Good grief, we didn't even go to either of my niece's graduations
Posted By: trose on 2007-12-17
In Reply to: What would you all do? My SIL is making my DH attend my nephew's HS grad in Texas this June...sm - poorMT
and they both live here in our town. We love them both dearly and are very close to them but they both said it didn't bother them. They go to different high schools and there is limited seating at one of them. Each graduate only gets 7 tickets and after parents, grandparents, and siblings we really couldn't go. We did go their grad parties and they were more excited about what was in their card anyway. LOL Your husband needs to let his sister know that he plans to have a vacation with his entire family, so it is either go see them a week later, or go wherever you choose.
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good grief.
By the way, meant floor above.
I'm not "troubled" or a psychopath. Are you trying to say that if you get stalked by a psycho ex, then there must be something wrong with you? I think not.
Oh good grief.
Good grief...
On Regis and Kelly they showed a picture of her from a newspaper and she had an alcohol ankle bracelet on.
Good Grief!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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good grief! nit pic ..nm
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good grief how did you get mean spirited out of THAT?!
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Good grief. That was supposed to be *psychopath*... sm
not *physiopath* or whatever I typed! LOL
Good grief, they deserve a safe sm
plce to live! They are not going to remember the big house, etc when they are grown. They WILL remember the abuse you subjected them to and did not get out.
Good grief. Do parents not teach their
kids ANYTHING anymore?
good grief! If living in a place sm
with an HOA means living next to snooty people like you, I would rather live next to the renters! You act like a person can just up and sell their house like you would sell a car.
Think I will stay where normal people are and not the hoity-toity snot faces like yourself!
Good grief, I thought it was funny...nm
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good grief!!! I have to go to the store!!! Thanks for the remind!!!
I am trying to not buy so much because I am taking my first vacation in 4 years next Friday, but I think I will have to break down and get groceries!!! GEEZ!!! I want pizza.... YUMMMM
Good grief - I hope not!!! Mine was not pretty! nm
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Good grief, lost of people get married and don't have children nm
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They were good to wear if you didn't do
your homework that day and got paddled! The sound of the 1" thick wooden paddle made a "wumph, wumph" sound and never hurt a bit. 
DIdn't ask for your opinion on dietary content. Have a good day. nm
Good question - I fell last night and my dh didn't even help me get up (sm)
I mean I fell really hard and hurt myself and he didn't offer to help.
I really hope things get better for you, whatever your sadness is about.
I wish we could all go the week of the graduation but their graduations are always a week earlier th
ours. So actually all three of my kids are still in school this week while all of hers will already be out. My youngest is actually missing school to go but my two older kids have finals so they can't go at all that week.
Thank you. I guess I'm just trying to find a nice way to say it without causing friction and keeping the peace.
My DH is your typical male, just deal with it when the time comes whereas I want to take care of things right away without hurting anyone's feelings.
I am sorry for your grief.
I lose my Belgian when he was only 6 to sand colic, had to have him put to sleep. That was over 15 years ago and I still miss him.
I have 3 old horses that are rescues. I am sure they would go to slaughter. But they are still rideable and very good with children. I love them so much. They are like big puppies and follow me all around their pasture.
Keep saving one at a time!
I feel for your grief!
This really helped me find my bearings in watching my dad reject my mom for someone like the person you are describing. No it doesn't make sense... She had him totally bewitched. Mom had be so loving and faithful... It blows my mind how he could trade what he had for something so cheap.
It matters not if cherished friends
On whom I leaned in vain,
Have wounded me in word or deed,
And left me with great pain.
What matters is, can I forgive,
Again and yet again?
Its not have they been true, but Lord,
Have I been true to them?
Twill matter not when evening comes how rough the road I've trod,
If only I have walked with Him,
And led some soul to God.
For when I wake to be like Him
Who saved me by His grace,
Earth's pain will vanish when I catch
One glimpse of His dear face.
(author anonymous)
It shook my faith to watch my preacher dad do something so awful. But but the storms make the trees roots grow deeper. I can't say I like storms, but I'm thankful to find God faithful when nothing else seems secure. Look to HIM! He CARES!!! And above all, FORGIVE your dad. Unforgivness is like poison, as deadly to the soul as cancer to the body. It simply is not worth it to hold a grudge. God will deal with the rewards of the wicked, and I think we can feel compassion when we reallize what that means. How sad!
Maybe during this time of grief, s/m
John is not remembering things correctly. That would be quite understandable. If you explained everything to your aunt and she is on your side about what was said in the past, then so be it. I would let that drop right now.
Even with Joan dying, your mom does not need to be moved right away. I feel that John should pay the cost for moving her as well. You GAVE them the deeds to the plots, they should be grateful.
I would go to the viewing. But if he does start anything, do not argue, do not defend, walk away. No matter what you say will be wrong. He needs to get through his grief first. Being that you suffer from panic attacks, you should just limit your time there. My DH suffers from them as well, but sometimes there are things that we just have to do.
Best of luck to you.
Has anyone ever used online resoureces to help with grief? sm
I am having a lot of issues regarding the passing of my mom. It will be a year this fall and it still seems like it was just yesterday. She was not only my mom, but my best friend. I feel like it was a double whammy. She passed suddenly, so there was no preparing...not that you really can prepare. Anyway, I have had people tell me it is time to move on and I should snap out of it. I keep it together for my kids and try to make their days fun and enjoyable, but all I do is think about my mom and when alone I cry for her and the pain I feel. I would like to look for some type of help regarding greif and dealing with it. Has anyone ever used online help to deal with greif? Thanks.
Grief counseling before the fact SM
I am under a lot of stress with an elderly mother who has a grim prognosis. She is 90 years of age and has CHF with another recent hospitalization last week. She is home now, but her doctor called me the day of her discharge and gave me a complete detailed summary of her condition and prognosis. I have been more anxious since the discussion with him, although he is to be commended for his frankness and the sensitive way he handled the situation.
I know counseling is beneficial after we lose someone close to us, but I feel I need some help now just dealing with this now. The only way I can explain how I feel is to say I feel like I am carrying a bomb and not able to put it down. I know what will happen and still not able to prevent the inevitable. The nurse told me last week at the hospital that the normal BNP level is not to be above 50. My mother's BNP this last time was over 4600. The doctor told me the same value on the telephone and told me it almost blew his socks off, in his words exactly. They removed 5 1/2 liters of fluid this admission. She also has chronic renal failure. I am blessed to have her this long, but it makes it no easier to let go. I have such a heaviness in my heart. Thank you for listening.
Is there a grief support group in your town?
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niece
Oh yeah, she may be mad at you now but just look at it this way in the future she will look back and be very thankful that you stepped in! Don't let yourself be talked into not mentioning it and keeping quite. This could end up being her life you are talking about here!
One niece was an MT
for a physical therapy place until it went out of business. She was making a lot of money but only knows physical therapy stuff. Two other nieces have talked to me about it, but one is not motivated enough to work at home unsupervised. The other niece recently had to quit her job in graphic design to stay home with her 1 year old son who has been diagnosed with juvenile diabetes.
I wish my niece could know you
She needs to develop a backbone and realize there is life after a "control freak", abusive, alcoholic, drug dependent jerk!!!! You go, girl - so glad you found a millionaire - Does he have a brother between 48-55? I never know when my circumstances may change. Love my husband, but you never know - he's lots older than me - I have to be prepared, ya know? Next time, I want nice, fun and definitely rich, so I can do this job only if I want to, not to pay the bills.
my niece
You can tell them not to be like my niece who is going to be 14 in about a week. She is a young lady now. She does not bathe, brush her hair, wear deodorant, or brush her teeth. She has now gotten over 13 cavities and will be spending the next sets of mondays at the dentist getting teeth fixed. She also has terrible gum disease. I have tried talks but she is not my child. She does not live with me so it is hard for her to listen to her mother. Her mother really isn't much better. Instead of washing clothes, when she was younger, she would just take her to a thrift store and buy whatever they had. Tight clothes, too small, too big or whatever. Tell them they don't want to be the stinky kid with dirty clothes, hair, teeth that are crusty and bleeding, with clothes on like that. We now call it "don't be a morgan" to my 12 year old who does not want to brush his teeth or retainer, mostly because he does not rinse the retainer off enough and it tastes funny. HA.
your niece
What a GORGEOUS baby!!
You certainly are blessed, and your sister is blessed to have a sister as kind-hearted as you to have come stay with her!
Merry, merry Christmas!
My niece
the love of my life! doing this right here! holding her as much as I can!!!
PS i understand about your cat though... before i moved closer to be with my niece, my dogs would always make me happy
My sister and niece
are really cat people, too. They are really funny. My sister used to have one, Luke, a big black cat wearing a texedo, who would every year without fail stalk a wooden Christmas elf we set out, glare at it for a minute or two, then take that giant paw and give a big swipe and knock it to the floor. Every year, same elf, same reaction. What a gem! We laughed til we cried! Thanks again. I am meeting a friend tonight for dinner, and her two cats are the love of her life!
Need advice on niece
My sister has a daughter, 7, with some behavioral and speech problems. In school today the teacher asked her to "hurry up" and my niece grumbled and gave a look. Apparently, on the bus she told her classmates that she was going to "put a bomb in Miss _____'s milk." Those students in turn told the teacher. Teacher responded by telling niece it was inappropriate and that she was spending time with the principal tomorrow. My sister is at a loss on how to approach my niece about this. She is kinda of jaded when it comes to this particular daughter, thinking she's just fine, but this niece has always been violent. How should she approach her daughter (in 1st grade) in this situation?
TIA!
How often do you see your niece/nephews
My brother-in-law and sister-in-law moved back to this state recently after being gone for many years. They have 2 teenagers. All 4 are living with grandparents right now, most probably indefinitely but that's a whole other story. My question is how often do your niece/nephews spend the night at your house? Mine are also out of state so it is hard to say what it would be from that side. I just feel like after having little family here for so many years I am now on family overload. These kids want to stay and be with us all the time. Granted, I understand they have no friends bc they aren't in school yet and they like us more than gma/gpa and their own parents but I rarely say no bc I don't want to be the bad guy but I like my piece and quiet! and of course I like less mess to clean up. not to mention teenagers are expensive. So what's the average out there? Once, twice a month?
My niece recomended something to me that
WORKS AND IMMEDIATELY!!!!! She told me last year and I kept using other things and a few weeks ago bought it and she nailed it!!!
GOLD BOND! 
I got the Medicated, but my sister got regular and she says the same thing. THIS STUFF WORKS. The medicated is wonderful because it instantly cools the skin and NO MORE ITCH. It is menthol, and therefore would not use it on face or around the eyes, but it has STOPPED the unrelenting itch of legs and arms for me!
My niece died from
obstructive sleep apnea at 37. I did not see at my father's funeral. I was not called when she died. My brother's wife called my first cousin and he passed the news on to his mother (my maternal aunt) and maternal aunt called me. I had no idea (being as my brother did not speak nor want me in their lives) that the niece had gone thru so much. My aunt and I went to the funeral home and funeral and the mother told me about what kind of life she had, drugs, alcohol, prison - yes prison. No one ever told me and this was about 3 times she was in prison. I never knew anything about these kids coming up. The mother told me the niece did not have insurance, could not afford CPAP. I would have bought that had I known but like I said, brother made the decision to NOT have me around and I went along with his wants. The only heirs would be my brother's children, not his wife, not ever. I am sorry you do not tend to understand this but this is the case. In the years since 1973 no one from that family called until nephew in jail in maybe 1986 or 1987. I never heard my name called by Aunt on the first part of it. Only sibling I had. I have complete peace of mind and sleep like a baby. After my brother died with his children being 4 and 6, his wife could have reached out to me then, did not happen. All water under the bridge, long time ago.
Oh and the model is my niece....sm
But she is like my own. I have kept her a lot since she was 5 weeks old. Sis-in-law is single and when she would date I would keep her. The child's dad is a loser. He walked away when sis-in-law got pregnant and hasn't seen Addie since she was an infant and doesn't want to even though he lives a few miles away. So I say she is better off without him.
Praying for your niece and family....
Lost my dad to this a year ago, about 5 years after being diagnosed. Blessings and strength to your family.
RE: Thanks everyone for your replies. I have forwarded them on to my niece who is the one (sm)
who had the positive test. She is only 21 and this is her first pregnancy. All your replies are greatly appreciated!! Thank you!
I'm sorry to hear about your niece, Lilly
I'll keep her in my prayers.
It is totally ridiculous, my niece just went to hers
and got her dress and all the accessories at David's Bridal, it was more like 500.00 or so. That's not including the extra cash she needed to go out afterwards to *Friday's*. They are 14 years old! AND then they expect these Sweet 16 parties? LOL Well, if the parents do it, they're to blame. I don't really know if it's actually for the kid or just to *keep up with the Joneses* or to try to impress or what it is but it is getting out of hand now. We had none of that stuff growing up. I think our parents were smarter than that and didn't put themselves in DEEP DEBT with credit cards etc. So at least we'll be getting inheritances. These kids will be crying down the road that their parents spent theirs! Oh well ;) LOL
Talk to niece not your sister
Make this an oppotunity to bond with your niece. Don't tell her who told you, just talk to her alone and in a nonconfronting manner. Her sexuality is none of anyones business, teens have sex its been happening for 100s of years. She needs to know you are concerned about her health (pregnancy happens and lives change and things usually work out okay, but STDs can kill and infect more than just her. Offer to take her to a clinic to get tested and encourage that if she is going to be active then she needs to be on birth control plus a barrier method for her safety and her partners' safety. I would also talk to her about the drinking any other substance use that , may be going on. Offer her your ear to listen to her need to fit in, which is probably what is going on. She will hate you if you go to her mom,try talking to your niece first. See if she wants to go out for some girl time, shopping at the mall and out to lunch or something. Car rides are a great opportunity to talk and bond with nieces, daughters, etc..., and she can't storm out of the car if she gets upset.
That's what I told Lisa, my niece. She was in
disbelief. What really hurts is that her little girl was with her, and there is nothing in the world more important to her little girl than her "kitties." She carries them around and surrounds them with stuffed animals and is turning into a wonderful pet person. I am just so happy about that! I don't always approve of kids having pets, especially when very, very young. My niece waited until her daughter was of the age and understanding of respecting them until they went to the shelter, then back later for a second one after her little one kept asking for another! What a happy home for the cats! They found the pot at the end of the rainbow with the two of them! LOL!!! 
I agree with you on that. I saw it for myself when my niece married. SM
Her husband's sister just automatically developed an additude toward my niece, who is very quiet and very nice and could not be a better wife and mother. The sister was actually jealous of my niece and actually made comments about how no one would have ever been good enough for her "Joey." My niece was good to his family whenever they visited (they lived out of state) but finally told her husband that she would prefer to stay at his mom's house when they visited, even though the house was smaller. She was tired of the cold shoulder she got at ther sister's house. I saw it with my own eyes. It truly can happen for no reason whatsoever. The rest of the family loves my niece.
niece and restaurant -- are those right? can't get 'em
just hate that. i've added those to my Expander so they correct themselves... i know there's more ...
My 13 y.o. niece has just been dx with Grave's disease. Does anyone here have any info or sm
advice on what I can tell my brother about this? They are such a precious family. Brother visibly upset over this because he has been disciplining her for behavioral problems, etc., when all along it's been here thyroid. They want to do radiation right away to help shrink it? Or possibly remove thyroid altogether. She is so pretty. I spent the summer with them and yes, she did act diff. from other 13 year olds, looked very developed for her age (to me), and her eyes weren't bulging to me. I'm so glad they caught it today. It sounded like she was in the early stages of shock with fever, shakiness, etc.
Anyone with experience in this? Thank you so much.
Lucky you! My niece has a red Australian Cattle Dog
and she is adorable. Name is Reggie. She was taught to ring a bell when she needed to go out and learned to do so in 2 days! She herds everyone when they are in the pool and my niece must actually stop her or she gets blisters on her little feet and is worn out! They are incredible. I know some people refer to them as Heelers as well, maybe the same thing or maybe a tad different. In any event, what a great dog!!
I am in Bluefield, VA. My niece is in her first year at Marshall. nm
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That is so cute! My niece's little girl cracks me up, too. She
just painted a picture for me that she has been working on for quite some time. I went over on Saturday night and she had me close my eyes for the unveiling. It is adorable. She made a yellow background because she knows it is my favorite color. They are so precious, aren't they?
Thank you! I didn't realize they made computer glasses. Will make an appt. Spit didn't wor
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She is gorgeous, and a twin to my niece's beautiful cat, Nina! NM
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Niece died with sleep apnea, husband has
I know how dangerous- the niece was 39. Hubs also wears the mask every single night. He and I both know well about this. He has a brother who absolutely needs, had wreck driving in the daytime, somnolent but cannot tell some people.
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