Exactly, he will find a way, and don't be surprised at how his attitude changes.
Posted By: What little I know on 2008-01-14
In Reply to: My instincts are telling me you're right (sm) - Money question
When I ran out of money and into debt over him, he was becoming friendlier and friendlier with other women. He also would "pout" and get so depressed when he didn't have money. Well, he knew how to work that because there I was, the caretaker wanting to make him so happy so he would love me so I'd borrow money to give to him. It makes me want to throw up now and I'm sick just thinking how dumb I was. Please smarten now. Real men don't borrow money from a women. Bottom line. Your not married.. move on. JMO
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I guess I am getting hormonal but sometimes my beloved family gets to me. I have a cousin that had a baby about a year ago and she doesn’t want her child around my children because they “go to daycare and she does not want them getting her child sick.” Okay, if that is the way she wants it then that is the way she can have it so I don’t go to her house. Well, she calls and says she has something for my child who is a 3 months older than her child asked if I could drop by and pick it up. I said I could but I had my 5 yo with me, my little one was with her granny. She said that’s okay just come get it so I go over there and we visit for a while. My 5 yo child was interested in looking at her baby cousin says “don’t touch her, don’t go around her because you go to daycare.” I told her well, she has had a bath. (This was when her baby was about 4 months old.) She said I don’t want your kids getting mine sick. Well her child is now 1 year old and it has had ear infections, stomach bug, just about everything that goes around and she was telling me about it, I told her well my little one was sick last week but she got over it already. She says “well your kids are going to get sick, they go to daycare. I have to protect my child." She says my 5 yo is too rough with my 16 mo. She does get rough but if you call her down she stops and she has mellowed since dd was first born. She says my 5 yo was too wild. Actually she is not. I have had her in daycare and I this year she started pre-K and I have yet to have anyone say that she was a discipline problem. I asked the daycare provider even and she said she doesn’t have any problems with her, just the typical 5 yo stuff.
Another thing, as worried as she is about her baby getting sick….the other day I go over to her house because she said she had sold my piano (with permission, her mother was buying her a dining table and she needed more room) and the buyers had left the check with her. She had clothes stacked up on all her furniture, dried food on the baby’s highchair, papers scattered everywhere, diapers falling out of the trash can, dried food on the baby’s walker and bouncy seat.
I think those daycare comments bit her in the butt though. One day, after I dropped my little one off, the director of the daycare asked me if I had seen cousin’s baby lately. I told her no that I don’t go around her because she said my kids are germy and go to daycare. The director stepped back and said “oh bull” I swear did not know that later that day my cousin was going to apply for a job there so her kid could stay for free but the daycare director turned her down. My cousin told that she went over there to look for a job. I did not tell her about the conversation I had with the director earlier that day.
I usually like my cousin but it just seems that since she had this baby she seems to think her stuff doesn’t stink.
What a sad attitude!
I'm sure your attitude was formed by your life experiences, and I'm sorry that the men in your life have not treated you better. My life has always been full of the most wonderful men, and I can tell you that there are lots and lots of good ones out there! I am the youngest of 7 and the only girl. My neighborhood growing up was just full of boys, but only two girls lived on our street. I'm married to a fine man, have three nearly grown sons who are also fine men, and have more male friends than female friends. I'm also an assistant scoutmaster with a boy scout troop where our goal is to help boys travel a path into an honorable manhood.
I'm also a firm believer that a wonderful relationship between a father and daughter sets her up for good relationships with men all of her life. I was lucky to have an amazing father who made sure I knew how valuable I was to the world.
I also think it's true that when we have self-respect, we attract respectful people. I know that not all men (or women) are good people. When the bad ones come along, they can steal away our confidence and self-respect. It's a hard fight to build ourselves back up after bad relationships, but it's not impossible! And believe me, there are just as many good men lamenting about not being able to find a good woman!
with that attitude you won't have it sm
handed to you for too long! You will get older and he will get tired or your self-serving, you owe it to me attitude.
If your neighbors are like you then you really must live in one miserable neighborhood..........at least miserable for normal people!
What attitude? I just did not understand
when you said we, I knew only females got pregnant or thought they did anyway and I had no idea you were meaning your husband was pregnant also or whatever role he was playing. Does this also include the physician in the we being pregnant? Please enlighten me because when I was having children it was me that was pregnant but like I said maybe things have changed..I thought by saying we you were including females - had no idea you were talking a male.
btw, with your attitude, if you have daughters
I'd be willing to bet they would have an abortion behind your back rather than suffer your judgment by having a baby at a young age or out of wedlock. Would that feel good on your conscience? You could be missing out on the joy of grandbabies!
You have the right attitude, everybody should live like that...nm
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Nice attitude, there. Can we apply that to MTs, too?!
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Amy, I hope your better than everyone else attitude gets an adjustment soon!
Big deal, so you could do it. Kids need more than beans and potatos on the plate! Calm down sweetie, that's what assistance is for; don't begrudge others who have had to resort to it. It takes a lot more courage to ask for help than to try to scrape by on your own.
your Trailer Park attitude is probably not helping
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attitude: going to the Christmas program with hate in your heart. More important you watch that,sm
than your kids still believe in a mythical fat man who brings presents.
Find a lawyer, find out where you would stand - sm
in the event of a divorce/separation, regarding custody, house, etc. Custody was my main concern as well since I lied on numerous occasions about the finances. Where I am I was told that would not factor in to the custody at all. I can prove that I am my kids caregiver 90% of the time, I ferry they around everywhere, help with homework, get ready for school, meet at busstop, etc. I could also point out my husband is an alcoholic, self treats his depression with alcohol instead of getting proper medical treatment, has threatend to kill himself (or me) numerous times (though he always says he was joking and did not mean it.....that is his standard answer to everything, or that he never said that). Now I do love him enough to deal with all that because deep down inside my DH is full of it, luckily for me, he has never followed through on anything he says he is going to do. But I thought my confession would be the straw that broke it all and send him over the edge. He still is angry with me, I am sure he will be for a long time, but is keeping it together pretty well, though he has said the stress was going to kill him, now he know how I felt I guess. I am sorry your husband is such a smuck. I feel like a dog sometimes with the sex demands, have to do it the night before he goes out of town....he will be traveling a lot for work for the next 3-4 months, which I am more than glad about, much calmer here then, though it gets tiring for me but as he is not really helping much right now it really won't be much of a change. As for yours going on 5 day weekends.....have you considered having him followed, sounds like there may be some infidelity afoot, and if so that would strengthen your case in the event of a divorce and custody I would think. Sounds a bit fishy going out until 1 a.m. and his frequent trips. My DH fishes too, but he goes 2 miles from here with one of our male neighbors, they shoot the breeze and he gets to unwind some which I encourage. Very rare weekends with a buddy of his, I am talking once every 2 years, which again is fine with me. Start keeping track of all you do, when he is home, where he supposedly goes, with whom, etc. He cannot show he will be a responsible dad if he is never there or never interacts with his own kids. My DH would probably suggest I take our older daughter and he the younger, spliting them up, he has the same perception, the oldest is mine, the youngest is his. Our younger daughter is much easier to deal with, our older daughter drives him nuts and she is only 10. My younger one (8) knows something has been going one though, and worries we will divorce, which she does not want. She is very perceptive for her years. I hope that if you do go the divorce route, which would actually probably be best in your situation, that it all works out for you and you get your fair share of assets, etc. Make sure before you do anything like that you have all your ducks in a row, so talk to divorce lawyer. I talked to one for 45 minutes, cost me $160 but was worth it to set my mind at ease. Good luck.
I was surprised, but I saw it for $1.99
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Here's what my son did, and I was surprised
My son has been seeing a particular dermatologist since he was 16. He's 19 now. We've NEVER waited less than 90 minutes past our appointment time to see this doc, and the longest we've waited was 2 hours and 10 minutes. We've never received explanations or even apologies. Well, one day my son missed his appointment and was charged $50. I told him that was on him. As bad as it is that we've waited for the doc in the past, it was my son's responsibility to keep the appointment when scheduled.
So my son did a little research and found out that the practice is owned by our local private hospital. He wrote a check for $50 and wrote a letter to the office manager, copied the doctor, and then copied the practice manager and whoever heads the medical practice management group at the hospital. He gave dates and lengths of waits at previous appointments. He explained that he was willing to pay for his missed appointment, but that he wanted everyone involved in the management of this dermatology practice to know that the consistently excessive waits past appointment times were not acceptable, as his time is valuable to him.
He received a letter from the practice manager who apologized and returned his check to him! We don't know if the wait times have improved at this practice, because my son decided to see another dermatologist who sees her patients on time.
Anyone surprised? Not . . .
Lindsay Lohan in jail again - what a dodo. Can't she afford a driver? I think she's really going down this time.
I am surprised this still goes on,
Who would paddle her. At 14, she is a young lady. Some adults get a sexual defiancy out of administering that and I would never, ever let someone take a hand to my children. It sends the wrong message.
Not surprised
As a former teacher, I can tell you that 98% of kids will tell you that their parents or grandparents are their heroes. Yes, they get enthused about sports stars, movie people, TV people, etc., but kids are not fooled about the important things. As your daughter indicated in her essay, they are most impressed with how we adults treat other people. They especially notice how we treat the people who cannot do anything for us - other people's kids, the obnoxious parents at the sports events,the homeless, those among us who are impaired intellectually or physically, etc.
I am surprised
how much this question has made me reflect on the differences in parenting and some of the similarities, too. My parents never had a problem saying no, which was final, no matter how much our feelings might be hurt. I realize now they probably did not like to hurt our feelings, but things were totally opposite then; they had more morals than money!
Surprised.
I would really hate to think a lack of an organism would be a driving force towards divorce. I love my husband with all my heart and here 10 years later and never had one! I enjoy sex tremendously and have achieved 1 in the past but not with him. While making that blanket statement about a driving force towards divorce, you say the ex left instead of your husband leaving. Maybe he is not the most pleasing guy you think he is. Just my observation.
Not surprised at all
When she was alive and I'd see her here and there on TV that snake was always with her. I always believed he was drugging her big time. If he truly cared about her he would have given her the help she really needed - to get off the drugs. But since I believed he was supplying her I figured he had some monetary stake in it. So glad he was not given custody of her baby daughter.
Not surprised at all
When she was alive and I'd see her here and there on TV that snake was always with her. I always believed he was drugging her big time. If he truly cared about her he would have given her the help she really needed - to get off the drugs. But since I believed he was supplying her I figured he had some monetary stake in it. So glad he was not given custody of her baby daughter.
What I wonder is was he supplying Anna's son with the drugs as well?
Is anybody really surprised by this? sm
Obviously, the stress clinic came a little too late for this soldier. Having been connected with the military for nearly 50 years, I believe they have never done enough mental health wise for their people. Most soldiers in the military today STILL will not admit they might have stress issues and need help because this all goes in their military record that follows them from one assignment to the next and can prevent them from advancing in their careers. So, what do most of them do when under so much stress they feel they are going to explode? Beat their spouses or commit suicide. My husband was in the Middle East as a contractor for a year. The things he saw on a daily basis were unimaginable to those of us in the good old USA. Mind you, he was there by choice and could have left at any time. Besides dead bodies being loaded onto planes daily, he saw soldiers coming in from the field looking worn down and so depressed they had no emotions at all. Factor in one problem from home or a letter or e-mail that does not arrive when it should and it is no wonder there is not more of this happening. Shame on the military for not taking better care of their people!!! 
Won't the be surprised next month
This happened to an older friend of mine. Poor thing couldn't get another policy to save her life, and it wasn't a cosmetic issue, it was like entire siding pieces that flew off of her house. Oh, they and came fixed it, then they dropped her like a bad disease. They'd better be careful. Just a friendly warning... I don't know if I'd let the homeowner's insurance in on that deal, I'd cut my losses and replace the carpet.
You would really be surprised as maybe this is how your hubby is but
this man likes to watch Animal Channel along with me. We have been married for 7 years now and I can truthfully say he never drools, shy, quiet and reserved. More women could use a hubby like mine!
You would be surprised at what people--sm
do and do not wear at these types of functions these days. Personally, I would dress a little bit up, but I have seen people in shorts and khaki pants, as well, not to mention jeans, as well as gowns. Totally up to you. I would say nothing is taboo, as long as you are dressed. been there. Have fun!
You know, I wouldn't be surprised (sm)
if there are A LOT of effects from microwave cooking that we don't know about. It's scary when you think about what you could be doing to yourself EVERYDAY.
I am surprised myself at how low my cholesterol is
and so was my physician. My hubs very much against eating red meat but he knows I love a steak which I eat less of now since we married. When physician remarked about how good level is, he told me tell hubby alright about that steak and just about anything. No worries here but thanks anyway.
You did right. Surprised so many parents ok with
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I am surprised you work if you don't have to - sm
but where would you be I wonder if your wonderful doormat of a husband lost his job. I am from the Philly area and it is pricey depending on where you are, and jobs are not stable now. So unless he has his own business that is doing quite well I would get off my high horse. You could end up like to poor rich folks who lost every penny to that con artist Madoff. My DH and I had $400K saved until the downturn, now it is about $300K. We only have a mortgage too but lots of monthly bills too which add up to about $3500 a month. We do not think we are better than anyone else. I guess you don't eat, or have phone bills, electric bills, college funds, life insurance, health insurance, etc. One of my husband's paychecks easily pays our mortgage too, and it will be paid off in less than 4 years, but you don't see me bragging to everyone how great my life and finances are. We have ups and downs like anyone else, and no I don't "have" to work but if I didn't we would not have more than $200 left over each month, and that is no way to live if you can help it. You'd better hope to *ell that your DH does not lose his job though, or your perfect little world will come crashing down.
I took a class and was very surprised...
I knew the actual delivery would hurt, but really had no idea how badly the contractions would hurt. I am really not sure what I expected, but not the gut wrenching pain that I got. I did make it through 48 hours of very difficult labor before I opted for the epidural, though.
You would be surprised what docs can
get away with in a hospital setting. Been there.
I know! I was surprised it was Jeffrey too....and what about Top Chef?!!? ; )
Hooked on that too!
You were surprised she got it? A cat's instincts for birds, especially, are sm
great. They keep their eyes on it and it's over. Especially a young one. So sad. I hate the circle of life. All of our goats were attacked and killed by neighborhood dogs a few weeks ago and people are telling me, "Oh well, that's what dogs do!" I wanted to slap them.
Well, with his current predicament, I'm not surprised
Is he careless or just stoopid? lol
What surprised? Things happen everywhere
Have televison on as I work and live reports- a noose found on door of a black educator at Columbia College in New York - yes things happen like this elsewhere, not just the south and another high school shooting in Cleveland, Ohio this time. People are saying shocked it happened at both places. College people said the people there are educated. I don’t know if education has to do with racism. I wonder if and when things like this might be a thing of the past.
Was anyone surprised that Howard Stern
has been arrested as being involved in giving Anna Nichole Smith drugs that eventually resulted in her demise? I am surprised it too this long.
I'm surprised your building even allows smoking -(s/m)
indoors. Most DON'T, these days. Not only a potential health (or lawsuit, perhaps?) issue for any non-smoker, asthmatic or not, because of the secondhand smoke, but also the FIRE potential. Seems to me if smoking indoors were banned, their insurance might be a lot less. Maybe that would be something to mention to the LL.
In the meantime, why not look for a single-story unit, such as maybe a duplex? And if that's not available, just be sure the next apt. building is a no-smoking building. Where I live, you aren't even allowed to smoke outside the units, out by the pool, or in the alley. Smokers are required to walk clear out to the curb. Have you checked your lease? What does it say about smoking?
As a nonsmoker, I think you definitely have some rights, here, but you'd have to investigate it a little further. Still, it might be easier to move than to try to force the landlords to change their policy.
I am amazingly surprised by it!! It really does work great (sm)
and I have barely had to clean the shower. I would buy all those in the spray bottles, but let's face it, no one but me is actually going to spray the shower in this house and half the time I forget! I can actually get the kids to press the button on this when they are done in the shower and it gives you a few beeps before it starts off, so they make a game out of it.
We just moved into this house a fever months ago and it is even beginning to remove the crud that I could not get off from the previous owner and it is literally starting to shine - and I am only on the second bottle. This is really one product I can recommend, especially if you hate cleaning the shower as much as I do!
P.S. When the beeps go off, don't watch to see what it does without goggles! :)
I'm hooked on this show. Was surprised it didn't
She was probably surprised that you knew that. After all, we just "type what we hear," right?
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I am surprised at the statement, "every facet"
of her life. Have 2 kids, both grown, glad they are out on their own, not interested in "every facet" because they are grown. I enjoy my time now. I am glad my children know how to live on their own and I surely do not live through them. Sounds like you need more interests in your life if you are going to fall apart when she leaves for college.
OK, this is going to sound weird, but I'm surprised nobody else suggested it... sm
but the key to a good sex life is to know your own body. I mean *down there.* Without your partner! Get a little vibrator, they even sell them now at supermarkets and drugstores in the aisle where they sell condoms. I think the polite term is personal massager. Also get some lubricant. You can go the whole route with candles, in the bath, read a sexy book, use your imagination. Then once you figure THAT out, you can help direct your partner... show him what you learned. A whole new world will open up for you!
He just told her to stop acting surprised when she gets compliments.
It was kind of funny. So when he complimented her performance she smiled very nicely! I don't always agree with Simon, but I did agree with him on that. I don't think the acting surprised thing was an act for her, I think it's just her personality, but by now she should stop being surprised that the judges like her so much! I do too. I hope she wins!
I'm surprised some Trixie Belden fan didn't steal sm
The "Red Gate Farm" sign.
Or am I the only one old enough to remember that and crazy enough to care? Rhetorical question, peeps! 
Nope, not surprised. But IMHO, he did us a public service...
...by getting rid of that skank. They're all just a bunch of low-lifes with more money than morals or brains.
Wow!! What a great attitude! I love that - great perspective!
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This entire country is scary...surprised people still leave the house.
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Boy, if stress is the trigger, I'm surprised I'm not one big blister. Stress is my middle name
and MT-ing is my game..
You're surprised? I'm not. They're not going to stop voting....
as was mentioned in a prior post. Imagine if they succeed? They just may.
Why are you surprised? This is the board for yada, yada.
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Please let us know if you find it...nm
Insert smiley face with crossed fingers here.
How do I find out
where this person has his banking account? I cannot believe a person would just snub their nose at a court action. Had it been the other way around, I am sure I would probably be under the jail as we speak!!
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