First, I'd tell your roommate to MYOB - sm
Posted By: Squeegie on 2008-08-20
In Reply to: How much is too much? - drinking...
whether it is your alcohol or food habits, it's none of her business; but maybe that's just me! I am a firm believer in people keeping their noses out of other people's behavior (unless you are falling down drunk or not paying your bills, and thus affecting her).
As for alcohol usage - my DH and I drink every night after work, 1-2 glasses of wine or a beer. I believe normal usage is considered 1-2 servings (12 oz beer, 1 mixed drink, etc) daily. I find it relaxing and it is supposed to be good for cardiovascular health.
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MYOB?
I am troubled by this situation and appreciate your feedback. My husband crewed with "A" up until my husband retired this year and we moved about 300 miles away. "A" has a long history of working together with my husband, and he even stood up as best man for our wedding. "A" is married and has four early adult children, two still at home and in college. I know there are bad dynamics with his wife, but that's about all. Two sides to every story and I don't know the lady very well. Met her socially a few times is all for work functions.
Come to find out this weekend when "A" comes to visit us that he has hooked up with an old high school sweetheart and has been seeing her for about six months. Still married to his wife and this other chick is married too but unhappy like he is. Worse, "A" used us as his cover story. Said to his wife he was going to spend the weekend visiting us for ice fishing and hooked up with this other one. Then brought her around our house and expected us to all go out and have dinner - no problem. I do not approve of this at all and don't want to be party to it. If you don't want to be married anymore then be upfront about it. I lost a lot of respect for him. My husband is not comfortable but says they have a 25+ year history together from work and doesn't want to lose his friendship.
Should I just shut up and look the other way? TIA.
Are you sure the roommate wants you to move?
Maybe it is just an idea that his boyfriend had. He really is not the one to tell you the news, it should have been the roommate. So I'm wondering if the roommate even even knows about it, or if the boyfriend is trying to make arrangements to move in on his own.
Some folks just can't stand any confrontation, even what it would have taken for your roommate to tell you about these future plans. If he has never done anything to hurt you before, I would think you could just accept it, and try to maintain your friendship. If he knows about it, and if he agreed to have the boyfriend tell you, he probably just could not think of any other solution to the problem, other than having his boyfriend tell you, because he did not want to be the one to hurt you. He probably wasn't thinking about "friendship etiquette" (i.e. being the one to give you the bad news himself) at all.
I hope you find a nice place to live.
Talk to your roommate!
If he's a friend, surely you can talk to him!
1. He may want you to leave.
a. Too chicken to tell you.
b. BF took it upon himself.
2. He may NOT want you to leave.
a. BF assumed.
b. BF took it upon himself.
3. BF may be jealous, and wants you gone without your roommate knowing about it.
In any case, the only way you'll know is to talk to him.
Let us know how it goes.
Your Roommate is not your Mother.
Just an FYI. You probably know if you drink too much. I don't drink, but I did years ago. I just never liked the taste.
You get judged enough here, so why continue the abuse when you get off the clock!
Drink one for me later!
Tell your roommate to mind her own business
is your choice. Kick the BEOTCH out and enjoy your glass(es) of wine or wine coolers.
ROFLMAO!!! Poor baby - I think he needs a roommate!
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University of IL? I heard Suze Orman was a roommate there of John Belushi's wife
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