Hanging around your house (as long as
Posted By: sm on 2008-11-26
In Reply to: Question Re: Teenagers - Frazzledmom
you are home) I do not see as a problem. My daughter is 14 and really the only place I let her go with a gruop is on church outings where I know they are supervised. She does have a male friend that hangs out here (same age) at times, but I am always around.
As for hanging out at a pizza place, there are probably older kids there and I would be a little leery of that.
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Hanging out at your house is a good thing
as long as you are there. My house became the hang out house, and it was hard, especially when I was trying to get my work done. But I knew where they were and could step in and keep things under control when necessary. I don't have any daughters, and from what I can tell, it seems that I got the easier job in raising boys rather than girls. I had a "rule of 16" which meant my sons could not date until they were 16 years old. Boys don't really seem to fight this so much. My oldest didn't have a steady girlfriend until he was 18. My youngest was 17 when he first started dating. I also had problems with some of their friends being just plain rude. They'd swear, never say please or thank you, and just generally act like snotty brats at times. That wasn't a problem for me. I corrected them and taught them manners. I used humor, which again boys seem to respond to. Usually, when we had girls over who acted that way, the boys were quick to correct them, and I didn't have to step in myself.
As far as going out, my boys did go out to hang at the local pizza parlor in mixed groups when they were 13. I never had a problem, but they were held to time limits.
I think it's nice that the boys are having lunch at your house with your daughter. It costs a little more to feed your daughter's friends, but you have them there in the house. Be friendly and relaxed, but insist on polite behavior in your home. Surprisingly, most kids will actually gravitate to the house with that sort of atmosphere. Your daughter may give you some grief about not being allowed to do what everyone else is doing, but that's ok. Your job isn't to have her agree with all of your decisions. Your job is to do what is best for her. I think having the boys over while you are at home was a very good compromise. If it happens again, you can always say, "You know, I'm pretty hungry, too. How 'bout I have some pizza delivered. I can order extra and you can invite some other friends over, too." Good luck!
I'm hanging
Getting a little drowsy though. If I gets too bad, will have to let my supervisor know I'm going down for a nap.
I can't believe the poor poster above only got Advil. I was taking Advil like candy over the weekend and it got to the point that it wasn't doing anything.
hanging out with other
Over the course of a long marriage socializing with other couples comes and goes depending on how much spare time you have to socialize.
If you are with someone who really does not like to socialize "at this moment" I would suggest a night on the town just the two of you. Then you get to go out, and he gets to reconnect with you and you may find him more interesting if you are not distracted by the other people and just have fun together.
You can also try hanging a bell...sm
On the doorknob of the door you let the dog out of if you don't want them to scratch the door. Then teach them to lift their paw to hit the bell as a way of them letting you know they need out (or they can touch it with their nose to make the noise if you'd rather they do that).
Just lift their paw up and do it for them at first, praising them and/or giving a tiny treat each time, then open the door and go out, and pretty soon they'll figure it out.
One of our dogs figured it out a little too well, and he was soon hitting the bell again and again, very loudly and impatiently every time he just wanted out just to play, so we didn't leave the bell up for long after he was housebroken! LOL
I also agree with the crate training advice you were given. Crates are wonderful tools as long as they're used responsibly. A crate for a dog is sort of like a crib for a baby, IMO.
You also might want to consider something called "clicker training." I'm not an expert on it, but I've done a litte bit and it's fun. (You can use it to train your cats too, BTW!)
Here's a really good article I found for you on housebreaking. It's for puppies and older dogs:
http://www.clickerlessons.com/housetraining.htm
Best of luck with the training. Enjoy your new addition to the family, and please give updates! 
Well don't leave us hanging - let's have it!!! nm
I'm glad she seems to be hanging in there.
I'm sure she was relieved to see you and it did bring her comfort. Maybe she will get used to the tech if she'll just stop poking her, poor baby.
Agree with hanging it outside....
My daughter works in a restaurant that is full of smokers and when she comes home, her coat smells like a french fry rolled in an ashtray - and she always hangs her coat right next to mine. Don't think so - it goes right outside overnight and by morning, the smell is almost gone.
I also LOVE to hang my sheets out when there is a chill in the air. They always smell so much better than when I hang them out in the summer. Have no idea why, but they do.
So, what happened ~ don't leave me hanging!
I think Logan was going to ask Loralei if he could marry Rory, but I'm more interested in what is going to happen with Luke and Loralei, even though he was such a jerk last season.
well I have the feeders hanging in a tree
but now that the leaves are gone, he has full view and can take his pick. He must realy like the finches, because he has been picking them off my finch sock and practically taking the sock and all (must get his toenails caught). I feel bad, because I feel I'm luring the birds out to the feeders and then they're actually becoming a meal themselves. Maybe I will look into planting some holly bushes or something thick that stays all winter and he can't get into. May not look too pretty in my front yard though. I don't know what else to do.
I totally agree and I am hanging onto
my 95 truck which has too much new stuff, too, but it is paid for. This stuff worked just fine before. wonder where you are? my sister is a pilot, but I think your husband is safe, she has a mechanic already!
And your point is what? I've been hanging out SM
with Sarah Palin and she has all kinds of tips. I hear moose if pretty plentiful and one or two should last you through the season. You might have to charter your own private plane, though.
Happy hunting!
Might try hanging garlic cloves from the branches, - sm
but then again, it might just keep the people away, too!
(On the bright side, at least your tree would be free of vampires.)
Yes more of a stomach bug. Just keeps hanging on. Pains and cramps and just not feeling well. nm
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You can grow tomato plants upside down from hanging pots, too.
s
Need help with ideas for remodeling house and decorating. We bought a house
in fair condition about 10 years ago, got into some medical problems, and have just now paid off the mortgage. Hubby and I agreed we would do nothing to the house for remodeling because we wanted to pay it off first, then the medical bills. I need to know of some websites/magazines/books to start researching for how to go about this. These will be major repairs - roof, septic, basement, windows, pretty much everything except wiring. Where do we start? Maybe hire a general contractor just to do an evaluation and give us recommendations? Hubby is a handyman but cant seem to get a handle on where to begin. We would like to do as much of the work ourselves as possible - labor of love and all that...
Thanks for any and all kind suggestions!
Depends if it is long with pregnant pause um no. If it is long and juicy like an op YEP! Short ones
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I had it during my pregnancy a long, long time ago. Husband
aa
How long is too long to wait for Pap results?
This is a follow up Pap for an abnormal one a few months back. I have waited for the results for over a month and have called the office once. Any advised about being a patient patient - LOL. Its hard when your in this business, I think anyway, not to be more aggressive about stuff like this.
We have a house and
who want a dog. I'm not a cat fan and we can't have an outside dog b/c we live in a development (and I don't want a dog inside). Rabbits are quiet and cute. Thanks for the insight!!!
Get a job in house
Again you knew what you were getting into when you signed on. Also some MT's in our hospitals do have to work holidays. Some of it is covered by those that chose to "work at home" but again they knew this when they took the job with being able to "work at home."
Well, not in my house!
lol
House. nm
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Do they have a dog house?
I definitely agree that she should take the dog inside, but if she absolutely refuses maybe you could buy her a well-insulated doghouse so at least the animal will have some protection from the cold. Animals have survived cold temperatures for years, but they need a place that shelters them from the cold, and she needs to provide that for them!!
I feel for you - vegetarian here :) One of the big reasons I lost respect for my ex-best friend was the way she treated her animals. She was always buying dogs and cats and then leaving them at the pound or pawning them off on people. It really made me think less of her, because what kind of person does that! She also won't admit she did anything wrong! arrrrgh! It drives me crazy when people don't take proper care of their animals. They are a big responsibility - not just a cute puppy to show off when it's convenient. I hope your daughter straightens up, but again, if she doesn't I highly recommend purchasing a good doghouse for the poor dog!
i want to eat at your house
I have a cookbook from LA Leche League - Whole Foods for the Whole Family. many good recipes. don't know if still available, bought 12 years ago. Many ethnic recipes on-line to try.
Get him out of the house
This kid is angry at you. He is going behind you undoing everything you do. He wants your attention, even if it is negative.
He needs kids his own age - he may be a number to the day care people, but he'll be a real kid to the other kids and will make friends.
Get him into something you can afford, even if it is just the 2-hr a day program. It will work wonders for him and for you.
Good luck - let us know how it goes for you.
S/L you are carrying a huge load. Home schooling sounds great, but when you're working another job as well, it can break your back. Maybe you and the husband need to reassess how you are doing things. Do the home school classes when the DH is there to help out, or whatever takes the stress out of it for you.
Your cat looks like it ate the house!
Beautiful!
have them to your house? or -
talk to all about it, best policy. bet they understand - haven't they been there? they all might settle for a drive by later for coffee and desert for t-giving...or some other type of compromise.
That's every day at my house :)
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the dog house - sm
Girls, has your hubby ever gotten you a "practical" gift that you did not appreciate? This video will put a smile on your face! Enjoy the lighthearted fun. 
http://bewareofthedoghouse.com/video.aspx
You just described my house
I chuckled reading your post. I have 9 - yes 9 - cats, three of whom are kittens in the range of 7 months old. I got them all about a week apart and they're each about a month apart in age. They are refugees from the neighbors really bad decisions.
Nothing in the house is safe any more. All of my bigger plants are now in hooks on the ceiling - the smaller plants were already there. It looks silly, but it works. There is nothing left on any flat surface. It cracks me up when they get going and chasing each other. My house is very cat friendly at this point. I made the choice to put the good furniture in storage for now and I have washable furniture. There are cat beds everywhere. My office shelving unit is more cat bed than it is storage and I have 2 beds on the desk beside my computer.
Yes, I am the crazy cat lady.
This is always a hit at my house
Rotel tomatos
Velveeta cheese
taco-seasoned ground beef
Brown ground beef and add taco seasoning (as in making tacos). Melt Velveeta and Rotel in microwave; add meat mixture. I transfer to a crockpot to keep it hot. Serve with corn chips. This recipe is made with 1 lb ground beef, 1 packet taco seasoning, 1 small can Rotel, and half of a big block of Velveeta. Of course, you can vary it to the amount you need to serve.
House
Love the show, but I missed it...what happened?????
Dr. House would say to see a
However, the suggestion to check out the truck/car for carbon monoxide exhaust is really intriguing. Does he get a headache while the wavy-thing is happening? CO poisoning also causes a killer-headache, I've heard.
I'd also look at what he's having for breakfast and what time he's eating it, in case there's possibly a blood sugar connection. When my blood sugar drops, all sorts of crazy symptoms start happening. Doing a glucometer, I'm always below 80 when that happens.
I really think the beer intake the night before is not relevant at all. Amusing though!
Dr. House would say to see a
However, the suggestion to check out the truck/car for carbon monoxide exhaust is really intriguing. Does he get a headache while the wavy-thing is happening? CO poisoning also causes a killer-headache, I've heard.
I'd also look at what he's having for breakfast and what time he's eating it, in case there's possibly a blood sugar connection. When my blood sugar drops, all sorts of crazy symptoms start happening. Doing a glucometer, I'm always below 80 when that happens.
I really think the beer intake the night before is not relevant at all. Amusing though!
Did I mention that my
license to practice medicine
without a license
was revoked for malpractice!
*giggle*
House
Ya gotta love him though!
How long?
Crap, havent heard- 1 hour this week or 2 like last week? Thanks
as long as a dog
is in its carrying bag, he is in his space, not yours. Some dogs are sooo tiny, it is not even noticeable. I know of people who use doggie strollers for such places. Frankly, I am leery of people who have this kind of attitude.
I don't know what took me so long.
You can actucally understand the words and there is a definite meaning to the song. Although, when I put country on my hubby and kids say "my ears are bleeding". Oh well, I work for an ENT, I can help them out. LOL
Wonder how long this goes on. nm
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In the long run they say it's the same or
possibly cheaper to sod. But yes, the initial cost is a little scary compared to the first treatment with seed. But seeding can be never-ending, especially if you don't water enough. We should have done this in the fall, but that's when our dog was so ill.
But not for long
The poster below really gave some good advice. The behavior she describes is "him" to a T. I actually had almost forgotten about him until the Lacy Peterson story came out. Scott Peterson looked so much like him it creeped me out. Good luck.
Thank you so much - it's gone on so long (sm)
What are the traits of a passive-aggressive person?
I do believe my weight is a symptom of my marriage. It all started right from the beginning - I was fairly attractive back then and got asked out by men all the time. Yet right after I got married, there was this weekly lunch with his coworkers where all the guys and their wives/girlfriends met for lunch - he told me that I could not go because, "I'm not exactly proud of you." I don't know why I stayed at that point - there were no children involved yet - but I just felt like I had to try to make it work.
how long has it been
that she has cancer? She is probably trying to give you comfort as you give her. She is a sweetie.
so, how long did it take and
does he have to continue the medication to keep away the urge?
I went through this myself not too long ago -sm
Definitely keep up the salt water gargles. I used warm water with mine. Something that gave me nearly instant relief was Chloraseptic Spray. Hope you feel better soon!! 
How long does it normally take to get
labs processed? Dr's office took lots of blood this morning to check everything, glucose, lipids, etc and said she'd call as soon as the results come in. What's a "reasonable" amount of time to wait?
How long have you had the cat?
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this is long
I went through this with my son, who is now 24 and drug free. Take your daughter to therapy, and anything else you feel necessary, if for no other reason than to assure yourself you have done everything you can. Try getting together with the parents of some of her "friends," (she doesn't have to know you do) and just try to keep one step ahead of her. I used to look around my son's room to see what I could find, any pot - I threw it away. You just have to keep telling her, you are not the enemy, you are on her side. It is very hard to go through, I know, but they do come out the other end and you have your child back.
How long has this been going on?
How long has your mother had this type of behavior. It sounds like these symptoms; inappropriate behavior, saying things without thinking about them first, might be a signal she has some sort of neurologic problem or the onset of a form of dementia going on. You might notice if your mother has been forgetting things lately, seems detached. If this is not her regular personality, and this is something new for her, then I would gently talk with her and ask her if she is worried, under pressure, or sees anything wrong with how she acts. She might have to see her doctor. My mother exhibited these signs and symptoms around age 60, and then later was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. However, if her memory is good, she is coping with daily life and is able to handle things on her own, she needs a wakeup call. Her behavior in front of your daughter is inappropriate.
ALL OF THE ABOVE...sry a bit long lol
My children and I have been "cleaning toys" if you will and weeding out clothes to give away on freecycle. We put 3 bags of toys and 1 bag of clothes out there and they went to a very deserving grandma and grandpa who just took in their 4 & 6 year old grandsons. I am trying to teach my boys that it is not all about the gifts you receive, they are 3 & 9 so it is a bit hard to do with all the commercials and my 3yo wanting every last thing he sees. I let them decorate the tree after I put the lights on and they have a blast. We celebrate the birth of Jesus and attend church. First on Christmas morning we discuss the meaning of Christmas and the birth of Jesus and they enjoy going through our boooks we have about that as well.
I think so.....but it was so long ago- nm
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