Have patience. Your time will come to find someone decent.
Posted By: Backwards typist on 2009-06-18
In Reply to: Single MTs - every just get sick of dating? sm - Datig MT
Just concentrate on your family for now. It's a mad house out there. I can't understand the thinking of people nowadays. Some prince will come along sooner or later (probably later). Don't be in a rush. He will come unexpectedly and you will know it when it happens.
It took me a year of dating jerks and then I stopped dating for 2-1/2 years. I found my prince (my ex-fiance), and we've been back together for over 33 years. Boy, was I young and dumb to give him up! Anyway, I will never hit the dating scene again if anything happens to him. I enjoy peace and quiet. Don't need anyone in my space anymore.
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Deserving of decent jobs at decent wages, even
when their industry has been taken over by greedy corporations and MTSOs sending the work overseas to line their pockets at the expense of their employees and patient safety. That's some bad karma, baby...
I agree with this. It can take time to find the right meds,
and you are being very affected by his difficulties, so I think you should go together. Men are very resistant to opening up, but you have a child, so that may help motivate you to try to see him through this. I know you have endured it for a long time, but he is going to need help to come out of this. See if Christian marriage counseling is available; you could actually see somebody alone to get support and insights into helping him in addition to going with him to see his therapist.
I'll pray you have the strength to endure and continue to be his soft place to land as he learns to stand up and manage his life like the household leader God wants him to be.
Patience, Lots and Lots of Patience
First off, she is TOO CUTE! Oh how I miss those days. I have a 2.5 year old Basset boy. He is my third Basset. He was the easiest to potty train, I highly recommend a doggie door. My two prior Bassets weren't trained with a doggie door and I had accidents galore! Once I trained them on a doggie door, no more accidents (they were 4 and 5, so you can teach an old dog a new trick). Crate training is good too, it just takes patience. Basset Hounds are stubborn, but don't give in! I have loved these guys for a long time, they have the best personality.
I just didn't have the patience
After 2 boyfriends and taking time away from my kids for dating, I decided to just wing it alone.
I was 36 when divorced, but realized very soon that it was not worth one minute away from my kids to find Mr. Perfect. They had to be my priority and that's what I did. I made my mistake with my ex and I felt my children shouldn't have to deal with any consequence of that.
They're grown now, both in college and just great human beings, but I don't regret abandoning my search for love for one minute.
I'm 50 now and I wouldn't even attempt to look for someone considering the baggage factor.
The world is open to individuals without partners and many movies, books, etc. to explore alone or with a friend.
I'm not saying you should take this path, but your children are a rich resource of fulfillment. I found that to be exponentially increased without having to deal with the constraints of a really bad marriage.
Another grandma here and I admire people who have the patience (sm)
to deal with longer hair. I think they have so many more options as to wearing it up, down, whatever. Enjoy what makes you happy. Who the heck made those other people the judge of what is appropriate for our age?
Good luck to you. It takes patience, but
you will have better credit. Some people think it's no big deal if their credit score or credit report is bad, but in this economy financial institutions are really cracking down on who money is lent to. I read that GMAC isn't financing anyone whose credit score is under 700 credit score and if they do, it will be at a horrible rate.It's only going to get worse too I'm sure. Long ago I was in your shoes, so I can relate. My DH and I have a credit score of over 800 now and believe me, it's worth it to have a good credit history, it just takes one day at a time.
It's getting decent here.
Finally days are only getting into the upper 70s and lower 80s, so that's a huge relief.
Last I heard we might get some rain today. That's what we really need.
I love fall.
Go for it. Most states cannot even get decent
immigration reform laws passed because of the business lobby. How about we take all the out of work American and have the states and feds hire them as immigration officers? Then they could have decent benefits and there might be enough manpower to hunt down all the hundreds of thousands illegal immigrants and immigrants who do not speak English (what is that threshold going to be because I know some teenagers who are deficient in this area) and then we can process them all (more jobs for OOW Americans) back to their countries of origin. Of course, we would have to raise everyone's taxes to pay for all the salaries and benefits of all the new government employees, the holding facilities, the transportation and court costs. And of course, prices would go up across the board for goods and services that previously used cheap labor, and all those signs in Spanish and Vietnamese and Portuguese and whatever else can be repainted or reprinted in good ole American English, which our kids won't even be able to read because of the rotten public school systems where we had to pull even more money out of to pay for all the additional immigration reform costs. Then we can write all new, mega-restrictive immigration laws and create new testing centers and monitoring laws and now all the immigrant rounder-uppers can become babysitters, or maybe we could just section off part of the country, say....North Dakota...as a holding area for potential immigrants to stay for an allotted period of time until they are able to pass all the benchmarks for citizenship within the designated time frame. We can implant RFID chips in each one so we can easily track them down if they escape. If they cannot meet the requirements and don't freeze to death or get trampled by a buffalo herd, then they are sent back to their home country to try again in 10 years or never. We can then tear down the Statue of Liberty and return it to France.
I thought Sanjaya did a decent job for once
He really surprised me with tonight's song. I didn't know he had it in him. Lakisha has been disappointing me lately. I love Blake, I think he was awesome tonight and so was Melinda. The others were just bland IMO.
We do owe our children a decent childhood (sm)
I know you say it didn't matter to you - apparently your mom did a good job raising you on her own. Maybe you weren't that close to your dad. But the best decision is always based on weighing out a combination of circumstances - it is not the same for every person. While yours worked out well for you and your mother and brother, it doesn't always go that way for everyone. If it was that easy, no one would complain, we would just make quick selfish decisions and not worry about anyone else. The fact that some of us are on here complaining is a reflection of us caring about other people, not just ourselves. It means we are thinking things through and taking time to decide, hearing viewpoints of those who have experienced it for themselves and those who have not. Sometimes you don't know which is worse, to stay or to go - you may be jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire, so staying isn't necessarily accepting second best. It's a huge, big, important decision and one not to be taken lightly. Not everyone ends up as fortunate as you have and we all know it.
Any decent camera shop
that has any kind of processing service should be able to handle the conversion. You might want to call around and get prices. They probably will charge per slide. Nowadays, they'll probably also put digital versions of the pictures onto a CD for you. They can even create a DVD slideshow with background music. My mother had a bunch of old family slides converted some years ago, onto a VHS tape.
Of course, if you want to do it the REALLY old-fashioned way, and you don't care too much how good the prints are... I once set up the projector and screen, and actually photographed the screen, and thus got prints. At the time, I was on such a tight budget, and the cost of making a print from a slide was something ridiculous, and I only wanted the photos for a reference point, so I could see them without having to set up the equipment every time I needed to refer to one.... I'm sure there are much better options out there nowadays. In fact, I should look into it myself....
Pack them a decent lunch. That is garbage.
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kids like your daughter are real and decent; I know many just like her.
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Does anyone have Verizon and also their cell phones. Can you tell me if they offer a decent deal if
you have both from them compared to other cell phones. No sure which one to get.
Find a lawyer, find out where you would stand - sm
in the event of a divorce/separation, regarding custody, house, etc. Custody was my main concern as well since I lied on numerous occasions about the finances. Where I am I was told that would not factor in to the custody at all. I can prove that I am my kids caregiver 90% of the time, I ferry they around everywhere, help with homework, get ready for school, meet at busstop, etc. I could also point out my husband is an alcoholic, self treats his depression with alcohol instead of getting proper medical treatment, has threatend to kill himself (or me) numerous times (though he always says he was joking and did not mean it.....that is his standard answer to everything, or that he never said that). Now I do love him enough to deal with all that because deep down inside my DH is full of it, luckily for me, he has never followed through on anything he says he is going to do. But I thought my confession would be the straw that broke it all and send him over the edge. He still is angry with me, I am sure he will be for a long time, but is keeping it together pretty well, though he has said the stress was going to kill him, now he know how I felt I guess. I am sorry your husband is such a smuck. I feel like a dog sometimes with the sex demands, have to do it the night before he goes out of town....he will be traveling a lot for work for the next 3-4 months, which I am more than glad about, much calmer here then, though it gets tiring for me but as he is not really helping much right now it really won't be much of a change. As for yours going on 5 day weekends.....have you considered having him followed, sounds like there may be some infidelity afoot, and if so that would strengthen your case in the event of a divorce and custody I would think. Sounds a bit fishy going out until 1 a.m. and his frequent trips. My DH fishes too, but he goes 2 miles from here with one of our male neighbors, they shoot the breeze and he gets to unwind some which I encourage. Very rare weekends with a buddy of his, I am talking once every 2 years, which again is fine with me. Start keeping track of all you do, when he is home, where he supposedly goes, with whom, etc. He cannot show he will be a responsible dad if he is never there or never interacts with his own kids. My DH would probably suggest I take our older daughter and he the younger, spliting them up, he has the same perception, the oldest is mine, the youngest is his. Our younger daughter is much easier to deal with, our older daughter drives him nuts and she is only 10. My younger one (8) knows something has been going one though, and worries we will divorce, which she does not want. She is very perceptive for her years. I hope that if you do go the divorce route, which would actually probably be best in your situation, that it all works out for you and you get your fair share of assets, etc. Make sure before you do anything like that you have all your ducks in a row, so talk to divorce lawyer. I talked to one for 45 minutes, cost me $160 but was worth it to set my mind at ease. Good luck.
No! That sounds too desperate. TIME. Just give it TIME. If it is real, then sm
something will definitely evolve. If you like him, flirt back! Don't act desperate because if he DOES like you, then the suspense will just make him want to get to know you more. Trust me on this.
I worked in the medical records department of a hospital when I was single and dated a few co-workers in my early 30s. It was fun. Nothing serious came about any of the relationships.
This sounds like fun - the beginning of maybe something to come....Keep us informed.
Totally agree, get these from time to time since teens...sm
It's a neuro condition, it does not mean there is anything at all wrong with you, it is actually related to narcolepsy, hypnagogic (sp? I just got up!) hallucinations, etc. And I HATE when I get these, it is always freaky, my siblings get this too, at times. I can "go away" for years and years before you get another episodes, so don't worry! I heard that when you are under a lot of stress or are very busy with things that this happens more??? Take care!!
It's time to stop when you or the kid(s) feel it is time, and no sooner. sm
My grandmother (who passed away at the young age of 107 back in the mid 1990s) was STILL celebrating every little holiday for all of her many kids and grandkids, and she would STILL give me a chocolate bunny every Easter, as she had since I was a toddler and even though I was 40ish at the time (and I still delighted in biting its head off in front of her, as I had also done since I was a toddler, which always met with mock disapproval from her).
Don't let anyone dampen your joy in celebrating your traditions.
The very 1st time he talked about killing you, was the time
The guy sounds like a psycho.
Rachael Ray has a segment from time to time
on using the bottom of the bottle receipes (i.e. bar-be-q sauce, peanut butter, maple syrup) and I have used many of her ideas and been amazed at how far you can stretch a dollar that way. Go to her website, it will give you many ideas.
Oh Amy, surely there was a man who "kept" you from time to time..
or you were at least married and had access to money!
It was a great time - I just hate the time we are in now
I liked your post. Thanks for replying It's nice to know other people were raised like me. We seem to appreciate the things we have. Oh I should've also said we didn't have A/C growing up. My parents idea of A/C was having my sister and I wave a piece of cardboard in front of them. HA HA HA.
I just couldn't stand the 90s and 2000s are even worse. I hate all the politics going on today, the world events, the bleak future. The degenerates running around, listening to kids talk back to their parents, girls gone wild, etc, etc. I'm grateful my grandparents and mom are not alive anymore to have to go through this with us.
I love watching old movies and the music of the 40s/50s. If I was alive back then I would've been doing the jitterbug and all those other fun dances. Life seemed simpler and cleaner (even though I've got a mouth like a sailer - guess I got that from my Army days).
I wouldn't mind the turn of the century either. I love the clothing and the simple life. Those are the times when the husband took care of the wife. If I could be transported back to the 1800s I surely would in a second.
Time out and then spanking if time out
If we are out in public however, we do not go home. Spanking right there and then and the kids learn REAL QUICK mom means business. I do not mess around and I have a 17-year-old now that has enlisted in the military and THANKS me for his tough upgrowing. It helped him through basic training.
Well, I have questioned myself from time to time.
I figured this was typical. DD has lots of friends but two real close friends. I guess this is all part of building social skills. I am glad I did okay then.
Same thing happens to me from time to time - sm
if I roll over too quickly. I have positional vertigo. There is not too much you can do about it except try not to move or get up too quickly from a supine position. I have never had an earache in my life either so that has nothing to do with it. I don't ever feel sick from it though, just more of a nuisance for me every now and then. If it keeps happening obviously get checked out, you may have a more severe case, though again there really not much you can do about it, all it is is some particles in your ear breaking loose and that causes the dizziness, etc.
If I had not asked time and time again
for the daughter to ask me are you upset- are you angry- are you in a bad mood- People can think what they want- She is a very intelligent person and my asking to please should be enough. Gest of the posting. Selfish, OMG, that is really a laugh. I have and do take care of others well before my needs- I have given of myself, my time, my finances, the whole thing until, now this will sound selfish- it is my time now. I take care of me now- this is selfish but this is the truth. I raised my family, did all I could (still do for the daughter if she needs assistance which she never asks for but I offer)and now in golden years, me time.
Yes. Next time put a time limit on it., but is there any way you
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Please let us know if you find it...nm
Insert smiley face with crossed fingers here.
How do I find out
where this person has his banking account? I cannot believe a person would just snub their nose at a court action. Had it been the other way around, I am sure I would probably be under the jail as we speak!!
i find that
exercising daily helps and stretching REALLY REALLY helps. sometimes my entire back feels as if i have been beat with a baseball bat. it is hard for anyone to understand unless they have the same condition. also, not eating sugar helps me, especially my joints. i take ibuprofen when i cannot stand it any more and then i take 600 to 800 mg every 3 hours for a couple days. that eases the pain. i do not take any other pain medication.
good luck to you and may you have more and more pain-free days.
cannot find this
Can you possibly e-mail with the info, I cannot access it as given for some reason. Thanks
What will they do when they find out
I would like to think he could find something
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Only way to find out if he is just not that into you.
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Just find somebody else, have
the work done, and then send her the pictures of how beautiful it all turned out.
Be sure to tell her you paid a little more with this company, but it was worth it because they were so professional and quick with their service, but she was no "nice" and took such an "interest" in your welfare that you wanted to show her how nicely the project turned out. :oD
When you find out how to
make $$$$ being a beach bum, please let me know!!!!
Can't find that either!
Someone tell me, too. They said it is above where we post.. not seeing it. Sorry. . I'm havin' a bad one!
Hopefully that find the guy but at least..
they found that little girl and got her out of there.
If possible, see if you can find where she's going - sm
outside. Maybe she prefers that material to what's in the litter box. If she prefers dirt, you might try using that in the litter box to see if she'll start using it again. Then if she does, over time you could very gradually add litter to the dirt until it's 100% litter again. You might also try gradually adding kitty litter to the dirt outside where she's going as well, to help speed the transition along. Might not work but then again, who knows? It just might.
The other thing is, it takes a LOT to get the cat-urine smell out of the rug. Cats can smell much more keenly than we can, and it has to be 100% removed. Not easy. Don't use any household cleaners with ammonia in them, that'll just attract her. After thorough scrubbing, you might try something like "Nature's Miracle" to remove the rest of the odor. You could also try putting a small, inexpensive area-rug over that area, just to be SURE she can't smell it. Or even something like that indoor-outdoor fake grass stuff used for wiping your feet on...or anything else a cat might not want to walk on.
If your kitty's an indoor/outdoor kitty, maybe installing a small cat-door might help solve the problem?
One of mine (indoor-only) is the Queen of litterbox avoidance. Never used the rug, but is attracted to linoleum. I started out her rehab by caging her & "crate-training" her like a puppy, and also purchased Dr. Elsey's "Cat-Attract" litter, which is pricey but helped quite a bit.
She finally started using her litter boxes (she has THREE...), but is still inexplicably drawn to linoleum. Luckily there's not much of it in this apt., so I took temptation out of her reach by putting up pet-gates in front of the bathroom (real fun to trip over in the middle of the night, but heck - it works!), and also blocking off the kitchen (where I, as a non-cook, rarely go, anyway.)
The most important thing is to get creative, and to not give up.
This is the only pic I could find
of me in a dress, for comparison. Of course this was 21 years ago, and my hair was different in this picture, but I still think it shows the difference I'm talking about.
If you find any, let me know
I'm 25 and make more money than average college students. I just applied two places for a student loan and was denied. My credit isn't great (some medical bills on there that were past due but have now been paid), but it's not horrible either. My mother's credit is currently worse than mine, so having her cosign would do me no good. I really think companies are making it more difficult to get these loans (as I got one last year when my credit was worse and I made less money). So, I'm stuck trying to work as much as possible to pay for books and tuition myself. No fun. I wish you the best of luck, I know it's tough. I know when I was younger I couldn't get grants because my parents made too much money. Now that they don't include my parents in the calculation, they say I make too much money.
Sorry I don't have great advice! All I can say is research scholarships and apply for them like crazy!!
he may find his own way out, but
just in case you ever run across a poisonous snake and manage to cut his head off, do not reach toward it. There is a "heat sink" reflex and the darn thing can still bite you.
Trying to find someone...
When I first started MTing earlier this year I had corresponded with an MT named Deb out of Florida. We became friends but she had to deal with some personal stuff and in the interim we lost touch. I'm just wondering if anyone knows who I'm talking about? I'm really concerned and would like to know she is okay!
first find out what you
25 years ago is a long time. I would be very clear about what I wanted before I mentioned it. If you want to apologize to your sisters that is one thing, but if you want him to that is another.....
I also find myself
I think boys just have enormous skulls that are still growing and their jaws and necks are turning into men's jaws and necks also. Just make sure he is wearing his retainer! The wisdom teeth will soon be causeing more trouble!
Not that I can find - however,
you can have your comcast e-mail forwarded to yahoo so you can get a notification.
I cannot believe that they could not find them
especailly as your nephew was in jail! There are records! Or through their passports.
You, as you got so much money, could have employed a private investigator, do it now!
Please let me know when you find something
I got a new Kittie and she has been a terror, into everything. I tried all the different things listed, the black pepper, the orange peels, crinkled up aluminum foil, squirting with water, you name it I tried it to keep this kittie off counters, tables, just from taking over my home. I finally bought the mats that give off slight electrical shock and put a couple of those out. She will not step on those after the first time but she has learned how to skirt around those. My beautiful dining room table now is covered with brown paper and the 2 sided tape so if she decides to jump up there then she sticks, so far nothing there though. Let me know when you find the right thing because I need it also.
I'd definitely find a way to ask
I'd say something about how he looked familiar and ask his surname. You're both adults and whatever may have happened between your father and other women is all water that has long gone under the bridge. He might be just as interested in finding out about his father as you are to find out who he is.
I find it best to take a 15-20 minute nap....sm
when I find myself super-sleepy during the day. It's just enough to perk me back up and works better than caffeine or cold water.
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Just go to their website at www.melaleuca.com to find out about it. They are really great products and you can make a lot of money. Just let me know if you are interested
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