it was there for a while, but someone finally got smart and changed it. This is a pet peeve of mine, too. It drives my husband crazy at times when I start pointing out all the mistakes I see. I saw one on some papers from school, but I can't remember what it was...but from SCHOOL...hello???
When the dishwasher sign says dirty
and there is room in it and everyone still stacks their dishes in the sink!!!!
Four-way stop sign - what is the rule? sm
Every day when I take my son to school I have to stop at a 4-way stop....some days when in my opinion it is my turn, someone pulls out in front of me! It drives me crazy!! What is the rule? I should probably know this but I don't! Thanks
oops...'ARE' the first sign...n/m
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personally I would sign that ban in a heart beat! sm
Having to breathe in someone elses disgusting smoke is sickening. It IS an addiction, as pointed out by someone else, but so is alcohol, also brought up by someone else. and yes, they should be doing more about that, as well. *They* should be doing a lot of things about a lot of things to change the way this world is headed...but then there is the saying *be the change you want to see in this world.*
they have some system now that they can sign up for to track who views sm
their myspace. not sure how it works because i didn't sign up for it, but i see it posted all the time. i view my daughter's friends sites all the time. noone has said anything to me yet about it, but i do communicate with a lot of them on there as they are friends and any friends of my children are friends with me as well. they know i wouldn't going ratting off on them unless it was something majorly in the wrong.
A big sign at a local business that had moved said
Come see us at ARE new location - on both sides of the sign!
Sign me up, too! (Does the Heathen Board accept
If so, count me in.
Is there an age limit on being able to sign up?? I might have missed my chance. LOL
Sorry couldn't resist. I'll never be too old to think that sounds wrong 
I would sign the "no paddling" slip (sm)
I don't punish my children by spanking and they are generally very good kids and do what they are supposed to do. When they do slip up and do something wrong, there are plenty of punishments that don't include hitting them. In general, the children I see whose parents spank them are less well behaved than those who are not spanked. I know someone who punishes her children harshly in my opinion - and they are very good as long as she is around or if they think she can find out what they have done wrong - but if they see a chance to be bad they jump at it. I do think it is an archaic type of punishment and has no place in the world. I say let her do ISS and maybe think of a punishment at home if it keeps happening, like grounding her from a privelege she enjoys or something like that. No hitting!
Anyone that is a member of AAA ever sign up for the cellular plan using
Consumer Cellular with them that can tell me how they like it.
I still occasionally search for the cent sign
on the keyboard. I can't figure out why they got rid of it. Does anybody really need the ~ sign for English? Bring back the cent sign. :o>
or people who do not or cannot read the sign YIELD.
They are nuts here in NJ. I hate to drive. Thank goodness I work at home. The drivers here are CRAZY.
oh yeah, sign me up for my two drunken brothers
After what happened at last years' Christmas party, count me out! The drunker they got, the funnier it was to point out all of the ways I'm a failure: No money, raising my kid by myself, rusty car .... the list went on. Nothing better than driving home crying on Xmas Eve. No thank you very much to that again, which I have made very clear.
is this the 5th of 6th sign of the apocalyse this week? Im lost.
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Or stand there with a sign *drinks on the blouse* - I mean house.....!? LOL
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Humping in dogs is more a sign of dominance than sexual
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Our local ice cream stand never did change their sign
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Classic sign of an abusive is a very , very fast romance - sm
leading to marriage, which it appears you have done. He has successfully isolated you from your family and controls everything you do. He is deciding where you live, what "he" wants to do, work, etc. You don't mentions kids, and I hope you don't have any, but if you do you need to take back some control if you intend to stay in this one-sided marriage. Sounds like you have no say/input at all, it is his way or no way. My DH gives me grief when I visit my family, as do my in-laws, I go anyway. He doesn't like it but he cannot stop me from going. He knows better than to try. He will make my life living hell until I leave, trying to get to stay, but I think only one time did I give in and not go, and boy was I mad at him for quite some time (and myself for giving in). My DH is very passive-aggressive but most of the time I ignore him but other times he gets me all worked up ready to kill him and then he is fine, and I am all mad. Drives me crazy. But after 12 years of this I have learned not to take the bait so much, and have seriously though of kicking him out, though he's refuse to leave as it "is his house" (it is in his name only but we bought it 10 years ago while we were married, so it is every bit mine as his). So if you get to the point when you are sick of his controlling ways, go see a lawyer. I plan to soon myself just to see where I would stand in the event of a divorce. We both have our faults in my marriage and I think it is smart thing to find out what could or could not happen in the event of a divorce. You might want to see what your rights are too, cannot hurt. As for your sister coming, just say, Mary is coming to visit and tough cookies if this bothers you. She has never been here before and I want to see my sister and niece and if you don't like it make yourself scarce while they are here. ---Good luck.
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