Function of society at large (sm)
Posted By: Dating MT on 2009-06-18
In Reply to: Dating? What's that? It's been so long I forgot. - CrankyBeach
I think you are right to some extent. I personally try hard to keep my word and when I can't, I feel bad about it! I call as soon as I know it's not going to work and I apologize. I try hard not to say I can do something if I am not sure I can. I don't make other plans for that timeframe that I have already committed to see someone during. How is that so hard? If someone is "iffy" about something, they need to say "I don't know, can I get back with you?" Not just say yes and then forget about it. I know a lot of people these days who seem to plan several things for the same time period and then whichever one they feel like doing at the moment gets priority - regardless of who else is inconvenienced or whose time is wasted by it. (I know I'm ranting here...making me feel better...haha.) Then they don't even understand why you are angry or why it is offensive...as though you are being unreasonably demanding to think that someone is going to try to do what they said they would do. Whew.....ok, I'm done. Think I will look at my navel now...lol
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Well...I try. I go to every family function she invites me to (sm)
many times I take the kids there when my husband is not even with us. I have taken them to her family reunions when he is out of town, birthday celebrations, etc. I have helped her when she has been sick and encourage my husband to visit them more. I have forced my children repeatedly and have driven them there with them crying the entire hour trip and left them anyway. I have not seen my own mother for Christmas in 10 years because my mother-in-law insists that we spend every holiday with her, at her house, and I do it. I invite her here but she is too busy to come most of hte time. I have given her an open invitation to come here any time she wants, spend as much time with them as she wants, spend the night, spend a week, whatever. She only wants them at her house. People have to earn respect and love they don't just get it automatically. I have and continue to work hard to do as much for her as I can and yet she always thanks my husband (her son) for everything, even when he didn't do it. They recently had an anniversary party and I did a lot to help with that too. So say what you will, but I think I do my part in the relationship, it is she who will not compromise.
My only function in life seems to be to serve as a cat bed.
One on my lap/legs, one on my arm, and one at my head grooming my hair.
Conjunction junction what's your function :-)
That is really the only one that sticks out to me, but I remember watching them when I was really little.
If you're attending each function, you bring a gift to each one. nm
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For those of you that are large like me....
Where do you buy your large size bras?
I need a 40C and am having a hard time finding anything.
Aside from losing weight, which I am working on, do you have any recommendations?
Well, I have a large shopping bag (sm)
hanging in the spare room closet and have about 4-5 little stocking stuffers already purchased and in there. Does that count?
Unfortunately society has already
taken Christ out of Christmas. It has been said that many children today do not even know the true meaning of Christmas and only that Santa Claus is coming.
society does not get it
I am just going to have to vent on this one...
My husband and I got married when my stepdaughter was 7. She was in the wedding, etc. I adored her. We paid for her child support on time, bought her first car and anything she wanted, she came for summers, we went on trips together, and she grew up.
But her mother told her to choose which family she really belonged to and she chose her mother's family and that is the end of it.
It had nothing to do with me, even though it felt personal. Her mother asked her to choose and she was a good daughter and a bad stepdaughter.
I am allowed to move on with my life. Not every story has a happy ending. She will never love us or thank us for anything, and yes I took her to shop for her wedding dress.
I will be so glad when people stop romantizing divorce.
society does not get it
Here again, we are talking about the CHILDREN choosing someone to love. This is not even remotely about the adults choosing who to love.
Maybe you can console yourself by saying the other parent or grandparent is bad is bad or you are so much better. Even intact families sometimes compete for the affection of their grandkids, but a lot of times....they are not going to choose to love you for any reason, especially not to be better than the dead, missing or drug addicted.
I figure she will use the new baby against you, just like the old baby. You DIL is the issue, not her child.
society does not get it
Here again, we are talking about the CHILDREN choosing someone to love. This is not even remotely about the adults choosing who to love.
Maybe you can console yourself by saying the other parent or grandparent is bad is bad or you are so much better. Even intact families sometimes compete for the affection of their grandkids, but a lot of times....they are not going to choose to love you for any reason, especially not to be better than the dead, missing or drug addicted.
I figure she will use the new baby against you, just like the old baby. You DIL is the issue, not her child.
society does not get it
Being a stepmom is not like being an adoptive parent. It is like being a parenting team member. There is no recognition of you, except when you drop the ball.
Has society become this bad and why
I saw the post down below about the Wal-Mart worker. Here is a new article that just came out (link below). The police are now looking at video surveillance to see who trampled this poor worker to death. Personally I hope they find all responsible and prosecute them to the fullest. It doesn't matter that it was Wal-Mart. I like their store just fine, it is what society is doing to people that nobody even bothered to stop and help this person. I grew up in the 60s/70s in a small town in New England. Maybe I'm old fashioned but my parents/grandparents taught me better than this.
I just can't believe people would do this. And for what? Getting a Christimas item? This is one of many reasons why I do my Christmas shopping (what very little I do) online and gift cards.
I think the "traditions" of the "big" shopping day the day after Thanksgiving should go away. I really don't know what the solution would be to try to get the people to "love thy neighbor", not trample, bite, and spit at them so you can grab that item. (BTW - you can shop online at Walmart too).
I think to myself that I thought the spirit of Christmas was supposed to celebrate Christ. Oh yeah, I'm sure he is so proud of people like those who harm others and cause death so they can get what they want.
I hope those guilty are sitting at home worrying about whether or not their face is going to show up on the video camera.
http://apnews.myway.com/article/20081129/D94OJ4NG0.html
A large cucumber and a jar of Vaseline. -nm
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As a member of a large church I am always around others. We have different sm
groups and we do dinner once a month, shopping once a week (if you can make if of course), movies once a month, etc. Then I attend a Bible study on Wednesdays with another large group of women and we will get together a lot and talk on the phone during the week, etc. This, along with my family, sister, in laws, etc., and I am far from being an introvert working at home doing MT. Been at it for 8 years.
To be honest, and don't take this the wrong way, but as an MT or anyone who works from home, you decide if you want friends, a social life, etc. We work 8 hour days or some of us work 4 hours. That leaves you lunch hour to get together with a friend or 2, after work for dinner, shopping, and a movie, and then weekends for a couple of hours. We all need balance. It is not healthy to be at home all day with no interaction whatsoever. You will begin to suffer if you continue living that way. Trust me, as a former depressed person who suffered from post-partum depression for 4 years (yes, you read that right!), I had to make a decision that I would not exclude myself from my friends and family, would make NEW friends while I was at it, and it has turned me into a very positive and fun person to be with.
I can't tell you how many parties I've hosted since coming out of my depression. My friends call me Rachel Ray with a mix of Paula Deen (I'm leaning more towards Paula), since I LOVE to decorate and entertain and be a blessing to others, ministering to them if I can, lend an ear or a hand if I can and have an "open" home where people can drop by if they need to talk about something. My life has been fantastic since overcoming depression.
I'm not saying all extroverts are depressed, but that was the reason for me.
Good luck.
what about one of those very large storage tubs--sm
you can buy from walmart for about 7 or 8 dollars. They are pretty large and you can cut a "door" in the side of it so they can get in and out. just a thought.
...myself. Actually a size 12 but still too large around the middle. nm
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My, you let her down on a large part of parenting.
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I'm in a large city and what you said is not true here.
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When I got my dog from the Humane Society
a while back, they gave me a free veterinary visit to almost any vet office in the city. She also developed kennel cough, but about five days after I brought her home. They say it can take up to ten days for them to get the symptoms. They said a large majority of dogs from any shelter will end up getting it. The vet can also tell by looking at their teeth about how old they are. Maybe you are right, she may have some kind of infection going on.
I think it's great you are committed to keeping the dog even with these problems. A lot of people would take it back and trade it like it's a car.
Society is getting too tolerant!
I suppose you are one of those people who thinks she can do anything she wants because she isn't "hurting anyone". It is poor manners to take an animal into a public shopping area. I feel sorry for you if you do not see anything wrong with this type of thinking. I suppose you also drive with your dog on your lap, too!!
Unfortunately you're right about society and
it's very sad. I'm average, not thin or overweight and fluctuate a few pounds a lot. So when I lose 5-10 lbs or so, I often hear from others about how great I look. Gee, thanks...? How bad did I look before that 5 or 10 lbs? It's a warped society but that doesn't mean we should try to conform to it. Turn off the TV and throw away the magazines for a while. And, heck, if your boyfriend doesn't like you the way you are, throw him away too :)
that's the problem with society
the poster definitely got to people. You need to get involved, for the sake of every innocent child and animal, and put these sick humans ouf of every child's and animal's misery. It's because of attiudes like the couple who posted here, oh, why post this, I did not want to read this, so just go on with your life and ignore what's going on around you, and that's why it continues to happen, because you do not want to hear about it, much less do anything about it.
Have an 18 y/o Whirlpool, top load, large capacity - sm
not one lick of trouble (knock on wood)--got it with the house (it was 10 then). Have all Whirlpool appliances except for the stove; all are 18-y/o and working great. Very reliable.
What does a small child look like to a large dog, if NOT prey???
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Exactly, a very large *gated* community in my state
was pretty much taken over by mostly gang/drug dealer types! I guess they want to keep the cops out ; ) lol
I use middle rack unless large cut that needs more room.
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In a city with a large gay/lesbian population, gay -sm
marriage is an everyday issue. The kids hear both sides of it. They're not isolated in coccoons, and they watch TV and see the negative ads running right now. If they go to Sunday school, then they probably get fed a large dose of fear and intolerance there, as well.
I think it IS educational for a bunch of SF kids to go see a wedding, especially if it's their own teacher. They already know she's gay. And they already know she's are real human being that they probably all love.
What they get out of the experience is a very strong reason to question the hatred & bigotry surrounding the issue of who should be allowed to marry, and who should not.
I'm large-chested, but I only wear push-ups
I wear a 42DD and I wear push-ups because even though I'm large breasted, I droop. Push-ups provide more contour and shaping than regular underwires.
If you are having problem with muffintop, though, you're not trying the right size. Go to JCP or Victoria Secret and have them measure you. Oprah says 40% of women wear the wrong bra size.
As far as push-ups go, I really like the ones by Ambrielle, which are sold by JCP.
Maybe she's thinking of large apartment complexes??
I would think it would be a lot harder to stop people from smoking in those types of apartments when there are maybe hundreds of apartments in a lot of different buildings like they have in big cities. I can understand not smoking in a one or two family home type apartment.
National Honor Society
Have been asked by a friend to write a letter of recommendation for her daughter for National Honor Society, unfortunately I stink at letter writing, any suggestions?
I am so grateful the dreges of society
are not able to go on welfare and live anymore. I do not mean this for disabled, the elderly and the like. If you have a child, you did this and should not in any way receive welfare. This was what you wanted, not something taxpayers should have to pay for. If you had no money to have a child, well maybe waiting until you did have some might have been a good idea. If you cannot make it on your own, DO NOT have children. Simple. Do the math. I give only to people who come under a heading of some kind of misfortunate they did not bring onto themselves happening or to animal shelters, etc. To a drug place, alcohol or unwed mother place, never....
I agree about society and options, etc. (as
You don't have to have an eating disorder to be thin. Not everyone who is thin has an eating disorder.
Don't wish that horrible fate upon yourself.
If you want to lose weight, just set your mind to do it. Decide before every meal, snack, or drink you have, if what you're eating is undermining your desire to look better and be more healthy, and decide if instant gratification is more imporant that this.
Oh, and by the way, just because you are thinner, does not mean people will give you more attention. Believe it or not, it is what's inside that counts to the people who really love and know you. Yeah, you might turn more heads, but you are still the same person inside.
Having said all that, I do agree that society does judge people on their appearance.... beauty, body, blah blah blah... I could go on about my philosophy of that, but I'll save it for another time :-)
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I think we've become a disposable society
Perhaps it comes from having too much.
People used to get by with just a few clothes, that had to last. Now, many people need more than 1 walk in closet to house all their clothes. Something tears, ach, chuck it out, there's plenty more to wear. Even shoes aren't made sturdy, anymore. Used to be you got shoes repaired, re-soled, re-heeled, re-tipped. You don't see many shoe repair shops any more. We used to have one in about every mall.
Think you had a large garden or orb-weaving spider there! Scary
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Guess it got moved. I suggested a large or 2 smaller
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Large garden containers = excellent idea! :)
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China bailed out some large US companies. I guess we are
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Call the Humane Society or Emergency Vet
Tell them what happened, that the owners are not home, and you are afraid the dog is critically injured. They will then send someone to check on the dog and do what needs to be done.
As far as your neighbors being mad at you for hitting their dog, it is their responsibility to make sure their animals are safely confined. NOT taking a nap in the road.
Don't let the poor beastie suffer for their ignorance. Please call to see if the dog can be helped.
The lesser known (and least respected) Black Hat Society.
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Found a list, and this one includes broccoli but in large amounts.
http://www.petalia.com.au/templates/storytemplate_process.cfm?story_no=257
Ditto, no desire, not in today's society/world!
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That is ABUSE Humane society or ASPCA should be called
Dogs dont just bark for no reason. In my opinion a person who puts there dog out and the dog is distressed and barking and the person does nothing to work with the dog and leaves to avoid the barking is abusing that animal. That is like locking a child out. If you really do love dogs like you say anonymously call the ASPCA or Humane sociey and let them explain it to the owner.
The local humane society allows people to stop by
and visit the pets. For example, if you like Kittens you can come by anytime they are open and just sit and play with kittens and or pet and keep them company. Also if you are a dog person, you can do same. Any day, any time. You might want to call your local pet shelter if you like pets. I hear that the pets and people get a lot out of it. Of course, I planned to do this a year ago, and still have not made it out of the house, but I do think about it sometimes! Good luck and have fun what ever you do.
As a civilized society, life in prison without parole
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Isn't it refreshing to know you are not a tool of the consumer "buy buy" society? sm
I can't tell you how empowering it is to know that I have 50K in savings and liquidity, as well as a 401K, my cars paid off, my house paid off (although it is old and not fancy). If I need something, I can pay cash for it. What a relief, when the economy is crashing to know that I will be fine (God willing) with what I have!
Definitely call Animal Shelter or Humane Society
Ours runs a once a month clinic where they will give rabies shots and spay or neuter for only $20.00. Tell them she's a stray, hopefully they can help you. LOL, she has chosen you and your family. She brought her babies in the house cause she feels they'll be safe there. Congratulations on being adopted!
Surgeon said he had large exuberant hemorrhoids! Are they wearing party hats?
The poster meant breastfeeding is primative in PUBLIC in our society today.
I agree with her. I don't have a problem with someone breastfeeding their baby, and I mean BABY, not toddler, but discretion should be used. That woman knew full well that she was going to be on a plane. She could have bottled her breast milk for her TODDLER instead of making others uncomfortable around her. It's the 20th century, not the dark ages, and not Ethiopia. And, this lawsuit crap only makes the mother look even more like a beatnik dingbat.
St. Vincent De Paul Society is good. Volunteers administer the program.
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No, Blondie, give the dogs back or call the Humane Society.....s/m
who can take care of 10 (t e n ) dogs? This is CRAZY!
Your husband is a coward. He should protect you. God knows what a 'deal' he made with this 'friend'.
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