Get a 2nd opinion, preferably from a woman if your doc is male. nm
Posted By: Good luck on 2007-01-03
In Reply to: My OB/GYN wants me to have - a hysterectomy
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I don't know, this post down below has me thinking. What are your thoughts, woman to woman. sm
If your spouse came to you and said he was having an affair, would you be more upset if it was with a male or female? For me, definitely a female! If it were male then I would think that it had absolutely nothing to do with me and everything to do with him. I would be devastated if he were with another woman. Another poster below said she would be more upset if he were found with a male. What about you?
woman to woman talk sm
This has nothing to do with being a christian, it has more to do with group dynamics. I have to deal with it all the time with 6 women in an in-law situation. They are narrow-minded Bible-thumping bigots.I happen to be of another "denomination" and I do attend every function of theirs, weddings, funerals, all of it, receive their communion. I have had my parents die, lost my younger sister and many things happen where they could have reciprocated, yet they will not "step foot" in my church. So where is all their faith, they certainly are not practicing the do unto others. I can relate, it is a horrible way to live. Thank God, I had psychology courses and know about group dynamics, I am in the middle of a herd mentality. I could go on forever, they even have "interventions" when someone in their family wants to marry or date someone not from their denomination. They are awful. I know your pain! It's not your imagination, they hide behind their cohesive "numbers game," one speaks and all the others agree in unison. No one has a chance against this mob. It's tough to be your own person, lots of tears. And guys think it's all in our heads - NOT! Hang in, perhaps you'll have a Divine Intervention somehow.
Kangaroo. cat woman or wonder woman?
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male
I have not seen a female yet - the males come to my porch and eat .. mostly on days like today when it is cold and snowy. . I love to see them.
It's a male...sm
I have a big orange tabby right now who is a male and I had one about 15 years ago, who was also a male. BTW, the mother of this litter is a calico and I have a female calico in the house.
My male kitty
when he first came to live with us he was a mere 6 weeks old, and he would drink from the water bowl while "standing" on the edge of the bowl (front paws only) which looked silly but cute too! Then, he rapidly grew and grew and began to tip the water bowl over when doing that, so thankfully he stopped, but now I notice him sliding his paws (slowly) in a digging motion before drinking and can't help but notice how noisey he is when he drinks, he sounds like a dog lapping or a bird taking a bath! Boys! 
My male cat Curly sometimes
tries that with my female cat Ophelia, who is his mother! Its just scandalizing. ;)
Would you happen to be a male
Because any female knows how hard it is to go to school while having your period, especially having your FIRST period. And the thought of her using a tampon at that age I am sure freaks the poor child out. My DD is 17 and she still doesn't use tampons. I never used them until I had my 3rd child, over the age of 30. Only a male (I hope) would make such an uneducated response...more power to ya Mom, stick up for your DD 100%... the teacher was absolutely wrong in the way this situation was handled and should be confronted about it...good luck!
This is why I have mostly male friends.
I really hope you don't take too much into the mean ones and listen to the positive input.
Walk a mile in someone else's moccasins, people...
More upset with male, although I see your SM
point. If male, would be more about him. My ex did cheat on me for years. I felt deceived, but would have felt even more so if he cheated with men and probably scared silly about disease, which, I know, could have been passed on by women.
Wish people didn't have affairs and if they want a divorce, just get one and then date whomever you want. Yes, I am very naive.
male nipples
I can't remember where I read it, but I did read somewhere that the reason males have nipples is because during development the "blueprint" for nipples is there before male or female genitalia are formed. Now whether or not this is actual fact is anyone's guess. I have also heard that if men are given hormones they could produce milk and breastfeed.
Male menopause
Is anyone's signifant other going though male menopause, mid life crisis (or whatever it is called). If so, how old are they and what is it they're going through (or better yet what are you going through). Mine is not bipolar or depressed (although he's making me depressed). Just wondering what others are facing with their husbands.
This is me right now - 
Every living breathing male does if they can.
Only most don't codemn it. THAT is what I would have a problem with. :)
Male harassement vent....
I wasn't sure were to post this...
My sister was just at the bank and while she was leaving she noticed a male banker staring at her. A couple of minutes later she gets a phone call from this banker telling her if she ever needs anything to call him. She asaked if he does this with all the people that bank and he said no just the pretty ones.
He did NOT help her when she was there so he had to have had the banker that helped her reopen her account and get ALL of her information. This is soooooo BAD ! She lives alone. How can this man do this I believe he was a manager or something not just a regular employee. UUUHHHHHH!!!!!! My mom use to be a banker so I told my sis to call her and see what she should do but my mom is pretty passive so I'm not sure what she will say. This makes me so angry to think that he has ALL her information UHHHH! This is sooo wrong!
My sis is only 21 and lives alone. She has already had one scare at her apartment and I'm sure she will feel unsafe once again. I don't know why this man thinks he can do this!
I just had to get this out.
Oh, my, did not know you included a male as being a pregnant
person, thought surely a we were pregnant meant another female, just call me old fashioned but when I grew up only females got pregnant, carried the babies, had the babies. Just have never heard of a male being pregnant but will take your word for it. I guess times have changed.
I have two cats, one male and one female-
the female's name is Ophelia, a.k.a. Miss Thing, a.k.a. feefee, feebee or feegirl.
My baby boy's name is Curly, a.k.a. Curls, a.k.a. fattyboy, crybaby boy, or kittyboy. I once decided he should have a Native American name so his full name is Curly Purrsloud Longtail Kittyboy. :D Although now the poor baby has just been diagnosed with diabetes so I may need to make that Curly Purrsloud Longtail takes-insulin-well Kittyboy. :)
First ever male furkid here and yuck!
I have a neutered male cat who is about 2 years old now, love him so but I wondered where the big stink was coming from and turns out it is him, his behind to go into detail. I have 2 other furkids, his brotheI and female and neither one of these are smelly. He nor his brother spray on the furniture or walls, have never seen that happen but can anyone tell me why he might be so smelly- are there glands in the rear I am totally unaware or ?? Being as he is over 20 pounds probably I will have to take him to be groomed but the question is why?? He is in good health as far as I am aware. Thanks.
typical male response
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Male psychologist on CNN stated SM
he was powerful man who was afraid to discuss his feelings with his wife and "just wanted a hug". Pretty expensive, ahem, hugs.
No, nothing personal. They can ask for female or male.
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Male grizzly bears, for one. (sm)
Snakes. Male porcupines. Reptiles (Oops, that's a whole group of creatures, all living alone). Spiders. Female sea horses. Great white sharks. Most fish (oops, another group).
Dear All You Male People
PUT YOUR $#@!& dishes IN the dishwasher. NOT in the sink. NOT on the counter. NOT left on the table. Are you mow-rons handicapped? Am I the only one in the house with the capability of actually being able to do the latch, lower the door, slide out the rack, and place dishes inside? A complex task, I understand, but one would think that after years and years of training, one would get the hang of it.
HUGE SIGH OF FRUSTRATION.
LY, BTW.
Mom
Male or female so I will know if I am interested. NM
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And I think someone is jealous, what's wrong, no male attention for you? lol
I totally agree with the OP. I too have been inappropriately treated by men, uncomfortable staring or smiling or flitatious comments and it gets a little tiresome. The problem is that men never grow up. They would do this into their 90s if they could still see!
Need secret Santa ideas for male.....
My husband needs some secret Santa ideas for under $2 for a new male teacher. He really does not know very well. As an emergeny I sent a bag of homemade cookies the first day. Any neat unique ideas?
Yep, it was. There goes the best looking male professional dancer ever on the show....sm
Alec is some serious eye candy.
My female chihuahua mounts our male
cat who is a lot bigger than she is and when I say "what have I told you about doing that in public" she jumps down and looks at me with a real innocent "what?" look.
puleeze-you never met a male DRAMA QUEEN??
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male Blues are much darker in coloration
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Why is that about the male child? I have noticed that in my own family
Great advice by the way on the journal. There are so many things in this life that we cannot comprehend "in the thick of it", but later become crystal clear.
actually they DO cast out their male children as teens
often times if they do not "comply" with the religious teachings. There is an entire group of "Lost boys" all over Utah and the surrounding areas where FDLS and other religious off-shoots have cast out their teen boys. Really really sad. I lived in Utah and have known quite a few current and former FDLS members and also know a couple of men who as teens were "cast out" by their families. I think also the older men don't particularly care for the younger teen boys being "competetion" for them as far as the young girls go...it's disgusting religous fanatacism at its worst.
It really doesn't matter if it was a male or female
Whey the He!! are we discussing whether or not a female would ever do this. What happened was horrible! Plain and simple. Whey even bring the sex of the person into this? If that is what you are concerned about then you are totally missing the point of the story!
I love her; she looks like my male shepard/dobie mix, Scooby; and...
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The other board got me chuckling about male/female names. Can you name the sm
strangest male/female names that you've come across according to gender. For example, I once typed on a Frank and it was a woman born a female from birth!
What are some parents thinking???? I've also heard of Shirely for a man.
Smilin' Bob for Enzyte - Natural Male Enhancement sm
I especially hate the Christmas one where the girl gets all simpering and flirty b/c she hears about him... ewww.
Do you think infant male circumcision is child abuse?
Would you say that its child abuse?? Never thought of it that way before. Came across this article that discusses this question, interesting read. See link below.
I lost a male cat to renal failure that started out -(sm)-
as a blocked urinary tract. First his behavior changed, but it was just slight, so I barely noticed. He also began drinking more water, and going to his litter box frequently, but just peeing a little at a time. Then I had to leave town and my petsitter called the next day and said he was sleeping in his litter box. I was too dumb to know what that meant, and told her it was probably the heat spell we were having at the time, and to leave a fan on for him. Next morning she called from the emergeny vet's office. She had come and found him collapsed unconscious (probably from unimaginable pain) on the floor. They got him in the nick of time. He was completely blocked and would have died within the hour. As it was, although he seemed fine for the next month, the toxins from the backed-up urinary tract destroyed his kidneys, and he had to be put down at only age 4.
Male cats are more prone to urninary crystals and blockage than females, and Persians are especially prone to this, because they have teeny tiny little ureters. If your cat is long-haired, could he have Persian in him?
Regardless, I feel responsible for losing my cat because I didn't know about the symptoms. It sounds like he's trying to tell you something, so a vet checkup and maybe some blood or urine tests. Better safe than sorry. Oh, and one more thing: DON'T ever let a vet prescribe the pain killer/anti-inflammatory drug, Metacam (meloxicam) for a cat. (Especially the off-label use of the liquid version, which is for dogs only.) It can cause renal failure in cats. My current cat was given just one 0.5 mL oral dose of Metacam in the vet's office, and became violently ill for 2 days. Thank goodness I didn't give her what she was sent home on! THEN I looked it up online and OMG -- there are hundreds of people out there who have lost cats to Metacam.
Can anyone suggest a nice name for a new male Maine Coon kitty?
He will actually be my 5th Maine Coon cat. I am getting him somewhat suddenly because someone else decided to wait for the exact color they wanted. I am fine with the way he looks - silver and white mackrel. What is a nice manly name for a cat? All ideas welcome. You all can always come up with something terrific! 
you're seriously going to let an adult (male?!) spank your teenage daughter?
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No, definitely not -- if this had been a woman - sm
asking you the same question would you have thought twice about it? He was a rep of the store asking if you found what you were looking for, since it happened to be a bra, I think he phrased it correctly, but then again he did not take into account a person who would take a question the wrong way. He has learned the hard way never to question a lady about her underwear that is for sure. You need to learn to let things roll off your back. If he had leered at you and said, hey lady you find a bra for those nice **** of yours, then yeah, that would be harrassment and not good customer service. Learn to chill some and not worry so much.
I know of a woman who actually did this
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what do you get for the woman who has everything?...sm
Spend some time together.
Give each little young lady a handmade card/voucher that she can cash in to spend time with you one-on-one, whether it be at the hair salon, lunch, walking in the park, just doing regular shopping stuff, going to a play or just sitting, talking, having a cup of tea and looking through family albums....It's the special time that'll be cherished.
Oh, and 50-ish is not old.....I know 70 to 85-yo young ladies who can run circles around me with their enthusiasm, drive, ambition and joy for life.  Cat
did you NOT see that 95 y/o woman who
graduated college last year? She was all over the news, GOD BLESS HER!! Had all her wits about her......just old looking is all....
Education doesn't stop until we die - so by all means 40+ is still young in that many change career directions many times in ones' life...
another woman
Does his name rhyme with Boo by any chance? This brought back memories from 16 years ago. Same situation. I found out I was not the only one and that he had been seeing someone else for years and when she and I "met", she told me he owed everybody money. I did get mine back by personal check in a very nice (what a joke) card, wishing me well. I loved him - couldn't deal with the other woman thing, so let her have him. Glad I did - I would have been miserable with him. Good Luck - watch your purse!!
wonder woman
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then you should definitely let the PTA woman have him
and after he's with her instead of you, make sure to send a thank you card
Do you believe what this woman says?
That an employee told her to use the MRI machine at the zoo?
When a 5-foot, 275-pound woman found out she had a tumor on her spine, she was told by her local hospital to go the zoo to have a MRI because a regular MRI machine could not hold her weight, myfoxkc.com reported.
Carolyn Ragan told the television station she discovered the tumor two years ago and, after the hospital told her she could not use their MRI machine, a medical assistant said he would help her find a solution.
“So he suggested the Kansas City Zoo,” Ragan said. “I thought, I know I’m big, but I’m not as big as an elephant. And my husband got mad.”
The University of Kansas Hospital would not comment on Ragan’s claim, but said its MRI department does not know of any animal MRI in the Kansas City area that would scan a human.
Ragan’s problem was two-fold: She was too heavy for the table and too wide to slide through the opening.
Medical Imaging in Kansas City North, which has both closed and open MRI machines can typically hold up to 440 pounds, but sometimes a person who weighs less can still be out of luck, according to an MRI technician.
“It depends on how they are built a lot of times and what part of their body we’re scanning,” said technician Sarah Abbott of Medical Imaging. “(The machine) can only be so open before the magnetic field dissipates into the room.”
Ragan, who ended up having two surgeries and some paralysis, said she finally found an open MRI machine that held her weight, but it was embarrassing and frustrating.
“They should have machines that fit most everybody,” she said.
A Woman Should Have... sm
BEST POEM EVER
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A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
by Maya Angelou
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to...
something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a youth she's content to leave behind....
a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age....
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .......
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a feeling of control over her destiny...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to fall in love without losing herself...
how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without
ruining the friendship....
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW....
when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
that her childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. .
whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't take it personally....
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
where to go...
be it to her best friend's kitchen table..
or a charming Inn in the woods...
when her soul needs soothing...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a month...and a year...
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A single woman
What you're feeling is perfectly normal. Please do not rush into a relationship with any man at this point. Enjoy this time and spend it getting to know your children better and just spending time with them. Also get to know yourself and feel comfortable with who you are - develop some hobbies and interests. If you've spent the last 2 decades in this kind of relationship, you haven't had much time to spend on yourself. Soak in a hot tub every night if you want to.
In a sense, you've just cut a huge wart off your foot and of course it's going to feel strange and unfamiliar. It was the wart that was strange, now things are normal. It just feels strange because you aren't used to it.
Hope some of this makes sense. If you think about it, I bet you are actually less lonely now than when he was there. Some of the loneliest people I know are in marriages and relationships. Some of the happiest and most joy-filled people I know are on their own.
I should have been a repair woman.
My kids were out of clothes. Yes, I'm behind on laundry. So I wash some stuff, toss it in the dryer and I hear something going "ping" and it won't turn on. I just pulled it completely apart, put it back together and it's working. Yeah me! A screw had come out and fallen down inside of it. I can't believe how full of lint the inside was too. I do, however, have 6 extra screws that should be in there somewhere lol.
Yes, a woman can pass it to a man, it is just like any other STD.
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