Great advice - thanks for sharing!
Posted By: annabanana on 2008-10-06
In Reply to: Both of my sons are in college now. - alumni mom
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Great tip, thanks for sharing!
My hands often get cold too this time of year. I buy the little stretchy $1 gloves, cut off the fingertips and that helps as well. Happy Friday! 
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That is a great story. Made my day. Thx for sharing.
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Great advice.
I actually have told him that when he grows up and he gets a dog and hurts it, I will be the one to call the police because it is against the law.
A friend of mine drove her three boys to the police station just yesterday and took all of them in, they were all acting up and out of control. She is a single mom. She asked them if she could spank her kids and told the officer what they were doing. He said YES! Bring'em on in and we will be glad too allow her to do that, if she needed too. They were quiet she said all the way home!! Maybe a trip to the police station is enough to scare him out of doing it.
Thank you for the advice about taking things away and such. I do believe I will try that for a while and if it doesn't work then to the police station and then on to counseling or something.
Great post, I am going to follow your advice
It says everything that should be said. I in no way feel just because family should accept, in that were the case every family member could just stop in and that would be feeding an army. I dislike the bad manners to start with; never should you say you are coming to a dinner not having been invited in the first place. To be truthful, feel like uninviting the others he volunteered to drive here- if not for them he would have never known about the dinner in the first place. They told him at a Thanksgiving dinner they had (we were invited, working though, did not attend) and I really resent their saying anything about in in front of other family members who I did not invite this year. We usually have a group of 10 only here at my home, the same each and every year. Others are out of town. Thanks for the wonderful suggestions! I shall follow through.
Posters here are giving great advice
I would definitely stash the savings before she got her hands on it. AND, I do believe she needs some help. Overspending can be a sign of a chemical imbalance. At the least, she needs budget counseling. You have to think past the moment, to the years ahead when you are both old and could possibly be broke.
We live in a double-wide trailer, older, but it is nice, and we are fixing it up room by room. Our mortgage is smaller than what rent would be. This is a conscious choice for us, knowing that if you choose the big fancy house, the big fancy payment comes with it. If you are already struggling, please stay where you are. I think you knew your answer before you asked us, just wanted affirmation, and all of the posters are wise on their advice. Best of luck to you.
OldMT gave great advice
I went through this with my shepherd. She destroyed my apartment by chewing the furniture, chewing every window sill edge in the house, the rugs, well anything that was available. I would have to remove everything in the morning before work and it was a heck of a way to live. I took her to an animal behaviorist who diagnosed separation anxiety. Shotzi was placed on low dose valium while be retrained. I had to crate her during the day and she became to love her own space. I would leave the door open and she would go in at her own will. I had to become the "pack leader" by reprimanding her softly, never yelling, and above all, no hitting - something I never did. It took a few months but she did learn. She also went to obedience class. The outcome - she calmed down, never chewed anything again and became a pleasure to live with until the day she died. I was so glad I hung in there as I was ready to give her up but just could not do that because I did love her so.
Hang in there and good luck.
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If you have ever been lonely, or in a bad relationship, this is for you!!!
Any avid gardners with advice on growing great cantaloupes? sm
I seem to be able to grow everything but these. It seems something always gets them about 2 weeks before they are ready to harvest. I live in mid AL. What can I do to successfully grow one of these wonderful, yummy things?
Need advice on a good, adjustable chair for typing. Any advice? nm
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Thanks for sharing!
It is always nice to hear stories like this especially when it has to do giving our military folks a reason to smile!!
ditto...support them 200%...disappointed in the administration but always hoping for a better day..
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It officially brought chills to me. It is amazing how his voice had not been discovered before this. I love love love the reaction from the two "mean" judges. Wow.
LOL, thank you for sharing that :)
I just checked out my area and so far we've got worught iron chairs, a bed from Hoffen Koos and a lot of matresses.
I'm still laughing about Hoffen Koos.
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Thanks for sharing...
you are certainly entitled to your opinion. Hope things are better now.
Thanks for sharing the tip.
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Called my local store in Washington state and they confirmed it!
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How precious! I LOVE orange kitties. Enjoy!
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My sis was 59, had tried to quit several times, but every time something stressful happened, she would smoke again. I can't give you specifics because she didn't want to hear my sermons, but Stage IV with no symptoms whatsoever except a lump in her neck. I wished she would have listened to me. I was putting my tree up today and cry every Christmas. Please don't let this happen to you. The doc said, "You have Stage IV so keep smoking, what's the difference?" I care about you. Please stop! There are no excuses. My sister would not accept my tough love, I hope you do. I don't have any idea who you are but I will beg you to stop. No excuses.Use lollipops, cinnamon sticks, ice cubes, Nicorette, something to keep your mouth busy but smoking. You'll feel better, smell better, look better. Treat yourself to a manicure or something each week you make it.
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What a handsome boy he is!! Keep us posted on his continued good health.
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 What an adorable story. I loved the drawings too!
and thank you for sharing....
I do appreciate you sharing your own stories.
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I'm going to visit my daughter at college soon so I plan on bringing a bunch of "supplies". She lives in a house with about 6 other girls this semester. I'm going to bake a bunch of these to bring also ! 
That is so sweet. Thanks for sharing!
My teenage son did something like that, only it was a song that his favorite band (Good Charlotte if anyone is familiar with them) sang and I think it was called Thank You Mom. He sent it in an e-mail thanking me for all I had done for him while he was little and since he has gone off to college. I cried like a baby when I heard it. He also has a My Space page that we can access and under one section, it asks for his hero. He said something to the effect that now that he is out in the "real world" his hero is his dad. They used to fight like cats and dogs, so that was nice to see.
So, they do see what is going on, even if you don't think they do, and they do GET IT eventually.
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Just sharing (bragging a little too LOL). I have been
I know a lot of people have asked about it on this board and I just want to say it is possible if you really, really want it, and I really, really do. I still have about 80 pounds to go to get to my ideal weight, but I am not stressing over a number, I just want to continue to lose at a consistent pace, and I am feeling sooo much better.
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My mom used to always keep a copy of The Pill Book which had pics of medications as well as info about them. When my son and my niece were little, they would play doctor (REAL doctor, not the other kind! LOL) and use The Pill Book to prescribe things for each other.
Hilarious! Thank you for sharing.
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Very good example of verbatim!!
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Sharing your past
I have an 18 yo son and a 16 yo daughter and this subject comes up occasionally. So far we haven't had to worry about their drinking or drugging, and it may have something to do with how both our pasts have been part of our teachings, age-appropriate, of course. We both come from alcoholic families though were blessed never to become alcoholic ourselves, but we've shared some of our expeirences from the standpoint of how they made our lives more complicated. We strive for simplicity in our family, and they can see how immoral behavior almost always makes for a more complicated life. At 18 and 16 they both just tasted wine for the first time (other than church) this Christmas and none of their friends drink, or even smoke. They know their grandmother died of emphysema.
They also know that my life changed drastically when their oldest brother was born 37 years ago when I was 18, and also that both their father and I have struggled hard all our lives because of not going to college. For every "but you came out okay" there's the answer that it could have been so much easier to get here had we made different choices, and making the right choices is what it's all about, isn't it?
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She has had her "permit" and has been driving with me (and siblings, lol) for a year now. I have let her drive as much as possible because I too feel like one poster said about the more experience the more comfortable and responsible. My sister got killed in a car wreck at 21 so my DD is very aware of how panicky I am about letting her drive and myself letting go more than anything I think. She has been an excellent driver (while I am in the car that is). We do live in a little country town so she would not be allowed to drive into the big city with major traffic for a long while by herself. She has driven there 2-3 times with me and on her first trip I allowed her to drive to town, someone rear-ended us!! I laugh now though because she didn't know what to do at all. We were at a stop (red light), the lady hit us about the same time the light turned green, and DD proceeded to go with the greenlight! I was like hmm, what are you doing? She didn't realize we had been hit as she was proceeding to go when we got hit. It's funny after the fact because no one was hurt, just minor fender bender, but at least it was a learning experience for her and was not her fault.
My SIL's mother owns a Mexican restaurant close to us and will work around her schedule to allow her to work when she can so she does have the capacity of getting a job if she can ever have time to work. She has helped there temporarily on holidays a few times already. I think she will have some time this summer though as cheer practice is usually over at noon and she will just have to save up to pay her bills.
I kind of feel I should cover her with how hard she is working at school and activities, but don't want to "spoil" my child and not make her appreciate it and not learn responsibility so I want to make her be responsible for something. Of course, her 16-yo friend got a brand new, off the show room floor Mazda RX7. That is parental ignorance in my opinion and aint happening for my kids even if I could afford it. I can tell you one night they didn't get home from a game until 11:30 p.m. on a school night and I was livid. She was up until 1 a.m. studying for her semester exam the next day!! She is very dedicated, but that is ridiculous. Our local community college gives the entire top 10 a full paid scholarship so that is why she is encouraged to make the top 10 and pushing really hard towards this goal. She is already taking some college classes at school (combo classes) including A&P as she wants to be ultrasound tech and that is a tough class.
I have checked into ins, which is out the roof, but they also deduct points based on good grades, etc. so I want to at least make her partially pay for this so she will be encouraged not to speed, keep the grades up, etc. and realize it will all save her money by doing so.
Good tip though to let her drive home and to school. That is one thing we don't do as it is so routine she doesn't ask then and I don't think about it. You are definitely right, that parking lot is crazy and makes me never want to let my son drive when I see those teenage boys spinning out in the parking lot. I'll start letting her do that. Thanks again everyone!!
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I am so glad that someone talks about accepting their childs sexuality. I know a few that I feel are gay but won't come out. I would love to tell them that I couldn't care less but don't know how to approach it. Think it is their decision to tell when ready. Should I just say nothing or do you have a suggestion?
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now I'm going to be on high alert. Thank God you caught it when you did! BTW, which company are you talking about that might have been an inside job? I'm hoping it's not one I have an account with! :0)
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that's a pretty significant side effect! my 6yo son has very mild asthma and is only on very occasional advair/qvar, usually only if he's sick, but wow, i had no idea about the singulair. i can imagine how upsetting and scary that must have been. glad he's and you all are ok now :)
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