Good point. My son put me on his plan...sm
Posted By: oldtimer on 2008-03-15
In Reply to: I guess I'm not qualified to answer your question because - JMHO
last Christmas because I travel a lot by myself. I was considering dropping the land line, but now I don't think I will.
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Now THAT'S a good plan!! nm
That sounds like a good plan...
but I would be exhausted! I have a very large family to shop for!!!
Sounds like a good plan then!
Now you won't feel the need to modify it.
Sounds like a good plan. . sm
When I was going through something similar, I had to have see it with my own eyes. No matter how suspicious I was, he would always dismiss everything. Again, I really hope there isn't really anything going on!
good point...sm
except, in my opinion, the only thing they, organized religeon i.e., churches, are trying to *convert* is money out of our pockets and into theirs. I have felt for a long time that the word of God is free and that a lot of these *churches* feel they need to charge for their *services*, and I feel I can attain spirituality by my own studying and researching, rather than having to *conform* to what someone elses idea of God's word is. again, just my opinion. I don't open the door to these people either.
Good point. Thank you for the
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Good point!
I don't seem to need to be stressed for it to hit me, and unfortunately it always seems to be when I need to be out the door.
I had my gallbladder removed a couple of months ago and it seems even worse since then, alot of diarrhea.
Good point-
history shouldn't have to repeat itself- if we will only learn from it.
Look what happened during WWII to the Japanese, being put in interment camps (and these were American citizens) because of the hysteria at the time.
And during the Holocaust jewish people were desperate to come here for saftey and yet were limited to less than 30,000 a year, and many were turned away because of immigration policies.
What I find truly shocking is that in 1939 a Roper poll found that only 39 percent of Americans felt that Jews should be treated like other people. 53 percent believed that "Jews are different and should be restricted" and 10 percent believed that Jews should be deported (knowing what their fate would be!!). The United State's tight immigration polices were not lifted during the Holocaust and it is estimated that 190,000 to 200,000 Jews could have been saved if it were not for deliberately created obstacles to immigration. But hey we couldn't have them all coming over here and taking over the country, right?
Of course we now know that at the same time our own government was sneaking in Nazi war criminals so we could utilize their research and knowledge.
Now the Muslims are being treated like second-class citizens, and people seem to think it is perfectly legitimate and acceptable (because they all must be terrorists). Sound familiar?
Just be grateful for having the good fortune of being born as American citizens and have a little tolerance for those who are not as fortunate.
Good point- thanks! (nm)
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That's a good point too - thank you (sm)
I think I am going to rethink my earlier decision to just go with the popular advice to wait because that really is playing a game, and the precedent has already been set so if I change it now, he might take that as an ultimatum. I think I will ask, and if he says I am contacting him too much I will back off. If not, and he is happy with things as they are, I will just go with it.
Oh, good point.
I forgot about exercise. I have definitely stepped that up a few notches, which has helped a lot.
Good point!
Replacement activities are definitely helpful-especially for times when you normally smoked. For instance, I would drink water when I was on the phone cause I smoked alot then.
And like Misha said, note the money you are saving and use it to reward yourself for doing great- get massages or whatever you want to pamper yourself.
Good point. (sm)
I've had the same occur with my kids, as far as sometimes not having sufficient time to get to class (on time).
Good point. It is all about the key...
but what does the key truly signify? Especially if one is home all time anyway.
Good point
Heck, I forget to take other meds sometimes and they are not of the same variety and are not the cause of my forgetfulness.
Wow...good point. nm
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wow good point!!
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Good point....sm
I just told my mom today that the next one I make I am not putting the white boa trim on top because I said some people may not want that. I am asking $20 on ebay for this one. The ones without the trim on top will be less, probably $15. This is just the first one. I am going to make many different ones and different colors and see how they do.
Very good point...
... and somehow, even though I'm in my 50s, I hadn't really thought of it that way, because my mind hasn't caught up with my aging carcass (and I hope it never does, actually).
But after my father had passed away, and my mother's best friend died unexpectedly, the friend's husband started hitting on my mom. She said to me, the LAST thing she needed was another old geezer to nurse through his final illness and watch die!
Wannie, very good point! lol
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Yes, very good point on crating!
The poor animals simply become conditioned (brainwashed) basically because they have no other choice. Crates are used because owners are too lazy to take a couple weeks of physically teaching a dog to toilet outside. There are much better and more humane ways than crating.
You know both of you make a good point (sm)
Deciding to control our own reactions because "we will never, ever control what comes at us." Excellent point.
you make a very good point
I like your perspective. And by the way, your kids will expect you to apologize when you mess up...mine do. No one gets a free pass.
Good point! I could never buy a CD of Adam's
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Good point...I'll pay $10 only. :D :D nm
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Good point, I can see that as possible - I guess (sm)
If I never loan him money and I only pay for what is comfortable to me, then I can't be taken advantage of. If he started to ask for money, I could say no and break it off then, when I knew for sure. I guess if I draw the line now that's a good thing.
Playmates and playgrounds - good point (sm)
Yes! He goes on these three day fishing trips with his buddies, and they drink the whole time - a lot. He told me last night that no one else in that group cares what the other one does - he said "we all try to make sure each other is safe but other than that, we are all grown men, everybody has their secrets and their habits and all of us realize that."
Good. If you had relied on recept. to get your point
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Good point! Maybe he should have to pay child support!
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Good point, I will be contacting a lawyer - sm
to get their input, though I wil probably do the filing solo so I save money, only about $300 if I do it myself. Just need to get info and follow the rules.
a baby man....lol....haha!!! another good point! sm
my self esteem is really pretty good. Just that my heart is sometimes bigger than my head
Okay good news first, the running will stop at some point.
My youngest (3-1/2 now) did the same thing, and my 5-year-old never did either. I was mortified with his behavior and the worst part was my dh thought I was overreacting. Then he took the kids to the store alone one day. He came home and said "Wow Tommy is naughty in the store", well duh!!!! that is why I look like I have been through a battle when I get home from the store everytime. At about 2 1/2 he started listening and got psyced about holding on to the cart with mommy, or even better riding in one of the "car carts" that they have at the supermarket. But anywhere that he needed to sit still for I just ended up finding a babysitter until he was more calm (around 32 months).
My 5-year-old starts school this year too and she is having the same issue. She is not a shy girl by any means,but she is soooo worried about K. I think it is normal and I am hoping that she will be okay once she gets there and is involved in the activities.
Sorry I guess this was not really much help, except to know you are not alone.
Def. Plan B
Gets my vote, esp. presuming that you explained why you were taking that path.
Putting the paper on disk and printing at school was not an unreasonable option, as is telling her to call a neighbor or classmate who lives nearby to see if they have any paper to spare (I would accompany her no more than 3 blocks to pick up paper).
Or, you could also have suggested that she gather up her "nonessential" print jobs and print her paper out on the blank sides of those sheets.
Either way, she needs to deal with the embarrassement and/or reduced grade.
I plan
on doing something. I have printed out his picture and information. I intend to take that into the school and give it to the principal; letting him know I believe they should periodically check this website out and inform their teachers/employees of risks. I may even call the superintendent and voice my concerns with him too.
We have Plan A and Plan B
We had a new house built last year on a nice lakeside lot. We are about 15 years from retirement.
Plan A: We sell the house and retire to New Mexico.
Plan B: We stay here after retirement.
We are both investing in IRAs, 401Ks, etc., and we consider the house a retirement investment as well. As soon as we get our son through college, we will begin putting additional money on the principal so hopefully we can have the house paid off by the time we're ready to retire.
Whether we stay here or move will depend on a lot of things, like cost of living (very low here in Oklahoma, higher in New Mexico - Albuquerque/Santa Fe area), the state of our health, etc. That's why we have Plan A and Plan B.
It seems like she is trying to plan
things for them she thinks they might like. I do not feel she is mistreating them as much as they probably just want to stay home and do all the things they are used to doing. The sound of the mother's note seems like there is some animosity towards her- could play out with how the chidren feel, they can pick up on things like this and play to their advantage. I say have a good talk with the kids as well as the MIL and let all know to give some- the grandmother wants the children over sometimes, not unreasonble on her part.
Plan
My plan is to get the proper number of strips ready and sent in (the syndicates require a certain number be submitted at once so they can see the continued potential). The artist and myself will be 50/50 partners (in writing, of course).
I believe my idea has potential for other outlets if it is picked up (think of some other comic characters).
The money will be split, but I cannot afford to pay anyone up front. Basically we would be business partners.
My plan - sm
Thank you all who responded. Yes, I definitely want to bring him to my house. I guess I just needed some others who love animals to reassure me. :-) I am going to see if he is there this afternoon and how he reacts when I pet him and if I think I can get him in a carrier by myself. Oh, and do not worry - he will DEFINITELY be neutered ASAP. That is not even an option for my cats! I will keep you updated. Thanks again, everyone! :-)
Zero, and plan to keep it that way!
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sounds like a plan (sm)
You might want to discuss it with him first so he doesn't accuse you of being sneaky and not being sensitive to his needs (lol).
I was in pretty much the same boat and did what you are contemplating.
Guess what? My now ex put HIS money in a separate account (not accessible to me) and I STILL ended up paying all the bills!!
Can anyone recommend a plan for me?
I am 48 and do use my cellphone for emergency use only. Right now, I have Cingular One Go Phone but used it so rarely that within a few months, I had 135.00 in my fund.
I called Cingular One and asked them to switch me over to another plan to use up the 135.00 and she said okay, go to 25 cents per minute and when you deplete your 135.00, you can switch back to the monthly 30.00 plan again. Well, I went on a long trip, my car malfunctioned and when I went to call AAA, the cellphone said I had no minutes...seems I had bought air time which had expired rather than talk time...
So, I was told to buy a telephone card at a store for 100.00 which would last 365 days. Befoire I do this, since I know so very little about the cellphone plans, I wonder if anyone has any great ideas for me or perhaps will say I should do what was suggested?
Thank you much!
I think it helps to plan.
Even if that would be for 7 days. I like to somewhat plan, and then deviate when needed. Staples are pretty much always on hand. For something different, I'll look at cookbooks and write down the ingredients adding them to my shopping list. I think having a list and pretty much knowing what you want to cook each day is a good way to save money and curb overspending on none-such items. I am battling with getting my kids to eat more fruits and veggies, so I am having that struggle (should be eating more rice and not so many potatoes). Good luck.... 
By the way, that's the plan..just have to get through this part first (nm)
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Sounds like a plan to me!
I agree 100%. Look at her lack of personal responsibility. She has wealth and privilege most people only dream about. She spends her days partying, parading in front of the cameras in skimpy outfits, and essentially doing nothing useful whatsoever. Shame on her! May jail serve as a wake-up call for her to improve herself.
You know, sounds like a plan and
exactly what I was thinking as I returned home. I would not care if he weighed twice as much rather than change in the midst of all this crap and perhaps lose him?? I told her that and when she kept on was very forceful as she was starting to get under my skin. I do not mind mixing a small amount of wet with the dry like she advised after I was so emphatic with her about them not being able to do dialysis. I know the risks with weight, diabetes, arthritic conditions, etc. but I also know now is a bad time to change kitties food when so far so good with the brand I have been giving them. Love them too much to risk their lives right at this very time. I thought seriously about just what you said, changing vets.
My weekend plan:
It's pretty self-explanatory. Buy a nice seedless watermelon, insert funnel and pour in oodles of liquor of choice...vodka, schnapps, rum, etc. (You'd be amazed at how much booze these things can drink!) Let sit overnight in your fridge if you can stand to wait that long, cut up and serve or drill holes into melon and give your best bud a straw and watch the magic happen. See you in rehab.
First of all don’t plan on retiring-
for what reason? I start drawing pension next year (65) from one company where I used to work but not planning any kind of retirement. I married a younger man a few years ago and we actually moved up in house size from before the marriage. I just think anyone who reaches a certain age should downgrade from any steps in a home- those are for younger folks.
If you are serious about leaving, you need a plan. SM
First, get some therapy for yourself to gain back some self confidence. Then make a plan. Find out how much a divorce attorney costs and start saving. If you are not being physically abused, try to stay in it as long as kids are young. Then make your escape.
Believe me, you are not the only one going through this. Are there any women's groups in your town you can join? You really need to vent. I know what that's like.
Personally I don't plan on becoming one of those - sm
old ladies who has the super short hair all puffed up and look more like a boy. I am with you with keeping hair long, though I don't know Meredith Viera (don't watch much TV). I personally know of two women, one 59 and one 76 who both have long hair, and I mean long, down to their waists. I think it is great. My hair is down to my waist too, though I am only 42. I am with your husband these other women are most likley jealous. Enjoy your hair and don't let the harpies bother you. It's your hair, your head, and you are the only one that needs to like it (I am glad your DH likes it of coure, mine loves my long hair). Next time they comment just let them know it's your hair and you like it long and that you do not need their input on the matter, your hair length is your business nobody elses.
I believe it's the ones without a plan that wins, lol.
We have a very detailed plan...but that just enforces our chances of NOT WINNING!
;-)
Well, it didn't quite go according to plan! LOL
My youngest had a game early Saturday morning, ran our errands and then spent a few hours at a festival our town was having (like a mini-fair). We ate, rode rides, played games (he won a live goldfish) and watched the entertainment. Came home, he went to play at a friend's and I relished in the quietness of the house. :) Woke up this morning sneezing, watery eyes, and having to work for the Q so will get a little more motivated for these projects next weekend!
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