For me it is not about gay/straight - it is about government taking too much control of our children
Posted By: MeMT on 2008-10-16
In Reply to: What's with all the HOMOPHOBIA - on the Gab Board this morning!
That is a really sore subject with me!! I want everyone to live their lives and teach their children as they see fit. As far as the gay/straight issue, I have taught my children who are 8 and 11 about homosexuality, about people being different, acceptance, not to be judgemental. I just have an issue when public school teachers want to use the school as a public forum for whatever reason. In school I remember a teacher who had strong political views and she taught us daily her way of thinking. I don't think that is fair. I think certain things should be reserved for parents to teach their children.
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The government will pay for birth control..
go to a planned parenthood. Very very cheap. There really is no excuse for 7 kids and no job for either parent. Join the military, get a job, like you said, at Wendy's or Wal-Mart or something. I am not against a hand up, but I am very much against a hand out.
Girl up for expulsion for taking birth control at school
This is a local story. Crazy, crazy, crazy.
Student Suspended for Popping Birth-Control Pill LSD or heroin use only gets five days out
By ASHA BEH
Updated 11:15 AM EDT, Sun, Apr 5, 2009
A gun or birth-control? Bringing either to school lands you a two-week suspension in Virginia.
A Fairfax County teen has been suspended for two weeks -- and might also get kicked out of school -- for popping a birth-control pill at school.
The honor student and lettered athlete at Oakton high school was caught taking the pill during lunch and soon found herself in the assistant principal's office, The Washington Post reported. During the meeting with her mother and the assistant principal, the school handed down the maximum sentence: a two-week suspension and recommendation for expulsion.
That's the rule in Virginia regarding prescription medications and illegal drugs on campus. And make no mistake, anti-teen pregnancy campaign or not, they take that rule seriously.
It's all in the Student Responsibilities and Rights handbook: If she had been caught high on LSD, heroin or another illegal drug, she would have been suspended for five days. Taking her prescribed birth-control pill on campus, on the other hand, gets the same punishment as bringing a gun to school.
Can someone tell me with children when do most people usually wind up taking their
vacations. I am having a hard time right now getting a hotel and am thinking once the Summer vacations start dwindling it may help.
he is feeling out of control and he wants control
and from what you wrote, you aren't giving him opportunities to have some control.
My 4 yo has had this type of behavior since the age of 2-1/2, but I've figured out how to deal with it. First of all, he wants your attention, good, bad, indifferent and wants some say so in what happens to him.
I've done several things. With the screaming, I totally ignore her. I tell her my ears are closed and I can't hear her, but if she wants to cry/scream, she can't do it in MY living room (bedroom, whatever), only in HER bedroom. If she refuses to stay in her room, I take away her favorite snuggly and put it on the top of something, out of reach but visible. She can have it back when she stays in her room and stops being loud. If she keeps coming out, I put another coveted stuff up out of reach, over and over until she realizes I mean she has to stay in her room. I don't tell her she has to stop her fit or crying...she just can't do it in MY space. She can come back to where I am if she is quiet.
I make sure she knows I am in control, but we negotiate almost everything. If I want her to drink milk for breakfast and she wants juice, I tell her okay but she has to drink the milk at lunch. That gives her a sense of control and having a say in what is happening to her.
I have also had to sit on her bed for HOURS, holding her by wrapping my arms around her while she screams and kicks and bites until she begs to be let go. I won't let go until the out of control stuff stops. I don't talk except to say "I'll let you go when you are quiet." It is exhausting, but it only took a few times for her to understand I would invest the time and she hated being held like that for so long.
When I work at home, I make sure I take a break about every 90 mins and spend about 30 mins with her. It takes me all day to get my work done, but it makes all the difference in the world.
If she won't pick up something (say, blocks) after being asked upteen times, I tell her I will give them away to a child who wants to take care of them. It only took losing one set of blocks for her to get the idea she HAS to clean up her messes.
Finally, after being potty trained for at least a month and then rebelling and making messes in her pants for a week in a row (this happened 3 times), I finally told her in a very loud voice that _I_ had control over whether or not she went trick or treating and whether or not Santa comes to our house. If she wanted to have those things, she better use the potty and no more messes. She has been dry since the beginning of October and I give her a treat every day she stays dry.
One day a couple of weeks ago, she wanted to go to Mickie Dee's, but as we drove up she started shouting about wanting to go inside. I wanted to drive through. We were in the drive through line and I calmly told her sometimes people get mad and yell at someone else, but maybe it was an accident...I asked if she wanted to tell me sorry for yelling at me or did she want to go home. She shook her head "no" to apologizing. I repeated my offer and again got "no." I drove off towards home which immediately threw her into tears and whining, but now she doesn't yell at me anymore if she wants something.
Since October we have far fewer melt downs and I have realized she actually shows me her triggers...If she is angry and grumpy on the way home from somewhere, I hand her an energy bar to munch and suddenly I have a sunshine child again. If she gets grumpy in the middle of the day and refuses to take a nap, I tell her we will lie down on my bed. We start out talking and before too long, I tell her I am tired and want to close my eyes, but not go to sleep. Pretty soon, she will close her eyes and fall asleep. I can then get back up and go about my business.
Before somebody starts bashing me, I have a close friend who is a child psychologist and she helped me with all these suggestions. It takes a lot of work to maintain the appearance of control while giving the child the opportunity of having some say so in his/her life.
It was our government that got those
people into trouble. Most could not afford 200K houses and they should never have given them loans. Also the fact they were led to believe they could afford them. These are people who had nothing and just wanted the "good life".
Government has nothing to do with this particular
were 'banned'. This teacher isn't teaching 'strong political views'. She's just including her class in a positive experience. There's already far too much negativity taught in school, church, and at home.
I think I have this straight-
you took a job without the new job knowing you had a vacation set up and taking right? Bad time to have started UNLESS upfront you discuss the fact you have had set up for this and that length of time. The job I am with now was started right when I had planned in advance for some time a vacation. Before hired, I told them of my plans and asked any problem? No and I have been at same place now since 2006. I never would start a job and then spring on them the next week oh vacation time. As far as advice, just find another job. If you put in your notice at first job, I probably would ask for that back until you get something else.
That's a straight lie
Last Christmas our church bought toys for the kids in the neighborhood for their parents to give them KNOWING that the chances of them ever actually participating in the church were slim to none. We didn't screen, we just made sure those parents got to give their kids a decent Christmas.
That's just one example, I can give you many more.
How about Brother Charlies, a "thrift" store in Georgia who usually just gives away clothes to anyone who can't afford to pay a couple dollars a shirt. Or the Brother Charlies shelter, who takes in any and all men (because most shelters are for women and children)
We have a conference once a month at our church and a budget list is passed out. About 70% of our funds go to organizations and food pantries. We have needed bathrooms and a new A/C unit in our church for about five years now but we are waiting until we can afford it WITHOUT taking money from the charities and pantries we support. Til then we will just put up with leaky toilets and hot summers and cold winters. God never said we'd get to be comfortable!
I'm so tired of everyone always ragging on the churches. Why don't you stop spitting the same ol' rhetoric that you hear and go do some checking out for yourself.
And before you come back and say you already did and they turned you down, then you need to check out different churches. Those that are OF GOD and FOR GOD will turn away NO ONE.
This is just another example of the government interfering where
they should not be. We women, as adults, know what is RIGHT for US. They do not. They should have no say whatsoever in this. It is called a CHOICE! As American citizens we should have freedome of choice!
It's OUR place to tell our government that
Don't forget, the government is supposed to be owned by us, US citizens. They have gotten so giddy with power, they have forgotten that. Why else do they write their own paychecks, given themselves raises, and can continue to draw HUGE incomes after they leave office for the rest of their lives, including HUGE incomes for their wives long after they are dead, free healthcare, all the perks. These are public officials. Once they are out of office, they're on their own. We have let them take control of OUR government. It's up to us to take it back. You have a phone, e-mail, petitions.......you get the message across to them. Don't wait for others to do it for you.
That is why they are here... Mexican government wants them out
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If the &*%& government would let teachers...
and heck, even students arm themselves, we wouldn't be sending lambs to the slaughter like that. They would've at least had a fighting chance. If I'm going to die, give me the chance to die while fighting to protect myself and others. Why should the criminals be the only ones who can arm themselves? This is a very heated topic 'round these parts where it seems they want to take our right to protect ourselves away at every corner.
Didn't one of our fellow MTs on this board here have a daughter who got into some serious doo-doo at her school for having pepper spray on her keychain? Explain to me how THAT makes sense to punish a kid, or parent, for wanting to give them a fighting chance and protecting themselves.
there are MANY ways our government
and I believe there are many people angry about the money spent on this war.
Dear Government
Please pass a law to stop offshoring so I can have my job back!
I agree completely....government once again
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The big deal is your federal government....
You're absolutely right. They have some identifiable information on file about citizens, so why would they need to change anything and put more restrictions in place? I'm more confused as to why US citizens don't ask why? If they've got everything on us, then what could possibly be the reason to do this?
That should be the worst crisis in government!
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The government could manufacture and sell
universial health care a hundred times over. Problem solved.
so let me get this straight. If there were a blizzard outside (sm)
and you have to go to the store (or anywhere for that matter) you're going to bundle YOURSELF up in your nice warm coat and let your daughter go with NO coat simply on the basis of principle??? And a FOUR-year-old sent off with NO LUNCH simply because they forgot it?? That is totally unbelievable and uncalled for. There's a fine line between stating a point and neglecting your children and I think you'ved crossed it!!
Straight into the arms of someone to
support me!!!!
You really are not thinking straight
beause it is your daughter but first of all, what is the age of consent in your state? You have no more rights to knowing about his jail as you do in asking him to take test for sexually transmitted diseases nor in seeing his medical records. You are going overboard against him- what about your daugher- what kind of punishment have you dealt out to her? You are blaming only him- not her- I know when I had sex early it was me and him. You have told her you are disappointed. Well, you want to wring his neck- punishing her also?? You are seeing her as this small child when actually she is past that now. You talked - that did no good - you thought lines were open with both of you - that was not true- think about how you are going in a rage against this guy. He may be the worst there is but it was not rape, now was it?
When I get those, I "forward" them straight into my
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Maybe then the government should ban Coca Cola and Pepsi from
producing their product, for as we all know, sugar causes teeth decay. And how about caffeine. Look at all the deliterious efforts that are a result of ingesting that! And how about alcohol. Maybe the government could shut down all restaurant and liquor stores and set us back to the days of prohibition, when, even though imany highly intelligent people STILL found a way to produce it to drink it to excess or not. Tobacco -- we all know it's not good for use, by Phillip Morris, et all still keeps cropping the tobacco field, and being taxed by the government. If anything, that is a perfect example of why the government should make it illegal to sell tobacco, but they dont, because the taxes they place on it are astronimal and keep all the workers "for the people" with cash in their pockets...The point is our freedom of choice is being decided by those other than ourselves, and with that, I WHOLEHEARTEDLY DISAGREE.
OnStar is your choice......not government imposed
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She was grateful, but our government sucks 'WAY too
Also, since a bonus is really a GIFT from the company, I think it should fall under "gift" status with the IRS, and not be subject to taxes, either.
I feel sorry for people who live off the government
I have raised 2 kids that did not have to do without and on my own. I was a divorced woman and did not, thank goodness, have to rely on anyone or anything else. I am much stronger than that.
gee hard to keep all you guys straight..sm
if you can assume, so can I. In all actuality, the torah came from all of our ancestors, but I still think you should read it again...wouldn't hurt. but at least you got the ROFL right this time. :^)
have a good evening. see ya. bye bye. nitey nite.
I loved "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy" - nm
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Straight or gay phone sex line?
Just asking because you said he turns you down, maybe it was a gay chat line.
Should I just come straight out and ask if this is like a weird sex thing?
My mom and I both were like, maybe they are busy doctors etc. etc we always try to see things in the good light... so should I just email them now and just say hey look... is this anything involving sex or games or anything like that? what if it wasn't and they then thought I WAS the crazy one and I lose an amazing opportunity! :)
You need to read the post again and get it straight
I said the place where we get the animals from do not "allow" adoption of this breed but having said that, I read and hear about their "sweetness" all the time on the news and papers and I tend to believe what I hear- you can go for it but I would rather stick with other breeds, thank you. Lots of pits not available through the shelters. Watch animal channel sometimes and you will see when they get pit bulls (I know in Detroit this is the case) they put them down, not able to rehome.
At first I just bought animals straight out
and had them vetted including neuturing or spaying and then we gave the animals to good homes. Without licensing, here you cannot sell animals. As rescuers we can just get any animals from shelters, no cost to us. Here in the south you have an overabundance of animals and so many just put down. I hear up north exact opposite. I had wanted to do something like this, like you, for quite some time and rescued a dog for myself, no where to keep, met the lady I work with now off Craigslist, stated she took in all doggies and kitties and would find them home. I gave a doggie another try at good home and I found a good home for myself! I can hardly wait for our rescuing to expand more.
It's named Gardasil. Unless it is government or state funded.....(sm)
I can not see too many parents jumping at this opportunity. It is a noncovered service by all insurances. It is given in a series of 3 separate injections. The current recommendation is to be given to young girls between the ages of 10 to 12. So if a parent decides to vaccinate her little girl against this, I guess the "bird and the bees talk" will have to be undertaken before the little girl asks "Why I am going to the doctor to get a shot, and what is it for? (given the very natural inquistive nature of children on all subjects.)
No smoking in public places, must wear seat belt in car, must wear bicycle helmet, and some states helmet required when riding motorcycles, restaurants not using transfats in their cooking,.....WHEN WILL ALL THESE NON-SELF INFLICTED RESTRICTIONS STOP????????...IS THIS STILL AMERICA??
I am a Libertarian and pretty fanatical about "Big Government"
This whole thing is a tempest in a teapot. The government ALREADY HAS this information. WHAT IS THE BIG DEAL??
If you look in the Government pages in your local phone book. sm
If you look in the government pages of your local phone book, you will find numbers for their DC office and their local offices if they have one. You can also call the White House. That number you have to call information for. You could even get the numbers online. THe area code for Washington, DC is 202.
i didn't see the Straight Up Latte today :(
good luck with your search
straight up latte girl see inside
hey I know you said below that you tried your own version. I was going to reply but was afraid that you wouldn't see it way down there. Anyway....I like my coffee with 8 tablespoons of light cool whip. Nothing else. It's very good that way and may be similar to your latte. Let me know if you try it!
Sorry about the typos, been up all night and can't see straight or spell it seems. nm
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Children having children not a new thing, where do you live?
My son, who is now in his early 40s, told me years ago when in high school about all the teenage mothers that were at his school and said they brought the babies to school, and he seemed to think it was like the girls having playdolls like when you were little. This is not new and apparently folks think alright to have their children sans marriage, be it preteens, teens or adults. I guess my years alone do not make me shocked at anything anymore. Others talk about this job being isolated and your post says some of this if you were shocked at what the son said.
OMG! My mom told me that too! I ate the crusts and still have poker straight hair. nm
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soak w/Windex, use straight-edged blade....
I hate this place. I really do. No snow. It's over. It was coming straight toward us and then
BAM! It went straight north! Atlanta was snowing like crazy. I'm only 2 hours from Atlanta!!!!! I am sick over here. Really. I had everything lined up at the door waiting to take my boys outside to play! Of course, we heard from friends in Tuscaloosa, AL, who had inches of snow and it was falling and sticking and THEIR kids were playing in it! I'm frustrated. My husband could care less about our kids seeing snow (he's lived in this area his whole life and has seen it maybe twice).
I on the other hand lived in NY and VT, so I am well aware of snow. I just want my kids to see it so bad, you guys.
Okay. I am having a major pity party. PLEASE, please, someone remind me (who is blessed living in a place where it DOES snow), remind me of how lucky I am to never see snow - EVER. Keep those lists coming because I need to be reminded of how lucky I am. Right now I feel punishment from God!
ADDENDUM. Just trying to get some straight answers and not sure what to make of this whole mess. nm
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Getting the stick sounds pretty straight forward to me
You could talk to someone at the school, tell them what you know, what you plan on doing, and see what kind of support becuase they may suspect problems but don't have facts.
I admit sometimes it seems easier just to look the other way, but what if there was someone that could have helped Caylee Anthony and "looked the other way". Follow your instincts.
If your suspicious prove unfounded you are out nothing but a "friend". He doesn't seem like someone I would want to be friends with and if his child acts the way you say, I wouldn't encourage a friendship between the boys.
get your facts straight. Rosie signed a school year
that was when her original contract was supposed to expire, June 2007, a school-year yearly contract. ABC wanted her to sign a 3-year contract for the amount of $$ she requested.........and she only wanted to sign a one-year contract.......
I will miss her as I had given up the View due to Star Jones' fiascos....and now, once again, after June, I will never watch it again. Rosie brought the ratings up because after 9 years of Star Jones, people were tired of the show.
Ta-Ta to The View and ABC.....
Crazy curly in the summer, poker straight in the winter
My hair changes with the weather and it is impossible to get a good hair style because it looks so different from one day to the next. But I like the color, natural blond with reddish highlights.
O talks about our government being fiscally responsible and his wife is wearing $500 designer shoes.
It's not "her money to spend as she pleases." It's my money, your money, his money, her money. O better put up or shut up and that means his family too. No more big talk about the deficit, fiscal responsbility, and redistribution of wealth when when his wife is walking around in designer duds. Am I the only person that sees hypocrisy in that?
I used to get up and go straight to work - didn't even bother to brush my hair until after noon.
I had a holy faded T-shirt with Tweety bird (you could barely see him anymore!) and a pair of baggy sweat pants that I wore with big pink fuzzy house slippers! Until I got caught several times with a little old lady from my church stopping by to say high, salesman knocking on the door, and the final straw was my nice looking neighbor stopping buy to borrow my ladder. I finally decided perhaps I should brush my teeth and come my hair just in case!
Now, I get up every morning, take a shower, fix my hair, and put on my makeup. Then I get the kids off to school and I sit down and work. I have found that, believe it or not, I am way more productive than I used to be. I'm not distracted thinking about when am I going to make time for a shower. I still wear jeans and a T-shirt and my house slippers, but now no one can catch me looking like a worn out old hag anymore.  And now that I'm single, well ya never know when you might bump into Mr. Right.
I should mention that I am 42, have 2 children and done with having children. nm
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You must a) not have children or b) your children are young
I don’t see them as being spoiled- I see lots of kids in the age group of one (30+) who are totally in the me scene, not just the 1 I have- she married and her husband same - a me type person. The other not spoiled but just got nasty when he did not get the money left to me and he thought he should. Just to think, this was my chosen 1 if I had to choose. Oh well, live and let live is the way I see things now.
You have control (SM)
If you demonstrate to your husband that you do indeed have control not to eat that junk, you may get it in his head that you are serious about losing weight. He is sabotoging you, even if he does not intend to do so.
I've lost 123 pounds the hard way and kept them all off. If you can't afford a program that isn't really necessary, get your measuring cups out and measure each serving you eat, add up the calories, and figure out how many calories you need from a Google search to lose weight.
Trust me; you'll feel like crap afterwards if you eat that stuff. You will feel like you had a victory if you leave it alone. You will feel strong. Don't deny yourself that feeling.
I see you posted 2 days ago. I hope you didn't eat that junk.
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