First thing I did after reading this was check my account sm
Posted By: Another KSMT on 2007-07-31
In Reply to: PayPal eCheck from my checking account - anon
All is well, thank goodness. How scary! I hope it all gets straightened out okay.
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Funny thing....I will never forget reading a quote from Yoko Ono sm
When asked why she never smiled, she said her parents had told her, "Smiling is for shopkeepers."
Well, obviously not this one! 
Just a thing to check on ALL of your computers
Go to Control Panel>Internet Options and click the Connections tab. Make sure there are no Dial-up connections listed on any computers in your network.
Sometimes, programs may "dial home" or you may have some function you don't know about automatically scheduled to run that might be using a dial-up connection in order to do it.
Just make sure to delete any you find there. If there are any there, you might want to check if the number is the same one you're being charged for.
A friend of mine HAD dial-up but did not delete the old dial-up setup after getting DSL and sure enough, the computer was dutifully dialing in every night.
Good luck!
It must be the youtube thing - might want to check your computer
Sometimes if I haven't cleaned out my temporary folder and have a lot of junk on my computer the youtube and other sound/pictures won't match up (too much junk on the computer). I've been watching her over and over (she even has her own website). The sound and pictures match perfectly on my end. Also her voice is not far away either. I know that the camera pans in and out and shows the audience, so that may be what you're experiencing.
Not a publicity joke though. She's been singing in her choir since she was 12. Sings at the clubs and Kariokee, etc.
She has an amazing voice. Of course a couple notes were off but for someone who hasn't had professional singing lessons she is amazing. But, not a fake and your right, she is an inspiration to all.
Good advice was given here. Suggest vet check-up for kitty needs vet check. sm
I've had 2 females over the years who developed stones/crystals in urine or UTIs. Both of them started spraying inappropriately. Never had a female spray inappropriately other than in these instances. They go into spasm and can't help themselves. If it is a urinary problem, eventually you may see slight pink-tinged spray if it gets that far untreated due to the irritation from constantly trying to pee. One more thought is if the kitty is not sick, maybe the other cat won't let her use the litter box for some reason. Maybe set up another box for her.
Own account
Think about getting your own account to supplement this. They are out there. Got two this past month. They came to me -- no advertising. Tapes with pick up and delivery but good pay. Each account between 10,000 and 15,000 lines per month. Will be adding another local IC but because I do pick up and delivery I can only pay 8.5 cpl but it is gross 65 cpl. But that might help.
I do 400 LPH on my ER account
Love it!
Take into account where she is from.
She may have grown up in a place that had no blacks, or maybe her parents were racist; maybe all she learned FROM OTHERS for a very long time was a little skewed or backwards, and she has no idea she's not being PC.
I had an ex-BF who didn't know a single black person until he went to college, and he would say the weirdest things about blacks, not out of hatred or racism, but out of innocent ignorance to their life/background/culture.
In all honesty, the OP sounds a little simple in her language and view...or maybe it's just that she and I are from different cultures and we are both NORMAL.
Very easy for me- I have an account
with 1 of the major shopping channels, have my television in my work room, sometimes watching a particular show and get the number, call up the site and order. It really does not take that long and I still get 2000-3000 or over a day, no sweat.
I'm jealous, I wish I had such an account
as a secret one so I could sock away some extra $$ !!!
Can You Get Overdraft on your account
This has more than saved my life. It's well worth it just for piece of mind in case something should happen and you absoutely have to use your checking account and you're a little short. I hope that that one penny won't screw you up. That would stink. Maybe the bank would be forgiving.
Can you account for most of his time
when he is supposed to be either at work or home? I would be more upset if my husband were into a same sex situation than with a woman. Thinking he might be cheating (if into same sex) I definitely would not want to have sex with him, or really the other way either but especially same. You are much at risk if you do, better to not fiddle around. Thank the Lord I don’t have that crap now. I have gone through similar in my life and finally found a guy who I am 100% sure of - hard to find now days.
I just recently went out and got my own account sm
to avoid the arguments over money. He is not very happy about it, but I told him that after 18 years of being together I cannot have this argument any longer. My husband was a real mama's boy and he got whatever he wanted when he was a child (an ONLY child BTW). I came from a large family where I wore my brother's hand me downs and share clothes with my sisters. I have decided it is never going to change, but I needed to get that stress out of my life. I told him as long as you pay these bills, your leftover money is yours to do whatever it is you want to do. I am exhausted with this situation. I love my husband, the children adore him, so I am hoping this will help the stress in our marriage so we can stay together. I am sorry to stay this will only get worse. We don't even have a house, we rent an apartment for God's sake. He has no desire to even buy a house . . . I am going to try to qualify on my own. Wish my luck . . .
No checking account. sm
I have a prepaid debit card I have my pay deposited onto and then pay bills from that or get money orders. The only problem I have is if I get a check its hard to cash and I have to go to the issuing bank and they sometimes charge a fee to cash their own check. Like National City charges $10 to cash a check drawn on their bank if you don't have an account with them. 
I only have a savings account....sm
Better for me that way. I hate checking accounts. My husband and I have issues when I have a checking account because he thinks you can write a check and worry about covering it later. Not me.
Do you have a Paypal account?
Maybe a few of us could send you a couple of dollars to cover it.
I came home from Sunday school once with a chunk out of my hair but it was the work of some naughty little boy.
Never had any money, on account of....sm
Though I made decent wages, I was divorced and had a daughter and later grandson to almost completely support for a great many years, all through her nursing school and college for her, because her father did nothing...but that's neither here nor there.
So if anything, I'm even a little better off now than before, LOL! As long as my loved ones are OK, I'm OK.
But did you and your no account brother treat her
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Seems most poeple are not taking into account
that this man beat her! He may have not hit her in the past four years but believe me, there is a good chance he will do it again. She is NOT in love with him so why stay with someone you have NO feelings for and do not desire sexually? Is therapy REALLY going to make her fall in love with this man again? Is he going to be HONEST with her....he hasn't been all these years; in fact, sounds as though he shows no emotion at all.
My question is - how do you stay with someone you do not love any longer no matter what unresolved issues there are. The only issue I would feel is that there is NO love - if there is NO love, I MOVE ON and did after 29 years.
Sounds like we work on the same account!
LOL
I get irate too, report after report about illegals and all the free crap they get, and doctors even giving them advice on how to get more freebies.
We had that happen with an old dial-up account
But there was no advanced warning or anything. One month our bill was what they said it would be and the next month it had doubled if not tripled. They told us it was because we were "unusually heavy users." I don't even remember what company it was, but we dropped them immediately.
My checking account is free too. I pay
most of my bills on line through them--no fee for that either. Whenever I need checks, I order them from one of those places you see in ads in the Sunday paper. They are cheaper and with paying online, I have not ordered any in probably 4 years.
I can use bill pay to pay to a specific account #
at any bank. Its free, too.
login to your account @paypal to see your history. SM
if there is no payment listed, then assume it did not go through.
or you could check with your credit card company...
file garnishment on bank account
so it hits his account the same day he deposits pay checks (usually Friday).
PayPal eCheck from my checking account
I know this has happened to somebody here before, I remember reading it. This morning I woke up and checked my checking account to see what little I had left before pay day this Friday. What I found was that somebody had taken $2420.00 from a PayPal eCheck, and now I am way in the negative. The bank says it takes three to five, possibly up to ten days to dispute and make the account right. That's just great. I have a direct deposit going in on Friday, and won't even be able to use that until who knows when.
What can be done, if anything, on my part? Is there someway to make PayPal responsible for making the dispute happen faster? I have no clue what to do and have absolutely no money until this dispute is over. It did take the whole ten days about six months ago when I got double charged for something, so I already know it won't happen before pay day. Maybe with this large sum of money they will expedite. I can hope!
Okay, back to work for me. Thanks.
Hey Jan - You can also open a free account with photobucket.com
You can upload any pictures to that and then change the size. After that you can copy it onto the avatar secton here.
Hugs sue-ellen
My husband opened up a new Ameritrade account
so far, so good. We only put in $2000. He basically wanted some play money and wanted to give it a try. We do day trading and he's actually making a little bit. He tends to watch the companies that are closing to merging and makes a play for them. You can find out ahead of time what companies are planning mergers, when they expect to close, and how much they agreed on for the selling price per share. So far, he's done 2 of these and made out okay, but he's pretty conservative in how much he buys.
Closing an account affects your score because
if you carry balances on other cards, by closing an account you instantly increase the percentage of available credit that you are using. An assessement of the percentage of use is a significant element in your credit score.
If you have other cards with high limits and low or no balances, closing an account will have only a small, probably temporary, effect, unless you are closing the account with the longest history. As another poster mentioned, length of credit history is another significant element of your credit score.
If you have high balances on other cards, leaving open an unused account will make those balances a lower percentage of your available credit, which can boost your credit score. However, in that case, paying down the balances will have a much larger positive effect on your score.
Hate making a mistake on my checking account!
I typically write only 1 check a month (for my rent/water) and everything else is paid online or with my ATM/Visa card. I checked my balance this morning and thought, yeh! I can go get a latte! So off I went, spent $3.57 on a coffee and on the way home remembered something -- I wrote a check last week to the DMV for this year's registration/tag and I wasn't sure if it had cleared my bank. Got home, checked my balance and guess what? The outstanding check has NOT cleared and now the balance in my checking account is 1 penny short of clearing that check! Too late to go put in a couple of dollars for it to be posted tonight in case the check comes through 
Y'all keep your fingers crossed with me that the check won't come through tonight, or if it does my bank will be forgiving and not charge me $35 to cover that extra penny I'm short on  That would be some expensive latte!!!
If you have a Netflix account, you can watch online for free.
The membership is fairly cheap. My husband and I have one and watch movies online on their site all the time.
Where did you get the account of it from? The child with perception issues? Or another adult?
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Change your bank account on file with Vonage Right NOW!
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Transfer your banking business to a free checking account
Washington Mutual Compass Bank, and many others offer completely free checking accounts. There’s no reason you should be paying maintenance and annual fees for a checking account.
Happiness is a heart thing; pleasure is a head thing.nm
Why does closing a credit card account negatively affect your credit report
Especially when I never use it anyway, and really never wanted it?
With all the bank rearranging going on in the past few months, one of my accounts was tranferred to Bank of America. I was sent new cards and a new agreement, new interest rate etc...
So I called them up and cancelled but before they did, I had to listen to a spiel about how this would negatively affect my credit report.
Huh?? Why is that?
If I'm reading right
then it makes perfect sense to me. He does not, no how, no way, no matter what happens, want anymore children. She "would not mind" having more children, but is willing to not have more children because of his wishes. However, should something happen, God forbid, to her husband or their marriage, she potentially would like to have more children.
Not sure why she wants him to have a vasectomy, but if I did read it right, it is his best insurance policy (short of abstinance) to ensure he does not get what he does not want. However, you are correct that there are other ways to avoid pregnancy, but sounds like the OP just wants her husband to be happy (by not getting what he does not want).
OP, I do agree with the posting that suggested you should not have scheduled this for him while he is of the mind set of not wanting to have it done. My husband just did have it done (our youngest child is 10 years old). After our youngest child was born, without my suggesting it, hubby had said that he would have it done because he felt that it was the right/fair thing to do. After all, I had gone through the two pregnancies/childbirths/breastfeeding, etc. While I appreciated the sentiment, he did not follow through with it until he HAD to. He had a varicocele that was causing referred pain up under his arm, which prompted him to see the family doc, who did not diagnose the varicocele, but after attempting to clear an "infection" (a "knot" in his testicle) with a couple of rounds of antibiotics, eventually he referred to a urologist.
I have not been able to take hormonals for years due to headaches and other problems associated with them, and had had an IUD placed, but had to have it removed the following day, so we had been using condoms for most of the 10-year time period (and even THAT did not prompt him to go ahead and have it done, after it was his idea to do it -- men can be such babies . . . LOL).
Because of the varicocele, he had to be put under and the surgery was a little more extensive than the normal, in-office procedure, and hubby has come through just fine. Yes, there is pain involved, but I imagine there was a little bit of pain involved with birthing your babies. I think he should "be a man" and just do it.
you might be reading too much into this
I have two daughters currently undergoing orthodontia treatment and their docs (brothers) either call us that night to see how they are feeling after their treatment or send a personal note. Just very friendly, caring orthodontists. They also have an office full of pretty young ladies and are both married with a bunch of kids and lovely wives. They are just very nice guys.
Could be that your orthodontist is just trying to be a nice guy. Don't embarrass yourself by reading too much into what could be an innocent effort to make your treatment time more enjoyable.
Currently reading
 "Cross" by James Patterson, next on my stack of 10 new books is "I Heard That song before by Mary Higgins Clark. I'm an avid reader - can you tell??
Only just reading this, so very sorry.
I lost my little man kitty Dante, it has been almost 2 years, I've been thinking about him after reading all the supportive messages above. I was just telling my daughter yesterday that I think it's time to go to the Shelter and find a new little kitty to love. The value of their company cannot be measured. God Bless, take comfort in all the good days you had together. I'll say a little prayer that your heart does not hurt too much or for too long.
Wise
Reading this over and I think
your aunt does not have the ability to change a will. That is not what an executor does, that is not the position to change what is in a will. If you and your brother get anything at all, I think you should be glad because you were only taking the place of your father, his own child, as your father is demented. I went thru a similar thing, my father died and I had a deceased brother. The insurance company was supposed to divide insurance between the children of my deceased brother and me as they were taking the place of my brother. After a year's time they could not find them and they sent me the balance of 1/2 of the insurance fund. I am thinking perhaps with no changes made prior to the demise of your grandfather, that money perhaps might go to your father and hence like you do not want it to go, to the state. That would not be good for any of his entitled heirs but you might have an uphill battle with lawyers, the courts, etc. in this case. You can break a will and if lots there to be gotten, then probably can take this course. The aunt should already have hers coming, is that not right so I doubt with her telling the power of attorney to get a lawyer she is trying for more, only she does not have the authority to just break herself.
I don't know... From what I'm reading on other
sites, people are so tired of Adam's monotonous exact screams in every single song that the Danny voters will probably swing to Kris, so it could be up for grabs. AI has a message board too.
Thanks, after reading your post...sm
I decided I am going to call and speak with the manager first. Yes, I was supposed to go back to the same girl today but I changed my mind. I am going to explain the situation to the manager and ask if I can come in another day when this hairdresser is not there for a fix by someone else.
Ladies, please after reading your
posts you are sounding like a bunch of feuding school aged girls. What in the world is your problem? Retract your claws and be friends again, ok?
I did a lot of reading before Thanksgiving
when we made one - it was rather small - just for the 2 of us - and it turned out perfect. Husband likes very rare and we knew we would have a few slices left over which we would then microwave so wanted them rare also. The best advice I can give is to buy a good thermometer and take out before it reaches the temp you want for rare, medium or whatever - as it does continue to cook for a few minutes outside the oven - which surprised this old cook!! It actually rose 5-10 degrees (cannot recall right now) and that can make a huge difference in a small prime rib - I was shocked! :))
After reading the below posts sm
I have to laugh. I have HP and have no trouble at all. It is the same thing with kitchen appliances. Have mostly GE and am not happy but many surveys say GE is one of the best.
OK-what is your fav book or what are you reading now
My very favorite book is Outlander by Diana Galbadon and I am current re-reading the second book in the Outlander series, Dragonfly in Amber. I would like to reread all 6 of them this summer, but Harry Potter is also coming out, so we'll see. They are all huge books.
I loved reading this. sm
I also read it on the Comedy board and shared it with my Bible School class. Will share wtih my adult Sunday School also.
I have really enjoyed reading all of these.
Thank you for all your help.
I have been reading all these posts sm
and debating on what to say. Bear with me, this could be long. My mother's mother lives in California and has all my life. I live in Virginia. I havew seen my grandmother exactly 5 times and I am now 40. My mother died unexpectedly 3 years ago (she lived here and was extremely close with all her grandchildren). I knew that my mother and grandmother did not have a close relationship but they did love each other. The night before the funeral my father and I had such a long wonderful talk. He told me then that he never ever heard my grandmother say anything positive, not even anything nice to my mother. He wasn't trying to critize my GM but was just stating the facts. Two years ago my parents (dad and stepmother) decided to take each grandchild (4) on a separate vacation. My daughter really wanted to go to CA. Not necessarily to see her great-grandmother but wanted to include that in the trip. My parents asked me to go along. We flew to San Francisco and drove to her home about 3 hours away. Now keep in mind, my GM loves my father and thinks he put the moon and sun in the sky. We were only going to stay in her town over night simply becuase the woman is not enjoyable to be around. She has a very tiny home so we decided to stay in a hotel. My GM asked me if my daughter and I would like to stay with her. I did not want to but my stepmother really thought I should. We arrived and after spending some time at her house trying to show her pictures of the other grandchildren (she really wasn't very interested) we took her to lunch. I tried to talk to her about the likes of my other child as well as my nieces and what there life was like. She just kept interuppting and changing the subject. Mostly about my brother or to talk to my father. As we were leaving the restaurant my SM pulled me aside and said that we should definitely stay at the hotel. My GM has no other family except my brother and I. I still call her every week but the conversations are always the same. No interest in my life. My son's 17th b-day is tomorrow and he got a card from her yesterday. It was pink and covered in flowers. This is not a woman who I want to spend time with and never have for multiple reasons. I could write a book. Please don't "make" your children go. There are obvious reasons in their minds and you should respect that.
After reading some of your posts,
it sounds like maybe he just wants to stay married so he can keep you under his thumb. I'm sure it's better for him financially if you stay together and he has someone to do the household chores as well. As for asking for sex via email, that is creepy. But, I would still wonder whether he is getting somewhere else. I think men would still continue to ask, just on the off-chance that you actually would say yes, but get it somewhere else, too. I'd be afraid of what he could bring home. As for the kids, I agree with the other posters. The kids will pick up on this, but sadly enough, they will grow up believing it's a normal relationship when it's not, thus the generation-after-generation epic of divorce. That's just my opinion, though, and I'm certainly not an expert.
Now, back to you, I'm sorry that you're not getting any with someone who loves and respects you. So often, it is just assumed that the woman doesn't need/desire intimacy, when in all honesty women crave that intimacy even more than men. It's not necessarily the physical aspect of the intimacy that women crave, but rather the emotional. The fact that he asks for it so bluntly via email on a daily basis is his way of degrading you. Don't let it go on any longer. I would be headed straight to the divorce lawyer's office. Many women have been through divorce and made it through okay. You're children will support you once they see how much happier you are without him. Good luck to you.
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