Family does last forever and it's not
Posted By: s/m on 2008-07-08
In Reply to: I think that the OP needs to do what she - sm
about whether you do something that upsets your child. It's the fact that you prioritze a non-family member's feelings over your own daughter's. As for the girl throwing herself at the boy, the boy obviously caught her and should have had enough decency not to be caught under the covers with her in a house he is being permitted to stay in. It works both ways.
This isn't about being a parent or a friend. It's about choosing your own daughter over a non-family member. I personally would not have left the 18-yo boy live in my house with my 16-yo daughter, regardless of the daughter's BF. I agree with the other poster that stated it's just too much temptation, even if they do supposedly act like brother/sister. I have a feeling this is just the beginning of the problems you will have to endure.
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Wish we could keep them forever. SM
My cat Dante only lived 11 years. I believe he had multiple strokes, but vets could find nothing definite. In the last 3 months of his life, he cried loudly all night, had staring spells. But in the last month of his life he seemed to want to squeeze into tight spaces, between bookcase and wall, and one night he jumped up on the kitchen counter and then down behind the fridge. My bedroom was behind that wall and I heard him jump down, and my daughter and I got up and pulled the fridge out, I brought him to my bed. My younger daughter took him to her vet, but still no diagnosis. He just faded away one long Saturday afternoon, wrapped in a baby blanket in my daughter's arms. He was my "little man," and came to work in my office faithfully every day. I will say a prayer for you Hayseed, I know you are sick at heart. (Hugs)
Wise
Saw this on TV forever and it said
You would not be able to get a good signal WITHOUT getting a converter box. They said antenna would NOT work, no rabbit ears, nothing besides the converter box OR having something like cable or DSL. This was playing on and on and on for months. Did you not see?
Days since forever
My grandma watched, my mom watched, I think I watched in the womb. I was hooked by 6th grade and I still watch when I can get away from the computer, I try to at least catch the last 20 minutes to keep up. Sami and Lucas have been almost married so many times, it is boring. I love that they brought back Steve and Kayla, some of my faves from back in the day!!
"Stupid" isn't forever
the same as "intelligent" isn't forever.
Go in before Monday and buy the Forever
stamp, you buy it at the current rate and it is good no matter what the postage goes up to.
Only if you have Forever stamps....look on
xx
Maybe FOREVER! That's encouraging. Don't want HRT and physician
said long term HRT is a thing of the past, which I didn't know. Now, they only give them for 3-6 months. Mine went away for a couple of months, but back again, 15-20 a day, but no night sweats. I thought this stuff only lasted a year or so.
Well, if I am it is unintentional - I know they won't live forever (sm)
and I don't want to have regrets. I know one day if I have grandchildren I will want them to spend time with me. But I think I would be hurt to know they were crying not to spend time with me, and I would think if I knew that, I would try to spend time with them in other ways until they were happy and comfortable being with me. I have many friends whose children bounce up and down with joy over going to stay with their grandparents and I would love for it to be that way with mine.
Diamonds are Forever song
Thought you all might want to listen to the whole song that plays on the Diamonds are Forever ad.
Name of the artist is Landon Pigg. Name of the song is "Falling in Love in a Coffee Shop" or "Coffee Shop".
Style, voice, melody remind me of Harry Nilsson.
Song will play once page loads.
Enjoy.
http://www.myspace.com/landonpiggmusic
That's not a bad idea. he's forever putting
a few $$ here and a few $$ there in his gas tank and he has a steady girlfriend. Maybe a gift card to the movie theatre too! TY!
Good heavens, it's been forever, but...
... let's see, I left high school typing class (gulp) 39 years ago doing 52 wpm on a big ol' MANUAL typewriter that was bigger than a breadbox....
In 1980 I had to quit my first full-time MT job (back in the typewriter days) because I developed tendinitis in my wrists. After 2 months of not typing at all, I went to a temp agency to get some work because not eating is a bad way to live. They gave me the usual typing test. On an unfamiliar typewriter, typing unfamiliar material, not having typed for 2 months, feeling like I was CRAWLING, I clocked in at 104 wpm. (No wonder I burned out my wrists.)
Now we have ergonomics, expanders, tools and toys, and I have NO idea how fast I type, although when I bother to concentrate and not goof off, I can consistently and easily go at least 200 LPH.
Expect if you Google typing speed tests, you might find something. If you have the kind of Expander that works under the OS as opposed to the platform, you can even try a speed test using your expander, at least, just for the fun of it.... :)
i love her. I want her to keep saying what she thinks forever. It is so refreshing. He is a pig.
x
"If it's metal, it'll last forever"...sm
That's one of my dad's favorite sayings. He's a retired sheet metal fabricator. I had a plastic wheelbarrow that got a hole in it when loading it with wood to stack back in my prairie-woman days. He took a square piece of sheet metal, riveted it to the plastic, much like your chair, and 15 years later I am still using that wheelbarrow!
Carrying on here, but I just think this is so neat: When I moved in to my house I was lacking cabinet space. The kitchen had one of those closets with an ironing board in it. My father opened the closet and said "you ever gonna use this?" I only iron for weddings/funerals so I said no, had no need for it. He took the ironing board out, made 6 stainless steel shelves with 90 degree bent ends and drilled them into the cabinet. Canned goods and spices are now in there.
Sorry. Went from chairs to ironing boards. I am avoiding work today.
beauty fades, dumb is forever
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GO PHILS! Forever a Philly phanatic!...nm
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for blondie and forever pitbull owner
I thought you might like to read the below story.
http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/27704926?GT1=43001
Family is great but I am never back in my hometown where family is... So I always have extended fami
You can always pick your friends your stuck with your family. An Xmas for me is where my husband and kids come home to. It is what you make it!
Definitely understand that - you shouldn't have to have your property be forever a memorial! (sm)
you were VERY kind to leave it there and take care of it for six months. So ridiculous that people gave you a hard time. I'm sorry that happened to you! Bad enough that you have to know something so awful happened in front of your home without a constant reminder and strangers coming up to your house all the time. And it is not your job to maintain it for them. If the family understood, then certainly no one else should have any say whatsoever.
Unless you stay on it forever, you will regain any weight you lose.
People I used to work with went on that diet once. Weight loss varied (nobody lost a lot, just a couple of pounds) and nobody kept it off.
It was scary. Felt like it lasted FOREVER. Heard
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Summer. Friends or family? Family. Tired or Awake?
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Yeah! Make your life an exiting one, this keeps you young, forever!.
The birth certificate has NOTHING TO DO WITH IT!
You are as old as you feel and if you maintain yourself well, also OTHERS will see yuo young and say 'Wow'!
Example: Jane Fonda, she is
looks amazing, she is 71!
Big difference between family values and family jewels, eh? lol
LOL. I love this show. I think Gene and Shannon and her sister are a riot! What characters. It really is amazing to me the kids seem so laid back and so normal. They seem like great kids.
Does your family still do the early Sunday dinner w/family?
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SIL family, us and another family snacked,played
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family
No she did not have Daniel throughout his whole life but there were times when he shouldn't have been with her but her mother would not take him without money. She was living in a motel with a bfriend and Daniel. She was broke and it was not pretty she had some really rough times and she was not always the "playboy" girl she worked in some really raunchy clubs.
I dont know about a brother but it has been a long long time age I do remember meeting a "sister" once and lots of different "boyfriends". There was always someone with their hand out.
I give her mother the benefit of the doubt but look at how things are going and what her mother is doing. There have been lots of back and forths in Vergie and Nicki's relationship and none of it has EVER appeared loving. Nicki was not innocent but I think she grew up and moved on with her life and her mother still wants to talk about her little Vicki.
No one is perfect not me, not you neither was Nicki, but her past was her past and she needs to be laid to rest, she went to extremes to establish her wishes let her be. Nicki is gone but the baby is here and needs to be sheltered from all this hoopla!!!
when it is a family, the family tends to think
since an addition is being made to a family during pregnancy, a lot of families see themselves as pregnant - as one - as a whole unit...nothing wrong with it - actually makes the entire family participate in it, which is a GREAT thing............not like the men of the 1950s who went to work and the moms did absolutely everything else....I like men/families who WANT to take part and be involved.
Old fashioned or not - I prefer the way the men participate today in all of it..........makes for better communication and all know what's going on in the family....
FYI to all, keep your old fashioned minds open because a closed mind will make you old WAY before your time.
There are 4 in our family and we each sm
get to pick one definite thing to do. My hubby says that is his pick. LOL
All the best for you and your family and keep..sm
 Keep us posted here - I will remember your *handle* countrymt and will be on the lookout for your posts!!!
I have family down there
My husband is originally from Boston, and we go down about once a month or so for a few days to visit his parents, brother, etc. It's kind of like a second home for me!
Family
My heart goes out to you, as I too understand that kind of pain from family. Just know that it is not you that is causing this rift. It is your brother, not his wife even though it is obvious that she is doing the manipulating. Your brother should not be able to be manipulated so easily by his wife's insecurities and jealousy of your relationship. Unfortunately in life, and in families perceptions get screwed up with time, and distance, and if one does not hold true to their fondness of one another, or respect or what I call the family gene that holds a family together through thick or thin, then there is nothing you can do about this situation. He obviously cannot hold true to his feelings for you because of his wife's insecurities. Just let things be and don't become bitter or begin to cut yourself off. Sometimes things change down the road for the better.
re: family
Yes it is sad that the family unit is being seen less and less. Yes self control is a responsibility....but that comes from the Lord...that is a fruit of the Spirit...so what I'm saying is it is our sin nature to stray and we will be held accountable for that sin...the only way to be forgiven for it is to ask Jesus for forgiveness and accept Him as our Saviour...don't know if I'm wording this correctly....
I pray that you get what I'm trying to say that we all need Jesus...I pray that I worded correctly...
Yes, my family sm
DH and my mom didn't get along well (although she was quite controlling and wanting to run our lives after we got married, and I do understand where he was coming from). Eleven years ago we moved 300 miles away. Now I see my mom and other relatives only very occasionally. Luckily she can come see us once in a while. I have to beg DH to go there, and my vision is so bad I can't drive it myself.
I haven't been "home" in 2-1/2 years this time. And yeah, I regret it.
I miss my mom, my family and my friends. But DH is never gonna change, and I have 3 kids, and I'm stuck. :(
My family went to while once and after just
10 seconds inside my DD backed out. My DH valiantly stayed with her while I went through with DS. I asked before hand to make sure they could not touch me...that is my biggest fear also. They told me there was defintely a "No Touch Rule". My DH and DD told the guy at the front my name so I heard all through house my name being repeated in a very spooky voice. One "monster" did come right up to me and I just kept saying "no touch rule, no touch rule, no touch rule". He stuck to the rules and I did feel better after that. Needless to say DS loved every minute of it.
To you and your family
My heart goes out to you and all the people in CA dealing with this horrendous threat. In the national news this a.m. (Wednesday) they stated conditions are improving in order for the firefighters to try to get in and attack these monstrous fires. Best of luck to you all. Keep us posted, if at all possible.
I have family there and know quite a bit about it. sm
Anything specific, such as area? Jobs?
family
Hey, Hayseed - You can adopt our family. We have enough of this kind of stuff going on, we can keep you feeling "loved" for the rest of your life! Seriously, have great nieces and nephew who desparately need to be loved. Your're welcome any time.
Here's what we do in our family....
I work 2 jobs, my husband and son scrap for extra money. They go out the night before garbage day, or the morning of. We have a flat trailer that has different buckets on it and they sort everything they find. They have break down the big stuff into its components and smaller pieces. You would be amazed at what the scrap yards will take and how much they pay.
For my family
It has had an effect on some with job loss and problems finding a new job. Luckily for me and my hubs we have been able to hold ours. Gas prices are outrageous as well as groceries, I have noticed the same as you. We live in an area where you have to drive quite a distance for any work - hence my decision to work at home in transcription and take a paycut. Had I known nearly 10 years ago that it would cost so much in gas we wouldn't be living where we do...but that's hindsight and nothing I can do about that now. We have talked about selling our house and moving but that seems like a lost cause. Working at home has definitely payed
off as every time gas prices go up, in a roundabout way I feel like I have gotten a raise.
I am buying generic more often and we have cut back on junk food. No chips, ice cream, soda, anything. We just can't afford it. If I'm going to spend the money I want to spend it knowing we are getting nutrition packed in.
we also grew a garden this summer to help cut back on produce costs.
Very much like my family - 2 each + 1 together sm
My biological mom moved out of state when I was in 3rd grade, and my stepmom's first husband had died in a car accident. Plus my sister and stepbrother are less than 2 months' apart in age, which mostly didn't get noticed because she moved out of state with my mom while I stayed with my dad. The only thing that caused confusion was that my stepsister and I have almost identical names (similar first name, same middle name, last name with same first initial), and the oldest 4 of us all have names starting with M. When my brother was born, they gave him name starting with J 
my family has quite a few ...
some others below posted a couple we do - peanut butter and banana ( which I have decided to save for when I'm toothless :D ) and peanut butter and dill pickles, but I prefer it on toast, lotsa crunch!
My grandfather liked peanut butter with thick slices of walla walla sweet onions and put enough garlic powder on the peanut butter you couldn't see it's color. When I was little he told me one time it's why he never got sick, I said sure, nobody will get close enough to give you their germs!
My mom loves to put ketchup on just about anything, especially scrambled eggs. She also used to buy the cans of Campbell's bean with bacon condensed soup and make a sandwich with it, with ketchup, of course!
My brother was/is addicted to salt. We used to find the salt shaker hidden in his room where the top was all crusted over from licking it to eat the salt. :P
gotta admit my family is weird to say the least! lol
I'm so sorry for you and your family
Losing a pet is always so hard. Sending your whole family love and hugs.
family
I find it interesting that when a young woman posted that her mother and grandmother were abusing her, no one felt sorry for her. Everyone one told her to forgive and forget. I also find it interesting how judgemental everyone was about who was the victim. That the grandmother and the mother were the victim and not the daughter. It seems ironic given the long, long, long, posts on domestic violence this morning.
Our family pet
has eye problems as well. She can barely see any more and we help her get around. We make sure she is fed at the same time every day, in the same place. The vet wants her to lose weight but she is fat and happy and at 13 years old we feel that is the most important for her. She is a small dog and still gets around well but we take her outside and watch her closely. I understand how difficult it is to watch and see a pet deteriorate.
We lost this dog's Aunt 2 years ago. She had many more health problems but was still perky and able to get around well. She died while we were at work and the vet said it was most likely heart failure. She never suffered though.
I feel for your loss. It is never something easy and will be with you forever. But I think it is important to remember the good times and the positive impact that the pet had in your life. It's too bad there is not more options for comfort care for our pets like there is for humans. Our family would have been so empty without any of these pets. My pets are truely my babies.
Family
Wanted to let you know you are not alone. I went through a similar situation myself. I married this wonderful man, and while I knew he had really down moments, I did not realize they were to that extent. After moving 10 hours away from my parents and support system of friends I found out some very shocking news. He had bipolar manic depressive disorder. I loved this man, I even allowed him to adopt my son. Then the worst thing happened, I came home to find him sitting on the floor with a knife. I was scared so of course I called his father and mother. We checked him into a facility and while doing the interview/intake my MIL relates to the nurse that he had previously attempted to take his life. He had done this several times. I sat there in shock I knew nothing of this. I can clearly remember the look in my FIL eyes when he seen that I was not privy to this information. I was hurt and angry and still am to an extent. I still love this man to this day but had to let him go as that is what he wanted. My inlaws and I had several long talks one resulting in me becoming so angry I told my mother in law that she was allowing this behavior and I thought she was to blame for all of his problems. If she had been a better mother this would not be happening. I hurt her that night and I regret it now. When I did make amends she told me she knew I was just hurt scared and needed to vent. I think you will find that is what you have done. There will come a time for you to make your amends, when you are ready. I do not feel that you were being out of line when you said these things. That is how you feel. We have to own our feelings because running from them will never help. You are hurting right now. My guess is you are frustrated as well. Help was all you asked for and none was provided. You have a right to those feelings. I would just drop this idea of another email. Why do you have to be sorry? You have children and a husband who is ill concentrate on them. They need you. Best of luck to you and your family.
family first
How about everyone promise to not get divorced, put their families first, and do everything possible to provide stability for their children?
I have to see if anyone in my family - sm
is even on Facebook. I do have a page there, but make sure I don't post anything I that would be "harmful" to me. The worst thing I have on there is a picture a friend posted of me standing on the beach in a one piece bathing suit, well covered, plus I am flat as a board it it at 16...still am, and don't post anything bad, naughty or stupid. I will check out the prepaid options though, especially once I know what our monthly usage is from verizon, so have a month to check around I guess and make sure I don't get sucked into anything more than I pay now.
family
I always let the kids have parties with their friends instead. We don't include family. They would take it as milking them for gifts, so we invite them over when they are not required to bring anything. My family does not send my kids gifts for their birthdays.
If she has family, let them know that is going on
My mom used to do that. UPS was always stopping at her place delivering something from QVC or HSN EVERY DAY! I soon found out that she had maxed out all her credit cards. She was going into early dementia stages and really didn't remember ordering all that stuff, and all she really had was $500 a month SS, yet her CC payments were close to that a month because of it. That's when I stopped watching, too.
If this woman has family, I'd let them know about it, so they could try to stop it before it gets out of hand.
Family
I need some advice. I married my husband almost 3 yrs. ago. I have an adopted son from a previous marriage. My husband's family is very close, sisters all live within walking distance of each other. They have never experienced life without the other. I did not have family very close like that while growing up so it took some getting used to. Which I thought I had. Until this. Little over a year and a half ago my husband's grandmother died. My father in law put together a memorial CD to be played at the service, afterwards we all recieved a copy. Which was very nice. I still have it.
Since my husband and I both work and we have a son who at this point in time cannot stay by himself, and because my husbands mother loves him he goes there until one of us get done with work. Yes I make sure she is paid. My son came home last week and asked me if he would be sad like everyone at grandmas house when I died. I was taken aback. Mainly because I haven't really thought about dying and I was confused about the question. When I asked him to explain to me what he was talking about this is what I got.
Well every morning at grandmas she makes us watch the great grandma video her and the other aunts all cry and carry on. It is to the point that the youngest in the family who was only 3 weeks old when grandma died comes over as well and cries. Grandma died in January of 07.
I approached my husband with this and he sees no problem with it. That is just how it is. Ever since I brought up my concerns he has shut me out. I am not invited to family things. If I make an effort to try they shut me down. I can't go to my husband because he is the same way. I guess I am not sure what or how to handle this. My husband and his family are great people. I am just getting tired of being called a liar and trouble maker.
I told my son it is not healthy for this to happen he is 12. I told him when something does happen to me, I know he will be sad for awhile but I would not want him to carry on like what is happening right now. We all have a season to love, live, give, and make the world we know a little better just by being here. I know grandma would be sick if she saw this. I am concerned this will break apart our marriage as the family bond is VERY THICK. Please let me know what the appropriate thing to do would be in this case.
Thanks
Family
Perhaps if families like yours wouldn't take stuff they really don't need, restaurants wouldn't have to charge $13 for a plate of spaghetti...they could keep their costs down and not have to pass it on to the consumer if they didn't have to supply people with packets of sweetner and breadsticks that they don't need!
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