Farrah busted up one of my best friendships when I was young -
Posted By: Amanda on 2009-06-26
In Reply to: Seems like my childhood/teenage years went with them... - ndmt
I was spending the night with one of my best friends who loved Farrah. She had every news clipping, every book, every poster, every doll --- anything to do with Farrah. Well, she went to bed earlier and I was bored, so I started looking at all her stuff. I did not put it back under the bed when I was finished with it because I was just too sleepy that minute to think about it. Well, sometime during the night, my friend rolled over and vomited over all the Farrah stuff.
I was so upset about it happening, but she did did speak to me again for at least 10 years, until we were grown -- and I am not exagerrating. She would not look at me in school, she would not take my apology, nada!!!
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Busted
I have busted my son (15) doing a few things . . . sneaking out, drinking a couple of beers that his friend stole from his dad and brought to my house (drinking in my son's room, two beers each), and smoking pot at a friend's B-Day party, among other things.
While I had my suspicions and was able to bust him out without letting him know how I knew for sure that he had done these things (for instance, when he and his buddy snuck out, they woke me coming back in at 5:00 a.m. and I did not realize that was what had awakened me, but going upstairs to use the restroom I saw their shoes with wet grass and ants crawling around them, and my son did not make it into position on the couch in time to pretend that he was asleep, as his friend had done), the way I confirmed any suspicions that I had was through MySpace. I had given him fair warning that if something was done on our computers, we COULD know about it. I installed software on the computer, but it was much easier to use the software for gaining his passwords and then just follow him around in real time on MySpace. Both of our computers are in my office, and he had no idea that while he was on one computer I was logged onto his MySpace account at the same time as he was and was following his every move.
It was a good thing that I was monitoring him so closely. What happened is something that we never thought would come so close to our family, right into our own home. A sexual predator was posing on-line as a teenage girl and was convincing the children that, in order to earn *her* love and trust, they had to allow her good friend to perform a sexual act on the children (first asking that they allow him to perform oral sex on them, and if they seemed too uncomfortable with that would *reduce* the requirement to manual stimulation. At least two of my son's friends were duped into allowing this to happen, believing that they would get the girl if they did this. Her pictures showed that she was one of if not the most beautiful girl that they had as a MySpace friend, and *they* (the ghost girl and her great friend) would also use the church and God to convince the children that they were trustworthy, telling the children to come to the Wednesday night youth meetings at a huge (10,000+ member) church where this *friend* had been volunteering with the youth for about two years. Of course, in such a large church, it was easy to *miss* each other and the girl was never seen (in fact, when *she* verbally jumped all over my son for not attending on May 20th, for a short time I believed that he had not gone to the meeting, but he had gone).
Of course, when a meeting was set up and they found themselves alone with a 26-year-old MAN, it was too late and things went much further than the sexual acts that I mentioned above.
The message: There are some things worse than smoking pot. PLEASE, PLEASE, watch your children on the Internet. My own son was not a victim, and the monster that invaded our home is now behind bars, but who knows how many victims there are or would have been. I'm providing a link to the story that aired on our local Fox News station, where my son's friend's mother and I were interviewed (they cut me out). The police were not going to release that this HUGE church was involved, so I was really glad that I had called the media and got the information out.
P.S. I have made it clear to my son that I believe that pot should be legalized, although I do not think that minors should have access to it. We have discussed that a large part of the reason I feel minors should not have access is because their brains are not fully developed, and that I believe eating it would be better than smoking it. He knows that I consider alcohol to be much more dangerous and damaging than pot. I feel that he is making better decisions after having rational discussions with him about the dangers of his behavior and what he was experimenting with -- his grades are great and he is a smart and beautiful human being. He is a teenager, though, and he thinks like a teenager. That is what I am here for: to help him make his own path and be his own person, while being a responsible citizen and a humble, compassionate, respected, trusted adult.
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Busted bubbles.
Oh, ok. I guess the Federal Government is wrong. I guess they should check with you. I guess the State Governments should also check with you.
Mom + Kid (no dad in the picture) = single mom.
Does not matter whether divorced or widowed. When the dad ends up AWOL it is a single mother.
I don't care what you think. I don't care about your opinions. By the looks of it, there are other people who feel the same way. People fear what they do not understand. You obviously have that.
Karma has an interesting way of working. You are still living and breathing. Anything can happen. People who are so nasty and vocal about things, they tend to end up going through the things they are so judmental about.
By the way, when you get old and you end up in a nursing home...and you don't have the money to pay for it yourself, that is where the state picks up. Saying what you did, then when this happens to you and the state has to pay for it, you will become one of those people that you have been talking so badly about--simply because you didn't plan appropriately for your "golden years" and will be a burden to the state.
There ya go. No one is immune.
Farrah
Farrah's documentary was probably the best I have seen. It was very brave of her to do that for the world to see.
RIP
Farrah Fawcett has passed away. RiP sm
When I would walk down the halls at my junior high, Farrahs were everywhere, on nearly every boy's locker door. They even called the main hall "Farrahway" because her image was everywhere. I struggled to keep my hair like hers with a curling iron and a few cans of AquaNet a week. She was very much a part of my youth.
RIP, Farrah.
I cut my hair at 8 or 9 years old to look like Farrah Fawcett
From Charlies Angels. Mom was so mad I didn't sit for the night. Needless to say I didn't look like Farrah Fawcett either.
Speaking of which my best wishes go out to her and her family.
I cut my hair at 8 or 9 years old to look like Farrah Fawcett
From Charlies Angels. Mom was so mad I didn't sit for the night. Needless to say I didn't look like Farrah Fawcett either.
Maybe if you have a hairdressing school near where you live they would fix it for free.
I used to have a Farrah barbie too! I loved it. My two best friends
when I was little were both brunettes and when we'd get together to play, we would always play Charlie's Angels and I was always Jill (Farrah) because I was the only blonde. My friends hated that. They would always argue over who had to be Sabrina. Nobody ever wanted to be Sabrina which is really sad because she was the smart one! But Farrah was so beautiful with her hair and smile.
Just a sad, sad day. Two pop culture icons die - Farrah and Michael Jackson.
I grew up with Michael Jackson. Used to watch the Jackson 5 cartoons in the 70s when I was a little kid. Then bought his first solo album, Off the Wall. Was watching the Apollo special when he moonwalked for the first time on stage. Bought Thriller as a teenager in the 80s and was just a huge, big-haired fan. It's like a part of my childhood just died.
And who can forget Farrah? I loved Charlie's Angels. Remember when she came back to acting after Charlie's Angels in the Burning Bed? Who knew she was more than just a sex symbol on a poster?!?!?! She fought such a courageous battle against her cancer.
Too young for both
"If an 18 year old isn't mature enough to handle a beer, I dare say he isn't prepared for what killing another person could do to him."
Which is exactly why the military wants them at 18 rather than 21.
2 is too young.
He'll let you know when he's ready.
2 is not too young.
Both of my boys were trained before they were 2. I attributed that to the fact that I only used disposable diapers when we were not at home. All over the world, babies are toilet trained before they are 2. Human beings can learn this basic control very early. This is a fact. In the U.S., disposables are part of our culture. And since their introduction and widespread acceptance, the age at which American children are toilet trained has gone up. Then "big kid" disposables were invented, and now it's not uncommon for kids ages 4 and 5 to still have toileting issues. Others have posted here that their children trained once the pull-ups were stopped. Most people don't like the feel of being wet or soiled. When that is part of the equation, children let you know that they are ready to train much earlier than ages 3, 4, and 5.
Still think it is too young.
God forbid we let our babies be babies.
If they are terrified of the potty chair, they are too young.
I had 1 myself, at a young age, but then we had no
BCPs and ?? I did not want a child born out of wedlock, never. Had children when married and if my daughter wanted an abortion, would have gotten 1. Oh, I do have g'children by the way.
when I was young
I had a dream 3 times of my father dying in a burning car crash - one time I was with him.in the dream . . I never told him or anyone.. but I did worry somewhat about it. . My dad died a few years ago in his 70s of lung cancer. . I wouldn't make too much of the dream. . .
Okay, first of all, that is way too young
Is your hubby overstressed at work or personally (finances, etc)? Is he involved in too many extracurricular activities (little league, soccer, basketball)? How long have you been without? When I first read your post, I just assumed you were older -- 40s/50s -- not too offend anyone in that age group, but just because I think some men get bored with the same *meat and potatoes* and/or may have physical problems, such as the poster below suggested with the testosterone.
At any rate, I'm pretty close to your age and if you're going more than a month without, I would suggest you start asking him why. I don't want to put any suggestions in your head (you probably already have some) as to why he may not be putting out, so I'll just suggest that you talk with him openly about it.
As for me and my hubby, the motto is the same: Put out or get out!!! (LOL of course)
is 27 young enough?
Thank you SOOOO Much for your answer, ive been obsessive compulsively checking hoping someone would give me something!
I have no husband, no kids, but two dogs... the farthest i've moved was six hours from my home town and I love where I live now, been here three years but it is time for a change. I'm curious, where have you settled? San Diego is nice... but I feel at this time in my life, like there is nothing like the warm Atlantic Ocean... I also might be having a mid-life mid-life crisis of sorts! LOL. Thanks again i appreciate your input more than you know!!!
You are young! You need to get out! How about ...
volunteering someplace? There are tons of places that would be happy to have help even for brief periods. You could help someone in need, make some friends. It's good to feel needed, and with all the places who really need volunteers, you ARE needed. You can help others, get out of your house, and feel good about yourself at the same time!
You are either very young or very new. Yes, I work both sm
holiday. There are 24 hours, and I manage to work and spend time with my family, and cook, and enjoy both holidays. Health care is 24/7 and if you are in the field, then you should expect to put in a few hours on a holiday.
No, you do not "deserve" to have them off, of you should find another field. You won't go far in this one refusing to do your part on major holiday. It is not really a big deal. Just put in a few hours, then go enjoy your holiday. Or, put in a few hours at the end of the day. That is the beauty of working at home.
My son is young and works....sm
He went to a lot of trouble to get me a necklace that was a heart, said mom on it and had little "fake" diamonds. He is young, loves to work and it took a lot to save his money to buy gifts for everybody himself. I offered to help but he refused. This is not a necklace I would have chosen myself but because it was carefully selected by somebody that loves me that is what makes it so special. While it might not be something I would "normally" wear. You can bet because of the love and thought that was put into it I will proudly wear it daily because it was carefully chosen for me. How do I know? I was with him shopping and he was about in tears because he wanted me to "go to a different spot" so he could make his special purchase without me watching. While it didnt cost hundreds of dollars, yet was not cheap for a young person to buy I will cherish it forever and most certainly wear it proudly right along with the "real diamond" jewlery that I do have. If you ask me it is just as beautiful as it was a gift from the heart.
I also don't care if they are young
and committing such a horrible crime on someone else who is more vulnerable.
The excuses run out eventually. If they give the excuse that THEY were molested as children then they absolutely KNOW that what they are doing to someone else is COMPLETELY wrong. No sympathy. Not one teeny tiny little bit.
I have a young daughter also...
And I didn't mean LITERALLY that young girls shouldn't vote, just that Sanjaya seemed to be popular with that population and I am tired of seeing him there. Of course the young girls have a right to vote too.
Just got done checking out the Vote for the Worst website and they are really proud of their campaign to keep Sanjaya in there. Everyone has a right to their own opinion, I just hope that all of this madness doesn't get one of the truly talented competitors cut.
But those young men volunteered for this
and agreed to do this as they do believe in it - that is what the tribute is all about
I'm no young girl...
I'm a lot older and I think Blake's adorable. To each is own. And by the way, he's as tall as my husband, who by the WA is no creep. LOL.
Isn't 11 a little young to be home alone??
And with a younger sibling you said? Wow...that's too young to be left alone all day. It is a recipe for disaster. It may be hard, but the advice about taking him in, so to speak, sounds like a good place to start. Though I wouldn't do it at the sacrifice of my kid's happiness and wellbeing...good luck....
Now maybe young girls won't look up to her as a
Young Frankenstein. nm
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Hey, the Beatles were young once too ...
and those songs weren't too much for them. I agree that some of them are young and don't know the songs, but that's true of any theme they've done. At least they aren't having to choose songs that have been done by prior Idol contestants.
SPOILER WARNING:
I don't dislike Amanda Overmyer (rocker chick), but her skills are limited to one particular type of music, so I'm not sad she was voted off tonight. I don't care for Kristy Lee Cook, so she could have gone. I like Michael Johns, but his performances haven't hit the mark. I enjoy David Cook. He looks happy rather than cocky to me. He looks like he was doing what he was born to do. I can't believe Carly Smithson (tattoos, from Ireland I think) was in the bottom three. Ramiele is missing something but I'm not sure what. Chikezie is fantastic when the song is bluesy. I think Brooke White is good but a bit predictable. I enjoy Jason Castro very much.
Top talents IMO are:
David Archulata, David Cook, Carly Smithson.
I think Syesha Mercado gave an A performance this time also. She just isn't as reliable as my top 3 picks.
nah, just young the first two times. nm
Your kitty is still very young
so try instilling manners into her with positive reinforcement. It really does work. When on the counters or table, tell her no firmly while taking her off. Do this in the same manner every time you catch her. They do get the idea eventually. Try not to yell and get upset as they sense this and then they become focused on your yelling. My cat does not climb on counters and if he needs to throw up, he will go into the kitchen instead of whereever he is. My vet told me about this as I was at my wits end with him. It took a while and a lot of patience. They do calm down so much as they get older. I agree with the watergun. Good luck and hang in there!
he was 19 or 20 and sisters were 12 or 13, and 8 or 9, very young.
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Not young but people sometimes do not understand regarding this.
My elderly aunt is in her 80s. I am in early 60s. She has a much better memory than me and she has a close friend who is a scatterbrain like your friend. We are not forgetful because we want to be, it is something we cannot help. I have to write myself notes in order to remember very important things regarding business, etc. I hand my husband very, very important business related matters or else once in my hand they are probably lost. I have a file and put things there but then when I have to have, go looking and looking to find. I have a daughter totally organized and wish I were. Believe me when I am saying your friend does not try to do this.
You ladies sound really young as you
have no idea this is not something new on the scene. Back in the 40s ladies fainted with the swoon singers and like the post said above, if you did your research you will find not a new finding- bulemia and anorexia not an issue then and the ladies acted like that, had nothing to do with self-esteem- that is why our world is soooo mixed up today, everyone wants to put a diagnosis along with a part of a growing up process that is in the past, will continue now and after we are gone from here. As long as the stars and entertainers around, this is just part of what goes along with this type of rapture from these young girls. My girl loved Bon Jovi as did her little friends. I went to a Barry Manilow concert 2 years ago and the ladies swooned with him. Just goes with the territory.
I sure hope you are as young as you come off in this post - sm
Most men don't want to be babied, I am surprised he puts up with it. Do you hover over him, feed him, fetch his slippers, prop up his feet? Boy, as said below you do seem quite insecure. You think by taking care of him and his every whim that will make him love you more? Generally it has the opposite effect. You need to chill, take a step back. Yes it is nice to be affectionate to your husband, but if he is not like that back to you it is not the end of the world. Many guys show they care in other ways, like having a good job and being responsible, handing their paycheck to you every 2 weeks to take care of, taking you out to dinner now and then, changing the oil in your care, taking care of your car, fixing things around the house you ask them to do, picking something up at the store for you that you did not ask for (my DH picks me up the occasional bottle of wine for me, once a blue moon flowers). But if you want him to do something for, but at the same time seem to be spontaneous, give him a list of things you would love for him to do for you; bring home flowers, give you a back rub, play strip poker, whatever your fancy is, he won't know unless you tell him. Communicate! Grow up while you are at it too. As for the picking you up at school, quit begging him, either drive youself or find a different way home, he obviously does not want to pick you up if you have to grovel to get him to do it, you are just going to piss him off in the long run; unless this is a tact to get you not to go to school. If he is trying to stop you from attending and bettering yourself then I would continue to go, but again find a different way home if at all possible so you can show him you can stand on your own two feet. Independence can be empowering. You sound way to dependent on him for your emotional well-being. You are your own person, not an extension of him.
The family of this young man who committed this act should also be....
included in the thoughts and prayers along with those lost yesterday. Imagine the grief and sorrow they must be feeling. They too are the innocent in this.
Doesn't sound young to me. S/L nn w/a
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I am a single young person
and you know sometimes it is nicer to go out and do things on your own. I have found sometimes when I have gone out with people they do not want to do the same thing so you end up wasting energy trying to convince them or they lollygag and I hate that. As much as it is nice to have someone or a special someone to do things with, there is nothing wrong with being an independent and doing things on your own. As I see it, if I wait around for someone to magically appear to do things with, I may miss out on a lot of good things. As for bus trips, I live in the SF Bay Area and I know I have seen all sorts of neat bus trips to places like national parks, Tahoe, etc and you go in a group and explore.
I think it is too young to be left alone all day during the summer with a ...sm
5-year-old. There will also be 2 girls, ages 13 and 8, left alone all day as well. They are neighbors so it should be interesting. I am the only mother home during the day but I'm not getting involved. I'm taking care of mine. I have to be able to work without constant drama during the day. I may let my daughter go somewhere part-time just to have something to do and not be so bored. This is her first summer home (I worked in an office past 2 summers) and I want her to be able to enjoy it. Things will get better. Time will take care of a lot of it....I hope.
Sounds really young and needing
attention as maybe not getting it from hubby or the wrong kind. Anybody paying attention would probably make her feel better but definitely wrong in her case, married and should take with a grain of salt, in other words don't take a flirt seriously.
Paris is Young and Restless!
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And you think young boys don’t know about periods?
The kids here have sex education, boys and girls together, long before the old age of 13. Boys know about periods even if immature- and by the way aging with guys continues on for years, whether 13 or 34! I absolutely would never go completely by what a kid might say and rush the teacher. I have grown children, not kids, and I also wore tampons (like the earlier post) at a very younge age. When I started the period so heavy I had to wear panties with plastic in the crotch and by the WAY---- at 13 I walked to my drug store and got Paregoric because I had such bad cramps. See, it did not kill me to say why I wanted it. It was over-the-counter then and I have no ongoing terrible issues from that. Mountain out of mole hill again!
Not guy either. Very funny, but Young Frankenstein
xx
Young Frankstein is my granddaughter's
favorite movie of all time!
I agree, 2 is too young for boys.
My son turned 3 in July and he has only shown passing interest in potty training. I know I will need to help him with his motivation soon, but for now I am not even worried about it. I also have a 7yo daughter who was potty trained at 2-1/2 and she was very easy. It's true what they say about boys being different than girls when it comes to potty training. I say don't force the issue. I think that tends to complicate things.
When children young, no problem
because shows were not as out there as they are now. However, I had some stepchildren living with me for awhile and I put down my foot and said NO to wrestling. It was full of sex and smut and nothing even 8 and 11 year olds should watch. I am no prude but if I thought too much, it was really too much for kids.
As the mother of two young daughters
one who got pregnant with her loser boyfriend at 20 - I can only send hugs and more hugs. No amount of talking did any good - she knew better and was making some kind of statement to us and she got pregnant still thought she was a smarty pants - they then split up, she met someone else, immedately became engaged, planned a wedding and got PG again before wedding. It has only been 18 months since the wedding but she knows she rushed through everything, has regrets but has learned lessons. I would just push contraception, I would let her know how disappointed you are - you have a right to your feelings - support her in other ways if you can and try not to let it ruin your relationship. She is due for a huge fall but they somehow need to experience this. I am so sorry!!
Your daughter is not a young child and she
I am sure knows about the rules of her school. You cannot have 1 rule for 1 and 1 for the others. The schools are so outlandish now that even a drawing of a gun, a drawing of a shooting, etc. has gotten children suspended. You are not allowed to have anything be a gun or pepper spray on the school property. To not know about nor to disregard the rules the schools have now does not fly. There is safety in numbers as you say the children walking home together. If safety is a huge issue with you, then you need to make arrangements to pick her up or have someone else do that.
I have no young kids but could guarantee
that if I had to care for a young infant, would not have to sit and think about it. Do you suffer from any sort of memory deficiency?
Yes, holding it at a young age is really easy-
but as you age the problem of incontinence rears its ugly head. As a young woman, no problem but now, well lets just say I have an appt with the urologist for this Friday.
I am some years your senior, but still young looking and seem to SM
be attractive to men. However, I found that men felt they had been there, done that. . . and the only thing they were missing was what you pointed out. I literally met a man who was married and divorced five times. Thanks, but no thanks. For me he HAS to be a nonsmoker, very occasional drinker, etc.
My sister and I agree that after we were with a man a time or two it already became quite evident why he is divorced. I know this is not always the case, but very often it is. I met a man one time, and I must respect this, who told me sadly that he had the most wonderful woman in the world and he cheated on her and lost her. He said he takes 100% responsibility for the breakup. He said it was the worst mistake he ever made in his life. There are exceptions to every rule, but more often than not I found the ones who were looking for one thing and had no desire to begin again and have a future with someone.
As a young girl, I suffered so much
with cramps, so bad I would be bent over so all girls are not alike. Years ago we could buy OTC paragoreic (sp?) and it was horrible to taste but it did the job in relieving those cramps. I also believe the steroids not only have to do with early puberty but also the fact of lots of excessive weight on people now. You never saw as obese people years ago, say in the 30s or 40s. I know loads will say fast food but also then our food supply was not loaded with all that it is now.
If someone is young and has a great figure, they
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