Getting the stick sounds pretty straight forward to me
Posted By: daiseymae on 2009-02-24
In Reply to: controversial: friend beating his child with a stick - XanaX
You could talk to someone at the school, tell them what you know, what you plan on doing, and see what kind of support becuase they may suspect problems but don't have facts.
I admit sometimes it seems easier just to look the other way, but what if there was someone that could have helped Caylee Anthony and "looked the other way". Follow your instincts.
If your suspicious prove unfounded you are out nothing but a "friend". He doesn't seem like someone I would want to be friends with and if his child acts the way you say, I wouldn't encourage a friendship between the boys.
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Sounds like you are trying to stick to
something similar to the SouthBeach diet. Pistachios are a good snack but carrotts are full of sugar and supposed to be a no-no. Not flaming you, in my opinion carotts are certainly better than say doughnuts or chips.
It sounds pretty. I guess you could put
more wood cross-pieces in the bottom and then spagnum moss. Be sure you use special potting mix; regular dirt is so heavy the boxes would split in time.
I'm hungry and that sounds pretty good right now...
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Sounds like you want something small, simple and pretty.
So do just that! Don't worry about the lists. I think the first decision is to decide where you want to have the wedding. Many places often have on-site wedding planners to help you. In fact, from what you wrote, I think you've already got a good start on the planning. You want something simple, you want a pretty dress. Pick a place and maybe hire a caterer to bring in some simple food... maybe just a cocktail hour with hors d'ouerves, and a cake. You don't need formal music or dancing. I had a friend simply have a caterer come in and do a nice bbq for 30 people in their pretty backyard. Flowers were blooming, really no need to decorate, and they programmed an iPod with a wedding playlist, and played it over the stereo. We had a lovely time, and it was very simple and pretty.
As for gifts, my DH and I did exchange gifts. I bought him a watch, which he still wears 22 years later. We went to Cancun for a honeymoon. (It was much quieter in those days.) While there, he found a really pretty string of blue fresh water pearls. So 1985! But I love them and still wear them today!
No autism experience but - he sounds pretty normal (sm)
My children talked pretty early but some of their friends who seemed delayed to me at the time are fine now (10 & 7 years old). My son has never been affectionate when asked and is not a big hugger, never has been, but he is in gifted classes and has lots of friends and when he does decide to give me a hug, he means it and it's special. It is so easy to get an idea in your head and then without meaning to, find things that seem to fit your worst fears. With your mother saying she is "90% sure" that has to make you worry even more. But the fact that he acts silly at times and is concerned whenhe hurts his friends are good signs. And many babies have "selective hearing". Please try not to worry too much - and also - this probably sounds ridiculous - but be sure he does not have wax impacted ears - I say this because this was the case with me in first grade - my teachers thought I was mentally impaired - until everyone realized I couldn't hear - and it was just from wax! Once that was taken care of - I became an A student. It could be just some little thing that needs to be looked at. One friend whose child seemed very delayed had the child checked and she actually had fluid in her ears and needed tubes. The child was almost 2 before she walked! and it was because her balance was off from fluid. Anyway, I'm just saying that if there is anything wrong it could be something minor so try not to panic :-)
I'm more forward ...
I would call the nephew and tell them that I had not extended the invitation to he nor his friends, that I am hosting others this year. I would suggest to him that he learn to be a more pleasant guest and tell him (politely and calmly) why.
If he showed up, I would not answer the door.
I would also follow up with my invited guests as an "RSVP" inquiry to make sure you are set for those individuals plus your own immediately family only. I would make it clear you are only expecting those individuals. If they call and ask about the nephew coming, I would state that he had been invited last year and maybe next year you can accommodate he and his buddies but not this year - and he has been made aware of this when he tried to invite himself.
I would not be the slightly bit cool or hateful in my tone but just be very nice and simply state the facts.
Before anyone jumps down my throat, I've raised my boys - I know how a couple of their friends behaved at my home. I did the same with those 2 boys and 1 of them settled down and actually became a great guest. The other, well let's just say he was not interested in being someone we would want around here.
As the host, I believe you have the right to have those you invite, are prepared for, and to have your guests respect the host. It sounds like the nephew and buddies need to learn a little lesson and I would initiate the lesson as above. Whether it is absorbed or finished is up to them.
Good luck!
Oh please, is there a way I can forward this? nm
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Believe it or not, looking forward to being 66!
Ladies, this age comes before you know it. Seems like yesterday I was in high school and now time to draw my retirement- not stopping work- just drawing the money I have put in. I am such a happy girl- I have really worked over the years- the first year showing was when I was a senior in high school. I have worked many, many jobs, at least 2 at 1 time and it now is paying off. Lacking $76.00, I will get home with $2,000 a month - aint that grand! My daughter is returning to college for 2 more courses she needs to take for her job and I can fund that and would love to take my husband on an Alaskian cruise but he is a stay-at-home and would rather spend his vacations around the house. I will think of some place he should love, perhaps tell him about the good food in Italy and get him there! Time just flies when you're having fun....
Thanks for those words, yes, I am looking forward - sm
to some road trips next Spring and Summer; and maybe this Fall as well. This one sounds just like what you had; same set up inside, beds pull out, bed over the table, whole thing cranks up with a turn handle on the outside. It does have a stove, sink/water; with the hook up outside. Very basic but what else do you really need. Probably cook outside most of the time anyways (have a portable coleman grill too) and I have camp training from Brownies too as a co-leader so open fire cooking is not a problem. We have laptops for movies if necessary to have the kids chill with while we chill outside maybe; and for comfort will put in AC/heat eventually, but we would never use it it the heat of the summer probably, more Spring and Fall so we can do w/o the AC. My DH is so excited about this, as I said he has been really wanting to do this for years. He never got to do anything with his parents (they never went on any summer vacations) so he is like a kid all over when he gets to do things he never did before. I am hoping now that we did get this maybe to do a road trip next summer for at least a week, maybe the Smoky mountains down in TN(after we have AC), or head to NY or maybe Maine, go places we have never been and do whatever. It is getting poured on right now so I will find out tomorrow when I pick it up if it has any leaks at least!
Pay it Forward - let's revive it!
With the economy as it is, I was thinking it would be really great to revive the "Pay It Forward Idea" or the "Random Acts of Kindness" idea. If we could all commit to do something nice for someone we wouldn't have done otherwise with in the next week, and ask them to "Pay It Forward" think of how many people would be affected? It doesn't have to be anything involving money, it can be anything that helps the person in some way or brightens their day. Please say yes!?
I hear ya! I need something to look forward to.
I like to take day trips, Shipshewana, Metamorra, community events where people sell things on the street. Not my husband, that's the last place he wants to be. I've done these things with my sister and my kids in the past. After not going to any of those types of places the last five years, no one wants to go with me next week. So, I'm going by myself.
Just Saturday, I told my husband I was going next week. He asked if the girls were going (they are 16 and 14) and I said nope, I'm going by myself. Kind of scary, but by golly I'm going to do it. I now have something to look forward to!
thanks to both of you! i look forward to getting to know him more and will try to posts occasionall
just had to earn more income this week as it is last paycheck before christmas and i have done absolutely NO shopping. guess i'll be the fool in the crowd on christmas eve. just had to share a funny though as i was explaining diff between acute care/clinics i mentioned macros in the breezing. i am now in the process of helping his office MT girls and docs set up some macros for the docs, LOL. they are inhouse, 2 MTs for 6 FM MDs. i'll make sure to invite everyone on MTstars to the wedding!!!! haha, have a hard work day!!
anybody looking forward to todays Dr. Phil???
cant wait, mine comes on in 1 hour...central time..
Several have come forward to plaster their face on TV
and apparently he inappropriately touched some of them so yes he is on the wanted list. You would think by the time women get to be, oh say 17 or 18, that they would have the sense to know when something really wrong as in this case. One lady shown long enough in the tooth to know much better!!
Do you still love him??!!! Looking forward to life w/o him
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Thank goodness for fast forward on DVR! - sm
One word - LAME!!
POLL:What show are you looking forward to this fall?
I just Netflixed the first season of Friday Night Lights and I am HOOKED! What a wonderful show. I can't wait for that to start.
Also, looking forward to Gray's Anatomy, but hoping for a much lighter season this fall. Last year was such a drag after the first two.
Wow, apparently you have not heard of paying it forward. nm
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I think I have this straight-
you took a job without the new job knowing you had a vacation set up and taking right? Bad time to have started UNLESS upfront you discuss the fact you have had set up for this and that length of time. The job I am with now was started right when I had planned in advance for some time a vacation. Before hired, I told them of my plans and asked any problem? No and I have been at same place now since 2006. I never would start a job and then spring on them the next week oh vacation time. As far as advice, just find another job. If you put in your notice at first job, I probably would ask for that back until you get something else.
That's a straight lie
Last Christmas our church bought toys for the kids in the neighborhood for their parents to give them KNOWING that the chances of them ever actually participating in the church were slim to none. We didn't screen, we just made sure those parents got to give their kids a decent Christmas.
That's just one example, I can give you many more.
How about Brother Charlies, a "thrift" store in Georgia who usually just gives away clothes to anyone who can't afford to pay a couple dollars a shirt. Or the Brother Charlies shelter, who takes in any and all men (because most shelters are for women and children)
We have a conference once a month at our church and a budget list is passed out. About 70% of our funds go to organizations and food pantries. We have needed bathrooms and a new A/C unit in our church for about five years now but we are waiting until we can afford it WITHOUT taking money from the charities and pantries we support. Til then we will just put up with leaky toilets and hot summers and cold winters. God never said we'd get to be comfortable!
I'm so tired of everyone always ragging on the churches. Why don't you stop spitting the same ol' rhetoric that you hear and go do some checking out for yourself.
And before you come back and say you already did and they turned you down, then you need to check out different churches. Those that are OF GOD and FOR GOD will turn away NO ONE.
Thanks for the happy thoughts, but I'm really looking forward to Jan. 2nd and back to normalcy. n
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Flash forward: If the bullied child goes postal some day,
C'mon, It's a mail forward, I didn't write it myself.
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so let me get this straight. If there were a blizzard outside (sm)
and you have to go to the store (or anywhere for that matter) you're going to bundle YOURSELF up in your nice warm coat and let your daughter go with NO coat simply on the basis of principle??? And a FOUR-year-old sent off with NO LUNCH simply because they forgot it?? That is totally unbelievable and uncalled for. There's a fine line between stating a point and neglecting your children and I think you'ved crossed it!!
Straight into the arms of someone to
support me!!!!
You really are not thinking straight
beause it is your daughter but first of all, what is the age of consent in your state? You have no more rights to knowing about his jail as you do in asking him to take test for sexually transmitted diseases nor in seeing his medical records. You are going overboard against him- what about your daugher- what kind of punishment have you dealt out to her? You are blaming only him- not her- I know when I had sex early it was me and him. You have told her you are disappointed. Well, you want to wring his neck- punishing her also?? You are seeing her as this small child when actually she is past that now. You talked - that did no good - you thought lines were open with both of you - that was not true- think about how you are going in a rage against this guy. He may be the worst there is but it was not rape, now was it?
When I get those, I "forward" them straight into my
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I never forward things based on threats or promises of luck. (sm)
I forward things that I like the message on sometimes but not because I am told to forward it.
gee hard to keep all you guys straight..sm
if you can assume, so can I. In all actuality, the torah came from all of our ancestors, but I still think you should read it again...wouldn't hurt. but at least you got the ROFL right this time. :^)
have a good evening. see ya. bye bye. nitey nite.
I loved "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy" - nm
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Straight or gay phone sex line?
Just asking because you said he turns you down, maybe it was a gay chat line.
Should I just come straight out and ask if this is like a weird sex thing?
My mom and I both were like, maybe they are busy doctors etc. etc we always try to see things in the good light... so should I just email them now and just say hey look... is this anything involving sex or games or anything like that? what if it wasn't and they then thought I WAS the crazy one and I lose an amazing opportunity! :)
You need to read the post again and get it straight
I said the place where we get the animals from do not "allow" adoption of this breed but having said that, I read and hear about their "sweetness" all the time on the news and papers and I tend to believe what I hear- you can go for it but I would rather stick with other breeds, thank you. Lots of pits not available through the shelters. Watch animal channel sometimes and you will see when they get pit bulls (I know in Detroit this is the case) they put them down, not able to rehome.
At first I just bought animals straight out
and had them vetted including neuturing or spaying and then we gave the animals to good homes. Without licensing, here you cannot sell animals. As rescuers we can just get any animals from shelters, no cost to us. Here in the south you have an overabundance of animals and so many just put down. I hear up north exact opposite. I had wanted to do something like this, like you, for quite some time and rescued a dog for myself, no where to keep, met the lady I work with now off Craigslist, stated she took in all doggies and kitties and would find them home. I gave a doggie another try at good home and I found a good home for myself! I can hardly wait for our rescuing to expand more.
i didn't see the Straight Up Latte today :(
good luck with your search
straight up latte girl see inside
hey I know you said below that you tried your own version. I was going to reply but was afraid that you wouldn't see it way down there. Anyway....I like my coffee with 8 tablespoons of light cool whip. Nothing else. It's very good that way and may be similar to your latte. Let me know if you try it!
Sorry about the typos, been up all night and can't see straight or spell it seems. nm
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Getting the stick and then you said
beating with a stick. I would think you are probably overstepping your boundaries. He could change his mind between today and tonight and this "beating" or "getting" the stick might not materalize. Have you actually seen any signs, etc. of abuse?
OMG! My mom told me that too! I ate the crusts and still have poker straight hair. nm
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soak w/Windex, use straight-edged blade....
I hate this place. I really do. No snow. It's over. It was coming straight toward us and then
BAM! It went straight north! Atlanta was snowing like crazy. I'm only 2 hours from Atlanta!!!!! I am sick over here. Really. I had everything lined up at the door waiting to take my boys outside to play! Of course, we heard from friends in Tuscaloosa, AL, who had inches of snow and it was falling and sticking and THEIR kids were playing in it! I'm frustrated. My husband could care less about our kids seeing snow (he's lived in this area his whole life and has seen it maybe twice).
I on the other hand lived in NY and VT, so I am well aware of snow. I just want my kids to see it so bad, you guys.
Okay. I am having a major pity party. PLEASE, please, someone remind me (who is blessed living in a place where it DOES snow), remind me of how lucky I am to never see snow - EVER. Keep those lists coming because I need to be reminded of how lucky I am. Right now I feel punishment from God!
ADDENDUM. Just trying to get some straight answers and not sure what to make of this whole mess. nm
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For me it is not about gay/straight - it is about government taking too much control of our children
That is a really sore subject with me!! I want everyone to live their lives and teach their children as they see fit. As far as the gay/straight issue, I have taught my children who are 8 and 11 about homosexuality, about people being different, acceptance, not to be judgemental. I just have an issue when public school teachers want to use the school as a public forum for whatever reason. In school I remember a teacher who had strong political views and she taught us daily her way of thinking. I don't think that is fair. I think certain things should be reserved for parents to teach their children.
OK. I have to stick up for Wal Mart and here is why: sm
Wal Mart is NO different than any other department store or retail store on the market today. Why do people think that you CAN raise a family while working as a cashier at Wal Mart? Or a greeter? You can't. Just as you couldn't if you were a cashier at your local grocers. These people are there to ring up our products, take our money, etc, just like any other cashier's job. You can't raise a family on a salary like that ANYWHERE so why is everyone blaming Wal Mart for low wages? The last I looked our local grocer was hiring for 7.00 an hour and that is 1.50 less than what our local Wal Mart pays.
Second. Health insurance. A company that is privately owned DOES NOT have to offer insurance for it's employees. Hence, again, go look for a company that does offer it if you need it. Don't blame Wal Mart. The employee has choices. They can work somewhere else. It is expensive!! If they offered its employees ALL of these benefits people keep crying about then guess what? They wouldn't be Wal-Mart anymore. They would be called Wal-Mall because that's what would happen to their prices. They would go WAY up! And then I wouldn't be able to get a loaf of bread for 87 cents. You get the picture. Wal-Mart does a lot of families very GOOD. They dont' have unions because unions cost a TON of money. Once again, they would have to raise prices enormously if they were to form a union. I don't want that. I don't need a Wal-Mall, I need a Wal-Mart.
So, to drive my point in further, let me sum it all up for you: 1. You aren't supposed to earn a living working at Wal-Mart. If you have to raise a family, get an education or a better paying job and don't blame Wal Mart for paying wages that your local grocer or department store pays just because you think "they can afford it." 2. If Wal Mart starts offering insurance to all employees, form unions, etc., then Wal-Mart would be just like our competitor here in town, Publix, who drive up prices 40 to 50% so that they CAN pay their employees health insurance, etc., which is fine - that is their business. But I am smart. And given the choice of paying 2.50 for a loaf of bread or 87 cents, I think the latter is a much better choice for me and my family.
If your convictions stop you, then don't shop there. But Wal Mart is just too good a thing to pass up for millions of families.
I will say this in contrast, though. I don't always go to Wal Mart because I hate crowds. I do occasionally shop at our local Publix as I find them friendlier and more convenient. But, I always spend a lot of money and don't get nearly as much for my money except maybe peace of mind.
I agree! I'd rather stick with...
Weight Watchers and exercise.
The key is to find something you can stick with....
....for the rest of your life. I think lasting weight loss is about making lifestyle changes you can easily incorporate into your life and live with for the the long haul, including healthy food choices and exercising. I am not familiar with Calorie King or Kimkins, so I can't say what kind of programs they are, but fads are not the way to go, IMO.
Good luck to you, though. Losing weight is a big committment and really not a lot of fun. I've been on Weight Watchers and have lost 11 pounds so far. It's taken awhile, but I didn't gain all the weight overnight, either. Slow and steady.
Stick and stone...seriously! sm
My dad worked with a guy who named his boys stick and stone. Didn't believe him until one day I was working at a shoestore and was fitting some kids for their shoes and mom said, "stick and stone, get over here and sit down!" I about died! I had to run to the back room real quick to hide my laughter.
Sorry but what is stick? I do like how modulars look - don't know anything about them though (nm)
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Stick Vs. Modular
I think stick means a house built completely on-site with 2x4 lumber from the ground up. A modular is a house built in sections in a building somewhere else and then the sections are moved to your site and put together there. All the modulars I have been inside seem to develops cracks in the walls and ceilings as the house settles over time. Just my opinion but I think stick will give better quality overall, thought probably cost more. But I have seen extremely nice modulars when they are new.
Okay, don't want to be a stick in the sand
We lived near the beach for many years and saw this one time too many. So, instead of being afraid of the ocean be more afraid of the sand. Please don't let your sons dig holes in the sand, at least not deep ones. We have seen children and teenagers have serious accidents or worse with this. The sand collapses into the holes and consequences can be fatal, so just heads up on that. It was also just on the news so I hope a lot of parents watched it. What seems like fun can turn quickly into a serious situation. It was just a known fact in our home..... no deep holes at the beach.
Sorry to be a downer....just want to make sure the boys AND parents enjoy themselves. Do have a good time though!!!
get your facts straight. Rosie signed a school year
that was when her original contract was supposed to expire, June 2007, a school-year yearly contract. ABC wanted her to sign a 3-year contract for the amount of $$ she requested.........and she only wanted to sign a one-year contract.......
I will miss her as I had given up the View due to Star Jones' fiascos....and now, once again, after June, I will never watch it again. Rosie brought the ratings up because after 9 years of Star Jones, people were tired of the show.
Ta-Ta to The View and ABC.....
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