Having a tantrum while hiding behind a nickname doesn't change the truth. nm
Posted By: grow up on 2009-03-20
In Reply to: Go jump through your window, Chuck. - read up!
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Having a tantrum while hiding behind a nickname is not a sign of maturity. nm
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It doesn't change
I married a man with 2 grown daughters, a grown son, and a stepdaughter from his deceased wife. We have been married for 7 years and they were 31,33,43 and 35 when we married. They are now 38,40,50 and 42, and things have not changed a bit. They told their father they did not want him to get married, and the next to the oldest told me that I should come to her for advice, as she ran the family and everyone came to her for advice, and the youngest one sat on her stepfather's lap and cried at our reception because she thought she was losing him. They insulted my children, who behaved very well and have always been kind to my husband, and actually treat him better than his own children. I have been insulted in my own home, one of them said in front of me and my husband that "they were daddy's princesses and they would always come first." The son lives in another state thank goodness, and he is what I call a freeloader when he visits. Expects me to wait on him. He takes his father's chair in the living room because his excuse is that he cannot see well and needs that chair closer to the TV, when I actually caught him not wearing his glasses, which is why he could not see!! He doesn't ask his father if he needs any help (my husband is 8 years older than me and he is 70), nor has he ever offered to take his father to dinner when he is at home, until I talked to him kindly and thought it would be a nice gesture. He takes over the TV when he visits, and will not pick up after himself, and this guy is 50 years old!! I have never, ever seen such spoiled adults in my life.
Whew, just needed to get that off my chest. What I mean is that this type of behavior does not stop as they get older, unless the father has a good talk with the children. At 9 though you have to have patience, but she knows how to manipulate her father and girls are good at that. She might just feel insecure and maybe your attention will change that, but I do feel for you. Good luck.
We seek for the truth, our own personal truth. SM
Not everyone is religious. ;)
Our lab will eat anything, her nickname is "Hoover" - sm
her name is Maggie, just keep threatening to change her name. I don't think I have ever found anything she won't eat. She barely chews as it it, just swallows it whole. She'd do great in a speed eating contest!
It's just a nickname the city was given back in the 40's by
writer & journalist Herb Caen. To reflect the multiculturalism and exotic character of San Francisco he coined the term Baghdad by the Bay, and often referred to San Francisco that way.
My buppy (not a typo, just a nickname) is on my lap right now too.
Luckily he is 8lbs so I can still type, but most of the time he lays on the bottom shelf of the desk on "his towel". I can say "Okay, let's go to work now. Go get your towel" and he does exactly that. We have to spell b-y-e b-y-e or he is heartbroken when we don't let him go with us. Don't just luv fur kids?!?!
I'm 30 and have the nickname of Martha Stewart
if that tells you anything. Yes, I am a minority among people my age but I am also more mature and at a different place in life than most of the people I know at my age. Married, kids, etc. I love to sew, when I have time. I cook from scratch. I make my child's halloween costume. Now expecting a baby and making my own burp clothes, fitted sheets, receiving blankets, and cloth wipes. It's a small part of society but there are still some of us out there! :) I learned these skills mainly from other women in my life during childhood but also in girl scouts. home ec was a very small piece of it for me.
hiding from the MIL
My daughter was reading a book to her grandma. When everyone had left grandma asked me if she had memorized the book. I told her no, she is just a sharp kid. She pressed me further, very concerned. I finally told her the teacher had said she go to special school but we were not interested.
The truth is the teacher said she could skip a grade, but I did not tell MIL that or that teacher has set up a whole advanced program for her instead.
"That is good," she said, Don't want her getting a big head."
Ugh.....
in every joke is a little truth and the truth in
this 'joke'(?) is very sad.
Next time try a little harder.
They are hiding behind a computer
They know if they said it to the OPs face, it would be punched. 
I see it on all message boards that I go to. Sometimes the OP is in the wrong but I do think there is a nicer, gentler way to put it.
NOTE: I am not referring to the one below, I have not read it. I am just talking about MB posters in general.
I know, I am wondering if I should just keep hiding (sm)
Hiding from the divorce and hiding the debt. We have seperate accts and if I run out of money I have to ask him for money and tell him what i need. The bills he assigned to me pretty much take up all of my money. I am afraid it is going to make him angry and he will try to punish me out of spite, by taking the kids more than he would have, etc. He has never been around for them but now says he wants 50% custody so he can "get to know the kids". He has lived with them their entire lives, why doesn't he already know them?
hiding money sm
My mom & dad hid money, dad died and mom had a brain problem and died suddenly. It was very unfair, was power of attorney and had a lot of problems. They were not rich, knew they had money hidden but not where, took so much time looking in basement, etc., trying so hard to be sure the next person buying the house wasn't going to inherit it as we "paid" for it by suffering their frugality. About to throw out a very old decrepit table and sister found almost 2 thousand dollars hidden in an unsuspecting drawer. God only knows if they had money buried; if they did, someone else is enjoying it. We grew up in almost poverty and they died with barely enough to bury them. Now you know the new people are certainly not going to say, "look what I found, it's yours." Selfish. Also, money does disintegrate, is eaten by worms, etc., and there could be a fire when all is destroyed. In the yard, unless there are written instructions, forget it!!! If you do tell the kids, then you would be expected to help and should, if they fall upon hard times. What to do? Dunno! Some wrap it up and put it in the freezer, then it's thrown out as unidentified freezer object. We are in a throwaway society, everything will get sheet canned when I die, that I know!
Not hiding my head, in all my years have seen
just too much and do not care to watch any more train crashes. If you lived where I do with the amount of murders shown each and every day on the news, after awhile you just want to watch others news. I live in a place over 5 million people and the onslaught is ridiculous so just watching the daily news is enough for me. There will be no change whether you watch every bit of this or you don’t. I think a tragedy that the news channels gave this killer the space he so never deserved. Therein the shame lies. We have gotten as a nation to want to watch tragedies like this. I choose not to.
It's bizarre regardless of her reasoning. Wonder what else he's hiding?
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Then you must have done a lot of hiding out these past 8 years!
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I do miss the hiding and hunting for eggs
since my children are a little old for that. We hid eggs in neighbors yards (the ones will small children) when we knew they weren't home. We put candy and coins in all the eggs. One of the houses has a big sign on their front door that says "Thanks Easter Bunny". We were only able to watch one little boy look for eggs, but it was so worth it. Happy Easter to all!
Change Your Brain, Change Your Life
I read a book once with the above title. I can't remember the author. He has done a lot of testing (and imaging) and says that often people actually have small amounts of brain damage they are not aware of that cause chronic behavioral issues.
He says that even little incidents of falling off a bike, etc. can cause damage that people aren't aware occurred.
I'm not saying this is your son's case, but I think you will have to keep investigating. Even with those who have damage, they are able to use meds to help the brain compensate for the affected area, which helps greatly.
I'm sorry you are going through this. It has to be awful for the whole family and hurtful to know your son is feeling in such a way to act that way.
I'm sure there is an answer somewhere. I hope you find it soon! - Please keep us posted.
Hey, have at it. If you want a lazy, apathetic, not affectionate, doesn't listen, doesn't make
can reach him!!! Let me know if you're interested.
It doesn't make me mad but it doesn't sound intelligent either (sm)
I am sure if all of those people who were aborted were living, some would be good and some would be bad, in the same proportion as there is good to bad now. Your statement makes no sense. So somehow the babies who were aborted were meant to be aborted because they were bad seeds? Whatever. Sorry, that's just silly.
It doesn't always work that way though - some give but it doesn't come back like that nm
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You cannot change kids. Can only change the way
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Just tell her the truth -
That you do not feel what she does is worth $60 at this point and feel as if she is rushing you out of the chair. She may reconsider her pricing if you have been a loyal customer. That puts the ball in her court. Be ready to find someone else.
Ain't THAT the truth! LOL nm
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It's the truth because God said it? sm
But how do you know God (or Jesus) said it? Everything He's supposed to have said has been *interpreted* by mankind, then *translated* from another language, to another language, etc., and influenced by the *politics,* leaders, and culture of the day... how many thousands of years ago? There are bound to be things lost in translation, misunderstood, misinterpreted (misquoted!).
I'm just saying, it's all been subject to man's interpretation of it (and still is to this day). It can't all be taken literally (though some people do which is incomprehensible to me).
I think in many ways the bible is a beautiful piece of literature, but I also think much of it is fiction.
You can count me among those who are spiritual but not religious (esp. organized religion, whoo boy!), and this is just one reason why.
Interesting topic.
now, isn't THAT the truth.....
Truth is ...
He is being really selfish, and if he ever found a woman who liked that lifestyle, he probably wouldn't like her all that much!
I have an ex-husband who turned our yard into a junk yard and spent his free time fixing other people's things while our place went to heck.
I know how you feel! Good luck.
Nothing else taken with this- a lie or truth?
and eat pecans frequently. I thought perhaps someone from New Orleans could perhaps use some kind of (now this really sounds odd) peppers added that I would normally not use in a pie such as this. This is a new housekeeper and she comes this Friday- I am gonna hate to have her ask how was the pie..Hubby believes in telling a little white lie- I am for telling her what happened to me. She has gone into a catering business. What to do - tell little white lie or the truth?
DEFINITELY tell the truth!
My gosh if this was definitely from the pie and I was the one baking/selling them I would want to know...potential lawsuits, etc. YUCK! Can't hurt to ask her what was in it that might have effected you that way...just maybe say you are worried about a nut allergy but wanted to be sure of all of the ingredients before you got tested for it. I see your point that you were wondering about the spice or something...makes sense now...maybe it was a different type of flour in the crust, who knows...I would definitely tell her so she can evaluate what she has done different at least in that pie.
The truth would be my way
husband is a milk toast type of guy and does not like to rock the boat so to speak. I had nothing else with the pie last evening and noticed I had a funny after taste, such as a, not really burning but strange, thought undertone if that applies in this case. Last night hunting the Benadryl thought if something like peppers they use in New Orleans and I was not used to them. I eat regular pecan pie and this was no where close to what I have had all these years.
Ain't that the truth!!!
If she's that mature, she should have tried the best birth control, which is not having sex at all!!!
Probably the truth is that if they don't
come around, they have a little peace. Every encounter with their mother is going to ruffle her feathers and freak her out. You are a cold, cold woman. Hopefully they are getting some acceptance from their in-laws, if you haven't screwed them up enough to wreck their marriages too.
How about you tell the person you are talking long distance to, "I'm sorry, my daughter is calling, I have to go." Where are your priorities?
i don't know how much truth there is to this
that we will have to claim that money from the rebate on our 2008 taxes; that if it was a REFUND, that would be different. anyone know anything about this? same thing happened with our property taxes "rebate"... have to claim that.... doesn't really shock me though
It is most always better to tell the truth
Especially if they are your friends. If they really are then they will understand, but if they find out you lied to them they will eventually loose all respect for you.
This is a lesson I've been trying to teach my daughter for years.....hasn't worked yet, but she doesn't have many friends either.
I think there is some truth to this
If a young man is very close to his mother, and he looks to her as an example for what women are like, then yes it is possible they look for a girl like Mom, especially if she is a good cook. However, my daughter told my son that the June Cleaver's, from Leave it To Beaver, are about gone, and the girls from this generation are very different. My son was used to my keeping my house clean, having meals at the dinner table at night, chauffering them to their activities, staying up at night and helping with school projects, working 2 jobs to make ends meet, and being a single parent, and I raised my sons and daughters to think that a job was not a dirty word and they needed to help out too.
It is funny though that the girl that my son married is similar in appearance to me, but she does not cook, nor does she clean, but she is a good mother and manager of their finances. My son said the other day that he longs for a home-cooked meal at anytime, and wishes I lived closer, although he has gotten to be a good cook.
Ain't that the truth....
There is no such thing as a cheap horse either, especially in California--what is hay running there now, anyway? Was pricey when I left 3 years ago, so I bet it is much higher now.
Boy, isn't that the truth.
I used to think people who made a point of organic this or that and organic cleaning products were a little kooky. Not so much any more. I built a greenhouse with money I inherited from my mom last year so I can grow my own food and not pay $15 a pound for organic anything at Whole Foods.
If we truly looked at the FDA "allowables" as to what is allowed in mass produced food, I think we'd all turn a little green.
Ain't that the truth, Sylvia?!?!?!!!!
Ain't that the truth! That ought to be regulated too :)
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Just from experience and just the truth
NM
When they ask, tell them the truth. There is a reason they are asking. nm
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I think they are the ones posting truth about ESL &
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You want the truth or a little white lie?
I ate 3 great big peppers and that is the truth. No one else here, hubs told me he does not like. I usually do not cook but decided I wanted some and got all my ingredients together and they were really, really good. Double burp....
I think there might be a nugget of truth there....
Or at least there's something reminiscent.
Not long after DH and I got married, he stood in the bedroom door and just laughed and laughed at me (but in a good way, you could hear the love). Turned out I was sitting up in bed, watching TV, reading and nibbling on a snack — just like his mother did.
(He also laughs at me and the girls when we remind him of my mother.)
maybe she is telling the truth
would you scare kids with that???? There are certain things that should not be discussed with children.
Wow - did you ever tell the truth in that post!! nm
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When to tell your kids the truth ...
So, if you made mistakes in the past, do you tell your kids what you did and still tell them why they shouldn't?
I am inclined to tell my kids the truth about my past mistakes with drinking, sex, etc. I don't think I have a sordid past, but I could have made better decisions. I am not naive to think this might change the way my kids think about me, but if presented in the right context maybe I could pass my life experience on.
What do you think? Would you keep your bad decisions to yourself or let it all out?
If you find out the truth behind this, let me know
I bought a home years ago and found out after having lived there probably 20 something years someone died there and someone else murdered there, so I was told. I was not told anything at all prior to my buying. It seems like an unnecessary disclosure to a potential buyer anyway.
Thing Is, you are going to have to tell her the truth.
I know she is your mom and you really don't want to hurt her (and this will), but you are going to have to bite that bullet and be honest, and do it as soon as possible before she makes any more plans. No, this is not like her coming to your house. This is YOUR family's vacation. I am surprised she did not think of that, so you need to tell her with no beating around the bush. Then in the future, she will wait for an invitation before thinking your family wants to drag them along. It may make her think about a few other things too. This honestly is a hard thing to do but it will be healthy for your relationship in the future.
i totally agree with that. it is the truth.
right before i told my 3rd grade daughter the truth about santa she was saying "but momma, i believe, i believe..." like she was just beggin to believe. it was sad,but she knew that if she believes santa will come
Tell them the truth, you're still looking for a man that's good enough ; )
That ought to shut them up. LOL. It is rude. I'm over 40 and often get the "do you have kids" question and I do not. If they ask why not I say *I guess I've been blessed*. LOL
how about being honest and telling him the truth..sm
imagine how he will react when (and he will) he finds out you have been lying to him. Just tell him. His reaction may be less than when he finds out about a total lie!
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