Following up on not answering the phone
Posted By: How to answer #2 on 2008-02-15
In Reply to: Should I just quit answering the phone at all? - How to say it
I have read the posts. This is a forum for all to post any and everything. By myself mostly, I have raised 2 children, bought my own house, cars, taken nice vacations with the kids usually to Club Med and the like when they were younger and to say am I not that smart to have asked such a question, this is insulting for a person even to imply that. Others on here post about marital infidelities, problems with in-laws, kids and the like. I asked for suggestions- nothing was written in concrete I had to use. I started MTing long before we worked out of our homes- by the time I was able to work from home the kids were in their 30s and 20s, grown! I had to work to make a living so in the summers rather than having to go to daycare, they visited relatives. (Peope even asked when time for bingo- it was directly across my home from me- started 8:30 so yes in the summer I was able to go). My daughter (who by the way I am having dinner with tonight) told me about a month or so ago her childhood was "idyllic." I said really- she told me loved where we lived and she had a wonderful childhood. By the way, she has this rule and I am not allowed to call HER home before 12 on a weekend so she can sleep in. Again my asking her over and over to just ask me if I am upset should stand but this is something that continues with her. The person who said they listened to their father telling stories over and over again- when I do this, not aware that I am repeating, my daughter says - mama, you've told me that before. What works in 1 family does not necessarily work in another! I am soooo thankful working as much as I have in life- now I have found out next year when I start drawing my money at full retirement age from SS that it will be around 2,000 per month- by the way I am not planning on retiring- plan to continue working as long as I can because those are just my ethics and the way I have always been. I will always be their mother, true but they are not my entire life now- they are a portion like I am a portion of theirs. I think lots that post here are younger and true enough when the kids are young and such it is different than when they leave home and have their own lives. I don’t smoke, drink or do drugs, never brought strange guys home to stay the nights and did a darn good job with my kids. As far as my son, you only do so much and when your children are grown, not your responsibility how they decide to behave, good, bad or otherwise. Sure I would love to see him but when I said closing the bank back in 2000, the visits, telephone calls, etc. slowed down a lot. Think what you want- people do- but as for me, I have no regrets at all really about the entirety of my life, past and present.
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Should I just quit answering the phone at all?
My children are grown and out of the home. I was on my cellphone today talking long distance, my daughter calls on my land phone and I answered. I have caller ID but did not put on my specs so could not tell who it was, just answered. I don’t get that many calls, mostly people selling things. Anyway, noticed she seemed out of sorts, in a curt voice telling me to call her back. When I finished I called back and asked her what was her problem. She tells me I sounded like I was angry, upset or whatever. I have told her repeatedly- if you think I am upset- ask me and I will tell you- that does not happen- she just assumes that. I told her she and her brother will never know me, never as they both assumed the same (I am estranged from her brother) Her brother used to tell me to "calm down" and I again and again and again said not upset and then that would tick me off that he continued to say that. My children are in their 30s and 40s- I have been married to my present husband now for 8 years (although I have known him 25+) and he knows me much better than they ever did. Any suggestions? Should I just disconnect the phone? Should I let everything come on answering machine?? My pet peeve in life is to be accused wrongly and yet it continues with her. I guess could let answering machine pick it up for a few weeks and I guess that would worry the heck out of her then ----- or maybe not?
I would take his phone away or make him pay the bills for the phone
He can use the postal service to write her letters if he wants but there is no excuse. College is not highschool and if he's gonna make a go of it...be the parent and discipline....my opinion but take the phone away.
thanks for answering........sm
But wouldn't you think that family might appreciate an older, far wiser grandmother, great grandmother's opinion, input would be a Godsend?
Thanks again for responding, and have a nice evening!! 
and thanks again for answering...sm
I guess I'm just lucky - my daughter is nearly 26 and comes to me for my opinion on much going on in her life, and I cherish that! I am also very careful never to overstep my boundaries or her boundaries. There is a huge open-door policy in my home/life forever and all know that, that they should never hesitate to ask me anything, or to come to me for anything (I can always say NO, ya know? *LOL*) - but this is like gold to me - her constantly coming back for feedback.
Again, enjoy your evening and thanks for chatting. 
thank you for answering that....s/m
reason I asked is because not terribly long ago, there was a poster complaining about a certain friend who consistently canceled dates/appointments with the poster and that it was ongoing for a very long period of time (years, if I recall correctly) - so it was great that you answered and you are not that person...
...and the person you had to cancel on NEEDS TO GET OVER IT!!!
Thank you for answering me. I
had just read an article in the August Reader's Digest about a man being treated for throat cancer, stage IV. The name is The Farther Shore by Stephen Reynolds, in his 40's. There is an insert in the article that might interest you.
"HPV and You"
While few people with HPV get oral cancer, the number is likely to keep rising, says Maura Gillison, M.D., of Johns Hopkins. 20 million Americans are infected, with 6.2 million new cases each year. So far, there is no cure and just one test and only to detect HPV in a woman's cervix. Only a biopsy can tell whether an oral cancer is linked to HPV, but a test to spot high-risk oral infection in men and women and a vaccine for men are both in the works. What you need to know:
Most people with HPV infections don't have any symptoms. At least half of sexually active men and women may become infected in their lifetimes. About 23% of women ages 14 to 65 have high-risk HPV, including 35% of 14 to 19 year old girls.
Gardasil protects against up to 70% of the HPV types that cause cervical cancer, but it is unknown if the vaccine protects against oral infection in men or women.
While most infections clear up on their own without patients ever knowing they were exposed, the consequences can still be severe. For instance, one type of HPV raises the risk of oral cancer of 3,200 percent.
The virus speads through any form of sexual activity, and condoms can't fully protect against it. Having more than 5 oral sex partners boosts the risks of HPV linked oral cancer by 340 percent.
Sorry this was so long, but this is the most info I have seen on this and the numbers are, I think, staggering. I notice it does not address the vaccine in Australia you mentioned.
Answering
Who was the guy that came on, I believe he was second or maybe even first. He sang a slow song and my heart was fluttering he was so good. I thought the majority of the crowd, especially the women, just sucked last night. Several should not even have showed up they were so bad. I saw Danny's friend- he was really good. I wish he and Danny both had made it. The only longhaired dark headed lady I remember having a child was 1 that I do not think made it (or maybe she was the replacement?) I even thought the Enoop or Anoop or whatever his name, cutey pie, but his music was off. The black guy who quit keyboarding who I thought was really good before was yucky last night. I can hardly wait for tonight though because I am so hooked on it. I do not accept phone calls and everything sorta stops until that is over. I don't think Paula (with her crazy self) should ga-ga over someone who basically does not stand a chance and we will just agree to disagree on Simon because I like him tremendously.
Answering
You can certainly take monentary deductions for giving to Red Cross and the like, I give to Kidney Foundation and always left envelopes to turn in the amount given away and no I am not part of the corporation, just giving money for animal care and the things listed.
AM ONLY ANSWERING 1 TIME AND THEN OUT OF HERE
My father was remarried. He had a 2nd wife. This was a stepmom, not my real mother. My father had 2 children, my brother and myself. No other children of his. My brother died in 1973. He was married and had 2 children at the time of his death. They were 4 and 6 then. I was not in their lives and did not see the 6 year old again until she was 18. That was 12 years later. Fast forward. My father's wife died 2 years before him. My father died in 2004, leaving me as his only heir. Two years went by. The insurance company contacted me saying he had taken out policy in the 50's- had no beneficiary listed on it- They paid me half of that and asked if I knew where my brother's kids were. No I did not know. No contact with them. They had not shown up for my father (their grandfather's funeral even). They said would try to find. They held the money for another year. The insurance company then contacted me and went the other 1/2 to me. I had no stepbrother, no stepsister, one brother, deceased in 1973, no linkage with brother's children, did not know about insurance in the first place, I did not initiate getting this. My brother's children were not orphans. Their mother remarried a year after my brother died and they were raised all those years by their mother and their stepfather. Now if this is not clear, totally sorry.
I think I was answering the person above. NM
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for SS: Thank you for answering, good to know!...nm
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Pardon me fo answering her email
but what is odd is your obsession with this. Get over it and get on to something you consider valuable. You must be reading our posts and no one else's. We have been supported by many people who have called you on your comments. Read all of em, kid.
All the questioning and answering in the world
cannot stop these idiotic people out here now. How pray tell, if you have all kinds of notices on your medical records stamped in RED BIG letters and you have an allergy wrist band on, do you still COME OUT OF SURGERY WEARING WHAT YOU ARE ALLERGIC TO??? Idio....ts
I was answering MTRobin and apparently
you did not read my answer well. I said I did not have to use my credit card. I am not broke. What do you not understand about I could have used the CDs if I had wanted?? I have 401K and 2 others. I spend because I can. I have money in the bank. I can pay my accts on a month to month basis and ahead. I have no companies call me dunning me for payments. I paid an additional $15,000.00 more on my home last year on the principal to get the payments down. I would like to continue working but I am not having to work. I work now because I love my job. My husband is teamster and I can be a happy homemaker if I want. Years ago I struggled to support a family but I do not have to do that now. Just because others are hurting does not mean everyone here. I use my CC because easier than me going and cashing in the CDs and having several thousands buried in my back yard. I will have the CC paid down/off, have my 3 vacations planned for this year already and do perfectly alright if God lets me live and thrive as I have been. I have written this in as plain English as I can. Off this subject now.
I was simply answering the above post
which said they thought a person who only paid taxes should get a refund. I don't have a grudge against a person getting a refund. This is not what the post was about. My aunt has not worked in years and years and I know she does not pay taxes, has not for years and she got a refund. Goody for her! Oh, as far as getting lots back on SS. When I start mine later on in Sept I will be getting almost 2000 a month so that is not too bad. Oh, another thing, my aunt has lived on her SS for a long time now. It really depends on where you live, your lifestyle, how you spend but she did and hers is nothing like what I will draw.
Reading your comment I am answering,
I think that your daughter, at least on this trip she asked you to take her with you, did not behave appropriate.
She keeps criticizing you and telling you to change, whereas she has to make some changes in her behavior.
There comes a time when it is the children's turn to give and help.
Explain this to your daughter.
I use the answering machine to screen calls too--sm
if it is something important and they begin to leave a message, I will answer, otherwise I won't. Most of the time, they will not leave a message.
The do not call list is helpful, but not for everything. If you really want to take the time, you can answer the phone and before they start their pitch, tell them nicely that you wish to be removed from their call list. They are supposed to remove you. If they call back after that, you can report them to the do not call list and they will be fined for it. Also ask for the name of who you are speaking to. Sometimes two or three different people from the same place have your number and even though you ask to be removed from one person calling, the next may not know that and call you anyway. It took me almost a week of doing this on a daily basis and eventually the calls stopped. It takes time, but it works. oh, heavenly peace and quiet!
Actually it is answering the one who said should be canned, creating hostile
work place- yours was not a good working situation also. I think people, unless in your situation, just do not realize what a problem others have. It is not something you try to do by making so many trips to the bathroom. People working for others sometimes just have to suck up things and as my mother would have said, consider the source- if you are rude, crude, inconsiderate, lacking manners- a person fits this category and you just take with a grain of salt and overlook others like this.
My daughter has for some time said to let answering machine
get the phone calls- she knows a lot of telemarketers call so it is not my idea, but hers to begin with! I have for years and years tried to explain that IF she thinks by my tone of voice I am upset, to please ASK, that is all- I will tell her no, not much upsetting in my life. If most parents would be truthful, they would probably say they preferred 1 child over another- my son was the chosen 1 so to speak. I thought he hung the moon when he was younger. He changed a lot- to be so disrespectful when if not for me- even his own father told me after son grown if not for me- where would my son have been- that I was like the rock, he was the rolling stone, never sticking around. I would hate for that to happen- I think most parents would hate to see a child die but at the same time- what about if his mother dies and he does not try to make amends- the road goes both ways you know. I feel I have done no wrong in the relationship at all. I am at peace with myself. As far as the daughter goes- wish you could ask my housekeeper who has been with me for years about my daughter- you would get an earful- she is a very spoiled girl, a me type person and her mother is not first on her list of people to see- she does for her friends and I have always been on the backburner with her. Told my aunt yesterday I love her but I don’t like her a lot of the time. And no flame for this- other parents feel the same and I know they do about certain children. Always asked if she is only child- that should tell you a lot.
You really need to learn to read before answering posts
She NOR her husband initiated this contact - it is related to sports. Don't insult people when you yourself don't have all the facts. It makes you look like a foolish bully.
change providers NOW; i am a midwife and for one, the no answering service sm
and no way to actually get a hold of someone who is at least on call for your OB, is not good practice. i always have a list of others my clients can call if for some reason they cannot get ahold of me in an emergency. top that with your uncomfortableness with the hospital and staff, change now or you will regret it later. most of the time when docs won't accept a late transfer of care is when there has been no prenatal care period. you have that and you could even get a copy of your own records and take to new OB to speed up that process. i can't see you having a good outcome giving how you are already feeling towards the hospital/nurses there.
ear phone help . . .
Any suggestions on what is the best? I am struggling, have gone through a couple of cheapier sets, would like to know what you guys think is best. TIA.
Trac Phone
I have a trac phone and get aritime cards every three months. I can get 120 minutes for I believe $29.99 and it's worked out very well for me.
Phone call of the day ....sm
ME: Hello?
CALLER: Hello, does anyone at your home speak English?
ME: What? Of course I speak English. I was born and raised in the US and speak no other language. Why do you ask?
CALLER: I'm so sorry ma'am. This is Jody with the Police Benevelance fund and we'd like to ask for a contribution for.....
ME (immediately cutting her off): Ma'am, how dare you have the audacity to call my home, ask me if I speak English and then want to ask me for a donation? Donkeys would fly before I'd give your organization a penny as you have now totally insulted me, a bona-fide English speaking American Citizen - one without an accent other than being Southern.
Can you believe it? My husband stood there shaking his head as I let into this lady. It's bad enough to call somewhere and hear "press 1 for English, 2 for Spanish...." but to have someone call you and ask if you speak English is absurd.
call your phone co and ask if they have....
I have privacy director from bellsouth and also am on the donotcall.gov list and phone#. However, I continually get a call with no one speaking from a SEBELL - I looked up SEBELL and it's a telecommunications company that once got into big trouble - with telemarketing - and now it *looks* as though they are back. The only thing I could do with that number was STAR (*) 60 which blocks only 6 telephone numbers via bellsouth.
Would it be possible to ask the phone company--sm
to come out and inspect your line? I don't see where a lawyer would be any good at this point, until something is either proven or disproven. Good luck.
I had it on my cell phone too! lol
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Depends on what phone you have but sometime
you can see where it send return message highlight that and hit okay type your message and it should say send somewhere on the screen and make sure to hit the quick key button for that.
How many of you use only a cell phone? sm
We're going totally wireless in our house next week after our alarm company converts our system to a radio one. The cell companies in our area have finally gotten the offers down to where it's cheaper to go cellular exclusively than pay a cell and regular phone bill. What about you?
cell phone
My family and I (husband and two teenagers) all have our own cell phones. In a dire emergency of no power, our car will accommodate an attachable adaptor for the cell phones to recharge. It made things simpler, and no extra added bill from a phone company. It has been this way for over three years now.
Fitst of all, cut out that phone
you are paying for. You should have already taken that away. He is misusing and you are paying. Nip that in the bud. You need to put a halt to any and all financial deals except the very ones that keep him in school. I think you are making trying to handle with kid gloves and he seems to be taking advantage of a good thing.
I can ask my mom who lives there (just got off the phone, actually). sm
I do know that in the summer, the highs are around 70s or so. Does not get much higher than that. A Big Mac and fries with drink in Alaska (Anchorage) will run you about 6.00 w/o tax.
My mom received an expensive gift card for the doc she works for - for Nordstrom Dept. Store. Instead of spending it in Alaska, she is coming to Texas next month and thinks she will get double for her money at the Nordstrom's here.
They just bought a 4 BR/2BA home in the town of Palmer, AK (about an hour from Anchorage?) and they paid 200,000 for it. BUT, they are now selling their home and moving BACK towards Anchorage as she realized she cannot drive in the winter that far to work! She makes 22.00 an hour running a doctor's office. My dad works for the prison system and they are doing VERY WELL. He is retired A.F. She NEVER complains about money - like how much things costs. If anything, she says, "boy it's nice not to have to worry about money!"
Every year residents get a "dividend" check for a couple thousand dollars from the oil companies, too, from what I understand.
If you are a woman, Alaska is a WONDERFUL place to live, from what I hear. My mom and dad are still young (in their late 40s - early 50s) and my mom says that dad brings home "friends from work" and the way she puts it, if I were single and visiting I wouldn't be single for very long! Plenty of good looking, hard-working men and not enough women...........My mom has a weird sense of humor, but she's not kidding!
Of course, you MUST love the outdoors if you live there. My dad is constantly shoveling snow and working on their vehicles - at least 7 months out of the year, preparing them for the cold. He just bought himself a new snowmobile and he is an avid hunter and salmon fisherman. My mom is outdoorsy too, so it works well for them. I have no plans on visiting any time soon. I enjoy not having to deal with snow where I am at.
I hope this helps you a little bit. The further you go from the city the cheaper the housing. My parents want to move back to Eagle River,AK, but don't think they could get a decent house for the price they are asking in that particular area.
I'll tell you this. If I were going to move there I certainly wouldn't go far from Anchorage unless you want to live in the middle of nowhere! At least in Anchorage (or near Anchorage), you have full access to the airport where you could get on a plane and get away if you need to which is what my mom does often. I see her "all the time" even though she lives there. She flies out a lot! And that is because no one in the family goes to visit them.......Hope this helps!
phone covers
Have you seen the phone cover plates they make for phones? They have some adorable ones--tons to choose from. That would hide any scratches you have on your current phone. My husband has a Dodge cover on his and my son a Chevy one. They love them.
cell phone
I have 4 phones on my bill. We pay $9.00/month extra for unlimited texting for my son, otherwise our bill would probably be that high. Our bill with 4 phones and extra for the texting is $90.
The phone is yours, don't hand it in.
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Lucy, I would definitely be on the phone sm
with those people demanding an explanation!!. Especially since you live in an apartment -- there should be no reason why your bill would increase 6 times over, unless they hiked their rate ridiculously!!
Who talks on the phone after ....sm
husband comes home from work? I talk on the phone whether my husband is home from work or not. If someone calls I do not think that I am being rude if I talk to them. Now some people won't talk on the phone if their husband is at home. They say it is taking away time from them being with each other. Different strokes for different folks I guess. My husband feels the same way I do. He says why should we sit here and be so stuck up each others a$$ that we don't talk on the phone to a friend?
Does anyone else keep getting phone calls
from 877 numbers and 800 numbers but no identifying info, the phone will say unlisted number, and other times the phone will say 000-000-0000 as the telephone number, and other times it will say private name, private number, and when you pick up nobody is there.
I've been getting these calls 4 or 5 times a day. I let it go through to answering service and nothing. Surely after 3 months of this they would get tired and stop calling.
I really have to figure out how to have these numbers blocked but in the meantime it drives me buggy.
ask them for their home phone
I always ask them for their home phone, and tell them I will get back to them after I get the kids to bed.
However, I get the ones where there is nobody there too! Very annoying.
I like my charter.net and my phone sm
service too. As far as customer service, I think they are kind of hateful but they are no worse than AT&T. Everytime I called AT&T I got somebody in India. At least, so far, everyone at charter has been American! To me thats worth dealing with some hateful customer reps once in a while.
Jitterbug phone
Hello everyone,
I am considering getting my dad a Jitterbug phone for Father's Day. He is 82 years old and he needs something simple, no bells or whistles, and this appears to be perfect for him, but just wanted to know if anyone has one or knows someone with one and their experience with this particular phone before I purchase.
Thanks in advance!
Just ordered his phone!
My dad is the same with regards to modern technology. He does not even own a computer and I think he believes the "internet" is some entity that is not to be trusted LOL He still actually drives to his bank to take care of any business! Maybe your mom and my dad can hook up
A whistle kept by the phone always worked for me!
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Another phone related post....
Here is a neat site that gives suggestions for how to bypass prompts and reach a human at a number of US-based companies. It also lists the 800 phone numbers for companies like Amazon.com and Columbia House music club and others that are seemingly very difficult to find!
http://www.gethuman.com/us/
What is your cell phone co.? I'm shopping around sm
Our family uses TracFone. My daughter is trying to convince me to go to something different. I need to keep costs down, but would like any info on something that includes texting and some free anytime calls. What are your experiences and what does it cost you a month for a family plan? Thanks.
How much does it cost you for TV, Internet and Phone
I'm around $190.00 ;-(
No cell phones please...
Oh and who do we have.
Phone: Verizon
Internet: CableVision
TV: CableVision
You are being ripped off big time. Get on the phone
I've got those 3,but not from same companies, for under $100.00.
Cell phone arguments
I was in line behind a woman who was talking to her child on her cell phone. She said she would be home about 10 minutes, could she talk to Daddy? Daddy got on the phone and she proceeded to rip him a new one rather loudly in a matter of seconds. Really see no need to air that kind of thing in public.
phone call, email, when there's a will.....
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Do us a favor and hide the phone, please! : (
And can I ask why? Is it just because he is a "male" or what? Unbelievable.
Oh, & the phone one where the girl talks to mom
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