For those who said "you might be in for a lawsuit" doesn't know what they sm
Posted By: Me on 2007-10-10
In Reply to: An update... - advice from you ladies (sm)
are talking about. My dad retired from law enforcement and they checked up on ALL of my boyfriends! LOL It is PUBLIC RECORD if they have done something illegally. The public has A RIGHT TO KNOW about a person's past history.
If your son doesn't dig up this info for you, just log onto zoominfo.com or something like that, and get all of the criminal records and past of any one who has a social security # or DOB. You're doing a good thing for her. I'm early 30s and I wish my mom and dad did more to protect me.
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This major lawsuit had to do with--sm
the insurance company (SF) stating that they would cover and *wind damage* done by hurricane Katrina, but not flooding, as they had no flooding insurance on their policies, but the lawsuit contended that the flooding was still due to hurricane Katrina and should be covered. they won that case, but there is still some hassle over it because a judge did not like the way the wording read concerning some people who filed claims, but did not sue the insurance company. In my opinion, these insurance companies take peoples monies for years and do who knows what with it, and then when something major happens and people need help, they find all kinds of loopholes to not do anything. That is what insurance policies are FOR! but as far as bleach on a rug...no, if I were the insurance company involved in that, I would not pay either. jmo.
I think you are setting yourself up for a lawsuit
What gives your son the authority to check on someones records and then to tell someone else? That sounds like a lawsuit just waiting to happen. I think you probably are very naďve also if you expect your daughter to follow through on what she has said. I would really watch my steps if I were you. It happens all the time. I do not see where you should have any access to medical, jail, and so on records.
Talk about a lawsuit!!
We had a family file a lawsuit here because a teacher told another parent that a student in her class was on a certain ADD medication.
This parent was asking the teacher about ADD medications, she was reluctant to put her son on any, and the teacher was telling her of the success of one little boy in her classroom who was on the same medication. He was doing so much better with his grades, no behavior problems, etc.
Long story short, the parents of the boy the teacher named somehow found out that the teacher told another parent about their son's medical condition, and sued the school board. The teacher almost lost her job, but thankfully so much of our community supported her and the school, the other family was finally able to work something out and dropped the lawsuit.
Bottom line, the teacher or school cannot and should not tell other parents who the child is that started it or can't get rid of it. In today's society of suing for anything and everything, they are just asking for trouble if they share that information with anyone.
Yes, I think it is okay to send home a generic note..."Dear parents, a child in the third grade has lice, here is what the Health Department says to do about it. The school nurse/teacher/secretary/somebody will be checking EVERY CHILD IN THE WHOLE SCHOOL tomorrow". How hard is that. That doesn't identify anyone. Oh, I forgot. I'm just a mom with common sense, not a school administration. BTW, our school administration is a man, and doesn't even have kids!
just had a major lawsuit ruling
but these are mainly people down in the coastal areas whose homes were completely leveled or not habitable. Insurance companies should be ashamed of themselves...some of these folks have been paying the same company for 40 to 50 years and when they need them, they get screwed. I hope the homeowners actually get the monies so they can get what should have been theirs in the first place.
We lived further inland, so the winds were strong enough to blow off a roof, or blow rain under a roof, or turn trees over on houses and crush them, but not level a home....but every time a wind comes up or it rains heavy, everyone holds their breath because trees now have weak roots and are easily toppled over, even 2 years later.
Lawsuit! How to find a company's bank?
Ok, this is it and hope you can help me. I purchased a dinette suit 04/01/2006. The company said 4-6 weeks before delivery. Paid $640.93. I never got my furniture. I called, got very few calls back from them and finally decided last July after asking for my money back to file a lawsuit. The company did not answer the first filing in 45 days and then had to put in for a default. Just went to court today finally and got a default. By the way, the company did not appear in court!! Now I can go for a garnishment of the company with this documentation but do not have a clue as to where I would find out which bank this company does business with. If anyone able to give me any insight on this, I would appreciate it. Thanks.
Are you hoping to milk a sexual harrassment lawsuit out of this?
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credit card debt lawsuit question
If there is anyone out there who has been sued and had a judgment placed for credit card debt....
What happens when you go to court?? I don't own a house and live week to week (part-time IC, not very supportive husband) so they can't get blood from a stone so to speak. But I was wondering if anyone has gone to court and what actually happens.
credit card debt lawsuit question
Anyway you can declare bankruptcy, chpt 7? I am going that route. :(
Do you have a lot of monies owed where bankruptcy is a real possibility?
I'm going through a similar time......talk about stress!!!!!!!
What's the basis of their civil lawsuit if they got their stuff back?
It's not like he's a habitual criminal. Tell the court you'll just add it to your bankruptcy because that's where they're pushing you. Or see if you can make $5 a month payments. The kid is crying out for help here. How is it going to help him if you guys have more bills?
Other men say "you lucky dog" sm
but personally I find it creepy when a man marries a woman that much younger than him. Either she's a golddigger or she has "issues." And so does he.
I should know. After I left home, my father divorced my mother and a few years later he married a woman who was only a year older than I was at the time.
I'm talking ISSUES.
Actually we can all tell which posts are from "you"
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"you make me want to be a better man"
As Good as it Gets
Would that be "you're next" ??
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When "discussing" here, we try to keep "you" out
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who is "you guys" ?
If you are talking about Christians, then NOPE, we are NOT always saying that. God is not in all of us. That sounds like something Oprah would say actually. God is in those who believe in his son Jesus Christ. John 3:16, read that.
Yes. The formula is you say, "You have X amount for
When she runs out, she does without until her budget allows more entertainment money.
It isn't about the money, though. Her issue is with learning priorities for needs versus wants.
You've waited a little late if she's 22. My boys budgeted their money as mid teens and as young men do great.
Kids usually learn spending habits from parents - by example or by allowance.
Copied this so it is not to "you" just some rules.
Get ready for a big surprise: According to traditional American etiquette, wedding gifts are purely optional. That's why it's uncouth to include any mention of gifts with your invitation—it comes across like you're expecting a gift.
Asking for Monetary Gifts
You’re planning a bridal shower, and let’s face it – the bride and groom have been living together for three years, already accumulating at least two blenders and a toaster oven. What they could really use is some extra cash (they’ve been dying to remodel their bathroom.) However, blatantly asking for specific gifts – monetary or otherwise – is in poor taste. Just imagine an invitation that reads: “I could really use some new shoes – please send me some strappy sandals.” (Just because Carrie Bradshaw got away with it does not make it ok!) What you can do is let guests know if they ask that the bride prefers cash gifts. Send shower invites without registry information; inquiring guests will ask where the couple is registered, presenting a perfect opportunity to respond with the bride’s preference. Some guests will still prefer to give a tangible gift, so the couple should register for a few items. Avoid drawing attention to the cash with a “money tree,” or other cash-displaying gimmick, so guests bringing tangible gifts don’t feel awkward. Simply display all cards and gifts together for the bride to open and acknowledge.
Bottom line? The happy bride-to-be should always remember to feel privileged, not entitled.
Giving Monetary Gifts
You’re sorting through your mail, and to your dismay discover a shower invitation with a cutesy rhyme such as...
…To make it easy for you
and avoid a shopping spree
We thought that we would have instead,
a little money tree…
Although this presents a clear breach of etiquette, it does not justify an uprising of the etiquette police. Pointing out another’s faux pas is just as rude as the original blunder. Here are your options:
Bring a monetary gift – If you choose to participate with a cash donation, give whatever you feel comfortable giving. The shower host will start the tree off for guests by tying a bill or small envelope on the tree, and guests will follow suit. There is usually no way to tell who gave what amount. In this instance, bring a card separate from the cash for the bride.
Bring a tangible gift – I say this with caution, because you don’t want to appear as if you’re protesting the shower theme. However, if you’ve put a lot of thought into selecting something memorable for the bride, take pride in presenting her with a thoughtful gift to acknowledge her upcoming nuptials.
This is not a "you" problem. This is a "them"
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the weight loss one, "you just CAN'T
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"You're a Mean One, Mr. Grinch" -
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I doubt it is "you", they would hate any woman - sm
who married their brother since he probably became their father figure. Personally I would just ignore her/them. If family functions come up and they exclude you but your DH intends to go (which he should not w/o you; or tell them he won't attend unless you go), I would go anyway. Screw them. They want you to be miserable and you are. In time your kids will figure out what horrible people they are. AS for the comments on you not thanking your MIL, I would not even bother to respond. It's none of business either way. You know you thanked your MIL, sounds a bit excessive writing thank you notes though for a few hours of babysitting. I would just ignore all the stuff, she is just trying to drive you nuts and sounds like she is doing a good job. You need to take a step back, chill some, and remember you are a much better person than your SILs will ever be. Your DH should have put them in their place day 1 though. He is obviously spineless when it comes to his bullies for sisters. That is all they are, remember that next time you see the witches, nod, smile and walk away, then you will be driving them nuts when you do not appear heartbroken or crushed.
Hey, have at it. If you want a lazy, apathetic, not affectionate, doesn't listen, doesn't make
can reach him!!! Let me know if you're interested.
It doesn't make me mad but it doesn't sound intelligent either (sm)
I am sure if all of those people who were aborted were living, some would be good and some would be bad, in the same proportion as there is good to bad now. Your statement makes no sense. So somehow the babies who were aborted were meant to be aborted because they were bad seeds? Whatever. Sorry, that's just silly.
It doesn't always work that way though - some give but it doesn't come back like that nm
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Dont forget "A Christmas Story" ("You'll shoot your
My dad said he actually did that frozen-tongue thing, too, on an axe, when he was a very young boy. He'd have LOVED this movie.
That actually doesn't look that bad!
I love pork especially at a pig roast...by the end of the day the meat just falls off the bones it is so tender. Doesn't look too terrifying!
Doesn't take much to get you going does it? nm
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If a dog doesn't have anything
to do, he will occupy himself. His thing is barking, which isn't fair to the neighbors. I had a neighbor who'd let his laborador bark for hours on end while I was trying to work. Almost drove me insane. To catch a break I'd occasionally take a rawhide, stuff all the cracks with peanut butter, and throw it over the fence. Ah, blessed peace for a while.
Cesar Millan has a website. I'm sure you can get lots of ideas there. It's all about exercise, discipline and then affection. You have to communicate your leadership and also use up his energy and teach him what it is you expect of him.
Why doesn't she get her own
It sounds to me like she wants you to pay her bills. She'll have to find a job and get a roommate like any one of us would. Why should you compromise what you have with your boyfriend when she'll be coming age very soon and can be out on her own? Let her know she's welcome to visit or whatever, but you'd rather see her pursue her own living quarters. 
That is my mom, she just doesn't get
it. She also thinks it is because of my husband. Nobody is good enough for me. Doesn't matter who it is. She has been telling everyone it is because she will not lend us money. My husband and I both work our butts off and have never borrowed money from anyone but the bank.
My brother and I have not been the closest and about two weeks ago, I called him. I now believe that a lot of reason why we are not close is due to my mother. He is four years younger and I was out of the house by the time he was 13. I always got my mother's point of view of what was going on with him and I should have known better. She told me he doesn't talk to her because she won't lend him money. He and I thought we didn't have a lot in common, so most of the communication was between him and my mom, then mom would "tell" me. He doesn't want her to see his son either, but being that he is divorced, his ex-wife allows her to see him. He said that she was always intervening in his life, no matter what it was. She kicked him out of her home when he was 15 and he has never looked back. He now has his PhD as a recent graduate and is very successful. We both believe it is a control issue with her.
That leads to this, I have researched grandparents rights as well. In Michigan, as long as the parents are married and fit parents, grandparents have no rights. If you were never married, separated or divorced or worse yet, proved to be unfit, then they have rights to see the children. Something to think about.
He doesn't like going out...
im at a loss because I am a social butterfly and I want the man that I love with me all the time. Don't get me wrong i LOVE my girls nights out, but I want him there sometimes. I think this is one of the main issues holding me back from getting married. I do respect that he doesn't like to dance, or go to bars... but he doesn't even like to go to my friend's houses... He is a little on the shy side and I have been with him 6 years (and we have known each other since we were in 7th grade - about 15 years-, lived down the street from each other...) And I can't see myself without him but I know this is keeping me from marrying him because I want that socialization. Even when we have a family I almost am positive I am going to want to have friends over with their kids... bbq's in the summer... stuff like that and he just isn't like me at all in that way. How do I deal with this? Oh yea even if he is willing to compromise I feel like he hates it though and that is still really hard for me to deal with. If he is just sitting there not having fun that's almost worse than him not coming at all... :( we are at a crossroads right now and that is why i am asking. we either stay together or dont...
I think the same way - if the OP doesn't
like the smoke, then she'd best look elsewhere. It's not fair to say "smoke outside" when they are paying the rent, too. Some people just amaze me!
mine doesn't...
I make Paula Deen's southern cornbread dressing...go to Food Network's site and look up the recipe. It's yummy, has no meat whatsoever, and makes a ton of dressing...HAPPY HOLIDAYS...
My mother's doesn't either...
Made with Pepperidge farm stuffing mix, white wine, mushrooms, celery, onions, chopped walnuts, seasoning. Not sure what else but it's different and delicious, still the best I've ever had!
Doesn't sound right
under those circumstances. Then whenever someone wanted new wall-to-wall they could just crap it up themselves and submit a claim and get a new rug.
At any rate, even if this is somehow true, the insurance company will only jack up your rate or drop you all together, so you're going to pay either way. And then you'll have a claim history and no other company will want you either.
I agree, it's more than just pot. Pot doesn't do that. sm
I have heard that taking Niacin helps clear out of your system faster as well as trying to "sweat" it out like he is. He also needs plenty of sunshine and you to be there for him. Rather than turning against him, stuck together with him and help him through it. It will make your relationship so much better in the long run and he needs the love and support of you to help him get to that place. Admire him for trying to break his addiction. It is very addicting. His rollercoaster of sweating, can't sleep, and emotional issues sound more related to crack/crank or methampetamines to me. I'd tell him in order for you to be supportive and helpful to him right now, he needs to at least be honest with you.
I can't tell the difference when something has MSG and when it doesn't. nm
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I am not saying my hubby doesn't look
he just doesn't let me see him looking. Hey, I still look too.
He doesn't like the masks...
my DD has taken over the mask and my kids like to sleep with fans now too. I just turn them off before I go to bed.
She doesn't impress me though
Just something about her... She's like never smiling. Even when he gave her a rose last night, she just looks mad. Could just be the editing.. maybe there's something about her he does like. I think he might like Tessa... and Amber. I can't believe I let myself get into this show again.
With our experience, he doesn't need
We have bought several homes and I have been an IC MT the entire time. I have never had this ask of me. They just want to know what my income has been, as they know being self-employed can mean different amounts from paycheck to paycheck. Of course, if your husband is empoyed somewhere, they will put more thought into that
(they just don't say it). I had loan officers just start talking to my husband as if I'm not in the room just because they hear self-employed and know my husband is not....so they think he'll be the REAL one bringing in a paycheck. So, my husband brings them back in the game, as do I. We let them know both of our checks contribute to this mortgage, not just his. I've noticed the women loan officers are the worst with this, even though you would think they wouldn't be. We both have excellent credit scores and make sure this is the valid point we get across. Just make sure you are not overlooked as being an essential element in this deal. Generally, all the loan officer can go by is what you have made in the past few years, not what you may make in the future as an IC, because as an IC, you may not know what that paycheck will bring or if you'll even be with the same company 6 months from now. But again, I have never had this asked of me.
It all has to start somewhere doesn't it?
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But that doesn't apply to every
situation. In my case I got hit with something that was out of my control. I see where you are coming from because most times it is irresponsible spending and debt accruing that causes the problem but not always.
My mom doesn't like when mine rub against her, either
and she doesn't like that the neighbor cats in the development kill the birds at their feeders and also the baby rabbits. I don't especially like that aspect about them either (our 2 stay in the house 24/7) but it comes in handy in the house when we have a mouse. I know of people who go out of their way to hit a cat on the road and I think that is so disgusting. Makes me sad because of how much I love my cats.
What is funny though is that my male cat gravitates to my mother whenever she is here. He will just sit by her chair and stare at her with his big, golden, unblinking eyes. It really freaks her out!
He doesn't really look like he has aged all that much
in the last 10 years or so. I think he looks almost exactly the same as he did way back in his ER days!
Ugh, doesn't sound
too fun! Don't want to go to the hospital. That's why I figure it's past time to quit. My son is scared of me dying anyway. I told my husband no need in making his fear come true!
Why doesn't your son work? (sm)
I understand with all those children it may not even be worth it for the mom to work (child care would take all her earnings) but why doesn't your son work? Sounds like my sister. She has been living off of my parents for years.
It doesn't look sore, red or anything. Just
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How do you know he doesn’t like you/kids
You said he kept things under wrap. Your mother should not have to choose between you/your children and her husband. How old a person is he? Other things going on with him/them that you know of? Lot of people in older years PUT UP with children- that does not mean they want to be around them. I know you said you did not stay at the home with them. Do not ask your mother to choose, though. That is probably the reason she has not answered you. You as well as your siblings probably picked the ones you want and may not believe this but if left up to your mother and she had to choose, it might not be you and your family.
Thank goodness he doesn't eat
anything in front of the window, he just swoops, grabs and goes. He uses my front yard as sort of a "drive thru" I guess. He is a very pretty and majestic bird. I've tried to get pics of him, but my camera doesn't zoom far enough.
We also have Great Horned Owls that live in our pine trees out back. All through the summer I would hear them hooting. So I staked out the window one night so I could maybe get a peak at them and I actually saw one of them fly out of the tree, it was huge!
I just feel bad for my little feathered friends. I guess that's nature though.
Sorry for rambling, love to talk about my nature.
Doesn't bother me
For some women it takes more than soap and water. Not a biggie.
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