Followup to a prior posting
Posted By: 4NowAnonMT on 2009-06-10
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A couple of weeks ago, I had posted about making the decision to testify in a court case about an abusive alcoholic who had hit me while we were on vacation. I don't know if anyone remembers the posting or not, but I really appreciated the warmth, support, and kindness of those who responded.
In any event, the trial was last week. When it became clear to my ex-SO that I was going to testify, he contacted his lawyer who contacted the DA about making a plea bargain. The DA still wanted me to come down in case there were any shenanigans (such as withdrawing the plea bargain if I didn't go down, and therefore the prosecutor losing their primary witness). For the most part, he got a slap on the wrist- 30 days suspended sentence, 2 years probation, 40 hours community service, and Hit No More and Substance Abuse Evaluation. When the DA asked me if I was okay with the plea bargain, the only thing I took exception with was a certain way the defense wanted the suspended sentence written. I don't know if it's specific to this state or not, but there is a 'Suspended Imposition of Sentence' and 'Suspended Execution of Sentence'. The ex-SO wanted the SIS because apparently if you get through your probation, the whole thing is wiped off your record like it never happened. The DA, after looking at his record, said the ex belonged in prison anyway and that the SIS is meant for people who make 1 bad judgment, not 30 years of them, so he had no problem with changing the SIS to the SES, which makes it permanent. The judge said for expediency and since the DA and victim (a title I had never aspired to, and hope to never have again) were not opposed, he was granting the plea bargain as outlined, but if he had his way, he would have given him 9 months...frankly, I wanted to stand up at that point and shout, "But you're the judge in here, you do have your way, lock him up!!!!" However, I held my tongue and let the whole sordid episode just come to an end. The arresting officers had shown up and I thanked them again for their kindness and compassion at the time, and headed back to my sanctuary home.
As a side note, making it through 2 years of parole may be a little tough for the ex, as he has been hammered every night since the trial. I'm not sure, but I'm guessing that's probably a violation of his parole, although I could be mistaken about that. And I know he's been continuously drunk since he has called me every night at 3:00 a.m. to tell me how much he misses me, and then calls me at 1:00 in the afternoon to ask me to do some 'administrative assistant' type work for him...apparently he's not used to hearing the word no. Fortunately, he has no way of getting the 70 miles to my place, and I have now blocked his phones.
Hopefully, this is how the story ends, he will get bored with getting no response and move on to someone more suitable for him, like Tonya Harding or, even better, Lorena Bobbitt.
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You might try posting
On the main board about this. If find that I get more help about equipment and IT issues over there.
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This shows what happens when people care about other people. What started out as something to help herself over the holiday became a wonderful outpouring of love and friendship. 
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I can't believe I thought I was the only one who went through this. I actually feel better now.
Seems like the lesson to learn from all of this is that women need to learn to be kinder to one another, we can cause each other a lot of pain by using children against each other.
I'm only posting this
so that you know that your notion of the uncircumcised penis as "gross" is so juvenile & ethnocentric that it doesn't even warrant an answer.
Remind yourself never to go to Europe.
This is a different than what you were posting
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Maybe your post below should have been 8 things about me that would surprise you or something like that, and just keep out the really gross things (eating habits). The having "delicious" sex part didn't offend me but the other items you listed made me a little queezy, but people generally get turned off by unpleasant things about other people.
In looking at your posting I see where you said
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Thanks so much for posting ...
I am such a sap it brought a tear to my eye.
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what's PH? Posting Handle?????
posting handle!!! lol
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 BRAVO...excellent post...I was practically jumping outta my seat reading your post...THANK YOU..and thank your daughter personally from me for giving so much of herself and caring so much for the otherwise unfortunate children out there. Her students are blessed beyond measure and she will surely be richly rewarded for her hard work and dedication to these children...again........... to you and your daughter (you are undoubtedly an AWESOME mother!)
I was just thinking of posting for those in CA
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Posting Picture.
Instead of posting a Quick Reply. Click the Button after follow ups "Post Reply to This Message", see the form there and you will find a box at the bottom -> Image:, where you can directly put your http:// link to image.
Holy Cow! Thanks for posting.
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Me, too. Thank you for posting about that condition.
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GF- I am sorry you were ganged up on here. Happens frequently. It's easy to judge others as we sit back in our chairs, comparing other families to our own. Can't say I'm not guilty of doing the same.
Your question was about the key, not about the situation and all it may entail. Unfortunately most people chose to question the details around your family situation. You owe no one an explanation.
My thoughts on the key: You did the right thing. His place of residence will no longer be at your house, but at your daughter's house. Therefore, he should only have a key to her house.
I think they are the ones posting truth about ESL &
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