Good grief - I hope not!!! Mine was not pretty! nm

• How many of you think this might be true - sm.
  • Not sure who look like their moms, but maybe have some - Mom of 2
  • A twist to that question - me
  • I think there is some truth to this - MQMT1m
  • I think - Mia
  • my mother-in-law and I SM - sassee
  • Well my son doesn't like girls to be too skinny lol (sm) - MeMT
  • We are absolutely nothing alike - mtmomof2
  • mom look alikes - Sis
  • oops... - Amanda
  • Good grief - I hope not!!! Mine was not pretty! nm - starving artist
  • Not so sure... - sm
  • I think there might be a nugget of truth there.... - SM
    • hope not cause she's dead! - mtmtmt
      • tooo funny - God rest their souls!... - starving artist

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he will forget and talk to me in a disrespectful way. When that happens, I sit him right down and say, "NOBODY talks to me that way, not even you." He knows I am serious. I once quit a job over the way the boss treated me and talked to me.

Because your husband has been getting away with this for a long time, it is going to be difficult to "retrain" him, so to speak. You will have to be firm, even sometimes to the point where you may feel like you are nagging.

The key is to stay very calm and matter-of-fact. Don't show any anger (even if you are boiling over with it) and don't let him draw you into an argument. Simply say, "I will be treated with respect. I will not allow anyone to speak to me in that tone of voice or to say those things to me. I treat you with respect, and I expect the same in return."

Good luck. I wish you all the best.

It is not normal 6-year-old behavior, despite what others say.  It is normal bratty, spoiled 6-year-old behavior, and it is not acceptable.  Since your husband won't correct him, you are just going to have to let the kid know that you aren't his sibling and you don't compete for slushies and you are happy that they have a good time together.  Try and stay in that mindset.  Also, if you don't mind my commenting on something I think you said earlier about them cuddling and stuff and how you thought that was strange - it might seem strange if it is not something you have witnessed before, but that is an important part of bonding.  Six years old is still pretty young and they should be doing a lot of cuddling.  It will end soon enough so let your hubby give him that affection.  The kid might not be getting it from his mom or others in his life.   

I also don't understand why others are saying you are humiliating your husband in a public forum.  That's silly.  Now if you posted it on a billboard in his hometown, that would be different!

if he doesn't he could at least smoke right by a window and blow the smoke directly outside - maybe in just one room in the house.  I think he should definitely smoke outside but if he refuses, blowing the smoke directly out the window will help a bit.  My father-in-law smokes in the house sometimes right by the window, and his house doesn't smell nearly as bad as a lot of smokers' houses.

I'm sure you know your husband is putting your health in danger by doing this.  My step-grandpa died of lung cancer and never smoked, but both of his wives chain smoked, and I'm sure that second-hand smoke was a factor in him dying of lung cancer.  My husband also has asthma, and I wonder if it's partly because his father smoked in the house his whole life.  Dr. Phil always says you teach people how to treat you, and it sounds like up until this point it hasn't bothered you too much, so you will have to teach him something different now that it is really getting to you.  Good for you for putting your foot down!

7. Call the 3  national credit reporting organizations immediately to place a fraud alert  on your name and also call the Social Security fraud line number.  I  had never heard of doing that until advised by a bank that called to tell me  an application for credit was made over the Internet in my name. The alert  means any company that checks your credit knows your information was stolen,  and they have to contact you by phone to authorize new credit.   
By the time I  was advised to do this, almost two weeks after the theft, all the damage had  been done. There are records of all the credit checks initiated by the  thieves' purchases, none of which I knew about before placing the  alert.  Since then, no additional damage has been done, and the thieves  threw my wallet away this weekend (someone turned it in).  It seems to  have stopped them dead in their tracks.


Now, here are  the numbers you always need to contact about your wallet, etc., has been  stolen:
 
1.) Equifax:  1-800-525-6285

2.) Experian  (formerly TRW): 1-888-397-3742

3.) Trans   Union : 1-800-680-7289

4.) Social  Security Administration (fraud line): 1-800-269-0271

We pass along  jokes on the Internet; we pass along just about everything.  

If you are  willing to pass this information along, it could really help someone.

I lose my Belgian when he was only 6 to sand colic, had to have him put to sleep. That was over 15 years ago and I still miss him.

I have 3 old horses that are rescues. I am sure they would go to slaughter. But they are still rideable and very good with children. I love them so much. They are like big puppies and follow me all around their pasture.

Keep saving one at a time!

John is not remembering things correctly.  That would be quite understandable.  If you explained everything to your aunt and she is on your side about what was said in the past, then so be it. I would let that drop right now. 

Even with Joan dying, your mom does not need to be moved right away.  I feel that John should pay the cost for moving her as well.  You GAVE them the deeds to the plots, they should be grateful.

I would go to the viewing.  But if he does start anything, do not argue, do not defend, walk away.  No matter what you say will be wrong.  He needs to get through his grief first.  Being that you suffer from panic attacks, you should just limit your time there.  My DH suffers from them as well, but sometimes there are things that we just have to do. 

Best of luck to you.

I am under a lot of stress with an elderly mother who has a grim prognosis. She is 90 years of age and has CHF with another recent hospitalization last week. She is home now, but her doctor called me the day of her discharge and gave me a complete detailed summary of her condition and prognosis. I have been more anxious since the discussion with him, although he is to be commended for his frankness and the sensitive way he handled the situation. 

I know counseling is beneficial after we lose someone close to us, but I feel I need some help now just dealing with this now. The only way I can explain how I feel is to say I feel like I am carrying a bomb and not able to put it down. I know what will happen and still not  able to prevent the inevitable.  The nurse told me last week at the hospital that the normal BNP level is not to be above 50.  My mother's BNP this last time was over 4600.  The doctor told me the same value on the telephone and told me it almost blew his socks off, in his words exactly.  They removed 5 1/2 liters of fluid this admission. She also has chronic renal failure. I am blessed to have her this long, but it makes it no easier to let go. I have such a heaviness in my heart. Thank you for listening.