Exactly, Hayseed. Just look at the comments
Posted By: TM on 2007-02-18
In Reply to: My sister shaved her head when she had meltdown - Hayseed
on here. I feel sorry for her. People go through things like this all the time in life and do some of the things she has done, but they don't have to read about it in the paper the next morning. I think she needs some help and her family really needs to step in. I read an article that the guy she was seeing last said she would curl into a ball after they had s** and would say, why can't they just leave me alone. It's really sad. I don't think she is a bad person, but that she needs help. She's obviously crying out for help and is going through a lot right now. Everyone on here that has been divorced, just imagine everything about your divorce being front page...it's already painful enough without all that. People are cut throat.
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Hayseed, I think you should write your own advice column, kinda like "Dear Hayseed"....you cra
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I second those comments!
It is like parents with the loudest, rudest kids think the entire world should put up with them. The parents seem tuned out. How nice for them! The rest of us have to be subjected to their screaming, whining, running around tables, kicking the back of the booth, and even pulling of our hair. If you dare say anything the parents look at you as if you are the devil himself. Bring on the animals any day of the week!
Thanks everyone for your comments (sm)
I am taking your suggestions to heart...he has a way of making me feel like everything is always my fault..I am going to call an abuse hotline as well as AA and just talk to them and see what they think. Thanks again so much.
In appropriate comments from
Taking a poll here...how many say something to their MIL if inappropriate comments are made and how many just let it role off their back no matter how hurtful the comments are? and I don't mean the first time a comment is made, I'm talking about repeated, obvious, and sometimes in front of other people putting you on the spot. and I'm talking about a MIL that lives close and cannot be avoided.
Thank you everyone for your comments sm
It helps a lot to be reminded that I am doing the right thing. I think my tendency is to just want to fix everything but this time I can't.
Looking for inappropriate comments? I don't think so! (sm)
Okay......and thanks for your input. I am the OP and I just want for you to know that I think that your comment was a little on the ignorant side. "I am not soooo appalled." I was a little shocked that he cared so much to go out of his way to make sure I found the right size bra. (He walked away from his job to come over to the checkout counter that I was at and felt the need to ask that, even though I was being checked out by a female clerk that was fully capable of making sure that I found what I needed?) Even the female clerk looked at him and said "What are you talking about?" I told her about the bra I returned to his service desk an hour earlier and she said "He is weird. That is none of his business!"
For the record, I receive male attention frequently and I am not easily offended or overly prudish when comments are made to me. This on the other hand was a bit strange.
My intentions were to ask others if they would consider this question to be inappropriate or not if they had been asked the same question under the same circumstances. I am not playing 'poor victim' here as I consider this a minor incident (yet still inappropriate).
In my opinion, it sounds to me like you don't get many comments offered to you and perhaps you would welcome them if you did? (That's what I get from your comment anyways!)
You got me!! Even with the comments below, I didnt get it.
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Thanks all for the nice comments. Yes
Hayseed, he is a boxer. His name is Dempsey. He is the only thing keeping me sane lately LOL.
smart comments
Me, too. Makes me want to jump in and blast them back! No reason for it.
HA HA HA - loved your comments
Perfect...lmao here....I'm going to cut you off, I hope you believe that. HA HA HA....too funny. I can tell you've got a great sense of humor and also a wonderful outlook on life.
Think I was too harsh in my comments to you sm
I apologize, I am very raw right now from undeserved treatment by DIL so when I saw your posting title, it bothered me. I love my grandkids so much that I would welcome a list of "rules" if one were presented to me. It's too bad she uses the Bible, I have had this done to me more than once by those who misunderstand the good book and use it as a weapon. I certainly would have a heart-to-heart with her, don't lose your temper, and let it be known that interpretation of the Bible is a very private affair and she should never mention demons, bring a Bible to your home, etc., etc. Give her the option of playing by your rules and an option of her only playing children's games, watching a movie, etc., and keeping her opinions to herself. Give her supervised visiting priviliges and then you're off the hook if she doesn't accept. If she persists, then she truly is in need of psychological help which is not up to you to provide. Give her the choice and if she chooses to keep it up, then you'll have no recourse, little kids don't need this. At least you tried, it's her choice to not adhere to your rules, unfortunately, she's missing out on a lot, I wish she could see how lucky she is to be "talked to" and given options. Good luck with it. Hate the sin and not the sinner. I once had to lay down the law with my sister and the Bible. I have made it clear that I won't tolerate Bible talk, she can come any time but the conversation has to be light, not inappropriate, not religious and no politics. It has worked pretty well, once in awhile she has a slip and has to be reminded but we are talking - no religion, no end-of-the world,no Jesus talk, it takes reinforcing every once in awhile. Good luck with it all, it's stressful.
Not sure how to take your comments at this point but (sm)
I don't think I am amazing in any way. I think I had no other choice than to leave and I will probably live the rest of my life on a wing and a prayer.
I didn't see your comments before sm
but it is a subject that has been driving me nuts for several years. I am trying to figure out what happened to decency!
i have already addressed this. they blow those comments off
this was a TEACHER.
I guess I could have stated my comments
a little more detail. Both MIL and DIL like to cook. We always have a wonderful Christmas and Thanksgiving dinner. I guess I was just raised in a family that we had family traveling in to visit, we would do just a little extra. BTW, we actucally have a joint Pizza Hut and KFC restaurant. We call it the Cluck and Hut. That is why I suggested KFC. Doesn't matter now, I got butchered at the beauty shop last night and have been crying ever since. I am not leaving the house for at least 2 weeks.
Where are the nasty comments. just some very strong
opinions that happen to not agree with your opinion. I thought we were all just discussing. So what if someone doesn't agree with my opinion, that's fine. We are all entitled to our opinion and we just have to agree to disagree. Please don't take this so personally. I don't think any of it was aimed at you. 
He has made a lot of comments about my weight (sm)
so I have been to self-conscious to be with him. But if he is using my undies doesn't that mean he wants me? Or not? I'm confused.
Any comments from DWTS fans?
I missed a bit of yesterday's Dancing with the Stars finale show, but looks like Helio and Julianne overall had the strongest performance.
What happened to Mel and Maks' freestyle? They were like kinda deflated or something.
IMO, Marie and Jonathan usually come up with pleasant surprises, but last night's freestyle was a real puzzler - I am not sure why Jonathan would agree to choreograph such a cutesy (yawn) routine when the competition is so fast and fierce. Marie was a bit too vocal with the judges...after all, they are the "experts."
I can't even deal with these comments. Thx for your concern.
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I'm giving up negative comments
I'm going to let only positive comments pass my lips, otherwise I will stay quiet. Believe me, the Lord knows what a sacrifice this will be for me.
Her web site asks for comments so
I left her some, none probably she would have liked, but what I and others just like me are thinking. I said, no job, no income, 6 other kids, no real housing of your own, food stamps, why bring 8 more into this world. What were you thinking?
I like Navy. I have had nice comments when I wear it. nm
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I'm originally from NJ, and I've endured a lot of comments.
If one more person asks me, "Which exit?" I might run him/her over!
And yes, when I was growing up, it was indeed the Garden State. I grew up running through tomato fields and along corn rows. It was wonderful!
question about rude comments regarding child with dyslexia. sm
my 11-yo DD was spending the night with her friend. she has dyslexia and has ever since diagnosed in 2nd grade. she struggles quite a bit in school. this year she didn't pass the 5th grade because she didn't pass her TAKS test in math (state required to be promoted). i picked her up today from the friend's house and she says so and so's dad told her she was "lazy" because she didn't pass the TAKS test. of course, his daughter is a straight A student without help and is an only child. i am furious at this!! am i wrong to feel furious and how to i address to him that he needs to be cautious as to how he words things and says things to little kids with disabilities? it is enough that they get ridicled and belittled by their fellow students, much less their parents!! i know this will only be the beginning of what she will have to endure as school starts back. i wanted to march right over there and give him a piece of my mind immediately, but thought i would calm down first and see what great ideas you bright ladies have to share so i don't regret blowing off my steam in the wrong way. HELP! never had a child held back before so i know it will be a challenge to get through this for her. 
I read all the comments and I agree with the poster who wrote
'One has to teach people how to treat you' and one has to tell people what is imoportant to oneself.
It is inexcusable not to call or meet one's mother for mother's day and Christmas, etc.....
Anyone that has a GE washer top load that has any comments on GE versus Whirlpool top load. nm
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Thanks Hayseed
Nick Nolte was having a bad hair day . . . 
ER MT or Hayseed....
How did you guys get your avatar pic on this profile here on MT stars? I cannot seem to locate a way to "edit my profile" so to speak. Hubby says I can get those from yahoo, but I do not know where to go here on this site (MTstars) to add it. Any help would be great! 
Hayseed
how would you know what an IUD from 30 years ago looked like? But I am with you. They offered me an IUD after I had my second child and I declined. I thought I had enough put up there LOL.
WELL SAID, Hayseed! (sm)
The people behind this whole right-to-life movement are quite deft at camouflaging their more sinister long-term ulterior motives under the guise of morality, religion, human life, and yada yada yada. It's an ingeniously orchestrated plot to gain control of this country, and the best way to do that is to find a highly emotional, hot-button issue that will DIVIDE them. It's truly appalling that some women seem to actually WANT their personal healthcare and body choices to be dictated to them by a bunch of ancient, narrow-minded old MEN.
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posting those links to pix of your family. Kathie and Ellie, sittin' in a tree. LOL. What great pix. I love them all. Your animals, and you, are gorgeous.
Thanks, Hayseed
Love your posts too!! You really have a great sense of humor!
Yay! Hayseed, you did it!
And you are adorable!!
Thanks Hayseed!
I have the same problem as the OP and I'm going to try the Pine Sol! Then I'm going to start using Gain like the poster below suggested. Cool! :-)
I had to lol at your use of the word grody! As an 80s girl I absolutely LOVED it!!!!
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Just looked at your web site (from under your MT Stars name). What a dream your place is! Congrats for making such a dream come true for you. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks Hayseed!
I recently checked out your website - how awesome! Buck is a beauty! Loved the pictures with the subtitles of all your animals. Also, how cute were you as a little girl! I think that pic should be your Avatar! 
Hayseed !!!
You were just too precious as a baby hayseed not to have that as an Avator! You have just made my day/week/month!! Too cute! 
Hayseed look!
Hi Everyone!
Just wanted you all to see the pic of my kitty that Hayseed helped me crop so I could put it on here! I'm gonna learn this, it was just easier this morning to send it to her !!!
Her name is Tigger and she THINKS she is the queen of my house....I've got news for her....hehe
Jan
Hayseed now I know
what you do in your spare time when you aren't MT'ing and tending to your farm . . .
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kd_tSRsxzvI
Hayseed and ER MT
You guys are hilarious!!  You always make me smile, and let me tell you, I need it today! I need to figure out this avatar thingy....
Many thanks, Hayseed!
I'm going to work on becoming a little more savvy with this stuff, really appreciate your time! Most days, this board is my main source of entertainment (except for Jake now, of course) or consternation depending on the subject, and you are always a bright spot in the day...
For anyone interested in another puppy story, we adopted him from a shelter, had been put there by a family who decided they didn't want him, had a little kid, but I think the truth is, and the people at the shelter thought, that the family just didn't know what having a puppy was like, so their loss, our happiness! He's a labradoodle and found him through an internet rescue site that came up when I was searching on it. We had seen a tan one at a house for sale that we were looking at (I thought it was some kind of terrier or something), and my DH fell in love with that dog, so I did some searching...and there he was. About dropped my teeth when I found on searching what breeders are getting for these dogs... as somebody pointed out to me, they are just mutts, after all...But I was happy to find him at the shelter, have always adopted dogs like that, am always amazed at the wonderful animals that get dropped off. My wonderful Boxer had been rescued from a puppy mill situation and many moons ago I had a little German short-hair pointer/Brittany mix that was very ill at first, didn't think she was going to make it, but she lived to 17. I don't usually do all the little doggie accoutrements, like scarves and such, but he was pretty matted and dirty so had to have a professional trim the first time (dang thing cost more than my haircuts!! so I guess the scarf was part of the doggie-do package.) Wish I could find the pic that stole our hearts at the shelter, like Misha's pic of Cedric. Anyway, thanks again Hayseed, you rock!
Hayseed
Are you a Steeler fan??????
Thanks, Hayseed. You are right. I don't think it is
fair either, to me or the dog. I appreciate just hearing your comments and understanding that I am in a bad situation. I certainly thank everyone who has commented. So many of us have a deep connection to God's magnificent creatures. There is nothing like it in the world.
Hey, Hayseed!
I just 4 Advil an hour or so ago, so it's not too bad. The Anbesol works for about 15 minutes and then it's like I never used it. Just hanging in there until I can call the dentist tomorrow first thing. I think I'll live.
Thanks for asking!
Where have you been, Hayseed? - nm
Hayseed...
Can someone email her just to ask how she is and to make sure she's ok?
Where is Hayseed? nm
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I'm so sorry Hayseed
I went through this in March of this year. My 16 year old cat died at home. I'm still not completely over it. I still think about her all the time. Just know that he led a wonderful life and that you took great care of him.
Where is Hayseed?...I
I miss her, and her posts!! Hope you are okay Hayseed. Please post. This board is not the same without you.
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