Facility was so ticked with agency, no way you

• advise - elonmt
  • That is too bad - sm
  • If U do apply for job, approach that facility and U - were victims of agency. You were not responsible.
  • advice - elonmt
    • Can you talk to facility and find out if mistakes - were prob? If they say no, call agency.
      • Maybe, if agency lying, you can get any fees back - & get out of contract(?) so U can apply after vaca
  • I think I have this straight- - Advice to you
    • My take is agency knew of vaca. but didnt tell - faciltiy when suppling the MT. Agency fault, not M
      • Seems to me, agency so glad to hire out MT, just - hoped vacation issue worked itself out. nm
  • After vacation, go to facility and apply? This might - not be possible depending on contract with agency.
  • Do you think they would take - truffle
  • Facility was so ticked with agency, no way you - would come out ok. Agency prob, not yours. nm
  • This is not a "you" problem. This is a "them" - problem, for sure. Dont beat yourself up over it.

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My kids and I have been staying with my folks for a little over a month.  I left a mentally abusive situation that my kids didn't need to see any longer.  I had found out from an attorney about a year ago that it was perfectly legal for me to do so if I felt unsafe.  Of course, Hubby was mad that I left, and took "his" kids, never mind that he drove me to the decision.  I've been willing to have him come & visit them here, as long as he doesn't make trouble, because I know they shouldn't be kept from him completely.  However, he called the other day, and wanted me to meet him somewhere to talk.  I had suggested it a month ago & it wouldn't work--because it was my idea.  Next, he said he was going to come & get them for the weekend.  My lawyer had told me that I didn't have to agree to him taking them, and he would then need a court order to do so.  So--he showed up with his parents tonight.  Unfortunately, both kids were right there.  Things were fine, until he demanded that he was taking the kids for the weekend.  I told him he couldn't, because I don't trust him to bring them back, since we don't have visitation rules established.  Secondly, DS has an ear infection & has been up half the night for the last several nights.  Before, he couldn't handle the two of them for a few hours by himself, so why does he think he can handle a whole weekend?   He's lied to me too many times before for me to be able to trust him.  (Who in their right mind would sign on a car loan for someone he knew his wife didn't trust, even if he thought he did, then lie to her about it, putting them in financial distress?  Who in their right mind would turn his wife in to the Department of Children and Family Services for simply spanking a misbehaving child? (She told his mother some tale about getting pushed as why she had a very small scratch on her chin.  Grandma wasn't smart enough to believe that she was telling stories to get attention.  She'd been telling us all kinds of wild things.)   Who in his right mind would take his wife 2 hrs. from home for prenatal testing, and demand she turn off her cell phone so that if her family wanted to talk to her to make sure everything was ok, they had to go through him.  Who in his right mind would call his FIL a SOB, when he was just trying to help out? (over the car issue)  We all had some pretty heated words, and when they left (without the kids), Mom & Dad turned on me!  This hasn't been easy for any of us, but I think their expectations are a little too unrealistic.  Their house isn't child-proofed, yet they get upset if  my 2 y/o DS gets hold of something of theirs that he shouldn't have (my dad's car magazines).  I've told them to put away things they don't want the kids messing with, but they say it's their house & they shouldn't have to do that.  They also think I should be right behind the kids, picking up after them, or insisting they do it.  I did that (picked up after her constantly) when DD was little.  Found out it was all I got done & quit being such a fanatic about it.  Mom never did get the concept that my house may not have been as perfectly kept as hers, but my kids were happy that I took the time to spend with them instead of being totally busy all the time.  They've also reverted to treating me like a little kid, with chores and all.  No, I don't mind helping out, but I don't want to be treated like a maid, either.  I got enough of that in my own house.  I'm so sick of all the disrespect from everyone.  And, at one point, they actually wondered why it seemed that DD didn't respect me!  Well, her dad didn't for one, and now it seems that no one else is, either.  I really don't need this in front of the kids!

 At this point, I'm seriously considering getting out of here as soon as I can get my furniture from my own house.  No income right now, but I'm in training for a work-from-home job, so the money should be there soon.  Luckily, there are apartments nearby that are income-based.  Last I knew, they were pretty nice.

Thanks for letting me vent!

Considering Santa Claus was, in fact, a real human being and did exactly what the "myth" states in terms of presents for children and such (he didn't have reindeer and didn't commit B&E), the teacher was undoubtedly wrong and way out of line.  That would be like the teacher saying, "Johnny, the reason you have bright red hair and your parents are both brunettes is because you're adopted" or something equally invading.  Extreme comparison, I know, but to a child not emotionally ready to let go of Santa, the reaction could be as devastating.

Does anyone know who I should contact, or if I have anything to complain about regarding a collection agency out of Texas. I used to actually work for a collection agency 20+ years ago out of Florida, and we would NEVER have been able to say what these people have said to me via phone, let alone in a letter I just opened. Long story short, yes, I owe HSN $200+ for a computer I bought on a payment plan of $135 a month. Before I was done with payment #2, it broke, and thus began months and months of me sending this junk back and forth with Gateway. It was a lemon model, thus why it was offered for 5 payments on HSN. After I made payment #2 and Gateway had the computer for repairs more than we had it to use, I called HSN. In no uncertain words, the sales rep told me "you bought it, you deal with it". There were lots of reviews at this point on HSN and all buyers were furious, as it was junk. HSN quickly removed the computer and reviews. So, yes, I have been lax in paying it, but it didn't even last 2 months. At any rate, they throw me to a collection agency, who calls at least 15 times a day. I am sending them payments. I get a letter today that actually says they are going to "ASSEMBLE AN INVESTIGATIVE REPORT WHICY WILL OR MAY INCLUDE...INFORMATION AS TO MY CHARACTER AND GENERAL REPUTATION"... the caps and bold are their writing. It then goes on to say that I should send $$ immediately as they have "NO DESIRE TO CAUSE ME EMBARASSMENT"... Can they word things this way? I have never in all my life seen anything worded to this effect, as obviously, even though they use the word "may", it is a direct insinuation to scare me that they are going to ruin my reputation and are questioning my character, and threatening embarassment.  Seriously, has anyone ever seen this before? I don't have a lot of experience with agencies, other than working for one decades ago, and hearing horror stories on TV shows about stuff like this, which I could not believe! Does anyone have any thoughts on who I could contact?  I wonder if HSN knows this agency is saying personal stuff like this? I know companies just farm out their old debts to agencies.  Again, its a tough one for me to swallow, as the computer never lasted even halfway thru their 5 easy payment plan, but I have recognized the debt and am paying, albeit at $50 every 2 weeks. But this insulting letter was just the icing on the cake for me.  Do you think its legal?

My husband and I have an account which we feel we don't owe.  We cancelled it within the amount of time we thought we had to cancel, but were later told the contract for services was not cancellable (a vacation timeshare).  The original amount was only $1,000.

Since that time, the timeshare company has sold our "debt" to a third party collection agency, Apelles.  They call at all hours and even on weekends.  Since I have caller ID, most of the time I don't even answer.  This morning, however, they called at 8:45 and woke up my kids.  I was a little annoyed, to say the least, and I'm just wondering:  Does anyone have any personal experience with this company.  I'm thinking about sending a Cease and Desist letter, but I'm worried that that will trigger them to take me to court.  Has anyone ever been sued by Apelles?  I would think our amount is too small to be worth their time and that they would just try to sell it to another agency.  Any thoughts?