Grownups-My Cousin Vinnie, older kids - Home Alone One sm
Posted By: me2 on 2007-12-06
In Reply to: Ooooooo Forgot one of the best - Luv to Laugh
A Christmas Story is our holiday favorite to watch with little kids and we love when the dogs eat the turkey and they have to go out for Chinese! We have the lamp ornament on our tree.
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Well I figure I can make my own hours & be home when the kids are home (sm)
I worked PT in an office for a while but spent most of my money on childcare in the summer. Full-time in an office was just a nightmare and I felt like I missed a whole year of my children's lives. I want to be in control of my schedule so that's why I'm looking into the cleaning thing. Never thought I would want to do that but live and learn! Some of the most intelligent people alive work as carpenters and similar things because they have learned what's really important in life. Whew....off my soapbox now :-) Good luck to you!
Shelter said home situation not proper for older cat.
We really wanted to give an older one a home too, because our little local shelter here is PACKED with cats and the poor things only have a 'shelf life' of 7 days before they are euthanized. We have 3 small yappy dogs and they just didn't have any older cats that they would be comfortable placing with us, and I can COMPLETELY understand that. It's just so sad to see these cats in cages looking so sad and deserve so much better than whatever life's circumstances caused them to be brought there. The volunteers told us more and more people are surrending their cats because they have to choose between cat food and fuel. I'm sorry, but you can feed a cat (healthy ones anyway) the cheapest of cheap dry food, I mean, if that's what it takes to get by. I couldn't imagine just dumping my cat off at a shelter, where you know they will be put to death...I would walk the streets and collect cans first.
Sorry for the rant. Just so sad to think that people just throw their pets away like this...or worse and leave them outside to fend for themselves.
So no, no cats in the near future for me I'm afraid.
motivation: older women have a home, car, $, stability.
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Don't wait for the kids to get older
For a couple reasons. If they're not happy around this guy now, it won't get any better for them. Sounds like you're all miserable with him. It would be very hard for your husband to get custody, courts generally favor the mother have the kids, especially if they're young.
We have found out there is not an age when the kids can automatically say who they want to live with. I know of a child who has been telling anyone and everyone including the courts, protective services, counselors, teachers she wants to live with her father. They have all recommended she live with her Dad. The judge has refused to speak to the child since this all started 4 years ago. The judge refuses to change the custody and the poor child lives in an abusive situation with a psycho mother. The child is now 13 and has just simply told her mother "I'm not coming home" and is staying at her Dad's. She told the police if they took her back to her mother, she would run away. So don't wait for the kids to get "old enough," that time may never come. Do it as soon as you can.
kids at home
When I began working at home, my children were 7 and 12, and I was also a single ma, but they were old enough to not be watched every single second. At first, I had my computer in my kitchen, then my family room, which the kids were usually in if they were not outside, and I could see my back yard perfectly at either place.
I stopped often, to answer questions, help, make breakfast, lunch, etc., but when I compared my interruptions to the alternative, working at the hospital, my interruptions were worth it, especially during the summer or when they were ill. There is a fine line between letting your children feel that you are not to be bothered during work. You don't want them to ever feel that they cannot come to you with a question or problem. Sure, I remember feeling frustrated and maybe venting when I wish I could have been more patient, and I felt like some days were not near as productive as during the school year when they were in school, but it was worth it to me. Sometimes I even told them not to bother me unless they were bleeding or the house was on fire, but that is not wise.
Most of the time I remained honest with them, telling them that "mommy's gotta finish this report, honey, hold on and when I finish this report, I will talk to you."
I tried to be as proactive as possible, even though I am a huge procrastinator, and I would maybe make sandwiches ahead of time, pack a lunch for them, just like on school days.
I would use my breaks to maybe run them to a friend's house, go pick up a friend or to drop them off at the golf course (of course when they were older and not driving) and then come back home and work, sometimes maybe only an hour until it started raining.
Oh, I should probably tell you though, now they are 19 and 25, and they don't bother me at all anymore......
Do you have kids that were home
from school yesterday? I did and that's why I think today feels like Monday. Although, I haven't had the day you're having. I hope things are better this afternoon. If you have some tea around, try a cup. Sometimes it makes you feel more relaxed. Have a great afternoon!!!
Kids at home while you work? How do you (sm)
make sure they know you are "at work" even though you are right there? I have worked at home in the past but had issues with this. Mine are old enough now to be home while I work (10 & 7), but I would love any ideas of how to make sure they respect my work hours. Any ideas?
PA too and our kids were actually sent home early
due to the heat! We were never sent home for that one. Spent the day at the pool with the kids and now it's time to work.
Would you ever kick your kids out of your home?
Are your kids welcome to stay in your home for as long as they like?
My 15 year old asked if we'd ever kick him out or his older brother. I said they'd always have a home with us as long as they follow our rules.
No glad my kids are grown and out of home...
Anyone who thinks their kids are bad - well get this 3 BROTHERS here 10, 12 and 14 charged with crimes related to their breaking and entering and then completely destroying a Headstart school. They threw not only paint and other solvents over the place but also left own bodily fluids such as feces and urine, totally destroying computers, games, floors, the whole building, probably over $100,000 damage. I thank my lucky stars I do not have to even think about putting up with that.
She has 2 wonderful kids whom she home schools
They are ages 13 (boy) and 10 (girl). My sister died at age 27 of cancer and left a husband and 8 yo boy. My sister was also 6 months pregnant when they found the cancer and she lost the little girl after going to MD Anderson and all the treatment, and my sister only lived 6 months.
There is such a concern here because of my having kidney cancer and given 6 months to live, but I have been in remission for 4 years now.
My sister had breast cancer, in remission for 5 years.
I am open to any help anyone has, be it good or bad. Thanks.
Any kids with wife#2 are living at home and being
Kids should not expect to college paid for, so hubby should not pay for college for kids with wife#2 since he did not pay for college for kids with wife #1.
There's lots of things kids can do at home
all summer that are worthwhile and free. Take them to the library once every week or two and get them reading! Where I lived as a kid it was hot all day, so I read all day and played outside in the evening when it was cooler. It doesn't have to be books, either. It can be magazines, comics, or whatever. Just the 'reading' part is the key. I used to read and re-read old comic books, Life magazines, National Geographics, and books on animals and earth sciences. I also think I read Tom Sawyer and Huckleberry Finn multiple times each during the summer.
Kids can put on a neighborhood circus (and make some cash by charging admission). They can put on a pet show. We used to have pet shows, haunted houses, dog shows, cat shows, talent contests, bike races and foot races, too, and hurdles contests.
With some scrap wood, hammers, nails, etc., (if they're not too small) they can build things. We all had tree houses in just about every large tree in the neighborhood. My friend built a go-cart, and I built a wooden wagon. I also collected rocks, and used that wagon to haul home my latest acquisitions from around the neighborhood. (Much to my mother's dismay... she apparently didn't have the 'rock-gene' that my siblings and I all seem to carry!) Starting collections of any type (even if it's not rocks) can be a fun summer pastime.
Making mud pies and cookies was fun, as was collecging pollywogs and watching them magically turn into frogs.
A job such as painting a fence (a-la Tom Sawyer) can be a messy but fun experience for kids. Or, creating a mural.
Art projects are fun, too. How about giving each kid a journal to write their private thoughts and dreams in? Or, an older child can be taught the basics of cooking or sewing, which will come in handy some day when they're older. You could also teach hand-sewing, beading, embroidery, etc., and let kids make themselves a T-shirt or tank top, shorts, etc. that is work of wearable art.
Or, how about starting a veggie garden for the kids to take care of? They could also be involved in cooking and eating what they grow.
Even though it seems useless, the down-time in the summer, spent just doing NOTHING, isn't as bad as it appears, and when kids don't have every minute booked up for planned activities, they learn to explore what's interesting to them, and amuse themselves.
its better to raise kids in a happy divorced home
To all you married moms with kids and hubby at home,
do you ever dream about living by yourself? Not just with no kids, but with no hubby either? I love my family, but when I feel overwhelmed, when life gets too stressful, I can't help but think how peaceful that kind of life would be, with just myself to take care of. Of course I know in my heart that if I was by myself I would be bored and lonely, but right now it sounds really good! It has been one of those days...
Help! Pushy parents think I work from home and can drive their kids etc
I am constantly being asked to watch people's kids because I work from home. The latest is a friend of my son attending the same camp in another town. The friend I will call Scotty. Scotty has two parents. His father works from home as a computer consultant. My friends and I have called Scotty's dad to work on our computers and he never even returns the call or shows up. Scotty's mom recently asked me if I could drive her son home from them because the dad gets busy and doesn't like to leave clients. I told her that I too am working from home and have to minimize my time in the car. Scotty does not live close to us. I feel like a big meanie but they have pushed me before. Last year our kids were not even in the same camp but the mom called and asked if I would drive and pick up her son every day because i live in the same town as the camp. I was like ??? no way.
They used to drop Scotty off at my house on school holidays. They would drop him off at 7 AM and then once the mom called me at 5 PM and said she wanted to get an oil change and asked me if I could keep scotty until 7:30 PM. I said NO and then she came to pick him up earlier but stayed at my house uninvited until 9:30 when I just said I HAVE TO GO TAKE A SHOWER.
Anyone have clever ways to handle these situations?
Poll for parents with school aged kids at home...sm
1. What ages are your kids?
2. Do they have their own cell phone?
3. Do they have their own TV and or computer in their room? If so, are there set hours they're allowed to use these:
4. Do they receive an allowance? If so, are they required to do chores to receive this?
As for our house, here's the answers. Kids are 15 and 8. 15-year-old has a cell phone and pays her bill. 15-year-old has a TV. The kids share 1 PC that is where we can see what they're doing on it, and they're limited to no more than an hour a day on it if it's a school day. We do have parental controls in place. They don't receive an allowance but they are aware of a special chores list that they can choose to do extra things around the house to make money. They are required to keep their rooms and bathrooms cleaned, as well as alternate cleaning up the kitchen after dinner.
Staying at home and raising us kids worked for my mother
Hmm. It should be okay with me right? Oh, wait, that puts me in the welfare line which you think everyone takes advantage of.
You don't live in your mother's time. I wish you did, because the internet didn't exist then.
Rainy, cool, dark. Home working with plenty of work. Hubby and kids are sm
picking up toys, taking them to Goodwill. LOVE days like this.
Sounds like my kids...on a school day "we just got home from school!" on a vacation day....sm
But this is our vacation! My husband takes vacation days and leaves town without us...lol! He would never dream of taking a day off to work around the house!
I'm older than dirt, too, and older
than the 2 posters below me.
I remember when gas was $.25 a gallon when I got my driver's license and first car.
The first car my dad had was a LaSalle with running boards. After that, he bought all Hudsons and then Ramblers. He never owned a Chevy.
My first car was a ི Chevy, green and White, that my dad paid $12 for (cost of the tag). My uncle gave it to him and was a stick shift. I never drove an automatic until I was 20 and bought my own car with my own money. I paid $1500 for a ྀ Rambler Classic, 4 door (my first 4 door, too) in turquoise blue. My dad was mad because I didn't pick the Navy blue and white stick shift Rambler because it was cheaper.
My allowance was $1.50 a week and to make money, I chauffered all my friends around plus to school and back for $.25 a week.
And, I just turned another year older on Monday. Ugh! Thank heavens, no one in my family wished me HB. I quit counting 20 years ago. 
My cousin is like this.
now, whenever she says, lets go do this or that this weekend. I will pick you up at 8. I would say yeah, right we should, but I bet we don't because something always comes up. She got to where she won't ask me out anymore which is okay since whenever she did ask me out, we never went. She still talks to me though. She too has had phones cut off, electricity cut off, always in financial trouble. Her excuse for this business is that she is bipolar.
What's a third cousin?
Or even a second cousin?
I know what a first cousin is. 
I will ask my cousin's husband
he's in the Army and he was there... I'll ask what things he liked to get. Also my pastor at my church has son over there. Will ask what she sends
My cousin went to Vegas for her
second marriage with just her brother and sister-in-law as attendants, then had a reception when they got back.
My cousin did this a year ago
tried to recruit me. The real turn off was the smell and having to buy stuff every month.
So I have a first cousin and his son, I thought,
would be my second cousin. Talk about confusing. What is the son of my first cousin to me, anyone?
ummm so your husband is your cousin??
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LOL, note that she said the cousin is now not that stable.....
Thanks to Auntie??? ; ) lol
Too funny.Your cousin might be my friend!
My friend & her hubby have just joined Team National. (Okay TN members don't bombard me if it works for you fine). They have just joined and paid $2100 for a lifetime membership, I think. Anyway trying to recruit children and inlaws and the whole county. Too funny. They each are extremely busy with thier own private businesses, her with a bakery and him with a construction business, and they have a hobby that they pour money into and are busy with. They are not rich or comfy by no means, but they have jumped on this band wagon. Going for it big time because some local people have done it and apparently suceeded. "Oh you and he should get in to this you can make the money now, you can really pay off all your bills...so and so has quit her job, paid off thier vehicles and thier credit cards, now they are working on thier mortgage. She kept at me about it and trying to get me interested and I just cut her off and said I'm happy for you and all but when you pay off your bills and you can quick baking cakes and he quits building little bildings and you get money coming in, then you call me. SHOW ME! Have not heard a word out of them about it since. Think they have forgotten all about the business too. Its like a diet, whatever's popular at the moment, except there's a lot more to loose than fat!
If it's selling so good and it's such a good business to be in loosing you as one client will not affect her any! Stand your ground. You've listened to it a lot longer than I would.
No, but I found out a distant cousin
was a senator of Vermont, and also have a first cousin who helps on paleontology digs, and his name, even picture, shows up on a Google search for that. It's his second job, though. He does EMS as his real job, but one time part of his body got on film on a show for Nova, LOL. I've only met him a couple times in my life.
It's interesting to find out about relatives you don't know or hardly know through the internet.
My cousin is Carrie Underwood..
His family is in Oklahoma, where she's from. She's a distant cousin. A friend's sister went to HS with Julia Roberts...
My cousin hunts, southern but don't know
how that fits into taking sausage balls with him when he goes hunting as he doesn't do that, might just be what your husband likes instead of being a so called southern thing but back to the hunting- my cousin married for 30+ years, went hunting all the time but met another woman and decided did not want to spend the rest of his life with the 30+ years wife and 2 grown kids so left and eventually married the other. He also spent loads of time away from home going to huh, meetings. I would be most concerned if hubby spending lots of time away from me. I think some men are into their things- such as his not wanting you to wear his T-shirts, etc. Seems like the problems you 2 are having are more than just a cooking pan.
This sounds a lot like my cousin's daughter
When she was 2 the docs thought she might be autistic. She would completely ignore everybody and refused to talk. She would just sit and play by herself. They took her to some specialist and read every book they could. My cousin actually enrolled her in gymnastics, which made her come out of her shell. She also would always make eye contact with her daughter to make sure that she was listening to her and actually turn her daughter's head to make her interact with her when she was talking to her. For whatever reason, these two things worked miracles. She's 3 now and a completely different child! She's very interactive and will talk a stranger's ear off now and is just the sweetest little girl.
my cousin who is 6Ɖ'/280 lb is named HERB!
I've always said it with the H simply because of my cousin's name. He is named Herbert, Herb for short, so it is very hard for me to think of cilantro as an erb.
Agree there should be some oversight. My cousin
homeschools her kids. She uses material from a private school and they work 4 hours a day. He is only 6, but one of the brightest kids I have ever met. They do field trips and everything. Also, her husband is a pastor, so the child is very involved in social activities. If done with the commitment needed, it can be a good thing.
What about my father's cousin's kid? I thought he
I agree--my cousin told me she ...
...actually cried in ET. This was many years ago and I couldn't believe it! Agree also with the OP's movies. Just don't get the popularity.
My cousin's dog died because of one. The battery went dead and the dog got hit by a car. Very s
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And squirting milk on a cousin of his is not normal either
just amaze yourself and read some of this nut's posts. Un-b-liv-able.....
My cousin had fraternal twins - boy and girl
They fought like cats and dogs when they were young. Major sibling rivalry. I've heard of even identical twins hating each other. Weird.
I think what you said below is the key - you can't control their feelings, but you can certainly control what they say when they are around you. You have to set limits on acceptable ways of expressing themselves - "I'm really angry at my sister" is okay, but "I hate my sister" is not okay, for example.
You're doing fine. Follow your instincts. Read the responses here and listen to what feels right and ignore the rest. You know your son better than anyone. I am confident you will handle the situation just fine.
My cousin had a bypass, take it 1 day at a time, and do what the doc tells you. nm
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We had this problem a couple of years ago but from a cousin.... sm
Forget the medicated crap. It does not work that well. Take a bottle of Crisco oil and put it on the person's head. Wrap the hair in plastic and leave it for a minimum of 4 hours. Then wash the hair in dishwashing liquid (of course one that cuts grease). Do this once every 7 days for 2 weeks. No more lice problems. My eldest has gorgeous hair. Super thick, super long and this took care of it. I did also take the time to take a comb and work in through her hair to be on the safe side.
Yes, I of course washed all bed linens, pillows, stuffed animals etc. I personally used Crisco oil and Palmolive dishwashing liquid. Worked like a charm! And BTW: this was actually recommended by a doctor as he even says the OTC products work but are not that GREAT!
Hope someone can talk to this lil girl's parents or the school steps in and does. Hate to see anyone living through this. At times in our lives, we all made fun of for some reason or another... I would hate it to be this way for this child.
Actually, I recall my brother and cousin being drafted for Vietnam
and they served 18 month "tours". They were actually in the army longer, but were in Vietnam for 18 months when they were drafted. I'm sure they would have rather not done that extra 6 months!
My father, his brother, and their contemporaries in World War II, however, were drafted for "the duration". They weren't coming home until the war was over. My dad said it was one heck of an incentive to fight hard. It makes me cry to think of my gentle, kind father in that situation.
Buy a home of my own - not a palace, but more of a smallish home on a large piece of land. (nm)
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Agree, my cousin works in a similar type of school
a grammar school no less, and kids are doing sexual acts in the stairwells, etc. It is a very screwed up world where age 11 has become the new 18; passing gas is the least of our worries.
Hi; I was born and raised here, only went to college in California, my cousin recently......sm
bought a beautiful big house and land in North Carolina near the Virgina border, so much more for the $$$$, great area, I don't know about jobs because her husband is older and can take an early retirement, but it is very temperate there, usually lovely weahter, and not AS MUGGY in the summer as it is if you go further south, and also the seacoast is gorgeous. Hope this helps, God Bless, at least the days are getting longer here, it is actualy 53 degrees as I write this, I think the Winters get longer every year, though, in New England, even though I love NE. Take Care!
Anyone move from a single family home to mobile home? sm
I own and live in a house in a midwest city in a bad neighborhood (wasn't that bad 11 years ago). I spent the day waiting for the plumber to come and jackhammer the foundation (slab house, no basement) to find a leaky pipe that is flooding my DD's bedroom. Last week, it was the electrician with quotes for costly repairs.
In the meantime, I've really been thinking about selling out and moving into a mobile home. Has anyone done this before? Is a mobile home in a decent park less of a hassle than a regular house? I'm so tired of cutting the grass and spending $$ to fix things and tired of old flooring and cabinets, etc., that are just too costly to replace. I'm single with no man to do these things for me and I can't afford a mortgage on a newer house in a good neighborhood. Some of the pictures I've seen of the mobile homes look really nice and modern on the inside.
Any advice and comments appreciated. Thanks!
Daniel had a home, a very good home...
with someone in my family at one point.
She met her late husband at a club down the freeway from me. It's not a fancy place, like you say.
She does have a real brother though. That was the connection on our part.
I agree, though. It is sad that all this is coming out the way it is. I believe she was a good person...she just had a lot of problems, mainly drugs. What is really sad is that all of this is going to be seen by her daughter one day when she grows up.
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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Home Alone 1, A Christmas Story, Home for the Holidays, Chevy Chase's Christmas, sm
There "The Gift of the Magi," He sells his gold watch to buy her a comb for her hair and she sells her beautiful long hair to buy him a chain for his gold watch. It used to be on "Short Stories by O'Henry" but that's long gone, long ago. Good moral to the story. I can't stand "It's a Wonderful Life" -- too depressing, especially with banks closing, too intimidating right now!!!
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