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Posted By: Gemini on 2009-05-19
In Reply to: nah, you are not alone - 15 years in solitary confinement
I am older and find that after years of holding back on personal information re. all in the community, I had to be careful about what I said or asking someone how they were, as I wasn't supposed to know they had cancer, etc. This further alienated me from some people I would purposely avoid getting into a conversation with. At any rate the "jealousy" factor also came into play from those not bright enough to "work" and the only thing they had to do was the annual bazaar, etc., which is fine but if I arrived on the scene and offered to help, I was actually ostracized as not being "one of the girls." I gave up on it all, don't even go to church anymore. I miss it because I believe in mind, body and spirit. Somehow the only spirituality and happiness I find are within my own home with beautiful CD's and private prayer, etc., I don't even want to try to get close to these "beaches." No one understands what we do, if I say "medical transcription" they say, "WHAT?" They don't have a clue. Glad I'm not alone. I was actually told, "Well, my house is a 'home' and I am a homemaker. I did both and my kids are healthy, happy and do very well despite the fact that their mom was a "working" mom. Geez, Louise! I also got told, "Oh, you work, so you can just bring soda and chips." I also bake, cook and sew!
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Glad to hear it. If he's still having too many,
don't give up on him. There are other drugs, though phenobarb is a good one that they always try first.
Glad to hear you say that,
I saw the female being interviewed but people just the gun in saying racist when it happens here. More people leaving the north and heading south that Atlanta is probably the fastest growing city there is and the blacks are in the majority. The police was deathly ill, vomiting and had to go to the hospital - if you can tell me how being sickened by a hamburger got to being racist, please??
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Three nice stories, so happy to hear something positive. I do keep my distance and try to keep my mouth shut and help when asked, do not jump in or go over without calling, etc. and mostly when invited only and I don't overstay. I only want what is best for my son and know if he's happy, I'm happy. I think those of us who have lived longer and know better, get the drill. I can't stand the way we MIL's are portrayed, I really have not seen one movie, TV show or article with something positive, it's like the old "wicked step mother" theme that sold books and movies for years. So happy to know there are some good MIL stories out there. It makes me feel better. Sometimes I just wonder whether I'm doing okay in that department or not, it's difficult, I wish they'd show both sides but they don't. Thanks for the positive input, I feel better. Sometimes we need a younger spin on things, times do change and I want to stay in my place and do the right thing without being a pain. I also do not want to be neglectful of their needs. I usually call and ask if they'd like a night out, because I know how important it is for a happy marriage. They usually jump at the chance. Guys don't talk about these things and I would never ask anyway if I'm doing okay as a MIL. It's a tough job to keep your nose clean. More, more - good news! Be happy, perhaps we can put a more positive spin on relationships.
Okay, glad to hear you have got it
all covered! Good luck at your new place. 
Glad to hear that....
Are you an MTSO or QA? It's so difficult for MTs these days, Annie, so please bear with us.
We're told not to change anything, type what was dictated, even when it goes against every fiber of our being to let some of this stuff go. I have an ongoing internal struggle to not clean up every iota of poor grammar in a report. With ESLs, we may THINK we know what they meant to say, but we don't know that as a fact so we have to suck it up and leave it go as dictated.
I'm glad the MT in question wasn't zapped on the 'transferred' versus 'transfused.' As I said earlier, sounds like the clinician could very well be ESL, and I would not have tampered with it, either (and I've been doing this 22 years).
I hope she does rectify her other problems, for her sake and your sake :-)
Glad to hear it!
Blood clots can be serious, but now that they know what they're dealing with they can treat it. (My mother has similar problems and takes a rather large dose of Coumadin. She jokes that her blood is like motor oil. My dad, on the other hand, bleeds rather easily so I don't know what side of the fence I'll land on!)
I think you should talk to your doctor about your concerns about the birth control pills.
Glad to hear it worked! nm
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I'm so glad to hear it. I knew you had it in ya'!
That is so great!!! Glad to hear!! nm
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Glad to hear from another nonprude!
I enjoyed your posting, thanks for joining in.
Oh I am so glad to hear there is a shelter...sm
that does give pits a chance. I love em. I love all dogs.
Glad to hear the worst is over!
Thanks for posting an update. I did wonder what the outcome had been and hoped you were doing better.
I hope the other stone doesn't present a problem if/when it passes. It sounds like it's small enough that it may not be too much trouble. Keep some drugs on hand, just in case!
Glad you're back.
So glad to hear that! They are scary to watch! nm
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So glad to hear Shasha is a rescue....
i have a special place in my heart and life for rescues and feel the need to speak out on their behalf. if dh passed by them all, then this must be the dog for your family.
good luck with whomever you choose...your dogs are very lucky to be part of your household. 
I'm glad to hear your surgery went well. I had a vaginal...
hysterectomy about 3 years ago and I think it took about 6 months before the hot flashes started. Best of luck to you.
Glad to hear the good news -sm
Thanks for the update. That is good news! You have eased my mind about having it done, and I hope to do it real real soon. I know I've put it off long enough. Your messages have been so encouraging and much appreciated. I'll keep watching in case you post any more good news. ;-)
Glad to hear you finally got your money. Please also...sm
post a message on Clark Howard's website under Bad Customer Service as well as file a negative report against them with the Better Business Bureau if they're a member with them. The latter rarely does anything but at least you can file a complaint and let them know that these folks were scoundrels.
Glad to hear you're okay Hayseed
and hanging in there...Missed your wit and smiling face around here!
Glad to hear the good news! Now.......
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Glad to hear everything turned out okay for your furkid. nm
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Glad to hear that it was not a spider bite. I was concerned
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Glad to hear your tests turned out good..
I wonder if some people are more susceptible to cysts than others? Have you had anymore cysts?
I have one on my head (hidden under hair), a lipoma on my forearm (need to get it x-rayed though as it has been driving me crazy lately) and an ovarian cyst (My GYN left it in place just in case it was helping the pregnancy). I found out about the ovarian cyst when I was pregnant for my twins. They were actually triplets at first (with one growing in the tube) so at 6 weeks, we had to have surgery. I was heartbroken to lose a baby but feel so blessed and lucky that the other 2 made it and have done well since. They are now 2 strong, active little boys and were 1 day from being full-term :)
glad to hear this; t.v. hosts/reporters are ignorant; I would have told her so, on natl t.v.
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Lonely is most likely what it is
She is awfully hard to communicate with. She turns things around so much. She is actually pleasant when we talk about sewing projects, old times, silly stuff the kids do things like that.
But when she gets to telling what to do and how to do it, that is when it gets annoying. She has done that to me and H both today. She was telling H how to clean a closet and me dieting tips. LOL.
Curbing being lonely
What about getting a dog, cat, or even a bird to focus your attention on during your periods of being lonely?
this can be very lonely work
maybe you can start getting out once a week for lunch with a friend or relative?
what about hiring someone part-time to come to your home and help with the kids while you work? it would give you a good break to get some work done.
give the kiddies their own responsibilities (and DH, too!) - they're part of the family and should contribute, too!
I know how you feel.
lonely bird
I've had all kinds of birds but only a couple types of finches, none of them Blues. I do know that finches tend to be colony birds and prefer companionship as a rule. I think she is probably missing her best buddy and she is also afraid because she doesn't know what happened. If there was any blood involved with the dying bird, this will terrify birds even more. (They don't even like it if you wear red nailpolish.) That might account for the odd chirping. It might be to your benefit to try to find out what the other bird died from because if it had anything to do with something that is still in Roxy's environment, this will upset her.
Some birds bond for life and will never accept another companion. Others can resist a companion at first but then get used to them. This is breeding season. I would think she would be accepting of another bird right now.
My first suggestion would be to get a mirror and put it in her cage and see if that helps calm her down. Just seeing another finch like her buddy might help. Then, if you want to try getting another bird (which I would definitely do if she accepts the mirror bird), get one and put it in a separate cage right beside this one. Don't just put it smack into her cage. She could attack it for not being her buddy or for territorial invasion. But if the new bird is sitting in its own cage (can be a small travel cage for the trial) and yours acts like she wants to go be with it, then put them together for short periods of time at first and watch them carefully to be sure she doesn't attack the new bird. If they are compatible, then you've got yourself a new pair and Roxy has a new best friend. Also, it would be wise to keep the birds in separate cages for a while and watch the new bird's droppings, even have them checked out by a vet for parasites, etc., before you let them live together to be sure the new one is perfectly well.
One other thought that comes to mind is perhaps you had a male and female and did not know it. I confess I do not know how easy it is to tell the sexes of Blues. I'm used to the larger birds and using blood tests to be sure, as I paired and bred for sale. But a blood test is impractical on a finch as they really can't afford to lose any blood because of their small size!!! BUT, one could have killed the other since this is breeding season and birds, even finches, can get very aggressive towards one another, even those of the same sex.
I would suggest contacting a Blue breeder and find out more about their personalities and habits. And if you buy your second bird directly from a breeder, you can be more sure it will be a healthy one. The ones that end up in pet shops aren't always the best of the clutch.
I wish you luck and please know you have my sympathies in your loss. These little guys are really easy to get attached to. Please feel free to e-mail me if you have any questions I might be able to answer.
sounds like she may be lonely....?
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MIL is lonely, cut her a break! nm
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your so bored and lonely you can't even spit!
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Not lonely! Consider it a retreat! Get some books on tape from
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Definitely get a companion bird - they are very social and need company. Poor thing is lonely. nm
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Agreed! Hear, hear...amen, sister!
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Do You Hear What I Hear and Little Drummer Boy
I love the holiday!
Hear, hear! I'm with you too, same boat. -nm
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Did not hear about the porn but did hear
there might be a conflict about her babies going home with her when they were able to be dismissed. You can hardly blame anyone for questioning how she will take care of them. From what I have seen, she hardly seems stable enough to do that.
I hear ya........
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Look - I know this is probably not what you want to hear, but
I speak from experience - and many advice experts will say the same thing - if a man is interested in you, he will ask YOU out. Just like if you go out with a man and at the end of the night you ask him to come into your home, and he doesn't - then he's not that into it. It doesn't matter what he has going on in his life, men make time for women they are interested in! They are never that busy that they cannot call you - that's just a lie. They make the time to talk for one minute because THEY ARE INTO YOU!! If you have to ask a man out, think about it - what was wrong with him?? WHy couldn't he approach you? He knows how to open his mouth and say "hey, I don't know if you're single or seeing someone, but I was wondering if you .... "
Don't ask him out. Let him pursue you. It's old fashioned, but hey, it still holds true.
I am so sorry to hear that. It does cause
actual physical pain to lose a special pet. I have wished I could cut my heart out to end it, or be PTS alongside my poor dog. What a shock to lose such a young cat. I am sorry.
sorry to hear that, don't know what to say...sm
Sorry to hear this happened to you, don't know what to say, but this has never happened to me, and both my CPA and the other person, a corporate estate tax person, say that I'm legal and nobody has come after me or notified me that I am in the wrong....
I hear what you are saying
Personally, the wrinkles start showing in my face if I am too thin. I need a little weight on my to look good...unfortunately, it is all on my hips and glutes...LOL
You are what you eat, so I hear
and if a person wants to be a supersized so be it. Got off Cokes on my own after marrying my hubby, used to drink loads of those and I never feel like I am not living by the way I eat because I also love sweets and if I want I have them. I just don't care for any of my foods supersized, be it a drink or a hamburger, just too much to consume for me and the amount of calories you get plus the fact of it just not being that healthy for you. I would put my delicious food up against any fast (fat) food place any ole day. I just like taste with my food.
So sorry to hear that....
Our cat is getting older now, and I hope she lives forever, but.... I'm so sorry for your loss! It is truly a loss to lose a much-loved pet! Take care... my thoughts are with you today....
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this.
But with her compression fractures, and probably the COPD also, there was no way the MDs could have coded her. Her bones (and probably lungs) wouldn't take it. At least that's what they told my grandfather about my grandmother when she had leukemia. He found out the doctors made her DNR without talking to him, and he found out after she passed away.
Now hear this.....
Just called the courts and on my way there now to swear out warrant for arrest of the person writing the bad check. Talk with you later.
I hear ya
This situation sounds a little iffy to me, too. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck....
Sorry to hear this
about your new tile floors honey bear. That is too bad. It is very frustrating!
I want to hear...
.. the end of this story.. The AUDACITY is appalling...
I hear ya
I feel the same way - I'm not really close to anybody outside of my husband/children/parents (which is my choice) and this was kind of a big step for me to hang out with an old friend which is why it is so disappointing. I have huge trust issues with friends and this is just another instance where I kinda feel like I'm getting shafted.
I also don't feel comfortable taking my children around a new boyfriend (they have known each other a couple of weeks) who I don't know anything about.
Thank you for replying and I'm very sure you are not repulsive! Like you said, a lot of people are just so selfish nowadays and those of us who actually consider others feelings before doing things are the ones who get hurt.
Sorry to hear that
hope you are able to work things out.
I am curious to know the name of the restaurant that you wanted to visit.
I hear you!
I seem to have more and more of those days as I grow older lately. Good thing the caffeine doesn't affect my sleep, though.
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