Good. I really hope I helped.
Posted By: truffle on 2008-06-10
In Reply to: Thank you - anon
It is not normal 6-year-old behavior, despite what others say. It is normal bratty, spoiled 6-year-old behavior, and it is not acceptable. Since your husband won't correct him, you are just going to have to let the kid know that you aren't his sibling and you don't compete for slushies and you are happy that they have a good time together. Try and stay in that mindset. Also, if you don't mind my commenting on something I think you said earlier about them cuddling and stuff and how you thought that was strange - it might seem strange if it is not something you have witnessed before, but that is an important part of bonding. Six years old is still pretty young and they should be doing a lot of cuddling. It will end soon enough so let your hubby give him that affection. The kid might not be getting it from his mom or others in his life. 
I also don't understand why others are saying you are humiliating your husband in a public forum. That's silly. Now if you posted it on a billboard in his hometown, that would be different!
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You're welcome!! Hope it helped some....sm
I am not expertised enough to use Turbo Tax myself. I do get everything really super ready for the CPA, and now I have MQ take an additional $50 every paycheck for additional taxes so that it covers some of what I have to pay privately for 4 private docs.
Was it a good movie? I hope to go this weekend. nm
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Good luck. I hope he quits but...
if he doesn't he could at least smoke right by a window and blow the smoke directly outside - maybe in just one room in the house. I think he should definitely smoke outside but if he refuses, blowing the smoke directly out the window will help a bit. My father-in-law smokes in the house sometimes right by the window, and his house doesn't smell nearly as bad as a lot of smokers' houses.
I'm sure you know your husband is putting your health in danger by doing this. My step-grandpa died of lung cancer and never smoked, but both of his wives chain smoked, and I'm sure that second-hand smoke was a factor in him dying of lung cancer. My husband also has asthma, and I wonder if it's partly because his father smoked in the house his whole life. Dr. Phil always says you teach people how to treat you, and it sounds like up until this point it hasn't bothered you too much, so you will have to teach him something different now that it is really getting to you. Good for you for putting your foot down!
good luck, i hope it works out for you
let us know how it turns out
Good Advice (new to board, so hope this is the right place)
Read this and make a copy for your files in case you need to refer to it someday.
A corporate attorney sent the following out to the employees in his company. Maybe we should all take some of his advice!
1. Do not sign the back of your credit cards. Instead, put "PHOTO ID REQUIRED".
2. When you are writing checks to pay on your credit card accounts, DO NOT put the complete account number on the "For" line. Instead, just put the last four numbers. The credit card company knows the rest of the number, and anyone who might be handling your check as it passes through all the check processing channels won't have access to it.
3. Put your work phone # on your checks instead of your home phone. If you have a PO Box use that instead of your home address. If you do not have a PO Box, use your work address. Never have your SS# printed on your checks (DUH!). You can add it if it is necessary but, if you have it printed, anyone can get it.
4. Place the contents of your wallet on a photocopy machine. Do both sides of each license, credit card, etc. You will know what you had in your wallet and all of the account numbers and phone numbers to call and cancel. Keep the photocopy in a safe place. I also carry a photocopy of my passport when I travel either here or abroad. We've all heard horror stories about fraud that's committed on us in stealing a name, address, Social Security number, credit cards, etc..
Unfortunately, I, an attorney, have firsthand knowledge because my wallet was stolen last month. Within a week, the thieves ordered an expensive monthly cell phone package, applied for a VISA credit card, had a credit line approved to buy a Gateway computer, received a PIN number from DMV to change my driving record information online, and more. But here's some critical information to limit the damage in case this happens to you or someone you know.
5. We have been told we should cancel our credit cards immediately. But the key is having the toll-free numbers and your card numbers handy so you know whom to call. Keep those where you can find them.
6. File a police report immediately in the jurisdiction where your credit cards, etc. were stolen. This proves to credit providers you were diligent, and this is a first step toward an investigation (if there ever is one).
But here's what is perhaps most important of all (I never even thought to do this.).
7. Call the 3 national credit reporting organizations immediately to place a fraud alert on your name and also call the Social Security fraud line number. I had never heard of doing that until advised by a bank that called to tell me an application for credit was made over the Internet in my name. The alert means any company that checks your credit knows your information was stolen, and they have to contact you by phone to authorize new credit.
By the time I was advised to do this, almost two weeks after the theft, all the damage had been done. There are records of all the credit checks initiated by the thieves' purchases, none of which I knew about before placing the alert. Since then, no additional damage has been done, and the thieves threw my wallet away this weekend (someone turned it in). It seems to have stopped them dead in their tracks.
Now, here are the numbers you always need to contact about your wallet, etc., has been stolen:
1.) Equifax: 1-800-525-6285
2.) Experian (formerly TRW): 1-888-397-3742
3.) Trans Union : 1-800-680-7289
4.) Social Security Administration (fraud line): 1-800-269-0271
We pass along jokes on the Internet; we pass along just about everything.
If you are willing to pass this information along, it could really help someone.
good luck, and I hope you still watch out for Sheltie
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"old folks spread?" LOL! I hope I look that good when I'm in my 60s!
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I saw those online, look good. hope they make those in tarts soon!
I might try the oil...I still have a ton of oil from Bath and Body Works when they had a sale that i haven't used yet though!
Good grief - I hope not!!! Mine was not pretty! nm
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Here is what we do and it has really helped us to
We avoid comments like "You did ,,,,,," and "You made me,,,,". We use "Ifelt like ,,,,,,", "I understand that,,,,,," "I hear you say,,,,,". Try to keep accussatory statements out of it. Say how you understand the event to have happened and how it made you feel. Reiterate what you heard the other person to say/do and give that person a chance to agree or disagree.
I helped with the first car s/m
My son is 19 1/2 and I helped him with his first car. When he was 16, I contributed $700 towards it and he saved the rest, which was $1,700. He did this by saving for years, getting lawn jobs, etc. He also had to maintain good grades, sports, etc. He also had to get a part time job. I didn't care if it was one day a week, but he had to get something. I paid for his insurance until just this month. He just bought a new car, trading in his old one. He is now in college full time and working part time. He decided on his own that it was time for him to start paying for it, which is fine with me.
My tax guy helped me with this info.
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things that have helped me -
I was going nuts - waking up 2-3 times a night - feeling horrible all day. Go back to basics -
Try to get a walk in - couple of hours at least before bed - 20-30 minutes if that is all you have.
Don't watch TV or be on the computer a couple of hours before bed - watching TV not as bad as computer.
Take magnesium 500-750 mg right as you lie down to go to sleep. Recommended by many MDs for women.
Watch your caffeine intake stop early afternoon if you have to for a while.
Hope this helps - I am sleeping much better now.
Thank you everyone for your replies. It has helped a lot to know that I am in...sm
the right here. I started to think for a second that maybe I was being selfish.
DH told me last night he will break the bad news to his sister after the holidays.
I told him I need a vacation, too and that it's not easy working full-time and overtime from home. I need out of this place. It's hard not to think about work when you're home especially when you know there's a backlog cloud looming over your head. I'm sure some of you know what I mean.
He's convinced now that the money should be spent on the entire family not just him, our youngest and his sister's family.
You guys have been a great help! Thanks again and happy holidays, I feel a little less stressed now.
Only that helped me was New Balance
I switched from wearing mostly Birkenstocks to New Balance after a visit to the podiatrist. It probably depends a lot on your foot type, because for some people it seems Birks are better, but they weren't for me. I have New Balance of all types now. It's almost all I wear and I haven't had a bad flare of PF for about 6 years now.
He helped me pick it out!
I tried it on in front of him, too.
Thanks - your post helped
I know if the shoe is on the other foot I never take offense at anything anyone says. You said exactly what my BIL said to me "it's a natural part of life". I felt better after posting and reading some of the responses and also talking to my DH. But like you say, in the future its going to be sympathetic responses. As for myself, I do have a very different outlook on life/death. I view death as a rebirth into a new life. Of course I would never do anything to bring mine on sooner than my expected time, but when my time comes I will be ready to move on.
I think you accidentally helped me
I will just avoid the mall.
BCP helped me immensely, but I needed to take sm
something for nausea for the first week. Can't remember what it was, but it really helped. It was an antinausea med for pregnant women. You should see a gynecologist, though, to see if you have something that could be causing the pain, like endometriosis, or even cervical stenosis (what I had) which was helped with a D&C. Don't suffer. Life is too short.
a suggestion that helped with mine--sm
I had been put on Synthroid as soon as it was discovered that I had hypothyroidism. After many years of taking it and feeling absolutely no better and still with fluctuating TSH levels, I wanted to try the more natural supplement, Armour, which has both T3 and T4, and not just the T4. I had to change doctors in order to have it prescribed, but eventually got what I wanted. It helped significantly with the hair loss, but if you try it, give it several months before you notice a difference.
I have also been hearing subtle speakings about T1 and T2, as well. So far, they say we don't need these, but in my mind, if the body makes them naturally, we need them for something, whether the *doctors* think we do or not. I am currently looking into where I can get those, as well.
Also, I found that chemically infested shampoos were a detrement to the hair, as well. Find a good organic shampoo with only natural ingredients, and that may help, as well. I use MOP organic shampoo.
Hope this helps a little bit.
Back in the 80s my knowledge helped out some
I had all the symptoms that go with hypothyroidism, the intense itching, the never being able to get warm (with blankets over your head, etc.), went to my doctor and told him I wanted along with my physical exam to have test for thyroid as I thought had this. Went back, he forgot to order and so ordered that day, immediately referred to endo because my labs were off the chart, so to speak and lots of you know thyroid can lead to other problems, even death if left untreated. If I had not pushed this time, guess would be pushing up daisies now. For 2 family members I told others to ask for Megace (these people were skeletons and not eating) and because I knew it was appetite stimulant, I could tell them worth a try. Each gained their appetite and at least did not starve to death so after all these years I have learned a little!
Eat yogurt daily, helped me....nm
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Changing shoes helped me.
I had a touch of this years ago. I realized it was from one particular pair of shoes. It went away when I quit wearing them. Are you seeing a podiatrist?
Thank you all for your replies, that reall helped (sm)
at the very least, I am going to rent at first and see how things go before buying.
Hold it, are you saying zinc helped your
insomnia? I have gone through some natural items my husband had and still waking usually every 2 hours during the night, drives me crazy and needless to say the next day feeling like a zombie. I also take biotin and have the longest eyelashes now, not so much help for the hair but my dermatologist told me to take that the rest of my life due to the severe hair loss. Talk about avoiding the scales, only my scales and I know the truth there, do not even weigh in the doctor's offices, just tell them take a guess.
Anyone ever helped their child with a weight problem? (sm)
I have read up on this and don't want to make the problem worse by making it an issue, but would like to help him. I have as many healthy foods on hand as possible and try to feed him healthy things but apparently he eats too much of it. I mean, I know basically how people lose weight, but I am dealing with a child. He is starting to be made fun of and it is really hard for him. He's 10.
Helped with son's Eagle project this weekend.
He only has some paperwork and a board of review to get done, and then he'll be an Eagle scout.
What has helped my pain are fruit and vegetable capsules. sm
I have been taking them for 8 years or so ever since my pain started to get so bad I couldn't sleep (I know you know what I mean). I was working for a certified nutritionalist/chiropractor at the time. They have helped me so much that I continue to take them after all these years because I'm afraid not to. I did stop for a little while and tried another product (10 months or so) but the pain came back. Email me if you want to know more info. I am not a distributor so I'm not trying to sell them or anything, it is just what has been working for me.
Flax oil and taurine supplements helped me tremendously (sm)
Mine is now pretty much gone but any time I feel bad I start back on the flax oil (oil not capsules) and it helps tremendously. I hope you feel better soon!
Omega fatty acid supplements helped my son a lot (sm)
I just by the gummy supplements brand name Little Critters at Target. After a couple of weeks on them, my son himself, at the age of 9, recognized the difference in how he felt and he now reminds me when we run out, that I need to get him some more.
I'm having a hard time too - Charlie Brown's Christmas music has helped some (sm)
It hasn't been very cold around here...parade yesterday we were sweating. One thing that has helped me is I got the music CD from Charlie Brown's Christmas and have been listening to that and watched the little cartoon. That has always been one of my favorites. But I'm just not feeling it much either this year! I think the fact that the stores put the Christmas stuff out right after Halloween and sometimes before just makes it all seem like another day! And for me these days it just seems like a time of year where I have to spend money. Anyway, you're not alone :-)
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU. Hope it is a good one. nm
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Anyone have any good holiday dessert recipes? Looking for something good to take to a party. nm
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What a good role model you are for good holiday spirit...wow nm
well, I certainly hope that...sm
everyone on the plane wasn't hovering around this woman while she nursed...good grief!
Mind your own business and you'd never even know the baby was being nursed...dang!
By the way, at Disneyland.. how many butts and boobs did you see hanging out of shorts and tops? Did *yo momma* report them to the security and hold them hostage while they were told to leave? Huh? Doubt it!
Hope you are doing well... sm
I totally understand how you may be feeling. I was only able to get pregnant one time and lost the baby four weeks into the pregnancy, but I was the most pregnant woman in the world during that time. How special I felt; how special my husband and I felt together with this miracle growing inside me. Then, our world was shattered by the loss of the child we dreamt of. It took me a long time to get to a place in my heart where I could talk openly about the loss and grieve for our lost child. We prayed and prayed that God would bless us again, but it didn't happen the way we expected. I did not get pregnant again. Our little girl in heaven would be age 22 now.
Then, at the age of 40, when we had all but given up on parenthood, we met a 16-year-old unwed mother at our church. She was raising her infant daughter by herself and living in a shelter. She had decided to bring this child into the world instead of taking the easier road and aborting her. God bless her for that. She and her infant daughter came to live with us for over three years, restoring the joy of having a child to our home. For that time, we were content being "Nana and Pappaw." Then, the birth mom got involved with a man who wrecked her life and caused her to have to give up her child for adoption. We did not want this to happen to her, but the Lord intervened and we were able to adopt her daughter as our own. She is now 11 years old, is a wonderful child, bright, loving, and full of life. Her birth mom left the man who caused all the trouble, and God blessed her with a wonderful husband and a son. We now have contact with her new family by telephone, and she is like a daughter to us as well. Our 11-year-old daughter is so amazing, and so much like us that it is almost frightening! God, in His infinite wisdom, will restore you, just as He restored us. Trust in Him and trust His timing. We will be praying for you as you go through this chapter in your life. We are also in the State of Georgia, and you may email me at any time, should you need to talk to someone who has been there, and reassurance that God loves you and there are a lot of people out here praying for you. May God richly bless you throughout the holidays, and may you find His peace which passes all understanding.
Hope
 Like the other MT said . . . I believe that there is a love match for every person on this planet. This could be the "one". Follow your heart. It is better to have loved and lost than to never have been loved. (Someone really great said that!) Take it slow and enjoy the ride. Have fun!
I sure hope so... but, we won't
give up on them. We are season ticket holders (nose bleed section of course), but we love it. Our daughter loves them more than our son, she has not had the opportunity to go to a game yet. But one of the guys in front of us want to trade up some tickets so he can bring his family. He has two seats and we have two seats, so maybe that will work out for next season. It is a blast! Of course, my Dad was from Southeast Philly, so I grew up on 'em. I'm looking forward to the Phillies' games, too. We do not have season tickets for them, but I wish... if only.... .
I hope you are right..sm
I really don't think that for just a traffic ticket they would spend money to send some officer to another city to make good on a warrant, but you just never know. Depends on the judge who issued the warrant I guess. Your court records may be sealed, but I do believe the patitioner and defendent names are on a court dockett, and that is made public, though. If I remember right, it is posted by the court room door, but that is the state I live in. who knows. Either way, I wish you luck...with both your ticket and your child support issue! Think positive thoughts! :8]
Hope it is JT's but, sm
you are probably right. This may be old news, but she looks preggers in realy life. She and JT married in real life and it all happened so quickly most of her castmates didn't know until afterwards.
I so hope your dog does well sm
Our neighbor had the same problem with a mixed breed with a bit of terrier mixed in. It took her a bit longer to heal, but she is now doing wonderful. Isn't is amazing how much we love our furry friends? They will love us no matter what!!!
I hope you are right. Nothing would
be too severe. This country has to take a much harder look at this for so many reasons. We would love to think that everyone respects these beautiful creatures, but sadly not the case. In my local area alone the horror stories make me ill. I am going to put a post on about puppy mills the effect it had on my friend's dog.
I certainly hope not...
But I think she's way too selfish to get married any time soon. I see them breaking up when he gets ready to get married (he's only 20), cause she's too wrapped up in herself to be a wife...or am I just wishful hoping???
hope
Has your daughter changed her mind yet? The Navy sent my son's friend to Behran way back when the war first started. The other poster had marhvelous good luck with her husband and her sister and their Navy experience.
I hope they can get you right in!
Dentists where I am are few and far between and it's a real problem. When I lost my childhood filling there, the tooth was too far gone to be saved. Well, it could have been saved but the cost was as much as monthly mortgate and car payment combined, so it went bye-bye. I balled my eyes out for almost 2 days because it was then that I realized I would probably wind up toofless the older I got, as I had no idea how expensive dental care was. Having your own teeth should be a luxury, ya know?
You take care of yourself and it's good to "see" ya!
hope you are still okay -
after the root canal I was great for 2 days - then pain hit again, radiating all over my jaw - still had no pain medicine - was ready to hit the streets!!! Needed more antibiotics and eventually and 2000.00 later I am okay. I did get some relief from the Anbesol stuff and ice packs on my face. Hope it's over soon.
I hope you had fun! sm
But I just can't go in those anymore. We were just at the wax museum in Las Vegas and I just couldn't make myself go in the little haunted house there. My friends said it was more funny than scary. I have beeen getting more and more scared of them over the years but I made the HUGE mistake of going into that castle at Universal Studios and I didn't know it was a haunted house and I was TERRIFIED through the whole thing. I held on to my friend's ponytail the whole way. I think that was the last one I'll ever go in.
Just one more! Hope these help someone!
Don’t think of her as gone away
Her journey’s just begun
Life holds so many facets
This earth is only one
Just think of her as resting
From the sorrows and the tears
In a place of warmth and comfort
Where there are no days and years
Think how she must be wishing
That we could know, today
Now nothing but our sadness
Can really pass away
And think of her as living
In the hearts of those she touched
For nothing loved is ever lost
And she is loved so very much
--Anonymous
A Woman and a Fork
There was a young woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. Therefore, as she was getting her things “in order”, she contacted her Pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes.
She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in. Everything was in order and the Pastor was preparing to leave when the young woman suddenly remembered something very important to her.
“There’s one more thing,” she said excitedly.
“What’s that?” the Pastor’s reply.
“This is very important,” the young woman continued. “I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand.”
The Pastor stood looking at the young woman, not knowing quite what to say.
“That surprises you, doesn’t it?” the young woman asked.
“Well, to be honest, I’m puzzled by the request,” said the Pastor.
The young woman explained. “My grandmother once told me this story, and from that time on I have always tried to pass along its message to those I love and those who are in need of encouragement.
In all my years of attending socials and dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean over and say, ‘Keep your fork.’ It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was coming…like velvety chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie. Something wonderful, and with substance!
So I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder, “What’s with the fork?” Then I want you to tell them: “Keep your fork, the best is yet to come.”
The Pastor’s eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the young woman and said good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would see her before her death. But he also knew that the young woman had a better grasp of heaven that he did. She had a better grasp of what heaven would be like than many people twice her age, with twice as much experience and knowledge.
She KNEW that something better was coming.
At the funeral people were walking by the young woman’s casket. They saw the cloak she was wearing and the fork placed in her right hand.
Over and over, the Pastor heard the question, “What’s with the fork?” And over and over, he smiled.
During his message, the Pastor told the people of the conversation he had with the young woman shortly before she died. He also told them about the fork and about what it symbolized to her.
He told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork and told them that they probably would not be able to stop thinking about it either. He was right. So the next time you reach down for your fork, let it remind you, ever so gently, that the best is yet to come!
(When I read this the first time, it ended here)
Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to us. Show your friends how much you care. Remember to always be there for them even when you need them more. For you never know when it may be their time to “Keep their fork”. Cherish the time you have, and the memories you share…being friends with someone is not an opportunity but a sweet responsibility.
Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND even if it means sending back to the person who sent it to you. And keep your fork!
I hope you get it! (sm)
I'm afraid it will be pretty wet snow that doesn't stick to the ground, but at least you and your kids will get to see it falling.
OMG! Do you know her????? I hope not!! nm
:)
hope it goes well.
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