Every year same old, same old at tax time Venting-

My husband and I never fight ----- until April. Then it's constant for about 2 weeks.

My hubby is self-employed. We've had a couple of rough years and for the past 2 years were unable to pay quarterly taxes. When tax time rolls around, bang! We're fighting like cats and dogs! He complains about how much he has to pay in every year I really don't blame him, as it seems like in his line of work, a lot of deductions are not allowed and it sucks.

In reality, we gotta get on top of the quarterlies again. Then it wouldn't hurt so much. He said he didn't make any money last year, but we still have to pay in over $8000 to the IRS. I really don't know how this could be either. Then he threatens to sell his equipment. Now for the next 3 months, all I'll hear is the complaining (putting it nicely). 

It upsets me when we fight, but I'm tired of hearing it all the time. I wasn't even going to tell him how much we owed but I didn't know where to get the money to quietly pay off the IRS.

Anybody want a wonderful husband for the next month or so? Just until he gets over it, then I want him back. (only kidding---he's a real keeper).

Thanks for listening. Any suggestions on how to get around this crappy tax thing, please let me know.

• Every year same old, same old at tax time Venting- - Backwards typist
  • Taxes - sugarbaby
    • Quarterlies - Backwards typist
      • Is the truck necessary for his job?? If not, - sm
        • Second part of answer - Backwards typist
        • It's a construction truck and - Backwards typist
          • If he uses it for only job-specific activity, - then why not deductible? (NM)
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It's The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year
With the kids jingle-belling
And everyone telling you "Be of good cheer"
It's The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year

It's the hap - happiest season of all
With those holiday greetings and gay happy meetings
When friends come to call
It's the hap - happiest season of all

There'll be parties for hosting
Marshmallows for toasting
And caroling out in the snow
There'll be scary ghost stories
And tales of the glories of
Christmases long, long ago

It's The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year
There'll be much mistltoeing
And hearts will be glowing
When love ones are near 

It's The Most Wonderful Time 
It's The Most Wonderful Time
It's The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year

Dealing with in-laws is awful sometimes.  I just need to vent so whoever does not want to hear it you mine as well stop reading now.  My father-in-law is crazy and I mean he is bipolar.  He thinks he is so innocent and people are out to get him when he stirs up trouble constantly.  This is the first time we have seen him at Christmas in 3 years.  He has caused trouble with my BIL and SIL and they have wrote him off yet again.  My hubbie says he does not want to do that because of the fact of what if something happens to him, he would regret it.  He wants to be forgiving which I understand it is his dad, but oh my gosh he stood in our living room last night and told us a bunch of lies which I am know for a fact are lies and then starts preaching to us about people and unforgiveness.  I was getting so mad I wanted to cry right there and I could not go to sleep last night I was so frustrated.  AAAHHHAAHHH!! 

Anyways just wanted to vent.  I do love this time of the year with the decorations and Christmas music just could do with a little less of the drama.  I wish people did not have to be dumb sometimes.  Okay I am done,  Thanks for letting me vent!! 

Christmas Vacation - we watch it every year. 

Elf is also a great holiday movie

Bruce Almighty

Liar Liar

Austin Powers

Shrek

Ferris Bueller's Day Off

American Pie - not the sequels

Fast Times at Ridgemont High

Porky's

Dumb and Dumber

The thing is, I don't.  I am recently separated for about 2 months now and my children are happy about moving, as their dad was not pleasant for any of us to live with. But my almost 12 year old son unfortunately seems to have thought it was going to be an opportunity to get away with whatever he wants.  He begs me to let him miss school for no reason, and even when I explain to him the reasons why he can't, he wants to debate and argue until I have to firmly tell him no.  Then Friday I had given the kids a little money to get something for Easter and I only had an hour, had agreed to take them to one store and if they didn't find anything to take them to another store this week.  My son kept begging me to take him to two other stores...even though I explained to him repeatedly that I did not have time. He also started begging me to let him by rated M X-Box games and I told him no, that just because we moved doesn't mean he is old enough for those games.  So he started crying on Friday.  My 9 year old daughter is acting more mature than he is. 

He was about to get out of the car to go into school this morning and he said, "you have been yelling at me all the time, you used to not do that!"  My daughter said, "but that was just one time, what are you talking about? It's not all the time." and he again teared up and said that I do yell at him all the time.  I think he is upset every time I tell him no.  He tries to debate with me and argue his point but if it is no, I just say, "I'm sorry but I can't do that" or I have told him at times that he is not being reasonable.   What is going on?

has a paper due at school that was assigned a week ago, she procrastinated and didn't start writing it until the afternoon before the due date and didn't type it up until 11 p.m. at night, then knocked on your door to wake you up because she realized there was no printer printer would you:

A.  Get dressed and go to the 24-hour Wal-Mart to get paper.

B.  Tell her that it's too bad- she should have done her paper sooner than this and alerted you before 11 p.m. that there was no printer paper - especially when she has gone through a whole ream within a month printing out things like rock band and television star photos and other nonessential things.

(For the record - my husband & I did option B to help her learn a "life lesson" last night - she'll get a reduced grade for turning in the paper late but hopefully she'll learn to stop procrastinating on her school work - which is a chronic problem with her - even with her getting A's and B's.)

DH doesn't touch it but I love it. I grew up on it too.

I also grew up on Spam. Mom had a stove that had a pull out griddle above the oven and she would put spam and egss on there for a Tuesday night supper.

I have 2 cans of Spam in my pantry now. The ingredients state: Pork with ham, mechanically separated chicken, water , salt, modified potato starch, sugar, hickory smoke flavoring (I have the hickory smoke flavor), and sodiu nitrite. Opps. There's that bad word-sodium nitrite.

I just need to vent a little here. 

I drive an Explorer that's pretty much on its last leg (9 years old).  We're waiting until next year to get me a new vehicle.  My husband, on the other hand, drives the newer Taurus (only 2 years old).

I drive my 7-year-old daughter to and from school every day and also to jump rope class, etc. 

We plan to get the Explorer fixed next month.  In the meantime, I have asked my husband if I can drive his car (the newer one) on a couple of occasions, but he basically ignoerd me and I always ended up driving the Explorer.  Well, yesterday I told him I need to drive his car until the Explorer is fixed.  If I didn't have my 7-year-old with me, I probably would continue driving the Explorer.

He finally left his car for me to drive today, but he is so upset about it.  I don't understand it.  Shouldn't he want his wife and child to be in the safer, more reliable vehicle?

I don't think I should have to beg him to drive his car, especially since I'm driving our 7-year-old all around the city.  I also don't understand why he is upset.  

Somebody help!

Thanks for all the support and input.

I'm happy to say my husband is no longer upset about us switching cars.  In fact, he told me I can drive his car as long as I want.  I don't think he realized how unsafe it was for me to drive the Explorer. 

He's really a good husband/father, but we just had a problem with this car issue. 

Thanks again!  I love this board!

My mom came to visit and watch my kids while I work - I am paying her because she needs the money. My children are a 10 year old boy and a  7 ytear old girl.  They are generally well-behaved, never get in trouble at school, get in trouble sometimes at home for the usual kid stuff, but they are basically nice children.  My mom has a tendency to joke and play around with them a lot, but then gets offended when they try to play back. Yesterday they were feeling comfortable with her (only see her a couple of times a year) and they both dressed up in "spy" costumes and came out to spy on her.  When she "caught" them, they pretended to do karate chops and kicks - which they do with me regularly, very softly, never to inflict pain.  They did this to her and she is very angry, saying that my children "hit and kicked" her and that if they are bad again she is going to spank them.  Also, she has varicose veins on her legs and my daughter asked her what are those "cracks" in your legs?  So she is offended about that and therefore when my chubby son walked in without his shirt on this morning she asked, "what's wrong with your belly or is that just fat?" She has also been arguing with my son trying to convince him that there are ghosts and demons on earth (even though I asked her to stop) and when he said there were not, she got out the Bible and was trying to show him passages to prove it until I came out and made her stop.  Is everyone's mom like this?? Do they just forget that children are young and don't think like adults??

I feel the need to vent a little about my parents.  I talk sometimes with my hubby but he doesn't give much input.  I'm close with my parents (I'm 36 they are in their mid 50s).  My dad has always been controlling and negative (causing stress on our family).  I'm an only child.  I'm not going to go into deep details about stuff.  My parents are not financially stable. My mom is a hard worker, always has been.  My dad hasn't worked for almost 9 years.  He rehabs houses when he has one to rehab.  They are down in the dumps I think because of money.  My mom gets stressed out with her job and then not having financial help from my dad, that stresses her.  My dad is a negative person.  He lost his mom when he was in his 20s and I'm not sure if he believes in God.  He doesn't have faith at all.  He gets jealous when my kids stay the night with my in-laws (my parents like my in-laws). There's no talking with my dad.  The one time I tried to talk to him about something he said to me that hurt my feelings (I was 30), he didn't talk to me for a whole week.  Sometimes I feel guilty for being happy.  My hubby and I are fine financially, with our faith.  I wish I could sit them down and talk with them, but there would be nothing but negative talk coming from them.  I know that really you can't help someone unless they are ready to help themselves.  It's really hard to say exactly what I feel.  I love my parents, I want them to be happy, but then I feel like YOU are the only one who can change your life, or what makes you happy.  I don't want disconnect from my parents (they live a mile from us).  If my dad would just go get a job, I believe he'd feel so much better about himself.  Anyway, I'm really sorry for rambling on like this.  I just don't have anyone to talk to.  I sometimes feel responsible for my parent's happiness/unhappiness.  But growing up, I could never do anything right to please my dad, so I guess that's why I feel that way.  There's so much I could type about, but not going to.  There have been numerous times I thought to myself that I wish my mom would've never married my dad.  Anyway, thanks for listening.

The thing that struck me the most in your post is that you help a friend by listening to dictation.  Is this during *your* work hours?  If so, try not to answer the phone.  I know, it sounds so simple, but if you have kids, this can be tough.  Anyhow, if the friend asks why you are not answering, tell her you need to focus on getting lines so you can pay your monthly bills (stress this!).  Maybe she will get the hint.  I had to do this when a coworker called me constantly.  I'm a sole income earner so can empathize.  As for the friends working when they were asked not to, well, unfortunately, it is a supervisors/manager's job to handle.  Hopefully s/he will take care of this.  Good luck. 

DAYTON - Gloria Murphy gave children celebrating her 55th birthday alcohol and then had sex with a 12-year-old boy at the party on Thursday, Jan. 29, according to police.

The boy got into Murphy’s bed at 5440 Rawlings Drive, where the married woman had sex with her adolescent neighbor, according to police and Montgomery County prosecutors. 

Two of the children at the party ran home at about 6 a.m. Jan. 30 and told a parent they saw the boy and woman having sex, according to 911 audio.

The parent then called police at about 6:15 a.m., according to a police report and 911 audio.

Murphy did not force the boy to have sex, but since he is younger than 13, it is considered rape, Lt. Patrick Welsh said. No other children were involved in the sexual encounter, but some other children at the party consumed alcohol, according to police.