For the sake of the cats, you should tell her NOW to make different
Posted By: Deb on 2008-12-01
In Reply to: I just need to VENT and see what you all think...Beware...this is long...sm - Charmed
arrangements in the future, and that you won't be feeding them anymore. Please don't wait until she's about to leave the cats.
As for your sisters, I'm not Ann Landers or Dear Abby, but I've read them for years and I think they both would tell you to dump the family that you don't get along with, and start making some friends with people that will make you feel good. They are only making your life miserable and it's obvious they will continue to do so as long as YOU allow them to. Nobody can use you for a doormat unless you lie down for it. Good luck.
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I think cats look beautiful - love pics of cats
They can also be he!! on wheels to live with and a major PITA.
I say this as my dog is barking at a leaf blowing by the front door.....
right, some of us need a hug for hug's sake...
For the sake of your son and your
life, GET OUT NOW!! The marriage has been over for quite some time and things will not change. I waited because I was not hit for a few years. Thankfully I had no children to witness his treatment. I ended up with 5 broken ribs, pneumothorax, two black eyes with 12 stitches, a broken arm and 3 fingers. He left me on the floor bleeding and laughed as he went to the bar. I was in the hospital for 2.5 weeks. He also told me that I deserved it. Please, get out now.
For your sake, you better hope that God
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for your mom's sake, repeatedly tell your dad to get a job.
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Oh for heaven's sake.
There is nothing hateful in my post. At ALL. I gave 2 conditions; either she likes the way she looks or she doesn't. Either way, SHE is the one responsible. Not the MRI company, not airlines, not McDonalds, no one else. If you think this is hateful, it's because you don't think she should take responsibility for her own behavior, & I'm willing to bet you would like the rest of us to take responsibility for yours as well. Good grief! You even want me to take responsibility for your feelings when all I've done is state a couple of facts & conditions. Why am I not surprised.
Yes. It's hard to lose weight. Millions of years of evolving to super-efficient fat storage have seen to that. But actions have consequences. Everyone who is obese seems to think no one noticed how they got that way. Now the consequences of that behavior are yet another thing the rest of the population is supposed to take responsibility for, like bad loans or cigarette companies or bad business plans or anything else, & it pi&&es me off.
Oh for heaven's sake.
There is nothing hateful in my post. At ALL. I gave 2 conditions; either she likes the way she looks or she doesn't. Either way, SHE is the one responsible. Not the MRI company (and not airlines, not McDonalds, not the cigarette companies), NO ONE else. If you think this is hateful, it's because you don't think she should take responsibility for her own behavior, & I'm willing to bet you would like the rest of us to take responsibility for yours as well. Good grief! You even want me to take responsibility for your hurt feelings when all I've done is state a couple of facts & conditions. Why am I not surprised. Sorry, but I am of the opinion that we all make our own beds & lie in them.
Yes. It's hard to lose weight. Millions of years of evolving to super-efficient fat storage have seen to that. But actions have consequences. Everyone who is obese seems to think no one noticed how they got that way. Now the consequences of that behavior are yet another thing the rest of the population is supposed to take responsibility for, like bad loans or bad business plans or anything else, & it pi&&es me off.
Well, obviously. For heaven's sake.
If there's a surgical indication, like inability to urinate, of course I would have it done! WITH anesthesia.
What I'm against is unnecessary circumcision, which the vast majority are. I seriously question the ability of practitioners to discern developmental phimosis, which will correct itself naturally over time, with phimosis that will cause a serious health condition later in life.
http://www.nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet6.html
Talk to him. For goodness sake..
he is your husband! If you two can't have an adult conversation about things then it is time to assess your relationship. Move on if you are unhappy. Why spend your life being miserable, life is too short. The children would rather have a functional, happy mother than one who is worried and anxious all the time. Good grief ladies, wise up, be women instead of little girls! You control your happiness, not others!
I agree with this poster. For your own sake.
NM
do you think you should have, for the sake of the innocent child?
nm
That is not creepy. She's 9 for goodness sake, not 15. nm
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it was a joke for goodness sake! sm
Quit trying to start a fight!
Very good advice. I stayed for the sake SM
of my daughter, until she finished high school. I don't regret it and I'm very happy now, but I'm older. Women today tend to end things and I honestly don't think that is especially bad.
all for the sake of media, once again, running lives
I never started watching this useless gimmic of a show; typical media crap that it is.
For the sake of her family. There are children involved.
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For goodness sake, it's only a little league game..
this is why sports parents should be made to just sit down and shut up. Wow, you have a lot of resentment towards this woman to make such comments about her. Bring the earplugs or stay home.
Sorry - for your sake I hope the reason was too much annual income. (nm)
It's only a teeny weeny piece of skin, for heaven's sake, get real! nm
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At that rate, I could make in a week what I make
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Cats
My only suggestion would be to have set feeding times for the cats, that way you can monitor which cat is eating what. Just a thought -
Although my cats have started to eat my dogs' food, so I guess I shouldn't be one to give out advice!
cats
Iams has been notorious for cruel treatment of their animals in research - you might want to switch brands.
cats
I have the same problem, getting my cat declawed tomorrow. She has clawed through the leather.
Cats
My sister uses Soft Paws, which you glue on to a cat's claws. She said that they last about 6 weeks. My cat loves to jump on counters and scratch chair legs. I have used Sticky Paws, which is a double-sided tape. I have also heard of products that you can spray on furniture that makes it undesirable, though I haven't tried that myself so I'm not sure if they work.
Cats
What cat food was he on there is a HUGE recall of many many brands of cat food - they changed the source of their wheat gluten and cats and dogs are dying from liver or renal failure - check it out on MSN or CNN . The same manufacturer makes about 60 different brands.
Val Curtiss Boston Terriers Just Bostons
cats
We never had a cat till the kids brought home an abandoned one. He is just like one of the family. I like everybody else would spend money I dont have on him.
Cats
My sister uses Soft Paws with her cats and really likes them. She said that the Soft Paws will fall off about every 6 weeks due to growth of their claws.
We have no more cats
You are going off on ME because I was looking for some suggestions to get HER to understand the destruction her pet has caused.
If it was anyone else but family, I would have shot the dog without hesitation.
As a matter of fact, I have used the pellet gun to pop him in the rear several times. That only keeps him away for a few days at a time.
You can say what you want but if I just went out and shot her dog, that WOULD be like killing her kid to her.
My husband's sister is more important than the cats. We loved our cats but my kids have one aunt. Only one.
Thank God for no more cats
Like I said watch your kids around the chow as the older they get the nastier and more protective they get and are much more aggresive than a lot of other dogs. Even if it were my sister, if her dog did that and she would not accept responsibility for the dog's actions -- would not accept it. My animals are members of my family (I have no kids just step) and my dog is part chow but if she had ever shown agressive behavior in her past 16+ years or had killed a couple of cats, I would have had her put down and hated doing it but would have felt it was necessary. Again, if another dog did that to one of my two cats -- either family member or not -- something would be done especially if it happens more than once. Just my thinking -- again you were asking for suggestions just don't like the obvious ones. Cannot treat this situation nice and sweet like ice cream and cake as it is ugly.
These are cats though
not doggies so dominance in the cattie category? I don’t know but still my sensitive one.
Cats
I had to laugh when I read your post, I have often told my husband that if I had to chose, he'd have to leave. LOL.
3 cats and a dog
Cats names are Bailey, Max, and Scooter. My German Shepherd is Kodiak.
Six cats...sm
Fidget (combination of freaking midget, small when he was born), Dogfood (don't know why, hubby named her), Mother One Eye (obvious, she is the mother of Fidget and has one eye), Big (outside male cat, named after Carrie's Big on SATC), Ellie Ann (she actually looks like an alien cat, changed up the name a bit), and Mr.Pinkas (huge, longhaired boy, loves to sleep in the attic area and comes in with pink insulation all over his backside, hubby said no way to calling him Mr Pink A$$, so Pinkas it is).
cats
 I don't know much about San Francisco....probably too high a risk to let the cats out by themselves. Watching the "real thing" is not quite enough for the felines....I mean, when you got one that can jump 12 feet in the air and snag a red bird (cardinal), beats up moles, chipmunks, and cottomouths (snakes)....that's Napster....I've seen my friend's cats nearly hurt themselves trying to go through a plate glass window after the birds, chipmunks, et al.....it's such a tease. .I've had many, many cats and they would walk for miles with me...Fioma was the best......Right now Napster (12 lbs) and Zeus (120 lb Great Pyreness dog) walk together with me in the morning....I get the most curious looks and smiles from the kids on the school bus seeing the 2 of them together. If you can manage some time to take your cat out to explore and play in the grass (there are leashes for them) you'll find a happier cat. Napster won't even use a litter box...meows at the door or window by my desk to go out. Remember, you don't own them....they own you....you're just a custodian of these sweet beings..Cat.
cats
Just for you San Fran.....Congrats on your new rescue kitty! What's it's name?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pk7yqlTMvp8
re: cats
Do you have one of those cat towers? I know they're kind of expensive so I haven't bought any for my cat. What about a bookshelf that they can climb up on? Also my cat loves feathers tied to a string and hanging from doorknobs. She bats at them constantly. My cat tends to sleep all day cause she doesn't have a playmate except for me so she plays when she wants to when everyone is home at night.
cats
 I'm so sorry about this; I am now very sad. I love cats/kittens so much, even though my husband, son, and I are all allergic - only my daughter is not. I will pray for this special kitten. This gets to my very soul.
cats
I, unfortunately, am allergic to cats, as is my husband and son. My daughter is the only one who is not allergic to cats. On a recent outing to dinner in the evening recently, a home we walked by after parking our vehicle had Halloween decorations up, with a live black cat sitting on the porch and looking at me with its glorious green eyes. How fitting for the season. I love it! Cats are so very agile and preternatural, absolutely gorgeous and fascinating to behold. I love them all, even though I cannot be a cat owner. I have a beautiful blue merle sheltie.
outside cats
Please please try to keep you cat indoors. The #1 kiiler of cats is the out-of-doors. They will pee on anything to let you know they are sick. When my daughter was born, my siamese pooped in the doorway of her bedroom every morning for yrs. You can learn to live with it. My sense of smell is totally gone. How old is your cat? Male cats are extremely prone to GU problems. Oh well.
cats
I am so very sorry for the difficult situation that you are now dealing with. I am giving you and your precious cat a long-distance hug.
I absolutely love cats and all of their special qualities, but I, my husband, and one of my children are allergic to them, so I have never had one as a part of our family.
I will pray that you can muster the strength to get through this. God and his angels will take care of this special creature.
Whenever one of our dogs had passed, it was so very difficult, of course. We embrace and so very strongly love them when they are with us, but it hurts so much when it is their time.
cats
I had a cat that loved to catch and play with mice. . One night while I was asleep, the cat decided to play with a mouse it had caught in my bed. . . It is not fun to wake up with a mouse running around on you with a cat jumping up and down trying to catch it. .
no cats here, but....sm
wow, down to only 5 lbs. maybe she (female?) just doesn't feel good and wants to be held and comforted, kind of like your kids when they don't feel good and just want their mommy.
sorry, no cats here, just dogs, but feel for you.
I have to keep my cats out from under the bed, too - sm
but for a different reason... I discovered one of them was peeing under there. Not to mention it was a handy place to run whenever she sensed a major coming-out coming soon! I use the space under the bed for storage anyway, so simply blocked it all off with all my junk: Duffel bags, skate bags, sleeping bags, boxes, large purses I never use, etc. Now neither cat can get under the bed at all.
For your problem, you could try a couple things. One is to get a 'platform' bed. Then the cat can't get to the box springs. (You can even do away with the box spring altogether - don't need one with a platform bed.) If you don't want a platform bed, you could get creative with some pieces of wood, like maybe 1-inch or less thick x whatever width will close the gap, and make a border that goes around the base of the bed. If you use dust-ruffles, they'd cover it up. If not, you could paint, wallpaper, or (?) the wood and make a pretty faux base for the bed that's cat-proof.
OR... you could go to Ikea or some other store that sells cool, space-saving stuff, and get those drawers/boxes/containers, etc. made for using space under the bed. You could create a lot of storage space under there, and make it impossible for the cat to get to the mattress.
not all cats pay off...
we had 2 cats. The good one (George) died. 6 months after George died, we were overrun by mice. They got in our oven and peed and pooed all over the insulation (?) in it. We cleaned that up so it wouldn't smell when we turned the oven on and hired an exterminator at $40 per month to keep the mice away. I can't believe what a loser cat we got - will not keep away the mice, sometimes pees and poos on things (because of seizures) and he doesn't want to be petted.
my cats
I had a 2 yo male and then adopted a 2 yo female. I was told to try to pet both of them at the same time in a gentle, comforting, easy manner - at the same time is the key. The female I adopted is a sweetie so that helped, but they are fine. They play together and eat together now. They never cuddle up with each other but seem to be fine.
Cats
I heard moth balls do work, but they are very poisonous if a cat or dog ingests them, or if you have small children that might want to play with them.
Cats are cautious. I don't think
you'll have any luck approaching him. The trick will be to get him to get curious and come up to you. This works best inside 4 walls, of course. A friend of mine got a kitten that wasn't friendly and she didn't think he was tame. I just put him in a room with him and worked at my desk, and next thing you know he was climbing my pants for petting. I had good luck with some kittens that were about 7 weeks old (guessing), but after that they get all coordinated and quick, LOL. Seriously, if it's getting cold where you are, he'll need shelter of some sort.
Feral Cats
Some good advice posted here. I sent you an email with some information. I have 2 feral littermates (females) who are now 2-years-old. Takes a lot of patience, but they are worth it. Your kitten sounds like a good candidate. Thank you for trying to help this kitten.
Love these cats, but
I have 3 cats and don't know which 1 of my furkids is trying to claw my leather couch but I need to know if any of you have a similar problem and how do you handle if you don't catch the "rat." Any treatment I can do for the couch? It is not scratched all the way through, just see where the scratches are. Thanks.
We don't know....cats are unpredictable..
The cat had never been leashed. When he put the leash on the cat didn't like it of course but he was able to get it on, but once they got outside after a few minutes the cat totally flipped out like something you'd see on one of those shows *Animals gone wild* for lack of a better description, just totally out of control and even attacked/scratched my father in law and he had a heck of a time trying to calm the cat down and get it back inside. Maybe the scents or something, we really don't know. This is a very well behaved cat with a normally very pleasant demeanor which is why he thought it would not be a problem in the first place.
Cats definitely need something called
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