Glad to know not the only 1 who feels like this.

• I am so sad today, can't even work. I received an email sm - sad mom
  • If this were dead beat dad instead of dead beat mom, would - there be the samy sympathy offered? I think not. n
    • Lady, you seriously, seriously have to get a life. nm - OMG
  • Scratch up at least half of what you owe - sm -
  • You need to get it back into court sm - definitely
    • Yes. There is a reason. I am a little behind on child support. sm - sad mom
      • Posters are correct, child support diff from visitation - They COULD garnish your salary though...sm
        • They SHOULD garnish wages. There is no - excuse for delinquent child support payments.
          • they have joint custody w/dad being primary... - oh puhleeze, sometimes there are....sm
            • Extenuating circumstances? - SM
            • If there are then go back to court. This is a dead beat mom, - no different than dead beat dad. nm
              • I have joint custody w/ dad being primary - I pay no child support
                • No dead beat if no CS agreed on but not paying court - ordered CS does equal dead beat, male or female.
                • Not referring to a no-support agreement. If there - is a CS order, it should be paid - NO excuses.
      • Child support is a separate issue from visitation. nm - clhmt
      • My X never paid a dime - he still had his "rights." (sm) - Laws may have changed
      • If you want to see your son, sm - then
      • See, what did I tell ya??? - "Mean poster." nm
        • Don't you watch Judge Judy? Being behind in child support sm - I love Judge Judy
          • I DO watch Judge Judy, which is why I knew there was - more to this than just amean Ex. nm
          • If you already have visitation rights. sm - only
        • Lady, you have got to get a life! Seriously! You probably waited - OMG
  • There must be something you can do legally, sole provider or not. - I've been there
  • Hugs to you... - gotlatte
  • sad mom - nn
  • In a few years you will probably be glad you didn’t get - Yvette
    • That is a totally ridiculous post. This woman wants to see her son regardless. nm - trose
      • Just from experience and just the truth - Yvette
        • Are you in midwest? I might know you, and I understand. - nm
          • Nope, not in the midwest - Yvette
        • How old is your child/children and when did you decide he wasn't worth the effort? nm - trose
          • Grown and - Yvette
            • How very sad for you nm - trose
              • reminds me of a former poster here named Joyce - her posts look EXACTLY like these....nm
                • Glad to know not the only 1 who feels like this. - Yvette
  • Please ignore the meanies - (sm)
  • How are you going to explain to son in a few years why - you didn't make an effort for him? nm
    • What are you talking about? Effort? Just because he doesn't - sad mom
      • Just tired of people having every excuse why nothing is their - fault, wanting sympathy but not doing what needs t
        • Well, don't take it out on a someone when you have sm - My 2 cents
        • You shouldn't be so judgmental and nasty - pip
  • Sounds like a lot of "poor me"excuses. If this were me, - NOTHING would stop me for fighting for DS. nm
    • I had to actually kidnap mine back. - Different situation, but
  • Can you talk to your son's father about this? - anon
  • Take this to a lawyer. Fight for him. This cannot be legal. - nm
    • Unfortunately, when we divorced I was completely sm - sad mom
      • can you wait a few days - mtstudent
      • If you wanted DS visitation bad enough, you WOULD get - lawyer. You seem more worried about you than DS. n
  • i pray for u and ur son - smh
  • I will pray for you also. Hugs to you. nm - trose
    • I'm so sorry. You will be in our prayers. - mtstudent

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I have 2 sons, one almost 21 and the other 8 y.o. and I can tell you it is not easy.  Some may remember in the old days how some parents would keep their kids in check by scaring the living daylights out of them by telling them stories such as the boogy man, demons, etc.  My Mom tried that several times and I did put my foot down, and respectfully but firmly told her that I didn't want her to do this.  My 8 y.o. also likes to play with me like yours do, and he did try that with Mom one time and I got the same results, "he hit me, your son is disrespectful."  I also told my little one not to "play" with Grandma like he does with me, especially in view of the fact that she does have severe varicose veins all throughout her legs (he calls them the worms on Grandma's legs, but of course never to her face).  She also goes about the fat tummy, etc.  I told her also nicely that those kind of comments even though not meant to degrade, children perceive them very differently than adults.  It has boiled down to the point, that my sons basically doesn't interact much with her.  I understand that as the "oldest" in the house, Mom feels she knows how the house should be "run" and what she says is the "law" but she also has to understand that she has come into a "new family."  Yes, I'm still her daughter and will always love and respect her, and do everything I can for her.  There is just isn't and easy solution.  If you tell the children not to interact too much, then they take it as the kids don't like them or your turning the kids againt them.  If the children get too friendly, then they are disrepectful and have no manners.  Just take it a day at a time, big breaths, inhale and exhale.

My husband, who is of very sound mind and no, not any psychiatric problems, got both feet on the ground, has told me to find a neurologist (another physician told him to do this). Hubs drive a truck and he has been telling me the strangest feelings, almost worm-like feeling that sorta snakes down 1 side, he rubs intensely and gets it to stop (I think) and then sometimes can be on the other side. Has anyone ever heard of something similar or have you had yourself. I am making him an appointment today but this is not the ordinary thing I type even though been at this for quite some time with the 4s. Thanks.

Life is way to short.  I had a stepmother like you.  Once I lost my mittens and it was freezing outside and I had to walk.  This wench actually got in her car, found me on my way to school in a snow storm and took the mismtached pair that I had found in a box.  She was an awful woman and I never saw her again after I was 16 and left the house.  I hope she has as miserable a life now as she deserves.  Don't be a petty witch with your children.  They will resent you in the end, may be even slash your perfect tires....

I never went to the ER (I have to be almost dead before I go), so I suffered about 4 episodes before I went to the doctor.  I didn't know what it was.  Each attack got worse.  After the last one, which was horribly painful, I went to the doctor,and didn't hesitate to get surgery done.  I had a "rock garden", the tech called it.  It was PACKED with stones!  I had to wait almost 2 months.  I was so afraid to eat I lost 12 pounds in 2 weeks!  No exercise either!  THAT was easy! Having never been in a hospital before as a patient, nor even having had any kind of procedure, the anticipation of the surgery was MUCH worse than the procedure.  But I was a healthy person with no previous surgeries.  I had almost no pain after, and took it easy.  I went back to work after 3 days.  I don't know what the risk would be with your recent surgery.  It's something to talk out FULLY with your doctor. 

You'll make the right decision.