Great, greatly supportive post from "Through the Mill". nm
Posted By: Ella (retired) on 2009-06-16
In Reply to: I feel for you sm - Been through the mill myself
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I just bought a grain mill and love it
http://www.crockettscorner.com/mill.html
She also sells a DVD that shows other ways to prepare wheat seeds like in the crockpost. It's much cheaper than cereal off the shelf!
I don't have an electric mixer but I hear good reviews about the electrolux
http://www.pleasanthillgrain.com/magic_mill_dlx_mixer.aspx
I've heard this bread machine works with whole wheat but do not have one:
http://www.pleasanthillgrain.com/zojirushi_bread_makers.aspx
Think it greatly depends on the area
you live in. I was paying $25 30 years ago in Reno, Nevada; now charged $15 in small town Northern California - of course hairdressers and MTs have both lost wages in the last 10-15 years because of SuperCuts and outsourcing in my opinion. I was charged $15 my last cut and she did such a fantastic job I gave her $25 just to make up for all the bad cuts I have gotten and to let her know how much I appreciated her!
improved greatly in 2007 compared to 1990s...
it's not glass anymore - it's plates that are not ice cold and they don't squeeze as badly as they did back in the earlier days. Takes a few seconds only and 4 views. Piece of cake....also have been getting them nearly yearly for 15+ years......
Your idea of details and mine differ greatly.
Details would be a blow by blow. Simply stating I conceived my child 9 years ago on this night is not detailed. Saying I did or didn't have a BM today is not detailed giving you a play by play explanation of said BM would be detailed. We all have sex and we all have BM -- saying so isn't gross. Doing it in front of you would be gross. Showing home movies would be gross.
Thank you for your supportive response
I am still wondering what to do. After talking with some of his friends he posted something like this about 2 months ago. He has an appiontment tomorrw with a pyschiatrist. He doesn't know about it, I plan on just checking him out of school. Maybe this is wrong but at the age of 19 I swallowed a bottle of pills. My best friend was the only one that suspected I might do this and she showed up at my house totally unannounced. Now as a mother I think about the pain that mother would have felt because had my friend not shown up my mother would have found me. I can't just sit back and watch. If this were drugs or cutting we would all step up and take action immediately.
moderator, we are so supportive of each other here
i wish we had a weight loss board...has this been given any more thought?
Thanks. My friends are very supportive (sm)
but my dad just told me I couldn't use his minivan for my move because he didn't want to be involved. He's loaning my DH money to get out of debt though. Family is funny.
Do not enable, but be supportive
and whatever happens, do not encourage a methadone clinc. Your son may need a dual diagnosis clinic to learn emotional coping skills and receive rehab. I am a little concerned that you automatically reject the idea of rehab without having talked to him. You need to learn pretty quickly that going into rehab is only for those who are self-motivated or are avoiding jail. You do not have to make your approach to your son confrontational. You can be firm about wanting him to make good choices for himself without being confrontational. Put your foot down about not having drugs in your home, even if it means he cannot visit within your home. No loaning a car to him. You don't want to lose either of those. No friends over. I've even handed my daughter a self-test at the door and made her give me her purse to search. She chose not to visit for the next 2 years and that was her choice...not the one I would prefer, but hers to live with. If your son is addicted to drugs, he will not get better until he wants to and not one minute before. The best advise I ever got was this:
_When something becomes uncomfortable enough, you will do something to change it_
Your son may have to hit bottom. It sounds like he is cycling with ups and downs (cocaine then heroin) and that is an indication of something pretty serious and tough to overcome. My faith is never tested as much as when I struggle not to do something to control the choices my adult child is making. Letting go while being supportive is very, very hard. Good luck.
Great post.........sm
but then I'm a spoiled-by-America freedom (for ALL) fighter for 40 years......every day I awaken and thank the Lord for another day of life and for living in the USA! Women in MANY places are not even allowed to show expressions on their faces so YEAH, I'M REAL THANKFUL!
Great post! You are right on it!
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Great post MTT!
Great Post...sm
totally agree. could not have said it better myself. determining what is *healthy* for others is judgemental. animals do not judge. people do. I would rather spend my time around loving animals than with people who judge others for all sorts of things. *family* does not necessarily constitute *unconditional love.* In fact, family can be our greatest critics and our greatest heartbreaks. been there. will choose an animal every time. JMO
Exactly....great post! NM
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LOL!!!, that was a great post...thanks for that!!
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Great post
Can't someone just be supportive and wish her well without getting into a theological discussion and analyzing whether or not somebody will go to heaven???
GREAT POST -
Great post
With one correction: Not only is "11 years of age" not too old for rehabilitation, there is NO AGE TOO OLD for that!
In this throw away society we are way to ready to give up on people who just need help. Remember the children we don't 'rehabilitate' today are the ADULTS of tomorrow who commit crime.
PREVENTION is the answer: It benefits us ALL.
Here here! Great post!
You said everything I have been thinking for a long time. If only everyone felt this way, we might not be in the mess we're in right now.
GREAT POST!!!!
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Great post!! (sm)
If we should learn anything it is that God wants us to all love one another. EVERYONE. We definitely need to open our minds!
I was about to post that - isn't it great! (sm)
I am really so thankful to know that she is alive and away from him. I have been waking up thinking about her through the night. I still do not understand how the mother could not know - you would think you could see evidence of something like that. My child is 7 and I just can't imagine - I am confused by that part, how you wouldn't notice anything. But I was so afraid she had just been tortured to death, so I am so relieved.
Great post - I would add this: Why does he sm
listen to so much talk radio?? That is proby 90% of why his attitude is negative and he is gloomy-doomy! "He can't handle it?" What, he can't handle life b/c he is freaked out by all this crud he is taking in through his ears!!
As for traveling, just do it. Flying is statistically safer than driving anyway. I fly 2-3 times per year and, while I don't like it much, I figure if it's my time to go, I'm gonna go - flying, driving, hit by a bus or whatever! You can't live your life waiting for crap to happen or you'll never leave your house!
Great post...nm
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Great post! nm
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Great post - my DH has cut off 100% of his sm
hateful family, 2 sisters, both parents, everyone. They were abusive when he was younger; they treated me crappy too when I came into the family; and in his 40s he finally said "Enough". This may be extreme but we live out of state and they do not have our phone #s or address, nothing. He has chosen to cut them out completely b/c they were toxic and bad for his mental health.
Great post...
You said what a lot of people think every day. I get tired of walking through Walmart and hearing announcements in Spanish.
That was NOT a great post
What is wrong with you people? Are you all from hickville or something? Are you all sporting a shaved head with a tattoo that says white power? I could say the same thing about Southern people...hicks with a stupid accent and no education. How does that sound? It sounds ignorant, just like that post. Or how about saying people from MN are just as dumb as the people in the movie Fargo. Or all Californians say, "hey dude, surfs up." You guys are just a sad group. Yes, ESL reports are annoying, we can all agree on that, but to attack a group of people, OMG! Grow up!
Thank you for this great post!....nm
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Ditto this great post! Also, maybe your dog needs
a 24/7 true friend, like another dog. Obviously having major separation anxiety issues, and understandably. A friend would sure help, as long as you don't crate both a long time. I understand the crating issue - I have labradors, and about the first 2 years of their lives, they are very goofy. Will eat anything if it moves or not, including sofas, tables, chairs, etc. I am a big pro-crater when you are not around, for the dog's sake. I crate all mine at night until they mature and settle down. Maybe that is the case with you? Maybe your pooch is mature enough now to want to be out of the crate at night.
AMEN!!!..................great post.....
GREAT POST, HAYSEED!!!
great post, Jurrasic MT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  
great post, Margaret!!
Great post, I was in SAME situation..sm
In fact, parts of your post could have been written by me........and I too left with nothing, the child...gave him the house and the dog....and IT CAN BE DONE without support of family (as another poster way below typed). I had no family support. I made my bed, it was up to me to change the linen, mattress, box spring, frame I had been sleeping in for 12 years of this sick marriage.....had to change the life! So thankful I did...that was in 1991 and I'm a happy camper ever since!!
Some people are going to sit and wallow in their situations and gripe, complain, *itch and moan and still never do a thing about it. I am not one of those people. Never was, never will be.
However, I truly hope those going through this find their strengths within themselves and DO THE RIGHT THING!!
Best of luck!
great post and I so appreciate what you're doing!!sm
God sees all - and you ARE blessed!! Thanks for posting all you have posted and sharing with all of us!!! I so get it about dealing with the govt and trying to get anywhere in dealing with govt agencies!! I wish for you and the children THE BEST!!!
  
They are true! Great post! Thanks! nm
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Great and positive post. - nm
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great post and I agree with you...nm
This is a great post! Reminding me of our job and how
lucky we are to be with are pets, and able to be outside with them when its nice. Thanks for a breath of fresh air and also reminding me that we are lucky to have this job which allows us the freedom to appreciate these joys in life! :)
Great post - I'm 50 and feel the same way - sm
Maybe things will change now that we are headed into a recession / depression? There is a new interest in "simplicity" and a frugal lifestyle, so maybe there's hope?
Just be supportive and a loving friend/family member - sm
My son jokingly tells me that I have Super Gay-Dar because I have had a few friends out to me first.
When my friend Chris came out to me a few years after high school, he was a complete wreck.
He called me up one night after I had not heard from him for awhile and the conversation went something like this.
Him: I really have to tell you something (I could tell he was shaking terribly and just sounded so upset and scared.)
Me: Okay.
Him: I'm gay. There I said it.
Me: And?
Him: What do you mean AND?
Me: Are you serious? You think I DIDN'T know? How many times were we BOTH checking out guys "back pockets" in the mall? How many times did YOU help me pick out dresses for formal dances? How many times did my parents let you come over for slumber parties all the way through high school? Do you think they let ANY of my other guy friends do that? Did you notice there were no other GUYS at those sleepovers?
Him: He has such a funny loud, barking laugh and he just started laughing and then crying.
Me: You wouldn't be you if you tried to be a straight guy. You're more fun this way.
Him: I just love ya girlie, You're my bestest bestest girlfriend.
Me: You're my bestest bestest girlfriend too.
And that was that. We still laugh about it. He can always make me laugh.
great post ks and who invented the Bible?
My opinion is that men interpreted the bible(s) of the world....women had little say, and GOD HAD NO stuff to write with.......men certainly did succeed and put their *slant* on things to control.....yeah, to control........is my belief and my opinion and I'm sure at least dozens others here too...and even more in the grander scale of things, not just those on online bulletin/message boards.
DITTO - Great post!! I agree.......nm
that's right - great post, hubby and I were preggers
great post, thanks for pointing out hypocrisy
Amensister - GREAT post and I agree!!!!!
Government get out of our uteri !!!!!! (one of my rooms in my home is a tribute to the Native American by the way!!! *S*)
great post but Koreans have lived in/around USA
And he did attend Korean schools in his most formative years, kindergarten, 1st, 2nd, and 3rd grades. I know plenty of Korean people for decades in this country (good people)....they were some of the first Asians in the modern era to come here, no?
A very sad situation for all involved..........but speaks tomes once again at what is happening in the USA with guns. I still don't understand how he was able to buy a gun when he was in a mental place for 2 days in 2005 for *stalking* and the gun shop evidently did a background check on him, so why didn't this admission to some mental facility pop up? *very_curious_indeed*
Great post and also, ladies, do breast self-
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Great post, I am going to follow your advice
It says everything that should be said. I in no way feel just because family should accept, in that were the case every family member could just stop in and that would be feeding an army. I dislike the bad manners to start with; never should you say you are coming to a dinner not having been invited in the first place. To be truthful, feel like uninviting the others he volunteered to drive here- if not for them he would have never known about the dinner in the first place. They told him at a Thanksgiving dinner they had (we were invited, working though, did not attend) and I really resent their saying anything about in in front of other family members who I did not invite this year. We usually have a group of 10 only here at my home, the same each and every year. Others are out of town. Thanks for the wonderful suggestions! I shall follow through.
this is a great post; I have shelter pets.
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Great post, but I couldn't help remembering this:
A mechanic was removing a cylinder head from the motor of a Dodge SRT-4 when he spotted a well-known cardiologist in his shop, who was waiting for the service manager to take a look at his car. The mechanic shouted across the garage, 'Hey Doc, want to take a look at this?' The cardiologist, a bit surprised, walked over to where the mechanic was working on the SRT.
The mechanic straightened up, wiped his hands on a rag, and asked, 'So, Doc, look at this engine. I open its heart, take the valves out, repair any damage, and then put them back in, and when I finish, it works just like new. So how come I make $39,675 a year, a pretty small salary, and you get the really big bucks, $1,695,759, when you and I are doing basically the same work?' The cardiologist paused, smiled, and leaned over, then whispered to the mechanic
'Try doing it with the engine running.'
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