Even though your son will always be ....sm

Posted By: curious girl on 2009-05-04
In Reply to: Need advice and to vent. SM--long. - advise me please!

your baby, remember he is an adult. His girlfriend is an adult too, even though she may not act like it. They made a mistake not using protection and her not being on birth control or anything, but it happens. It happened to me except I was 20. I wasn't married, but I did get married and still am married to the same guy for 11 years now. They are young that is a sad fact, but they have to deal with this on their own as two adults.
As far as her attitude, maybe it's hormones. I got nuts when I got pregnant. I was just crazy. My husband said I was viscious.
I think the baby is hers and your son's and if they want to keep it by all means it is their decision, BUT they need to be told it is THEIR responsibiltiy to care for the baby. He will have to get out and bust his butt to care for them, and she might have to work too. If they want to keep it that is what they will have to work hard to take care of it.
I would just ignore her for the sake of your son so you can be on good terms with him. By the time the baby is born she will have calmed down I'm sure.

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- I'll tell you my story sm - It'll be okay
- Aah, she'll get over it the first time she needs a babysitter. ;) - RockinMT
- I hope she got rid of her yeast infection. - sos
- A 'yeast infection' from a condom?' Is this even possible?... - ****
  - I'm not sure it would be classified as a "yeast" infection, but you can - RockinMT
- Let me tell you - my story...sm
  - Wonderful message from "My Story"! sm - Ella (retired)
- Response - Pink Ice
  - falling out of your trailer - OMG
    - Yes ridiculous - grandparents have no legal rights
- Don't beat yourself up on this. - Backwards typist
- my - advice
  - Not! - Pink Ice
    - Wait a minute, Pinky! It takes two....sm - Ella (retired)
    - Keep in mind before you start calling people names... - Kendra
    - I agree..I would even, in this case, opt for abortion.....nm - ****
      - But.....sm - Ella (retired)
    - I am thinking no on this one also - OMG
    - How do you know she will be on welfare? (nm) - An Iowan
  - You said that a lot better than I did!!! - Kendra
  - Child support - must depend on state, my - state is 18. (NM)
    - In most states...sm - goincrazyquick
      - Are you serious??? ugh - will never get out of debt
        My state it's to 22 if in college (nm) - An Iowan
        Indiana too - and it sucks! nm
        And it should be...why should one parent - Kendra
        Did you ever think maybe NEITHER parent - is paying for college - but kid pays own way?
- Maybe everyone will get lucky, and she'll - have a miscarriage.
  - What an extremely tacky and insensitive - thing to say (NM)
    - Oh please, Louise! Not nice. nm - Ella (retired)
    - Considering the IMMATURITY of THIS girl, - ****
      - Me too, so she must detach and....sm - Ella (retired)
      - Pity the son's mom as well but not the "boy" - tired
- from the other side... - Kendra
  - Keep that vicious alcoholic out of your home...sm - Ella (retired)
    - Unfortunately, I am not sure that this... - Kendra
      - Once a year? GREAT! sm - Ella (retired)
- Even though your son will always be ....sm - curious girl
- My thoughts are that things will eventually settle down, but -- - Amanda
  - This is what I would say to them sm - tired
    - Very good advice, "tired". sm - Ella (retired)

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