Giving up and bringing him to your bed was your biggest mistake -
Posted By: Amanda on 2009-06-18
In Reply to: This is good info. - Terri
You are teaching him that you are going to give in to him if he whines a bit. If you will just consistently hold out and not go to him, he will stop it in a few days. I just went through this with my new pekingese. She took about 2 weeks of crate training before she quit whining. I never gave in to her for whatever reason and even if it was time to take her out, I never got her out until she was completely quiet. Now, all I do is tap the box when it is time to go in and she usually goes in completely on her own and she never cries anymore.
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Right, I posted in my 1st comment that the biggest mistake
a cheated-on person can make is to go out and do the same, tit for tat.
Then one loses everything.
Yes, Diana should not have cheated, this made, as you also stated, her position weaker and Charles' stronger and this was the beginning of the end.
THANK YOU for bringing that to my attention
I totally agree, and I signed the petition. I wish they would pass a similar bill about childbirth. Some women can only stay in the hospital 24 hours after their child is born (or it may be 24 hours total, I'm not sure). Or at least that's all their insurance will pay for, if it is a healthy birth with no complications.
I am currently fighting with my HMO about a medication that I desperately need. At the moment I am buying it through a "Canadian pharmacy" (based in New York state) and it is sent to me from Mumbai, India. In the U.S., the medication costs $10.00 a pill!!! Through this pharmacy, I get it for $1.77 a pill. But it is still more than twice what my normal co-pay would be if the $#@%#$ HMO would cover it.
So any kind of insurance reform bills that ANYONE knows about, PLEASE pass the info along. Thanks!
how about bringing someone into your home
a few hours maybe 3 days a week? You could canvass local daycares and find someone who has toys and resources to come in and work with your son. They can encourage good behavior with a reward system (have you tried a reward system instead of a punishment system?) It really sounds as though your son is understimulated in addition to wanting to run things and needing the right kind of attention (I don't say this to offend you...but you may not be meeting his needs with being so overwhelmed and things have just gotten into a rut). I had to work every Saturday for 2 months recently and I got a daycare worker my daughter loves to come spend a few hours of one-on-one time. I got my work done, my daughter felt special, the cost was minimal compared to what I earned, and the sitter loved coming. It was a win-win situation.
It is unrealistic to think you can strip your house of everything you need and want to live with. If what you are doing now is not working, you need to do something different. I hope you get some creative ideas.
That's my biggest
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Bringing up the thread on NY bagels
before it gets * pruned *
I have a dumb question - - - - what makes a NY bagel so great??? I would think it is just bread dough formed in a circle....like I get at Albertson's or Safeway or Ralph's.
Bringing your kids to see their granddad sm
My perspective: I had an uncle who was severely ill several years ago. His sons lived in different parts of the country and when he was well enough, they flew him in to visit. I could not see him so often, so I decided to write little notes to him from time to time. Talked about some funny things that he had done and how much they made me laugh. When he was gone, my aunt told me how much those trips and the notes meant to him, it was like a gift that he and the family got to experience before he was gone, a chance to say good-bye, that many people don't get.
My prayers are with you and your family.
Depends on who's bringing the desserts.
In my family some of us are cooks and some aren't. So it depends on who brings what. If it's easier for the person to buy a pie than make it, that's fine. If I'm bringing dessert, I usually make the pies. I have a sister who does not cook, so she always buys them. BUT she buys really good ones from local pie shop. For the first time, this year my 12 yo niece has been put in charge of dessert for Thanksgiving, with my SIL overseeing it. She's learning to cook and bake and even called me to ask for one of my dessert recipes that she really likes. I'm very pleased she's trying and don't really care what she makes, it's the thought.
P.S. I do have a pumpkin pie stashed here at the house for later tomorrow night though! 
Bringing back memories. NM
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Rules about bringing medication to
school are there for a reason. She knew she was not supposed to do it as all of that is explained EVERY school year. In our schools, medications (even aspirin) is kept in the office with a note from a doctor (whether rx or not) and they dispense it.
What doctor does my DH need to see: Bringing up post
from below. I was unable to answer until today.
Those are good suggestions, but it can't be CO2 as it happens when he's standing in his garage too. He doesn't get a headache, just the eye problem. He had his INR check/doctor appointment yesterday and told him about it again.
Finally, an answer....sort of! Can't be low blood pressure because of the Toprol. Can't be blood too thick because he's on Coumadin. If DH wants, doc will make an appointment for the specialist (supposedly one of the best in the country) for a look-see and maybe some sort of laser treatment. It has to do with fluid build-up behind the eye that puts pressure on the nerves or something like that. It's harmless, so he says.
I don't like it and wish he would get it checked out, but we're still waiting for his first check of the year. So, he's going to hold off.
He's also supposed to be bringing his young little
girlfriend on the show... This is on film forever and ever for the kids to get to re-live their father leaving the family for a new hot young thing. How lovely for the kids.
And to those who say, 'but Kate is a hard-@$$...' he knew how she was before he married her, and he certainly knew how she was before the last batch of kids. He made that bed & now he's abandoning it for a newer younger bed. What a great guy....
I think that my biggest change is that
I am no longer a people pleaser. If people don't like me as I am, then they don't. I use to do so much stuff to try and make people like me, but not any more.
Bringing my issue with grandparents and cousins to the top
I am sorry, I got myself out of town for the weekend to get away. I am still at a loss. I have tried contacting my grandparents numerous times to no avail. I emailed my sister, and she talked to my grandmother who said she has simply "missed my calls." Thank you all for letting me vent Friday and giving me opinions. I will not stoop to their level. Also, to the poster who asked why I think the baby's name had to do with it, it is because she kept saying, "Figure it out, Daddy's girl" and because when I asked if that was it, she said, "What baby, did I say something about a baby" and "aren't you a little Einstein."
Thanks again all!
This is one of my biggest fears! When I saw it on CNN, I thought I was having...
a nightmare! When I was a little kid one of my uncles said something like some of the bridges in Missouri are so old that pieces fall off with every car that drives across. Couple that with my fear of water and drowning, I have been afraid of bridges ever since! To see that awful site on CNN with the bridge collapsing into the Mississippi River with 50 cars on it -- I could feel myself breathing faster and my heart racing!
How horrible for those people on the bridge whose cars went into the water and the school bus with kids just sitting on the piece of broken, hanging bridge. The parents were probably hysterical with fear and worry!
I've been praying for everyone involved since last night.
Who got eliminated on Biggest Loser?
Didn't change clock on my video recorder. Thanks!
In Europe, bringing pets into stores is quite common and has been
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Go for the classics, like Bringing up Baby or Philadelphia Story.
How about Blazing Saddles, Life of Brian, A Fish Called Wanda, or My Cousin Vinny?
Anybody on the NBC Biggest Losers On-line club? How much is it? sm
is it worht the cost? TYIA.
Checking on the biggest news stations
none are carrying that story so I would think they would have a person right at the spot, like they always do.
Mammograms..From the world's biggest chicken..sm
I've only had the "plate" kind (plastic or something, not glass) and it's really not painful at all. They don't actually "smash" the plates down on you, the technician slowly compress the plates after positioning. It's more of a moderate pressure feeling. If you take your hand and slowly compress the breast a little firmly that is about what it feels like. It's really not painful, and I'm the world's biggest chicken!!...)))
Biggest Loser voting question
I need to vote, but I can't find where to vote! Shouldn't that be the first thing you see when you go to the website? Anybody have a link? I want Roger to stay because I think Mark has reached the limit of healthy weight loss. If he keeps competing it is not going to be pretty! Plus his body and mind start breaking down because he pushes himself too hard.
Extended warranties are the biggest waste - sm,
of money, and the all time scam of the century. The couple times I was d*u*m*b enough to buy one they never, never paid for themselves. I never buy them now, haven't for years and have never had a problem with any of the products I bought that offered them. Believe me the companies that offer them (just about everyone) are laughing all the way to the bank....they take in way more then they ever have to pay out for repair work/replacments, etc.
I think a clean maker can be the biggest factor sm
I have had a Bunn, Mr. Coffee, GE, etc, and the main thing in how my coffee tastes is how clean the maker itself is. I have learned the hard way that it must be cleaned with vinegar or a coffee maker cleaner once a month or the coffee maker will be slow to brew and not have a good taste. Also making sure to check the manual for how much coffee to use - mine states no more than 3/4 Tbsp per 6-ounce cup of coffee even though the coffee itself says 1 Tbsp per serving.
She is a 68-year-old ROCK STAR, still bringing down the house. 'Nuff said. nm
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MISTAKE
I posted my reply to this in the wrong place and to the wrong person and I apologized to that person, who does not seem to want to accept my apology. I am also sorry from leading off the topic. The person who posted the message obviously wanted some feedback on her question and it has gone into something else. I have no reason to hide my name because I have not said anything that I am ashamed of or want to hide from. Sorry for not knowing the culture. On to the next topic...
Regina
I think it would be a mistake.
My MIL did same thing and think she regrets it now. Moved out of this 3 bedroom 2 bath paid for brick home into a trailer with payments. Made absolutely no sense. She never liked the neighborhood for the 35 years she lived here. The minute hubby died she moved. He worked for house not her. Said it was too noisy. It is not. Children playing and riding bikes, which you should hear. No cussing and running around all hours. So funny, real reason is she is Jeh. Wit. and house was located in Santa Claus! Hated it for the name. You are going to have repairs in any home naturally and I know it's like...when it rains it pours (or leaks). But a trailer depreciates in value so quickly. If you rent/buy a place and rent yours out you are still doing repairs. Get a trailer and you still have to have a lot to put it on and utilities for it. Plus you have no control over what type neighbors you have unless you get an adults only lot. I would consider selling and getting an apartment or another house one. That or get motivated and start some home improvement projects! Subtle changes can do wonders for your outlook and the house, should you sell.
Our mistake
for gabbing on a gab board.
Thanks Kokopoo. I feel more encouraged now. My biggest worry is the
hormonal effects. I certainly feel better with the thought that I might be able to fare well with that with vitamin and natural resources. Thanks for sharing your story.
Who'd Have Thought? "Clean" movies biggest winners.
Here's an article that analyzes the revenues earned by movies without foul language, violence, explicit sex or substance abuse compared with those that include these things. As you can see, depravity loses bigtime. Good on you, American movie-goers! You're rewarding decency and punishing filth-peddlers the best way possible - with your dollars.
Click on the link below or paste this into your browser:
http://bighollywood.breitbart.com/drbaehr/2009/03/28/filth-depravity-don%e2%80%99t-sell/
Maybe learn some life planning skills before bringing blessings into the world that you can't aff
and not very responsible or mature.
Bringing Lost discussion up to top of board (major spoiler alert)
Okay, all you "Lost" fanatics, what are your theories now, and how have they changed? Who or what is Jacob? How did the "original inhabitants" of the island get there? They are mostly Caucasians with American accents, with a few exceptions. They don't look like the usual types of people who are native inhabitants of Polynesian islands - if, indeed, that is where the island is.
Why were Jack and Juliet keeping secrets from the rest of the group? If they had been honest and up front from the beginning about Juliet, maybe they could have all figured out a way to foil Ben's plans without bloodshed.
And will the island heal Locke? Obviously he is of major importance - I don't think Ben heard Jacob at all, and he was jealous and afraid when he realized Locke heard him. That's why he shot him. Ben is turning out to be an even bigger weasel than before.
And what exactly was the Dharma Initiative studying? Does Ben really know? After all, he was only a "work man" like his father.
For every answer, there are a dozen new questions - at least! 
A genetic mistake?!?!
I'm sorry that is laughable.
Ever seen an Arabian? A really well bred, not dressed for show, Arabian? THAT is where the Thoroughbred gets a lot of it's build. That is also where they get a lot of their speed. The Thoroughbred breed infact can be traced back to 3 ARABIAN sires. They are far from a genetic mistake. They look beautiful in my eyes and I am an avid horse person, have been all my life, with a strong background with the Arabian horse.
If you are used to looking at the blockier, heavier Quarter horse, then yes, a Thoroughbred may very well look too dainty for it's undertaking. I assure you they aren't.
I made such a big mistake
I got in touch with someone I went out with once, just to say hello. Now he won't leave me alone. I've told him I don't want to see him, that I was just saying hi, and he won't believe me. He acts like we're going to have a relationship and live happily ever after. He called me like 4 times before I ever got home from work, even though I told him what time I would be home. These were weird calls. One of them sounded like somebody else, not him at all.
He's not a whacked out kid, or on drugs (at least not that I know of), he's in his 40's and is a seemingly responsible single parent.
He's called a couple of times, ranting at me about me not answering the phone. He's called a couple of times and hung up. He just won't stop. I had to take my phone off the hook.
I wrote him an email telling him to leave me alone. Maybe he hasn't checked his email tonight, I don't know.
Anyway, this guy is seriously obsessive. He wasn't like this when I knew him before, although he did react rather badly when I broke it off.
I think I'm dealing with a psycho here! I never really knew him very well before, and now I'm hoping I can get out of it without having to get the police involved.
Made a mistake x2
This is the second time that I tried to make a vacation around a big track and field event that DH runs in each year. We left last Friday for St. John New Brunswick. It's not a hot spot place, let me tell ya! We did manage a whale watch which was cool, and a day in Nova Scotia which included a flat tire in the middle of nowhere. Then, we moved down to Maine for another 5 days, and we're in the only dull spot in Maine -- Orono. Went to Bangor and spent the day in Acadia today, but I'm actually working from the hotel room now while DH runs in the meet. I don't know why I did this again. I must have been insane. So what am I doing this weekend? Working in a hotel room, and then driving 9 hours for home on Monday. sigh
I don't want to bail them out of their mistake!
ARMs are stupid. If you think about it for 2 seconds you'd know that. Too many people wanted to be Jones's and took the attitude that they'd figure it out in a few years, or sell the house for a profit. Nobody was forced to choose an ARM nor were they forced to buy three times the house they could afford. Now those of us who did not over extend ourselves are supposed to pay for all these "bad investments". What a CROCK!
I had 2 people mistake me for my
mother last Thanksgiving. Unfortunately, they misidentified me from behind. I was quite depressed about that because I always thought my moms backside was a lot larger than mine. I guess not anymore.
Love the show but was very aggravated too. The biggest reason I think Marcel is there is because
he is using "gastronomy" (not sure if that is exactly right), but what it boils down to he is using chemicals to increase the flavor in different ways without it affecting the way the food looks, etc.
Anyone sign up and use The Biggest Loser weight loss plan? I am
rapidly adding on pounds sitting here most of the day, but don't have a gym nearby and cant afford to be on the road for an hour 1-way to get to the closest one. Am sliding down the slope to obesity real quick. Does the information help you? Is it worth the $$? Can this be done without an exercise buddy?
Any replies would help - positive, negative, suggested alternative web-based programs.
Thanks~~
My biggest peeve!! Hind-site is 20-20 - live and learn (sm)
I have been in similar situation is the distant past and not said anything and felt awful later for not saying anything. Now if it involves a child absolutely I will say something. I learned my lesson. I won't let another opportunity like that slip by without voicing my opinion. I figure even if the parent was so bad they ended up hitting me it would be worth it! At least the child hears someone sticking up for him or her (not at the age you saw of coure) and knows that what is happening to them is wrong. I have led small children to their parents in stores, brought them over to their parents in parking lots when they were walking alone, etc. I once found a 3 year old child wandering around my apartment complex (years ago) alone. I asked him to show me where he lived and he did - way, way, way across the complex. His mother would not come out and talk to me but hid in the apartment and just yelled out "okay, thanks." I was in my 20s then - if it was now I would have done more than just take him home - I would speak face to face with them mom and maybe even turn her in. Anyway...got me ranting..sorry...but just learn from this so that next time you know you did the right thing and you won't feel bad. Those children you saw will be talking soon and they will tell mom what is going on. If he doesn't want her to know, it means she will defend them. It is still sad, but it is hard to make a snap decision about what to do if you have never thought something like that through. now you have and next time can be ready to speak up :-)
There is really no need to be rude. I made a mistake.
I misread the post. I try to be polite when posting and not get upset with other posters who are not, but your post just really hit me hard. So what if I made a mistake and so what if I use canned chicken. I was trying to be helpful, but apparently that counts for nothing these days. Once again, I apologize for having misread the post. Merry Christmas!
My mistake, I didn't state that I first took sm
him in to the vet and then called him later. I had one cocker and she died 2 years ago and never had seizures. This is the first time I have experienced anything like this on an ongoing basis. My dog when I was younger was deathly ill and that's why she had a seizure then. I've been told by several people that purebreds and small dogs are prone to them, though. Not sure if that is true or not. I am going to get a second look, though, just to be sure. I guess my dogs are like my kids, I worry about them as much as I do the kids.
You know what's sad? A lot of people won't even notice the mistake!
I see that one all the time. And my other pet peeve is 's added to make a noun plural.
Here's one that glared at me when my kids were little and attended a Catholic school. The children were in a big procession walking behind their school banner when I noticed it. The name of the school was Our Lady Help of Christians School.
Yep! The banner was printed as Our Lady Help of Christian's.
Back in the days when nuns were teaching in the schools, someone would have gotten a good whack on the knuckles for that one!
It's not a mistake if you plan on letting him
do that every night. Believe me I know. We've had several dogs over the years and every single time we've given in and let them on the furniture or bed just one time - they take it as a sign that they are welcome there all the time. Now we have 3 LARGE dogs who think they need to sleep in our bed every night. :)
My biggest time waster/sucker-upper is work related
If I need to research a word or a procedure and I find a link with downloadable free surgical videos...watch out! Fascinating stuff and man, you learn a lot when you watch them and it's accompanied by the surgeon talking the watcher through step by step, because then it really gels in your head.
I do most of my shopping on line though, just because the only stores near me are Walmart and Target, which totally don't buy stuff I need around here. However, sister wouldn't get paid if I did it during work hours, because I spend too much time researching the best deals and always free shipping, so that can take up quite a bit of time.
oops, I repeated that last part by mistake..xx
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In my opinion - your first mistake is letting your son live with her sm
and you having "no say about it". Huh! You are his mother aren't you?
Not trying to be rude, I most certainly would not have any of my kids living with an "ex- anything" and only living with me. 15 and the teens for that matter are very tender ages and need their parents guidance in all aspects of their lives.
I have a 15 year old and 17 year old, both very athletic, and neither would live with a family member or ex-family member just for a sport.
Believe it or not - sports are not everything, but academic achieves are. We are in the hunt for colleges as my 17 y/o is a senior in high school. Guess what, they don't care if they play sports - they want their GPA, rigor of their courses and their grades, as well as SAT scores. Even if a scholarship is offered, in my case, football, they still need to meet requirements.
So, I would re-think the teen's living arrangements if I were his mother.
Sorry, I wasn't posting to you. Excuse the mistake.
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I'm with you - we made the mistake of become friends with neighbors
but after a short while, when i'd get home from my day job, I'd call across the street and invite her (her husband works a LOT) and her kids over to swim with us before I'd fix dinner and then log in for MQ. We'd wait and wait and then she'd never show up. I'd call back over and she'd say the boys were asleep (it was 5:00 in the evening and the boys were 5 at the time - don't think they were asleep). The straw that broke the camel's back for us was the time they invited us all over for dinner. I tried calling her the morning of to see what we needed to bring so I could run to the store. I got no answer so I went across the street and rang the doorbell -no answer. The time came for dinner (the time that SHE designated) so we went across the street and rang the doorbell. I could hear the kids inside but they never came to the door. I was SOOOO mad - and then had to cook dinner for my family at the last minute. Several months later, I was in my front yard gardening and she came across the street with a half-hearted apology after saying that her husband told her to come over there. She admitted they were home and that they just didn't feel like company that night. BURNED me up!! They are welcome to come over swimming or whatever but we no longer invite them - for anything and no longer accept any of their invitations. It's kind of sad actually because our kids are in the same class together this year - weird!!!
I think you are making a mistake and son will eventually resent you for that (sm)
He should at least get a chance and not be held accountable for something someone else did. It is definitely very unfair to him.
You mistake the visible appearance for the inner reality. sm
The old "ball of cells" theory doesn't wash unless you would care to start at 9 months and work your way backward day by day and tell me on what day the line of demarcation is crossed and how you arrive at that conclusion. The process of development is continuous, unbroken, and has only one fate - a human fate. There is no point that you can identify at which the developing embryo becomes "a person".
grammar mistake above, typing while angry again!
Gotta learn to count to 10.
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