Hang in there and stick with it, be consistent, .just like children.....
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Me too hang in. sm
I have terrible anxiety too. Being an MT, I am sure you know that anxiety/depression go hand in hand. Here is how it goes with me: I worry myself into an exhausted state of depression, one in which I could sleep around the clock. I am on Zoloft. I don't like being on medication either, but it is better than what I call going into darkness. I will be starting yoga very soon, as I think that will help me.
It took awhile to find the right med for me. Good luck to you.
Hang in there!
Hey, you just need to hang in there. I've been thinking a lot about you today and the whole situation. The fact is, you'll never know what he is doing 24/7. Like I said before, you just have to hope that his upbringing is deep rooted in there somewhere and he'll have the sense to know right from wrong. He will make mistakes in his life journey and you have to let him make those mistakes so he can grow as a person. I'd still take the car away. That is how he will learn the consequences of what he has done and when you do give the car back, he'll be more appreciative of having it. If he was paying for the car himself it would be a different story, as one writer posted. I'd just hate to see him lose his scholarship. I mean, how many people get that opportunity. My son went to the army to get money for college because we could not do it ourselves financially and he did not want to have a bunch of school loans to pay back when he was done. But to get a scholarship like that is just such a gift, I hope he doesn't blow it. Maybe mention that to him, how hard it would be financially if he had not received the scholarship. A lot of kids don't get to go to college because of the cost and are stuck in dead-end jobs. It'll all work itself out, don't worry.
Hang in there!
How about just taking 1 day off as a "me" day. That would not dent the 40 hours much. You would be surprised how a day of rest and away from the computer and transcribing would free your spirit. Do whatever your heart desires. Or do nothing. A therapist once told me that if you don't fill yourself up from time to time, you will become all worn out. Filling up means doing something just for you. So do that something just for you. And if you get too worried about taking the PTO just call in sick and make the lines up later. But don't stress. You'd be surprised how 1 day off now will make a difference for the rest of this stressful holiday month.
Good luck. There are many of us like you who understand. We are worn out too!
just hang up
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Hang on to it!! LOL! NM
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and you can also hang one
ol-timey style over an open fire (or in a fireplace)or on a wood (box) stove. We also have one of those double-sided screen things that you can put steaks (any meat/veg) in and cook over fire.
Why don't you just hang out with
your older sister that you enjoy being with? Simple as that. Nobody is forcing you to feed your sister's cats. You probably just want to get along with everybody which isn't always possible. Just don't answer The Witches of Eastwick's phone calls or have contact with them. You sound like a very nice person but maybe too nice to your sisters and they take advantage of you. Remember, nice guys finish last and start getting a little tougher. Don't feel guilty if you chose not to have contact with your sisters. It sounds like you worry too much about what your sisters think of you. Go a week without talking to them and see if your self-esteem improves. Your sisters sound very toxic.
Good-luck and let us all know how you are doing.
Hang in there...
Just as an aside -- a girlfriend of mine was in similar situation and had him removed after years. Her kids were grade school age. Couple days after he left, kids were doing their homework at the table and the daughter, 8, said it was so quiet in the house. The boy, about 10, said "yah, this is what peace sounds like." Blew me away to hear that. I truly hope your house finds peace and you are able to take a deep breath and know what your day is going to be like - peaceful without him. Best of luck and good thoughts.
Getting the stick and then you said
beating with a stick. I would think you are probably overstepping your boundaries. He could change his mind between today and tonight and this "beating" or "getting" the stick might not materalize. Have you actually seen any signs, etc. of abuse?
You hang in there - been there myself
I quit on May 5th 1985 at the stroke of midnight. Just was tired of paying money to keep funding the habit. Plus everything I owned smelled like cigarette smell. I got through it by eating red licorice. I would hold it like a cigarette bite both ends of and pretend I was smoking. That helped, plus living with someone who didn't smoke. the cravings lasted a long time. I don't remember how long but I got over them. Every time I wanted a cigy I'd get my mind on other things.
So just hang in there and soon you will be over it enough for it to be bearable.
Good luck and congrats.
Hang in there!
I've been where you are. That's one of the hardest habits to break. You're doing great. Every time you think you want one, just picture yourself walking into a room full of new people and not smelling like cigarette smoke. Or imagine how good food is going to taste once it's all out of your system. Or imagine how good you'll sleep 2 weeks from now.
You can do it! We're rooting for you. 
Hang in there!
First of all, he's reaching puberty and has all that to deal with. Second of all, while dad wasn't great to live with, it is probably still very hard on him to deal with such a big change. He could be having to really face the fact that dad isn't who he wants him to be, and that's so hard on kids. Even when divorce is wanted by all parties, it is still a very sad situation. Lost dreams of a "normal" life!
I have been separated/divorced from my ex-husband for 11 years now, and my 14-year-old daughter still has trouble dealing with the break. My ex rarely calls them, always lies to them, and constantly disappoints them, but she still worships the ground he walks on and treats me and my husband like total crap most of the time. My husband has been around for 10 years, since she was 4, and has tried so hard to be the father she wants/needs, but she won't let herself accept him as her father. She knows her father is a huge disappointment and not who she wants him to be, but she just can't accept it.
I wish I had better advice for you, but maybe it helps to know that it's not just you going through it. Just stand firm on your rules, compliment him on his good qualities, and show and tell him that you love him every day. That age is a hard time for children anyway and then adding divorce on top of that makes it even tougher. I doubt he even knows why he is acting the way he is --- he's just dealing with so many hormones and emotions that he isn't himself.
Just keep doing the best you can and hopefully things will get better soon!
Good luck and God bless!
Children having children not a new thing, where do you live?
My son, who is now in his early 40s, told me years ago when in high school about all the teenage mothers that were at his school and said they brought the babies to school, and he seemed to think it was like the girls having playdolls like when you were little. This is not new and apparently folks think alright to have their children sans marriage, be it preteens, teens or adults. I guess my years alone do not make me shocked at anything anymore. Others talk about this job being isolated and your post says some of this if you were shocked at what the son said.
OK. I have to stick up for Wal Mart and here is why: sm
Wal Mart is NO different than any other department store or retail store on the market today. Why do people think that you CAN raise a family while working as a cashier at Wal Mart? Or a greeter? You can't. Just as you couldn't if you were a cashier at your local grocers. These people are there to ring up our products, take our money, etc, just like any other cashier's job. You can't raise a family on a salary like that ANYWHERE so why is everyone blaming Wal Mart for low wages? The last I looked our local grocer was hiring for 7.00 an hour and that is 1.50 less than what our local Wal Mart pays.
Second. Health insurance. A company that is privately owned DOES NOT have to offer insurance for it's employees. Hence, again, go look for a company that does offer it if you need it. Don't blame Wal Mart. The employee has choices. They can work somewhere else. It is expensive!! If they offered its employees ALL of these benefits people keep crying about then guess what? They wouldn't be Wal-Mart anymore. They would be called Wal-Mall because that's what would happen to their prices. They would go WAY up! And then I wouldn't be able to get a loaf of bread for 87 cents. You get the picture. Wal-Mart does a lot of families very GOOD. They dont' have unions because unions cost a TON of money. Once again, they would have to raise prices enormously if they were to form a union. I don't want that. I don't need a Wal-Mall, I need a Wal-Mart.
So, to drive my point in further, let me sum it all up for you: 1. You aren't supposed to earn a living working at Wal-Mart. If you have to raise a family, get an education or a better paying job and don't blame Wal Mart for paying wages that your local grocer or department store pays just because you think "they can afford it." 2. If Wal Mart starts offering insurance to all employees, form unions, etc., then Wal-Mart would be just like our competitor here in town, Publix, who drive up prices 40 to 50% so that they CAN pay their employees health insurance, etc., which is fine - that is their business. But I am smart. And given the choice of paying 2.50 for a loaf of bread or 87 cents, I think the latter is a much better choice for me and my family.
If your convictions stop you, then don't shop there. But Wal Mart is just too good a thing to pass up for millions of families.
I will say this in contrast, though. I don't always go to Wal Mart because I hate crowds. I do occasionally shop at our local Publix as I find them friendlier and more convenient. But, I always spend a lot of money and don't get nearly as much for my money except maybe peace of mind.
Hang it up Beyonce
I think she needs to hang it up - with Jennifer doing such a great job - there is no competition there - Beyonce could not hold a candle to Jennifer's booming voice. I do believe that she is out and Jennifer is going to be the "next big thing". So long Beyonce - Jennifer is much classier, as well. Thanks for being yourself and showing up Beyonce - even with Jay-Z on her arm - Beyonce is a has been - and thankfully so - she is a poor role model for our young girls.
Scounces, how do you hang these?
I saw some really pretty ones on Craigs List but I have never had and wondered how they were hung? Thanks.
I agree! I'd rather stick with...
Weight Watchers and exercise.
The key is to find something you can stick with....
....for the rest of your life. I think lasting weight loss is about making lifestyle changes you can easily incorporate into your life and live with for the the long haul, including healthy food choices and exercising. I am not familiar with Calorie King or Kimkins, so I can't say what kind of programs they are, but fads are not the way to go, IMO.
Good luck to you, though. Losing weight is a big committment and really not a lot of fun. I've been on Weight Watchers and have lost 11 pounds so far. It's taken awhile, but I didn't gain all the weight overnight, either. Slow and steady.
Hang it outside. If it's a little chilly out, sm
the cool air will freshen it right up and it will smell absolutely fabulous.
Good for you and hang in there!
 Love your own community service idea! Sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders and are a strong anchor for your son. I hope things start to turn for the better for both of you. Take care of yourself!
Stick and stone...seriously! sm
My dad worked with a guy who named his boys stick and stone. Didn't believe him until one day I was working at a shoestore and was fitting some kids for their shoes and mom said, "stick and stone, get over here and sit down!" I about died! I had to run to the back room real quick to hide my laughter.
Sorry but what is stick? I do like how modulars look - don't know anything about them though (nm)
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Stick Vs. Modular
I think stick means a house built completely on-site with 2x4 lumber from the ground up. A modular is a house built in sections in a building somewhere else and then the sections are moved to your site and put together there. All the modulars I have been inside seem to develops cracks in the walls and ceilings as the house settles over time. Just my opinion but I think stick will give better quality overall, thought probably cost more. But I have seen extremely nice modulars when they are new.
Whoa...hang on a second
To say not to get married is a huge statement. I've been married for 20 years to an awesome man. All men are not controlling, manipulative, insecure jerks. I have my own mind and I use it, my husband does not tell me what to think, how to act, etc., just as I don't do that to him. We are one in marriage, but still our own person. Marriage is a wonderful, beautiful thing when done with the right person. I am grateful I'm not single from what I've heard of the dating world lately, not much good out there to choose from (all the good ones are taken...). Marriage is not about becoming someone's property; it's about uniting 2 people who are in love to become one in God's eyes, yet still maintaining your own identity and self. Married couples work together to make each other happy. It's a give and take situation, more than anything else in the world. And marriage is not easy, not by far, but you have to work together, not against each other. I'm sorry you ended up with a big, fat jerk...it happens to the best of us. There are, however, ways out! God frowns on divorce, period...but I also believe that God frowns on one person using and manipulating another, especially a husband and wife. I'll say it again, marriage is AWESOME......with the right person and thank God I found mine...he's the best!
Okay, don't want to be a stick in the sand
We lived near the beach for many years and saw this one time too many. So, instead of being afraid of the ocean be more afraid of the sand. Please don't let your sons dig holes in the sand, at least not deep ones. We have seen children and teenagers have serious accidents or worse with this. The sand collapses into the holes and consequences can be fatal, so just heads up on that. It was also just on the news so I hope a lot of parents watched it. What seems like fun can turn quickly into a serious situation. It was just a known fact in our home..... no deep holes at the beach.
Sorry to be a downer....just want to make sure the boys AND parents enjoy themselves. Do have a good time though!!!
Hang out your laundry if possible
Start hanging your wash out rather than using the dryer. It will save big, not those pennies they claim you'll save by unplugging your toaster. (By the way, my son, an electrical engineer, claims unplugging your toaster saves nothing. Unplugging a coffee maker if it has a clock does save a little.)
Hang in there and talk to others.
Don't jump on the bandwagon of calling anyone "alcoholic", I'm not saying he's not but he may be a problem drinker or have a drinking problem. I have been to ACOA meetings and went home crying every time, it was too painful because it brought back all the fighting and nightmarish things there, although it did help to talk to others. It's tough to do but helped. I would not confront him with that word as it is a diagnosis and a label. I might say, "Gee, Dad I wish you wouldn't drink in front of my kids, I hate to see that, we try not to." Confronting sometimes depresses them into drinking. I was fortunate, my dad went to some retreats and quit cold turkey and my kids never knew it, in fact, they hate me to ever mention it, as they idolize him. So he died in my arms at 81, told him he was a "good man" and I am not sorry. My bros. hated him and I feel sorry for them. I feel peace. He has to think about it but don't lecture him, just casually bring up that you hate drinking or you hate your kids to see people drinking. Tell him you care about him though.Perhaps if you believe in it, you could pray. It's a very lonely, hard place to be, I know. I will never be sorry I forgave my father. My mother would nag him enough about it until he finally "got it", I think it's more her place than yours. I do ache for you. People who don't walk that walk don't understand, I find they look down their nose on you and you don't need that on top of what you're going through. Have faith. If it gets bad, just pick up the kids and say, "Gee, gotta go, Dad, gotta get these kiddos home." Perhaps he'll get the message, I hope so! Only he can save himself, not you.
Sounds like you are trying to stick to
something similar to the SouthBeach diet. Pistachios are a good snack but carrotts are full of sugar and supposed to be a no-no. Not flaming you, in my opinion carotts are certainly better than say doughnuts or chips.
Hang on, though. The rate could have changed...sm
If any payments were late (or missed), the rate could have gone up astronomically for the OP. They may well have gone up and up. It's probably in the fine print of the card agreement that that will happen automatically with late payments.
And I have heard financial experts say that it's not a good idea to call and cancel a card if you still have a balance on the card, because then you have no way to negotiate with them. Though it doesn't sound like any negotiating was able to happen in this case, you're supposed to keep asking for the person's supervisor (and their supervisor, if necessay), and be persistent, until you get to talk to someone who can help you with lowering the rate and maybe waiving some of the fees.
Then I would apply for another card with a lower rate (and make darn sure you don't make any payments late or miss any payments!) and transfer that WA MU balance over (and ask if they can wave the transfer fee when you apply for the new card).
BTW, I recently applied for a credit card with WA MU because the offer was for 0% interest for 15 months on balance transfers, and the person was definitely in India. Every time I interruped him to ask him a question, it was like he then had to start over reading his "script" but I could understand him.
I asked if he could wave the balance transfer fee, and he said he was unable to do that. I didn't persist or ask to speak to his supervisor, but I should have. According to the experts, the time to negotiate is before they have your business. After they have you as a customer, they aren't so interested!
golly, maybe we should hang her by her thumbs (sm)
OP said the child didn't get much sleep because of problems with her younger sibling.
It is quite possible the child is having some jealousy issues or other issues causing her to act out. Not to mention not having a good night sleep. I know my concentration is a little off if I haven't slept well. Probably a little harder for a 5-year-old.
I don't think it is prudent to jump to punish a child when it is out of character for that child to misbehave, especially if the child had already received punishment.
Yes, it will humble her. It could also demean her. I'm definitely no expert, except by experience. When this child has future emotional issues that she is not quite sure how to deal with, she defintely will be too humble to act out or to try to talk to her mom about them, because she has been taught not to. She'll just keep them locked inside or act out in a way she won't get caught.
A 5-year-old is not to young to be asked why she acted the way she did, or to discuss it. Why do parents have a knee-jerk response to just impose some kind of punishment without trying to understand first?
I'm not saying an apology is wrong, I just don't think it should be yet another punishment. If anything, mom should discuss it with her, like... "honey, I really think you owe your teacher an apology. What do you think?" Let it be the child's decision. It's good training to let a child make decisions like this.
The teacher punished the child. That's her job. It is our job as parents to try to understand our kids and open lines of communication and let them get used to making decisions.
I have a few things that stick in my mind but - sm
these were special circumstances. We were there on a Make-A-Wish trip last year (12-2005) and my daughter wore a special pin that identified her as a "Give the Kid's the World" recipient. We had a special pass so we did not have to wait in any ride lines (she still tired easily at that point 3 months out from when chemo had finished), so that was great of course. But one day when we were leaving the park at the entrance of main street, Chip and Dale were there getting their pics taken with kids, there was a line of about 20 or so kids and they stopped us and pulled us over and asked if we wanted to have my kids picture taken with them w/o waiting-- sure the kids did, so they did, that was pretty cool (though I am sure the people waiting were not too thrilled though they did explain it to the people at the front of the line); then during the electric night parade we got a spot on the route up in front by the rope so the kids could see well, and 3 different characters spotted my daugter with her pin on, in her wheelchair, and came over and gave her a hug (Snow White, the Queen from Alice in Wonderland, and one of the 7 dwarves), made my daughter's day (mine too). She also got to meet Cinderella when she was walking about too. All of the staff were very helpful to us since at every ride they had to either take us to the front of the line, ususally through the handicap entrance/fastpass entrance or in through a back way into ride (that was interesting) to bypass the line. Nothing extrodinary but for me the parade was the best part since they generally did not stop to hug kids and say hi. Like I said a little biased but we did have a great time.
newer ones are built same as stick;
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Hang one of those unsightly fly strips.
The old timey ones they used to hang. They still sell them. Made by Catchmaster scented bug & fly catcher. They do work. Think I bought some at Wal-Mart. Comes rolled up about the size of a shotgun shell, you pull it out and it unravels and you tack it with the tack provided. They won't get off of that booger! Warning - Don't lean your head into it accidentally! Oh yes I did...
good! that is the trick, now stick to it!
hold to your guns, girl. dont let him go along good for a while and then stop. you are taking the right way, its not easy, and it may not end up with ya'll together, but you will then be able to look everyone, including him, and say i left it all out there. be sure though that you find something for yourself that will build you up! that is key to this. will make you stronger to deal with him and also if the time comes that you have to go, you will KNOW you can do it on your own. God bless your home.
hang in there SD gal. many heartfelt thoughts
are with you. We have family in your area too. As far as the job -- we all need ours -- BUT, i would consider them duly notified and if you are too stressed or (??) to work, then don't worry about work. They'll either be there for you when you are available again (shame on them for not responding at least) OR, just remember, you were looking for a job when you found this one. Take care of you, mind/body/spirit, first. God bless.
LOL! If you don't like the weather in Georgia, just hang around SM
a while and it will change soon!
Oh really? Even if they say accummulation of 1-3 inches, that won't stick? sm
LOL! I have no idea! It has to stick. It just has to. I mean, then that won't really matter if it doesn't stick!! I'll post pics when it's all over! haha
Recently we did a non-stick linoleum and I
cannot believe how much it looks like tile. The installer put in down in 1 sheet and it looks great. Very easy to clean, although you can't see the dirt, and everyone thinks it's tile. I never would have picked this out in a million years but a few people told me to give it a try. I brought a piece home, placed it on my kitchen floor for a couple days and really liked it. We were going to put hardwood in our kitchen (as the rest of our house is hardwood), but I'm really happy with the non-stick linoleum. Good luck.
I'll stick with my antenna!
A lot of people think when TV changes over to digital, they will need to switch to cable or dish TV and I just wanted to point out that isn't true. You can get the converter box and stick with your antenna. That's what I'm doing. Plus I found with the converter box, I get over twice as many channels as I did before.
Best of all, it's free! (Well, the converter box isn't free, but at least I don't pay a monthly fee.)
The Stick is making a comeback
Them that don't believe don't receive! 
awww...hang in there Kendra...
he will be home in no time and you can have all the sex you want!!!
you have got the ole stick it to the dentist syndrome
I paid that bill also and it is awful. Tell the dentist you want a different prize.
You could just get long stick matches or - sm
one of the long automatic ones (sounds like you have one that is just cheaply made). I remember my parents having long stick matches 8-10 inches long for the fireplace years ago, I am sure someone still makes them. Or try a fireplace store or like you said Home Depot, or Lowe's, I am sure one of them would have what you are looking for in terms of a nicer grill lighter.
Probably working.....but ususally just hang here- sm
sometimes go to a friends house to watch it over there as their son is allergic to everything in the world (it seems) so we just go there to avoid any problems in our home. I hope to have Sunday off.....depends on if they go crazy on Friday how my weekend shapes up.
As a Christian I have to stick up for Pat Roberts and television sm
evangelists. They work hard for their money. They earned their money. If you don't believe in what they are doing, then don't give any. Plain and simple.
After Katrina hit, Pat Roberts and his ministry set up camp down there and helped thousands of people (I saw it first-hand), which leads me to believe that the camps he leads in Africa and Asia, etc., must be real. He "take" other people's money and then distributes it where he feels led. What business is it of yours if that is what he is called to do? And why do you think he has to live in a shack because he is a t.v. evangelist. God is an excellent God and is not sloppy. He wants Christians to live in the Promised Land, full of riches and honey (it is clearly in the Bible). It is called God's blessings. You should read up on it.
I'm sick and tired of Christians and nonChristians who think that just because you live in a big house or drive a fancy car that you are not entitled to it because you are an evangelist. Pat makes money by writing BOOKS and speaking engagements, too, which earns you A LOT of money. Bill Clinton earned 38,000,000 in speaking engagements after his first year of leaving the oval office.
Our pastor who leads a very large congregation, lives in a gated community and drives a Mercedes. I love the guy! What an example! Hey, I'd be worried if he preached the Gospel and about living in the Promise Land and lived in a trailer behind on his auto payments. Please. He travels the country, has written several books and also sells real estate, ON TOP of his large ministry.
Soooo many people are totally misinformed about t.v. evangelists. Just because they are asking for money they think that all the money coming in goes to furnish their lavish lifestyle. I have done my research. That is NOT TRUE!! They make their money in a lot of other ways.
Pat is a rich guy, but he certainly does not make it through giving. Neither does Joel Osteen who pastors a church of 20,000 people. He has a median salary and lives in a mansion.
So, quit being so sick and tired of these t.v. evangelists and all that they have. Have you ever thought for a SECOND that God has blessed them IMMENSELY because they faithfully serve Him and obey His word? God blesses those HE chooses.
Peace to you.
Is it difficult to blend or get the hang of applying it? NM
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It's snowing and starting to stick in Birmingham!
My 4 yo is in layers of clothes with socks over her little hands lol! I asked her to wipe off a leaf (over my waist high off the ground) to see what snow tasted like...she said it tasted like yellow! LOL! I told her not to get any more snow from that bush! This really beats Winter Storm of 1993 when we got snow, but had no electricity for 6 days! Like the OP, I have tried making trip plans for my little one to see snow and it has never worked out, so this is the first time for her :) She is having a blast...I like it too!
Hope you get your snow down south!
Hang in there girlfriend. If you feel the trust
is there, then believe in it. Truely hope it works out for you. I have seen amazing turn-arounds in marriages. It can work.
Hang in there! I've been cigarette free for three years now...SM
It is definitely one of the hardest things you will ever do, but it is also one of the best things.
Check out this website and follow your progress and what happens to your body as time goes on without cigarettes. It is encouraging. http://healthbolt.net/2006/07/19/what-happens-to-your-body-if-you-stop-smoking-right-now/
DON'T join this site, but just do the first step of registration to see how much $$ you will save and how many days you will add to your life by quitting. It is very interesting. I used to have another site that gave this same info without having to join anything, but I couldn't find it, but this gives you the same basic info, but only do the first step in the registration process. https://secure.quitnet.com/
Again, hang in there. YOU CAN DO IT! You will start feeling better within a couple weeks.
I love that I can smell so much better now and that I don't stink like cigarettes. I find it very nasty now when I smell a person who has just smoked, which is something you can't smell when you are a smoker. Yuck.
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