Has anyone ever used online resoureces to help with grief? sm
Posted By: Needing some help on 2007-07-25
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I am having a lot of issues regarding the passing of my mom. It will be a year this fall and it still seems like it was just yesterday. She was not only my mom, but my best friend. I feel like it was a double whammy. She passed suddenly, so there was no preparing...not that you really can prepare. Anyway, I have had people tell me it is time to move on and I should snap out of it. I keep it together for my kids and try to make their days fun and enjoyable, but all I do is think about my mom and when alone I cry for her and the pain I feel. I would like to look for some type of help regarding greif and dealing with it. Has anyone ever used online help to deal with greif? Thanks.
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I am sorry for your grief.
I lose my Belgian when he was only 6 to sand colic, had to have him put to sleep. That was over 15 years ago and I still miss him.
I have 3 old horses that are rescues. I am sure they would go to slaughter. But they are still rideable and very good with children. I love them so much. They are like big puppies and follow me all around their pasture.
Keep saving one at a time!
good grief.
By the way, meant floor above.
I'm not "troubled" or a psychopath. Are you trying to say that if you get stalked by a psycho ex, then there must be something wrong with you? I think not.
Oh good grief.
Good grief...
On Regis and Kelly they showed a picture of her from a newspaper and she had an alcohol ankle bracelet on.
I feel for your grief!
This really helped me find my bearings in watching my dad reject my mom for someone like the person you are describing. No it doesn't make sense... She had him totally bewitched. Mom had be so loving and faithful... It blows my mind how he could trade what he had for something so cheap.
It matters not if cherished friends
On whom I leaned in vain,
Have wounded me in word or deed,
And left me with great pain.
What matters is, can I forgive,
Again and yet again?
Its not have they been true, but Lord,
Have I been true to them?
Twill matter not when evening comes how rough the road I've trod,
If only I have walked with Him,
And led some soul to God.
For when I wake to be like Him
Who saved me by His grace,
Earth's pain will vanish when I catch
One glimpse of His dear face.
(author anonymous)
It shook my faith to watch my preacher dad do something so awful. But but the storms make the trees roots grow deeper. I can't say I like storms, but I'm thankful to find God faithful when nothing else seems secure. Look to HIM! He CARES!!! And above all, FORGIVE your dad. Unforgivness is like poison, as deadly to the soul as cancer to the body. It simply is not worth it to hold a grudge. God will deal with the rewards of the wicked, and I think we can feel compassion when we reallize what that means. How sad!
Good Grief!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Maybe during this time of grief, s/m
John is not remembering things correctly. That would be quite understandable. If you explained everything to your aunt and she is on your side about what was said in the past, then so be it. I would let that drop right now.
Even with Joan dying, your mom does not need to be moved right away. I feel that John should pay the cost for moving her as well. You GAVE them the deeds to the plots, they should be grateful.
I would go to the viewing. But if he does start anything, do not argue, do not defend, walk away. No matter what you say will be wrong. He needs to get through his grief first. Being that you suffer from panic attacks, you should just limit your time there. My DH suffers from them as well, but sometimes there are things that we just have to do.
Best of luck to you.
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Grief counseling before the fact SM
I am under a lot of stress with an elderly mother who has a grim prognosis. She is 90 years of age and has CHF with another recent hospitalization last week. She is home now, but her doctor called me the day of her discharge and gave me a complete detailed summary of her condition and prognosis. I have been more anxious since the discussion with him, although he is to be commended for his frankness and the sensitive way he handled the situation.
I know counseling is beneficial after we lose someone close to us, but I feel I need some help now just dealing with this now. The only way I can explain how I feel is to say I feel like I am carrying a bomb and not able to put it down. I know what will happen and still not able to prevent the inevitable. The nurse told me last week at the hospital that the normal BNP level is not to be above 50. My mother's BNP this last time was over 4600. The doctor told me the same value on the telephone and told me it almost blew his socks off, in his words exactly. They removed 5 1/2 liters of fluid this admission. She also has chronic renal failure. I am blessed to have her this long, but it makes it no easier to let go. I have such a heaviness in my heart. Thank you for listening.
good grief how did you get mean spirited out of THAT?!
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Good grief. That was supposed to be *psychopath*... sm
not *physiopath* or whatever I typed! LOL
Is there a grief support group in your town?
xx
Good grief, they deserve a safe sm
plce to live! They are not going to remember the big house, etc when they are grown. They WILL remember the abuse you subjected them to and did not get out.
Good grief. Do parents not teach their
kids ANYTHING anymore?
good grief! If living in a place sm
with an HOA means living next to snooty people like you, I would rather live next to the renters! You act like a person can just up and sell their house like you would sell a car.
Think I will stay where normal people are and not the hoity-toity snot faces like yourself!
Good grief, I thought it was funny...nm
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good grief!!! I have to go to the store!!! Thanks for the remind!!!
I am trying to not buy so much because I am taking my first vacation in 4 years next Friday, but I think I will have to break down and get groceries!!! GEEZ!!! I want pizza.... YUMMMM
Good grief, we didn't even go to either of my niece's graduations
and they both live here in our town. We love them both dearly and are very close to them but they both said it didn't bother them. They go to different high schools and there is limited seating at one of them. Each graduate only gets 7 tickets and after parents, grandparents, and siblings we really couldn't go. We did go their grad parties and they were more excited about what was in their card anyway. LOL Your husband needs to let his sister know that he plans to have a vacation with his entire family, so it is either go see them a week later, or go wherever you choose.
Good grief - I hope not!!! Mine was not pretty! nm
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Good grief, lost of people get married and don't have children nm
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I have been doing WW online (sm)
You can get a one-week free trial and then it's $65 for a three-month membership, and then something like $16 a month after that. It lets you plug in all your food for points values and calculates everything for you. So far it's working for me, even though I had a little setback, but that was my own indiscretion.
As far as goodies, I LOVE them too, and I have found lots of sugar-free and low carb substitutes such as sugar free ice cream and sugar free soda. They have really come a long way since the old Nutra-Sweet days and these things are truly satisfying now. My husband loves Kool-Aid and he has been making it with Splenda for a long time now, and my kids love it too, and I love the fact they are getting less sugar.
Anyway, WW is a really good program. In fact, one of my docs I transcribe for consistently recommends it to his overweight patients. I personally know several people who have been successful with it. Hopefully I will too, and if you choose to go back on it, best of luck to you!
P.S. Your hubby might actually enjoy the sugar-free, lowfat treats as well, who knows?
online
I have bought bras online from Big Girl Bras and Figleaves. You think a 40C is big? Try a 36H! Not fun.
I can buy these online sm
I viewed the ad online at walmart.com and when I clicked on a particular item it said that it would be available in the store and online on Friday. Yeahhh!!!!
Book online if you can...
And save your confirmation and payment receipt with your tickets. You should receive confirmation in your cabin at least 24 hours before your first shore excursion. If you don't, check with the Purser's office or the shore excursion desk.
I have traveled on Carnivel three times, most recently last month. I much prefer booking tours online instead of standing in line, and that eliminates finding out your tour is booked up once you get to the desk. Online will tell you immediately if the tour you want, at the time you've chosen, is full or not.
Hope this helps and that you have a great time. I love cruising!
Do your shopping online.
I've been doing all my Xmas shopping online for 6 years now. Way better than dealing with the crowds at malls and stores.
Online dating... Have you tried it?
I'm thinking about trying this. What are your experiences? Which ones are the best dating sites? Thanks!
Online dating
Yes, found my husband on Match.Com, dated two years and have been married for 1 1/2 years now. I was very lucky to have found a good honest man. We are in our sixties.
I am an online subscriber...sm
so I can use all the etools, like the point tracker and the recipe builder. You can use the community area without charge, which include the message boards and I frequent them a lot - sometimes for support and sometimes just to chat about things.
ONLINE SCHOOL
Here where we live for the past two years they have had online high school. I don't know anyone who goes, but it sounds like a good alternative. When my kids (all grown up now) were in Catholic school I reduced the tuition by working there for free three days a week. Could you work something out?
There are courses online - sm
I was curious about it for awhile too and almost signed up for one of the courses. We live fairly rural and I know there are three people in our county who do property appraisals. None of them work full time at it because there is just not enough business. If you live in a larger populated area, it might be worth it for you.
Good luck.
ooh I just asked you this below.....both online!!
at the same time :)
Thanks...I looked up online and what I did was sm
picked it up in a very soft cloth and just looked to make sure it didn't look injured. There was no blood but I am not sure. I took the blanket and put it as close as I could guess where the nest might be. I will check later to see if it is still there. What I read says that the mom's come back once a night to feed the babies and to try to put them back in the nest if possible and that she will call them all when she comes to the nest, so hopefully we didn't miss that window and the little girl or guy can be snuggling with mom and brothers and sisters soon. I feel so bad for the poor thing :(
Do any on you pay your bills online?
I've been doing it for a couple of years now and I love it. Sure saves on the ever increasing postage.
I pay just about all of my bills online
And for the same reasoning the cost of postage and I'm usually too lazy to go to the post office to get stamps.
online from walmart
from walmart online:) here's the link: http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=10241585
we got a lil group of us going to do it! U ought to do it with us girl!!! talk to ya in a lil while!
online info
Hey! I found another site!
http://www.bhpublishinggroup.com/lovedare/book.html#moreinfo
Does anyone here have an online store for their
beading jewelry? I am interested in taking a peek if you bead on the side of MT'ing... I love the jewelry but don't quite have the patience... 
Turbo Tax online
I just did my taxes last week on TurboTax online and got the refund already. It was very convenient, but I wish I had known that in advance. I definitely would not have used them. All companies should have to say where they are and who they are. USA!!
why don't you search online? Look also into
other countries' recipes?
Anyone ever buy swim wear online?
I'm having a heck of a time finding a bathing suit anywhere locally (Wisconsin). The only place I see them are online, and I'm a bit hesitant about purchasing because it's a hassle returning, etc. Any suggestions? Goin' on a cruise in December. Thanks for your suggestions.
You may only be able to find them online or by catalog right now.
I find I always need one size larger than I wear in clothes. I just remembered that a store called Newport News always has tons of bathing suits and there is a website but not sure how they are with returns.
http://www.newport-news.com/shop/swim_page.asp?gpcatid=2012
May be worth checking them out.
ya probably could find his picture online
Yes, i thought of this too. They have an online application
a person can download. If they contact me for an interview, great, if not I won't be any better or worse off than when I started.
Ladies, can you buy Viagra online?
My mum plant aren't doing well around the flag pole. Can you buy Viagra online?
yes, they sell it all over online. but what does that have to do with mums?
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no, but online CalorieKing.com worked for me
and i didn't have to change what i eat; no special food to buy. it is $55 a year and has been well worth it. I've averaged 1-2 lbs a week weight loss.
My DS buy material online for her company. Just
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We did ours online and got it back within a week.
We have always done it online because it's so much faster than the mail.
Also, I have email friends who are online only (sm)
People I have never met and don't really give a lot of personal info about myself - have to be careful. But there are MANY lonely people out there. I have met lots who work at home and just want an email buddy to talk with some during they day. You can answer or post an ad in the platonic section of Craigslist. Also a few years ago I met one of my now best friends through Exercise Buddies. com. She also works at home and we both wanted a walking buddy - it worked out great.
Anyone tried Weight Watchers online?
What's it like, what's it cost, did you have any success?
You got this at a Walmart store or online?...nm
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