Extenuating circumstances?
Posted By: SM on 2007-06-19
In Reply to: they have joint custody w/dad being primary... - oh puhleeze, sometimes there are....sm
If the child is in custody of a parent, that parent puts that child first and provides.
However, the parent that does not have custody has options and only pays a MINIMUM of support. Then, if things get tight, etc., the CS is what gets left off.
I'm telling you that before you put food in your own mouth, pay your own bills, put a roof over your head, put clothes on your own back, or even pay taxes - you should be paying that child support.
It matters not if the NCP is a male or female. It doesn't matter if they are employed or not. GET A JOB - there are thousands. PAY THAT SUPPORT.
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No it is not, under any circumstances
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Considering my circumstances I am looking - sm
forward to the holidays. I'm the one with the mega debt who confessed to her DH a month ago, etc. We will have his debts paid off in full in about 10 days. I still have quite a mess though. We sold back 2 weeks of his vacation time (lucky for us his work allows you to do this) and half of that is paying for Christmas, the rest is being banked in our savings account which needs restoking (used to have $5K in it but only $200 now). We are taking a night and going to the beach to see the lights (free hotel stay due to his travel points) and a nice dinner-- all of this is his idea too--, and he suggested I go up (with the kids of course) and spend New Years with my friends/family up in PA so I am surprised about that. He is going to try to come too for a day or two to have a late Christmas with my family as well. Things are all roses, but considering everything I am looking forward to seeing my dad and one of my brothers, the other is in England and his family is going there to spend Christmas with him in Ireland with his wife's family there. But DH is trying really hard, he even bought me a dozen roses on my birthday a couple days ago and a really nice card, I couldn't have been more surprised....normally I get nada, not even a card. Granted my daughter told him to get me flowers, but still, he went over the top. But I digress as usual....everyone just needs to stay within what they can afford, we are cutting back some of course, but I have a bit more wiggle room now that I have that vacation money coming. Do it every year and it is a lifesaver.
I don't know the circumstances around
you wanting to leave your husband, but there is NO painless way. Children are ALWAYS the ones hurt most by a divorce. My parents were divorced, and I was divorced...no one wins. That's the only advice I can give you. The grass is not always greener on the other side.
same situation different circumstances
we aren't legally married but my SO and I have been together for 8+ years. We were young, smoked weed, went out all hours of the night, drank and I loved being with somebody that is a lead singer in a band.
Fast forward to today. We have kids. He still does all of the above and I don't. I think he's silly and childish for still doing all that and not growing up enough to stop it. He still works for his mother in another town in her convienence store making $6 an hour and there is no way we will ever be able to get a house. he refuses to get a real job or carreer because he thinks he has going to make it big one day. Plus when he does come home all he does is yell and complain. Part of me loves him, but honestly I love his mom more than him and him helping with the bills. Plus he does do all the "man" stuff like moving furniture and fixing things.
I said all that to say I know how it feels to be torn. Sometimes I just wish he would get amnesia so I could just train him all over again LOL
Used to work in a bank, under some circumstances...
they will waive the fees, as another poster said, call them and explain the situation. I would do this occasionally after looking over the person' s account and taking a few things into consideration. Overdraft protection, as stated before, is a great idea too. I keep a $400 to $500 cushion in my account; as far as I am concerned, when I only have that much in there I consider it $0. BTW, how can you not know when DH gets paid? Is he on commission or something? Good luck, call the bank, they should be able to help you.
I say, 'Let it grow!' And under no circumstances -
should you (or anyone else) grow old 'gracefully'. Fight it every inch of the way. If the 'cats' are making remarks about your hair, it's probably because they're jealous.
I'm 58, and like yours, mine is still mostly light brown, and I occasionally highlight it, too, but only when I feel like it. I had it cut shoulder-length a few years ago and hated it -- they ironed it straight and turned in under, and made me look like every soccer mom in my neighborhood, which I am totally NOT. Some people make good short-hair people, and some people don't. And I'm one of 'em.
I have a friend a little younger than me, and her hair is waist-length, VERY thick and beautiful, and salt-and-pepper, with a lot more salt than pepper. I've gone back to growing mine out, and now have a long ponytail. It should hit waist-length in the next year or so, and that's right where I want it. I'll probably still have a long ponytail when I'm 80, too. And if I don't like the gray hairs, then maybe I'll dye them purple.
So let the catty neighbors all walk around looking like dowdy old clones, and in the meantime you'll be happy being your normal, beautiful-haired self.
under normal circumstances, absolutely sm
not! The government has no business telling folks how to raise their kids, etc. etc. Government has too much control as it is.
ON THE OTHER HAND-I read where this 13-year-old boy cannot read! This all came out when they were saying he agreed with his mother and all this kind of stuff. If the boy can't read, what is this mother doing with this kid? Has he not been in school, etc. etc? I am wondering what else is really going on in that household.
I am neutral on this but will say those circumstances where you were intimate were not terribly sexy
I don't see medical care in any way similar to sexy people dancing against each other in sexy ways ;-)
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