Good point! Maybe he should have to pay child support!
Posted By: MeMT on 2009-02-12
In Reply to: unbelievable - FTMT
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child support
Mine owes over $76,000.
child support
I'm in southern Idaho and I was shocked one day to read in the paper that only 10% of people here who are supposed to pay child support are current on their payments. I knew it was a problem, but I didn't realize it was that bad. I generally think my ex is a selfish jerk, but I do give him credit that he has always paid his child support and it's no small amount ($1000 a month). Sometimes I think I'd rather have him out of our lives and give up the support payments, but then I realize that it's best for the kids to have a relationship with him (unless he was abusive, which he's not, just self-absorbed).
She was getting a lot of child support before and --
her exhusband just got out of the military and now refuses to give her any money. He is in another state and is not working anymore and says he does not have to.
Yes. There is a reason. I am a little behind on child support. sm
So, I am scared that it will be used against me. I get my son anything he needs and he is very well taken care of by the both of us. Very well. I fell on some hard times last year and I am now behind.
So, if I take this to court that will be held against me and I may lose him forever.
I did NOT want to go into any detail with my post. I just wanted to say that i was having a very hard day and was sad about the entire situation. That's all. Thanks for your caring.
Child support questions
I hope I'm on the right board here. :D I have 2 kids and have been divorced 4-1/2 years. I have had a child support order in effect since around 3 years ago, which included back pay for the whole 4-1/2 years. This was for (don't laugh) $125 a month. I FINALLY just started getting this support about a month ago. First, it was $25-something a week and the past couple weeks, it has dropped down to $9.65. I believe this is automatically coming out of his paycheck (this is the first job he's had in forever). He tells me he has a very good job in trucking and so, what my question is, if I go back to court to modify that order, to get more, since he now has a job, will I need an attorney, or can I do that on my own? I'm really thinking it won't even be worth the time and money with a lawyer, but I would like to have it modified, since he has an income. To add to that, I am paying $250 for the kids' insurance, and I wasn't when the original order was made. He also tells me he just bought a house (which is likely baloney, anyway), but if he can afford a house, surely he can afford more than $36 a month in child support.
PS: Per the handy-dandy canculator on the state website, figuring both our incomes in (what he claims to be getting, anyway), he should be owing between $1500 and $1800.
Thanks, y'all!
I got it! Tell him 1 more kid will equal a lot more child support after the divorce : )
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rant! who's owed the most child support?
mine is currently in arrears in the amount of $23,775 --- he inherited MILLIONS when his father died -- he refuses to work, he's never paid me a dime.... my case worker is attempting to put a lien on his $1/2-million home in Vegas.. Blessed with this child, but sure would like some support, maybe not have to work two jobs...
I'm so glad you're all here for ranting.... thanks, friends.
Of course he should help and he paid child support because they are his kids (nm)
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I did not receive any child support, so we agreed to
split all bills evenly as we have joint custody. That is what our papers say, that we split all major expenses, i.e., clothes, school supplies, education fees, etc.
Child support - must depend on state, my
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OP does not support raunchy media-spun shows...that is the point.
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Update traffic court/child support
Well, I managed to make it to family court yesterday and back home while flying low :) My son-in-law walked out 5 months in arrears and next payment due 3/1, already in debt for about 2 grand, plus he has to pay for the DNA test (99.999% - ha, didn't need Maury after all!) My daughter is $1500 in arrears with another payment due 3/1, and her order has been moved over into the category to take any Federal Income Tax refunds she gets in the future to be applied to the order. So now, finally, I should have no further court appearances unless the two want to TPR (terminpate parental rights) and let me adopt. The next step for my daughter is jail if she doesn't pay in March, so she is already making noises she might let me adopt. The dud has wanted to me to adopt her all along to avoid CS.
I went to municipal court and had the arrest warrant removed and was given another 2 months to pay the s-t-u-p-i-d ticket. I asked whether the judge would accept that I corrected the tag problem the next day and was told no. If it was expired at the time the ticket was written, then they do not make exceptions. I checked our local newspaper and the city hired 11 new officers in 2006 for the specific purpose of enforcing vehicle/driving codes in the city. They have increased the number of traffic-related tickets issued to almost 18,000 in 2006, up from less than 8,000 in 2004. Now I just have to remember to pay it, but did buy a new day planner today and have written 3 reminders to myself to pay it on time 
On another note, as I have no health insurance and need certain maintenance medications (almost $1000) a month, I found needymeds.com. I have already received a 3-month supply of one drug and will be receiving another each month shipped to my doctor's office. The manufacturers help people who fall between the cracks by providing free medications.
I feel a lot better about things. 
Don't you watch Judge Judy? Being behind in child support sm
does not disqualify you from seeing your children. It's true! LOL
Child support is a separate issue from visitation. nm
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Child support works by you supplying info to them
You need to contact the state - to supply where the other parent works....they don't track 'em down - you have to supply the info and everytime the other parent changes jobs, you have to call CS and supply them with the new info. Believe me, I did this from the time my child was 9 until 18......
You supply the info and you keep on CS behinds..........don't know what state you live in but in the 21st Century here in the USA - they are gunning for deadbeat parents
AND I live in a huge metropolitan area where said CS was gotten from...20 million people in my state......
If father thought child support was not being spent
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Posters are correct, child support diff from visitation
Just because a parent is behind on child support does NOT mean you lost your visitation rights, even if you went to court and tried making restitution. What the courts might do is GARNISH your salary (if employed) with some going towards back child support. I am not sure if all states are the same, but I would think they are on this subject, but again, I'm not sure. Florida works this way though, this I can assure you.
good point...sm
except, in my opinion, the only thing they, organized religeon i.e., churches, are trying to *convert* is money out of our pockets and into theirs. I have felt for a long time that the word of God is free and that a lot of these *churches* feel they need to charge for their *services*, and I feel I can attain spirituality by my own studying and researching, rather than having to *conform* to what someone elses idea of God's word is. again, just my opinion. I don't open the door to these people either.
Good point. Thank you for the
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Good point!
I don't seem to need to be stressed for it to hit me, and unfortunately it always seems to be when I need to be out the door.
I had my gallbladder removed a couple of months ago and it seems even worse since then, alot of diarrhea.
Good point-
history shouldn't have to repeat itself- if we will only learn from it.
Look what happened during WWII to the Japanese, being put in interment camps (and these were American citizens) because of the hysteria at the time.
And during the Holocaust jewish people were desperate to come here for saftey and yet were limited to less than 30,000 a year, and many were turned away because of immigration policies.
What I find truly shocking is that in 1939 a Roper poll found that only 39 percent of Americans felt that Jews should be treated like other people. 53 percent believed that "Jews are different and should be restricted" and 10 percent believed that Jews should be deported (knowing what their fate would be!!). The United State's tight immigration polices were not lifted during the Holocaust and it is estimated that 190,000 to 200,000 Jews could have been saved if it were not for deliberately created obstacles to immigration. But hey we couldn't have them all coming over here and taking over the country, right?
Of course we now know that at the same time our own government was sneaking in Nazi war criminals so we could utilize their research and knowledge.
Now the Muslims are being treated like second-class citizens, and people seem to think it is perfectly legitimate and acceptable (because they all must be terrorists). Sound familiar?
Just be grateful for having the good fortune of being born as American citizens and have a little tolerance for those who are not as fortunate.
Good point- thanks! (nm)
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That's a good point too - thank you (sm)
I think I am going to rethink my earlier decision to just go with the popular advice to wait because that really is playing a game, and the precedent has already been set so if I change it now, he might take that as an ultimatum. I think I will ask, and if he says I am contacting him too much I will back off. If not, and he is happy with things as they are, I will just go with it.
Oh, good point.
I forgot about exercise. I have definitely stepped that up a few notches, which has helped a lot.
Good point!
Replacement activities are definitely helpful-especially for times when you normally smoked. For instance, I would drink water when I was on the phone cause I smoked alot then.
And like Misha said, note the money you are saving and use it to reward yourself for doing great- get massages or whatever you want to pamper yourself.
Good point. (sm)
I've had the same occur with my kids, as far as sometimes not having sufficient time to get to class (on time).
Good point. It is all about the key...
but what does the key truly signify? Especially if one is home all time anyway.
Good point
Heck, I forget to take other meds sometimes and they are not of the same variety and are not the cause of my forgetfulness.
Wow...good point. nm
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wow good point!!
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Good point....sm
I just told my mom today that the next one I make I am not putting the white boa trim on top because I said some people may not want that. I am asking $20 on ebay for this one. The ones without the trim on top will be less, probably $15. This is just the first one. I am going to make many different ones and different colors and see how they do.
Very good point...
... and somehow, even though I'm in my 50s, I hadn't really thought of it that way, because my mind hasn't caught up with my aging carcass (and I hope it never does, actually).
But after my father had passed away, and my mother's best friend died unexpectedly, the friend's husband started hitting on my mom. She said to me, the LAST thing she needed was another old geezer to nurse through his final illness and watch die!
Wannie, very good point! lol
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Yes, very good point on crating!
The poor animals simply become conditioned (brainwashed) basically because they have no other choice. Crates are used because owners are too lazy to take a couple weeks of physically teaching a dog to toilet outside. There are much better and more humane ways than crating.
You know both of you make a good point (sm)
Deciding to control our own reactions because "we will never, ever control what comes at us." Excellent point.
Good point. My son put me on his plan...sm
last Christmas because I travel a lot by myself. I was considering dropping the land line, but now I don't think I will.
you make a very good point
I like your perspective. And by the way, your kids will expect you to apologize when you mess up...mine do. No one gets a free pass.
Good point! I could never buy a CD of Adam's
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Good point...I'll pay $10 only. :D :D nm
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Good point, I can see that as possible - I guess (sm)
If I never loan him money and I only pay for what is comfortable to me, then I can't be taken advantage of. If he started to ask for money, I could say no and break it off then, when I knew for sure. I guess if I draw the line now that's a good thing.
Playmates and playgrounds - good point (sm)
Yes! He goes on these three day fishing trips with his buddies, and they drink the whole time - a lot. He told me last night that no one else in that group cares what the other one does - he said "we all try to make sure each other is safe but other than that, we are all grown men, everybody has their secrets and their habits and all of us realize that."
Good. If you had relied on recept. to get your point
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Good point, I will be contacting a lawyer - sm
to get their input, though I wil probably do the filing solo so I save money, only about $300 if I do it myself. Just need to get info and follow the rules.
a baby man....lol....haha!!! another good point! sm
my self esteem is really pretty good. Just that my heart is sometimes bigger than my head
Okay good news first, the running will stop at some point.
My youngest (3-1/2 now) did the same thing, and my 5-year-old never did either. I was mortified with his behavior and the worst part was my dh thought I was overreacting. Then he took the kids to the store alone one day. He came home and said "Wow Tommy is naughty in the store", well duh!!!! that is why I look like I have been through a battle when I get home from the store everytime. At about 2 1/2 he started listening and got psyced about holding on to the cart with mommy, or even better riding in one of the "car carts" that they have at the supermarket. But anywhere that he needed to sit still for I just ended up finding a babysitter until he was more calm (around 32 months).
My 5-year-old starts school this year too and she is having the same issue. She is not a shy girl by any means,but she is soooo worried about K. I think it is normal and I am hoping that she will be okay once she gets there and is involved in the activities.
Sorry I guess this was not really much help, except to know you are not alone.
Should say the child found in Florida proved to be the Caylee child, homicide.
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Thanks for the support.
I understand exactly where you are coming from. You don't see atheists walking around and knocking on other people's doors. I have friends who are Catholic, Methodist, Lutheran, Buddhist, Muslim, Jewish, Episcopalian, Atheist, Agnostic, and even Wiccan, so whose religion is "right?"
thanks, but what is HP support?
i've been kinda worried about this little error message...apprec the info.
what is HP Support
Sorry about the HP Support. It is Hewlett Packard. I was just having a moment and should have just said to email support at whatever brand of computer you owned.
I had this same problem with my Dell computer also and had no clue it was just an update I needed to do since adding security. I did this since grandchildren will be visiting and didn't want them getting into my files, uninstalling programs or anything else; won't have to sit and watch them 24/7 while playing games on one of my computers. Anyway, you're more than welcome.
Thanks . . . for your support
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SUPPORT
I barely weigh 110 pounds and that is with my clothes and shoes with something else in my pocket.....You have my support....
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